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To be honest I don't really get flustered or embarrassed but I didn't like it as I was with my son and don't want him involved or know about the scene.
If it was me then I would not go up to a fellow fabber, I might have looked and smiled but that would it. As their private life is theirs.
What do you all think should be the best thing to do if you were in a similar situation. I think just do not go over and just leave alone.
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circumstances should be an indicator as to whether saying hello or not ?? common sense should prevail ........ | |||
"No idea why people think that’s it’s acceptable Bloody sure they wouldn’t like it done to them if they were out with family "There was no mention of fab as it was just a quick hello but I would have not have continued in the conversation as I would have ended it politely and they didn't know I was with my son, well the one I know said hi when I was alone I'm not angry just think it's best to stay clear if you see someone on fab  | |||
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"Some people can't help themselves, the need to point themselves or others out as swingers is too hard of an urge to ignore." That's not good though, trying to point others out as swingers as it might not end well. In saying that the 3 females who said hi, one was with a gentleman also didn't elaborate, it was just a hi but think they knew I wouldn't take it further. | |||
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"Wee smile maybe but that's as far as if expect anyone to go. No doubt whoever the 3 were know now you weren't happy. What's the chances of 3 swingers turning up in the same pub!" Was t at the same time but was told by a friend there was e en a social arranged at it once | |||
"Wee smile maybe but that's as far as if expect anyone to go. No doubt whoever the 3 were know now you weren't happy. What's the chances of 3 swingers turning up in the same pub!" Oops well actually 4 if you count me.  | |||
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"Maybe they were having a mini social in the pub ? I’d never approach anyone I knew while out it’s trust , discretion . "lol but that's a no, none of them were together and one left before the third one arrived. One was with a guy, one was with a few friends and the other I don't know who she was with. They were all in with their own company last night | |||
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"I’d never approach someone sitting with their child! Even if I’d met them! People cleart forget to most this is a discrete past time!! "To be honest he's 18 but he's 6ft 2, Very mature looking and he doesn't look a child. | |||
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I'd be seriously pissed off if approached by someone from here when out. | |||
"Maybe they were having a mini social in the pub ? I’d never approach anyone I knew while out it’s trust , discretion . "This! However if I’m a wood mebbe not lol. Seriously though, I’d never say anything if I saw someone in the “real world”. Discretion, trust and respect for privacy dictate otherwise | |||
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"I would only recognize you if you had your shirt off." Thank feck for that, I was worried what you wur gonna say there lollllllllllll but in all honesty, I know one whom I've meet via a social but the other two I don't know them or recognise them but they came up to me. I suppose I'm usually in chat room on cam, with shirt on, so maybe that's how they recognised me | |||
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"I would only recognize you if you had your shirt off. Thank feck for that, I was worried what you wur gonna say there lollllllllllll but in all honesty, I know one whom I've meet via a social but the other two I don't know them or recognise them but they came up to me. I suppose I'm usually in chat room on cam, with shirt on, so maybe that's how they recognised me "it wouldnt be anyone from chat, unless of course you had a banana with you  | |||
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"I’d never approach someone sitting with their child! Even if I’d met them! People cleart forget to most this is a discrete past time!!
To be honest he's 18 but he's 6ft 2, Very mature looking and he doesn't look a child. "wouldnt think an 18 year old would appreciate being called a child | |||
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"I dont think the person who you know socially did anything wrong given you were stood on your own and never mentioned fab ... there are people i know quite well socially from here that i have bumped into out and if anything i think it would be weirder if they ignored me ... you dont have to explain how you know them surely As for the people you dont know i guess they crossed the line but i think its a risk of putting your face on cam ... to them you are recogniseable , they feel like they know you , and sometimes when people are ok with having their face on cam people can maybe think you are not as worried about fab being a secret Its one of the reasons i stopped camming "the person who I knew didn't do anything wrong. She actually walked in and as soon as she entered the pub with her company she noticed me straight away. She said hello and asked who I was with. I told her I was with my son and that was it.
In regards to the other two with recognising me on cam, if that was the case then its disappointing. Anyone on fab whom I recognize in any situation I just would not go near especially if they are in company as you do not know who their company is their private life.
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Just kidding, if you are with you son even with friends or anyone else, people should be discrete...
My rule in these situation say nothing and do nothing... The way I see things, discretion should be key.
We are all different and we all react differently. I can only imagine how you felt last night.
