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Just looking for peoples views on what is acceptable behaviour at socials. Now I should begin this by saying that those that know both myself and Mr S will know that we are incorrigible. We love to flirt, play games (where’s the ice cubes) and snog (hence the name). However, we would hate it if our behaviour made anyone feel uncomfortable and always try to make sure that it is welcome from the outset.
There have been a a couple of fairly minor moments at recent socials where men, that are complete strangers, have been overly familiar. Now am not a prude, but if I want your cock brushing up against my arse then I would really prefer to know your name first.
At play parties and in clubs the etiquette is clear don’t touch without asking. What do folks think?
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I totally agree with you... had a similar incident myself where I thought what the fuck are you doing. Not adverse to some flirting and innuendos but definately don’t touch without asking.
Think a lot of people male and female forget they’re in a public place sometimes
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I'm.gonna follow this post as deffo plan on attending a social very soon although I'm not a total creep whos gonna be as use put it having my cock touching ur ass unless u wanna that is be good to see the does and donts before attending my first |
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"I totally agree with you... had a similar incident myself where I thought what the fuck are you doing. Not adverse to some flirting and innuendos but definately don’t touch without asking.
Think a lot of people male and female forget they’re in a public place sometimes
K x"
Honestly, my first thought was wtf do you think you are doing. My next was, once more and I will knock you out! It absolutely was not accidental - had it been I wouldn’t have minded.
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I've had plenty of social meets. Sometimes just to meet new likeminded friends and other times to initially meet before playing.
Every time- even if we've met before. It's purely "social". No touching, groping ECT..
Can I add that all of my socials have been in public where not everyone knows what were socially discussing  |
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over a year ago
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I absolutely agree with this. It is not acceptable in any shape or form. I once had to slap the hand of someone away from a woman's chest just because we were at a social. She looked very shocked and both her and her husband walked away. It is highly inappropriate to do this. Boundaries need to be set in place after all x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Groping or touching inappropriately without consent or asking is beyond rude and verging on illegal. Also spoils it for everyone. Some folk are sleazeballs in any situation. |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
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"Socials are just that!
Conduct yourself as if your in a public place with friends. "
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Sounds about right to us 
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Great post Mr&Mrs Snogalot,
it's good for newbies like us to know what to expect  |
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"Just looking for peoples views on what is acceptable behaviour at socials. Now I should begin this by saying that those that know both myself and Mr S will know that we are incorrigible. We love to flirt, play games (where’s the ice cubes) and snog (hence the name). However, we would hate it if our behaviour made anyone feel uncomfortable and always try to make sure that it is welcome from the outset.
There have been a a couple of fairly minor moments at recent socials where men, that are complete strangers, have been overly familiar. Now am not a prude, but if I want your cock brushing up against my arse then I would really prefer to know your name first.
At play parties and in clubs the etiquette is clear don’t touch without asking. What do folks think?
Mrs S "
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Err! Nae touching!
The ones, males and females that know they can, know we have 'our understanding' and we have met before intimately and I know there is no disrespect meant, just some teasing.
Anyone else touching me... is doing so at their own risk!
I don't care where I am or what I am doing they can expect a come back! 
I hate people taking liberties with my body without my say so! |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
Edin |
"Err! Nae touching!
The ones, males and females that know they can, know we have 'our understanding' and we have met before intimately and I know there is no disrespect meant, just some teasing.
Anyone else touching me... is doing so at their own risk!
I don't care where I am or what I am doing they can expect a come back!
I hate people taking liberties with my body without my say so!"
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such contact is not acceptable on a club night without an invitation, its certainly not acceptable at a social...
a social is to be treated like any normal night out ( the clues in the name)... if anything people should be on even better behaviour than normal..
fair enough if people connect and get on well and as open minded people decide to go back to a hotel and fool around or arrange a meet in the near future.... but sleazy body contact is not on  |
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"Err! Nae touching!
The ones, males and females that know they can, know we have 'our understanding' and we have met before intimately and I know there is no disrespect meant, just some teasing.
Anyone else touching me... is doing so at their own risk!
I don't care where I am or what I am doing they can expect a come back!
I hate people taking liberties with my body without my say so!
I promise to keep my hands to myself "
You can take liberties T lol
You can print and laminate |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
Edin |
"Err! Nae touching!
The ones, males and females that know they can, know we have 'our understanding' and we have met before intimately and I know there is no disrespect meant, just some teasing.
Anyone else touching me... is doing so at their own risk!
I don't care where I am or what I am doing they can expect a come back!
I hate people taking liberties with my body without my say so!
I promise to keep my hands to myself
You can take liberties T lol
You can print and laminate "
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"Max was rubbing my leg at a social under the pretence she liked the lace on my dress.... I felt violated. it was nice 
Haha! No my fault, you always have lovely things on "
still waiting on My juice though 
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"Err! Nae touching!
The ones, males and females that know they can, know we have 'our understanding' and we have met before intimately and I know there is no disrespect meant, just some teasing.
Anyone else touching me... is doing so at their own risk!
I don't care where I am or what I am doing they can expect a come back!
I hate people taking liberties with my body without my say so!"
my thoughts too Max |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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I think some people think that because you're at a swinging event then you're fair game. Its not nice and very wrong.
Some behavior I've seen at socials over the years is consensual but embarrassing too!
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Very good point raised OP.
It is absolutely not acceptable to touch uninvited or behave inappropriately at a social or Club and if done the perpetrator should be called out!
Socials are a no play situation where you get to know other people on the scene.
We're hosting on 2nd March and will expect all attendees to be discreet, polite and respectful. If not you'll be asked to leave.
Whatever fun you want to get up to afterwards is up to you |
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"Just looking for peoples views on what is acceptable behaviour at socials. Now I should begin this by saying that those that know both myself and Mr S will know that we are incorrigible. We love to flirt, play games (where’s the ice cubes) and snog (hence the name). However, we would hate it if our behaviour made anyone feel uncomfortable and always try to make sure that it is welcome from the outset.
There have been a a couple of fairly minor moments at recent socials where men, that are complete strangers, have been overly familiar. Now am not a prude, but if I want your cock brushing up against my arse then I would really prefer to know your name first.
At play parties and in clubs the etiquette is clear don’t touch without asking. What do folks think?
Mrs S "
Ooppss sorry lol |
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"Just looking for peoples views on what is acceptable behaviour at socials. Now I should begin this by saying that those that know both myself and Mr S will know that we are incorrigible. We love to flirt, play games (where’s the ice cubes) and snog (hence the name). However, we would hate it if our behaviour made anyone feel uncomfortable and always try to make sure that it is welcome from the outset.
There have been a a couple of fairly minor moments at recent socials where men, that are complete strangers, have been overly familiar. Now am not a prude, but if I want your cock brushing up against my arse then I would really prefer to know your name first.
At play parties and in clubs the etiquette is clear don’t touch without asking. What do folks think?
Mrs S "
I take it your talking about big socials that are organised at pubs, clubs or private events.
Well my view is that they are socials for a reason, for everyone to meet everyone, get on have a laugh, drink and a cracking good time. At the social if someone interests you or you interest them then you can arrange a meet in the future. Anyone big social I've been at I've had a fantastic time and right good laugh. That's my take of socials. |
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"Just looking for peoples views on what is acceptable behaviour at socials. Now I should begin this by saying that those that know both myself and Mr S will know that we are incorrigible. We love to flirt, play games (where’s the ice cubes) and snog (hence the name). However, we would hate it if our behaviour made anyone feel uncomfortable and always try to make sure that it is welcome from the outset.
There have been a a couple of fairly minor moments at recent socials where men, that are complete strangers, have been overly familiar. Now am not a prude, but if I want your cock brushing up against my arse then I would really prefer to know your name first.
At play parties and in clubs the etiquette is clear don’t touch without asking. What do folks think?
Mrs S Ooppss sorry lol "
Haha you are most definitely on the grope list |
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"Just looking for peoples views on what is acceptable behaviour at socials. Now I should begin this by saying that those that know both myself and Mr S will know that we are incorrigible. We love to flirt, play games (where’s the ice cubes) and snog (hence the name). However, we would hate it if our behaviour made anyone feel uncomfortable and always try to make sure that it is welcome from the outset.