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"If I saw someone from Fab while I was out and they were walking straight past and saw me too, I would maybe smile and just walk straight on. It wouldn't be appropriate especially if my mum was with me x"Your mum is on the site ???? | |||
"If I saw someone from Fab while I was out and they were walking straight past and saw me too, I would maybe smile and just walk straight on. It wouldn't be appropriate especially if my mum was with me x"Your mum is on the site | |||
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"You're too famous on fab now Peter "Fuck this I'm off. Loloooll | |||
"You're too famous on fab now Peter
Fuck this I'm off. Loloooll "Lol, nooooo don't hang your boots up yet! Your six pack is pretty famous though | |||
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"Approached three times on the one night out by people off Fab??? "yeah and. If you don't believe it that's up to you. I have many friends on here who know me and there's no need to lie and never have. It was a post regarding your view of the situation and what you think of it, not for you to put it down. Just put your view on it if you were in that situation even with one fabber | |||
"Approached three times on the one night out by people off Fab???
yeah and. If you don't believe it that's up to you. I have many friends on here who know me and there's no need to lie and never have.
It was a post regarding your view of the situation and what you think of it, not for you to put it down.
Just put your view on it if you were in that situation even with one fabber
"It just seems rather unlikely. The odds on that happening on the same night out, 3 different times and all three of them approaching you must be thousands to one! | |||
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"Approached three times on the one night out by people off Fab???
yeah and. If you don't believe it that's up to you. I have many friends on here who know me and there's no need to lie and never have.
It was a post regarding your view of the situation and what you think of it, not for you to put it down.
Just put your view on it if you were in that situation even with one fabber
It just seems rather unlikely. The odds on that happening on the same night out, 3 different times and all three of them approaching you must be thousands to one! ". Great odds how you worked that out. heres another one. I was reminded last night there was a social that night in the town so more fabbers were about. but hey still you say you don't believe it but im not really interested or care if you do, certainly makes no odds but the post was there as I was interested on your view of if you were in that situation just if one fabber said hi. You still haven't even said, your still more interested in disbelieving me. Which is a shame. | |||
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"See? I don't understand why saying hello is a problem either? God, we talk to anyone and everyone when we are out! It would look even more obvious if we were trying to ignore someone. I think that's just rude. A smile, hello and even some small talk is just fine with us. We usually say we know them through an old job. Or the gym. Or friend of a friend. Or something comes to mind.... Pardon the pun. ... if we are asked. Reminds me of trying to make sure stories of how we met match when we go to vanilla events where the families are present! Xxx" when I first joined, I was separated and I stayed at my sisters and also ran a business that if anyone knew I was on fab there was a chance of my losing major contracts and if that happened then I would have to sack at least 40 workers. So was always discreet. no longer in that business so more open but still rather keep it quiet as don't want my children, (older) to know or family and don't want to have to make up lies as to whom each person is if they come up to me. and one said "omg, its fab peter" yeah seriously, that's what she said. Fucking hard trying to explain that to my son. My view, if the ones that think its no problem then great thats their view but they have to decide things like, "do I want my family to know, do I want my work to know". People have lost their jobs for being on fab, FACT. recently a female on fab chat was suspended by her work while they do an investigation. So if the ones who are not bothered about those things then great, I envy them but a lot don't want it and that's why I think the best etiquette is to smile and pass by. truly it was asked for everyones views if it happened to them even with one fabber. | |||
"Approached three times on the one night out by people off Fab???
yeah and. If you don't believe it that's up to you. I have many friends on here who know me and there's no need to lie and never have.
It was a post regarding your view of the situation and what you think of it, not for you to put it down.
Just put your view on it if you were in that situation even with one fabber
It just seems rather unlikely. The odds on that happening on the same night out, 3 different times and all three of them approaching you must be thousands to one! .
Great odds how you worked that out.
heres another one. I was reminded last night there was a social that night in the town so more fabbers were about.
but hey still you say you don't believe it but im not really interested or care if you do, certainly makes no odds but the post was there as I was interested on your view of if you were in that situation just if one fabber said hi.
You still haven't even said, your still more interested in disbelieving me. Which is a shame."No, you're right, I must apologise. It's such a small town you live in, and if there's a social on, I'd imagine everyone and everywhere are going to know about it. | |||
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"Approached three times on the one night out by people off Fab???
yeah and. If you don't believe it that's up to you. I have many friends on here who know me and there's no need to lie and never have.
It was a post regarding your view of the situation and what you think of it, not for you to put it down.
Just put your view on it if you were in that situation even with one fabber
It just seems rather unlikely. The odds on that happening on the same night out, 3 different times and all three of them approaching you must be thousands to one! .
Great odds how you worked that out.
heres another one. I was reminded last night there was a social that night in the town so more fabbers were about.
but hey still you say you don't believe it but im not really interested or care if you do, certainly makes no odds but the post was there as I was interested on your view of if you were in that situation just if one fabber said hi.