There have been a a couple of fairly minor moments at recent socials where men, that are complete strangers, have been overly familiar. Now am not a prude, but if I want your cock brushing up against my arse then I would really prefer to know your name first.
At play parties and in clubs the etiquette is clear don’t touch without asking. What do folks think?
Mrs S Ooppss sorry lol
Haha you are most definitely on the grope list "
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Thanks for the responses folks.
Mr S and I have been on the scene long enough to know what to expect and fortunately behaviour like that does not happen very often.
For newbies who haven’t been at a social before, I hope it doesn’t put you off. In five years on fab I have only been made to feel uncomfortable 2 or 3 times.
For anyone on fab who thinks that just because we are swingers we are easy meat and that you have the right to treat us (male or female) how you please am pretty sure I am not alone in thinking you are on the wrong site.
Mrs S |
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Have to say had this convo years ago when I took my vanilla friend to a social, everyone was asked before hand did they mind me bringing her no objections, I wanted to show her it wasn’t all sleaze and weirdos !!! Anyway small number of individuals made complete fools of themselves acted super inappropriately and gave the game away no end within a cpl hours starting the staff had all sussed what type of party it was and worse was the staff new a number of attendees !!! |
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over a year ago
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"I’d like to think these people wouldn’t be allowed to attend any further events if this is how they conduct themselves in public "
Now see this is the most logical answer totally agree,no place for it and Def never without permission first |
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Alot claim to have manners and etiquette.
When what they actually have is a set of mannerisms to suit who is infront of them.
have attended plenty of socials and laughed at the little groups that form.
one of my personal favorites is the "growl crew" loveliest people if your a female or cpl single guys get the stare down or open growl.
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
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"Very good point raised OP.
It is absolutely not acceptable to touch uninvited or behave inappropriately at a social or Club and if done the perpetrator should be called out!
Socials are a no play situation where you get to know other people on the scene.
We're hosting on 2nd March and will expect all attendees to be discreet, polite and respectful. If not you'll be asked to leave.
Whatever fun you want to get up to afterwards is up to you "
Agree with most of this comment. We are also hosting on the 2nd and the way i see it , as we are hosting i have a responsibility to ensure the safety of my guests the same as they have a responsibility to respect us. Where i differ though ,if unwanted/ inappropriate actions were to happen towards any of my guests they would not be ASKED to leave, more like ejected out the door onto thier erse. |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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"Alot claim to have manners and etiquette.
When what they actually have is a set of mannerisms to suit who is infront of them.
have attended plenty of socials and laughed at the little groups that form.
one of my personal favorites is the "growl crew" loveliest people if your a female or cpl single guys get the stare down or open growl.
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I'm a single woman and I've experienced this. I've been to some socials and been made to feel like I must have two heads. Its not just single guys the swinging cliques look down on |
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"Alot claim to have manners and etiquette.
When what they actually have is a set of mannerisms to suit who is infront of them.
have attended plenty of socials and laughed at the little groups that form.
one of my personal favorites is the "growl crew" loveliest people if your a female or cpl single guys get the stare down or open growl.
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Saw a few examples of this at the Xmas social... John introduced himself to a few couples who either growled or blatantly ignored him who then wanted to chat later on when they realised he was one of the organisers and part of a couple. He did the right thing and chatted away and ignored their rudeness
K x |
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"Alot claim to have manners and etiquette.
When what they actually have is a set of mannerisms to suit who is infront of them.
have attended plenty of socials and laughed at the little groups that form.
one of my personal favorites is the "growl crew" loveliest people if your a female or cpl single guys get the stare down or open growl.
Saw a few examples of this at the Xmas social... John introduced himself to a few couples who either growled or blatantly ignored him who then wanted to chat later on when they realised he was one of the organisers and part of a couple. He did the right thing and chatted away and ignored their rudeness
K x"
You see it all the time at socials and in clubs even if the person isn’t your type there’s no harm in saying hello or having a brief chat then again you do get people who don’t realise or care that they’ve overstayed their welcome and it’s time to move on 
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"Alot claim to have manners and etiquette.
When what they actually have is a set of mannerisms to suit who is infront of them.
have attended plenty of socials and laughed at the little groups that form.
one of my personal favorites is the "growl crew" loveliest people if your a female or cpl single guys get the stare down or open growl.
Saw a few examples of this at the Xmas social... John introduced himself to a few couples who either growled or blatantly ignored him who then wanted to chat later on when they realised he was one of the organisers and part of a couple. He did the right thing and chatted away and ignored their rudeness
K x
You see it all the time at socials and in clubs even if the person isn’t your type there’s no harm in saying hello or having a brief chat then again you do get people who don’t realise or care that they’ve overstayed their welcome and it’s time to move on
Exactly... it’s all in the name... Social. If you were at a birthday party or a wedding n someone came up and said hello you wouldn’t ignore them so Imo here’s no difference at a social
K x
Musicmaid x"
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"Alot claim to have manners and etiquette.
When what they actually have is a set of mannerisms to suit who is infront of them.
have attended plenty of socials and laughed at the little groups that form.
one of my personal favorites is the "growl crew" loveliest people if your a female or cpl single guys get the stare down or open growl.
Saw a few examples of this at the Xmas social... John introduced himself to a few couples who either growled or blatantly ignored him who then wanted to chat later on when they realised he was one of the organisers and part of a couple. He did the right thing and chatted away and ignored their rudeness
K x
You see it all the time at socials and in clubs even if the person isn’t your type there’s no harm in saying hello or having a brief chat then again you do get people who don’t realise or care that they’ve overstayed their welcome and it’s time to move on
Exactly... it’s all in the name... Social. If you were at a birthday party or a wedding n someone came up and said hello you wouldn’t ignore them so Imo here’s no difference at a social
K x
Musicmaid x"
Oops
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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You mean snogging the face off someone is inappropriate? Damn I’ll have to rethink my Valentines strategy!
Seriously, I’d only touch someone if it was appropriate. We all like our own personal space. |
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
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"Alot claim to have manners and etiquette.
When what they actually have is a set of mannerisms to suit who is infront of them.
have attended plenty of socials and laughed at the little groups that form.
one of my personal favorites is the "growl crew" loveliest people if your a female or cpl single guys get the stare down or open growl.
Saw a few examples of this at the Xmas social... John introduced himself to a few couples who either growled or blatantly ignored him who then wanted to chat later on when they realised he was one of the organisers and part of a couple. He did the right thing and chatted away and ignored their rudeness
K x"
In saying that K , i hope they are off any future social invitations. Its not always about numbers, its about people that can have a drink and have the decency to interact at least conversationally with everyone regardless of whether or not they are thier type or not. I myself have twice experienced the growl once from a couple ,like guarding thier prey , and once from a male half of a fb couple. Both are off any future events we might organise. |
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I’ve experienced lovely folk at the very small number of “social” events I’ve attended but found there’s always some that breach etiquette. I confess it’s made me tentative about going to anything else even though some of the events I see posted look amazing  |
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"I’ve experienced lovely folk at the very small number of “social” events I’ve attended but found there’s always some that breach etiquette. I confess it’s made me tentative about going to anything else even though some of the events I see posted look amazing
But would you feel tentative if you had pointed out the person that breached that etiquette and had been assured they would not be invited again ? Hopefully not . "
It was a few years ago so perhaps not as regulated as that. Yes, knowing that would probably be reassuring |
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"Alot claim to have manners and etiquette.
When what they actually have is a set of mannerisms to suit who is infront of them.
have attended plenty of socials and laughed at the little groups that form.
one of my personal favorites is the "growl crew" loveliest people if your a female or cpl single guys get the stare down or open growl.