You still haven't even said, your still more interested in disbelieving me. Which is a shame.
No, you're right, I must apologise. It's such a small town you live in, and if there's a social on, I'd imagine everyone and everywhere are going to know about it. "on fab forums, its great, people put their views but some are nasty and some are disrespectful, Some dot even like people and make a comment on their post it happens and we just have to deal with it. Am I saying, you, no. I'm just saying some people are on here and it makes them make assumptions of you, me and others. You've posted, I don't know how many times about this post and still haven't even said your view if it happened to you. Enough said I do think that says enough | |||
"I am not going to be popular with this one. As a couple we are very discreet, apart from anything else, our sexual preferences are nobody else’s business. There are people we have met just for sex and there are people who we have become firm friends with. Those who are friends have now met most of our family. They respect our privacy and we there’s. Regardless of how we know you, if you say Hi then we will say Hi back regardless of who we are with. For us discretion is not blabbing about our sexual preferences. Lack of discretion is most certainly not s friendly hello in a public place. If they came up and said “Hi fancy a quickie” in front of whoever you were with then I could understand concerns about lack of discretion. I bumped into a fellow fabster whilst on a girly weekend away, she said hello, we chatted briefly and I told my friends I knew her through work. No big deal! Mrs S "It doesn't matter if its popular or not, you've put your view across and reasoning why, which I think it great whether I agree or disagree with it | |||
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"Well there’s something to consider when you are even thinking about approaching another fabber you know, not everyone uses their real names !! and one of the biggest things about swinging is discretion ! Walking up to someone when they’re in company is far from Discrete especially if you haven’t already got a “cover story” of how you guys met which is usually discussed when you are arranging an offsite meet where vanillas are present !!" Exactly, Is peter my real name or anyone use their real names. Maybe we all use our real names on here. You never know | |||
"Well there’s something to consider when you are even thinking about approaching another fabber you know, not everyone uses their real names !! and one of the biggest things about swinging is discretion ! Walking up to someone when they’re in company is far from Discrete especially if you haven’t already got a “cover story” of how you guys met which is usually discussed when you are arranging an offsite meet where vanillas are present !! Exactly, Is peter my real name or anyone use their real names. Maybe we all use our real names on here. You never know "I thought your real name was Shergar, and this is where you've been hiding.  | |||
a polite nod would have been enough but instead he embarrassed me ... | |||
"Approached three times on the one night out by people off Fab??? "There was a social gathering at one of the pubs in Glasgow and he was after all drinking in one where previous socials have been over years, I’ve met quite a few on nights out myself in past when ive been out in Glasgow with my friends, my friend know what I get up to so they’re not daft lol | |||
"Well there’s something to consider when you are even thinking about approaching another fabber you know, not everyone uses their real names !! and one of the biggest things about swinging is discretion ! Walking up to someone when they’re in company is far from Discrete especially if you haven’t already got a “cover story” of how you guys met which is usually discussed when you are arranging an offsite meet where vanillas are present !! Exactly, Is peter my real name or anyone use their real names. Maybe we all use our real names on here. You never know
I thought your real name was Shergar, and this is where you've been hiding. "I just don't know how to spell Englebert Mahougemahink | |||
"Well folks for me last night was eventful. I was out last night with my son on a night out together, pure heaven. Great laugh n enjoyable chat when at different times in the pub, 3 fabbers cane up to me and said hi. One I know, the other two I didn't. One I knew said hello when my son was at the bar the other 2 came up when I was with my son.
To be honest I don't really get flustered or embarrassed but I didn't like it as I was with my son and don't want him involved or know about the scene.
If it was me then I would not go up to a fellow fabber, I might have looked and smiled but that would it. As their private life is theirs.
What do you all think should be the best thing to do if you were in a similar situation. I think just do not go over and just leave alone.
"You have went a bit melodramatic on some of your replies to peoples opinions. I struggle to think of any job that might result in 40 job losses if the boss was exposed as a swinger. You also said you had an eventful night at the pub , which to me implies you were not that bothered about what happened. You said you dont get embarrassed or flustered so again thats ok. You dont mention they started any Fab talk in front of your son so as many have already said including us , chat in a public place even with family or friends present is ok as long as discretion is kept on conversation. I wonder again is this a boast. Hey look at me , i was recognised 3 times out in town. Before you say i dont like you or anything like that , its not true, i dont know you bud. I just say what i see from text and say my opinion. If anonymity is SO important to you personally , why use the webcam function part of Fab.? | |||
"Well folks for me last night was eventful. I was out last night with my son on a night out together, pure heaven. Great laugh n enjoyable chat when at different times in the pub, 3 fabbers cane up to me and said hi. One I know, the other two I didn't. One I knew said hello when my son was at the bar the other 2 came up when I was with my son.