Saw a few examples of this at the Xmas social... John introduced himself to a few couples who either growled or blatantly ignored him who then wanted to chat later on when they realised he was one of the organisers and part of a couple. He did the right thing and chatted away and ignored their rudeness
K x
In saying that K , i hope they are off any future social invitations. Its not always about numbers, its about people that can have a drink and have the decency to interact at least conversationally with everyone regardless of whether or not they are thier type or not. I myself have twice experienced the growl once from a couple ,like guarding thier prey , and once from a male half of a fb couple. Both are off any future events we might organise. "
There a few that are for various reasons... I’m not to concerned with numbers, it’s all about everyone coming along, having a good time and being made to feel welcome
K x |
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
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"Alot claim to have manners and etiquette.
When what they actually have is a set of mannerisms to suit who is infront of them.
have attended plenty of socials and laughed at the little groups that form.
one of my personal favorites is the "growl crew" loveliest people if your a female or cpl single guys get the stare down or open growl.
Saw a few examples of this at the Xmas social... John introduced himself to a few couples who either growled or blatantly ignored him who then wanted to chat later on when they realised he was one of the organisers and part of a couple. He did the right thing and chatted away and ignored their rudeness
K x
In saying that K , i hope they are off any future social invitations. Its not always about numbers, its about people that can have a drink and have the decency to interact at least conversationally with everyone regardless of whether or not they are thier type or not. I myself have twice experienced the growl once from a couple ,like guarding thier prey , and once from a male half of a fb couple. Both are off any future events we might organise.
There a few that are for various reasons... I’m not to concerned with numbers, it’s all about everyone coming along, having a good time and being made to feel welcome
K x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Great Post.
I've never been to a social but would never dream of behaving like this until any circumstances.
Good that it seems clear to everyone on here that this behaviour is unacceptable. Some hope for us yet. |
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"You mean snogging the face off someone is inappropriate? Damn I’ll have to rethink my Valentines strategy!
Seriously, I’d only touch someone if it was appropriate. We all like our own personal space. "
I hope that isn’t inappropriate cause I was engaged in a 40 minute snogging session at the last social lol mutual decision nothing sleazy |
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That’s ok you actually were playing less tonsil hockey than the non FAB couple that were sitting behind us.
It was two people having d*unken slabbery kisses, fun to watch for about 5 seconds and then the bottom of a pint glass looked more attractive!!
Everything in moderation as long as it was appropriate and wouldn’t look out of place in the normal environment of a pub in Glasgow.
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"That’s ok you actually were playing less tonsil hockey than the non FAB couple that were sitting behind us.
It was two people having d*unken slabbery kisses, fun to watch for about 5 seconds and then the bottom of a pint glass looked more attractive!!
Everything in moderation as long as it was appropriate and wouldn’t look out of place in the normal environment of a pub in Glasgow.
Mr S "
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"Haha that nonfab couple where funny and Deelightful where you actually kissing someone we may have missed that lol xx"
Lol I’m sure musicmaid has the evidence lol x |
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"Haha that nonfab couple where funny and Deelightful where you actually kissing someone we may have missed that lol xx
Lol I’m sure musicmaid has the evidence lol x "
Yip video footage of you both flipping me and moon-light the bird lol
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Nobody at anytime has the right to put their hands on you.
This has happened to me before and all I can say is he’s lucky I didn’t knock his head off his shoulders. |
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"Kissing at a social well I never lol
Grumpwouldnt catch me doing that lol "
You would catch me doing it lol life’s too short and if folk have a issue that’s theirs. Everyone has a mouth and can say no thanks or if they have a issue say it to your face |
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"Have to say had this convo years ago when I took my vanilla friend to a social, everyone was asked before hand did they mind me bringing her no objections, I wanted to show her it wasn’t all sleaze and weirdos !!! Anyway small number of individuals made complete fools of themselves acted super inappropriately and gave the game away no end within a cpl hours starting the staff had all sussed what type of party it was and worse was the staff new a number of attendees !!! "
Seen the same ourselves.. |
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"Haha that nonfab couple where funny and Deelightful where you actually kissing someone we may have missed that lol xx
Lol I’m sure musicmaid has the evidence lol x
Yip video footage of you both flipping me and moon-light the bird lol
Musicmaid x"
I can’t even remember doing that to you all until you showed me the evidence.. haaaa haaaa |
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