To be honest I don't really get flustered or embarrassed but I didn't like it as I was with my son and don't want him involved or know about the scene.
If it was me then I would not go up to a fellow fabber, I might have looked and smiled but that would it. As their private life is theirs.
What do you all think should be the best thing to do if you were in a similar situation. I think just do not go over and just leave alone.
You have went a bit melodramatic on some of your replies to peoples opinions. I struggle to think of any job that might result in 40 job losses if the boss was exposed as a swinger. You also said you had an eventful night at the pub , which to me implies you were not that bothered about what happened. You said you dont get embarrassed or flustered so again thats ok. You dont mention they started any Fab talk in front of your son so as many have already said including us , chat in a public place even with family or friends present is ok as long as discretion is kept on conversation. I wonder again is this a boast. Hey look at me , i was recognised 3 times out in town. Before you say i dont like you or anything like that , its not true, i dont know you bud. I just say what i see from text and say my opinion. If anonymity is SO important to you personally , why use the webcam function part of Fab.?"Spot on. | |||
"Well folks for me last night was eventful. I was out last night with my son on a night out together, pure heaven. Great laugh n enjoyable chat when at different times in the pub, 3 fabbers cane up to me and said hi. One I know, the other two I didn't. One I knew said hello when my son was at the bar the other 2 came up when I was with my son.
To be honest I don't really get flustered or embarrassed but I didn't like it as I was with my son and don't want him involved or know about the scene.
If it was me then I would not go up to a fellow fabber, I might have looked and smiled but that would it. As their private life is theirs.
What do you all think should be the best thing to do if you were in a similar situation. I think just do not go over and just leave alone.
You have went a bit melodramatic on some of your replies to peoples opinions. I struggle to think of any job that might result in 40 job losses if the boss was exposed as a swinger. You also said you had an eventful night at the pub , which to me implies you were not that bothered about what happened. You said you dont get embarrassed or flustered so again thats ok. You dont mention they started any Fab talk in front of your son so as many have already said including us , chat in a public place even with family or friends present is ok as long as discretion is kept on conversation. I wonder again is this a boast. Hey look at me , i was recognised 3 times out in town. Before you say i dont like you or anything like that , its not true, i dont know you bud. I just say what i see from text and say my opinion. If anonymity is SO important to you personally , why use the webcam function part of Fab.?""You have went a bit melodramatic on some of your replies to peoples opinions." - The replies were mainly to do with the questioning of my situation not about their own view if they are in a similar situation. I mean there is one woman making three comments about the situation and not once has she said her view if in similar situation, no make that four, she just put thumbs up to agree with you: "I struggle to think of any job that might result in 40 job losses if the boss was exposed as a swinger." ---- Yeah well that's your view, I can actually think of a few and one was my business, correction, partnership of which a few close friends know on here. "You also said you had an eventful night at the pub , which to me implies you were not that bothered about what happened. You said you don't get embarrassed or flustered so again thats ok." --- Again that's your take on it from reading the text, I cannot help the way you think but yeah, its not nice "You don't mention they started any Fab talk in front of your son so as many have already said including us , chat in a public place even with family or friends present is ok as long as discretion is kept on conversation." --- I'm positive I repined to someone's post on here when one of the females said "omg fab peter" and it was in front of my son. "I wonder again is this a boast." - I think that sums up your view of me and negatively is something I would expect to follow if you think it was a boast. Quite frequently you will find on these forums its usually the same people who are negative to certain people. I'm not talking about me, there maybe some who reply to your comments to try and bring them down. But just a generalisation really. "If anonymity is SO important to you personally , why use the webcam function part of Fab.?" ----- Where do I say its so important. (it was important when I ran the previous business which I never went on cam, well hardly), I'm talking about people making comment to you in a public place or actually coming up to speak to you when you are with others. Maybe I should have made clear about each person. The first was known to each other as we had a social and I was alone. The other two came up to me and made themselves known when I was with others and one of them mentioned fab. Then when, well obviously, your post to me, opps sorry, about my situation, is negative breaking each section down in detail as you have so done. So I have broken each area down to make sure you understand the reasoning. hopefully that is a bit helpful to make you understand and you may actually still disagree but its neither her nor there as I was there. When there is some comments form nice people on the forums, I don't reply, well try my best. I mean there was one guy who put a comment on this post as complete and utter bullshit or do you believe this bullshit. As a few have said, if you don't have nothing positive to say then don't say it. The whole point of the post was that you air your view if this happened to you or in a similar situation. Look at the amount of people who have just aired their view if in similar incident even with one and now look at the posts where people haven't aired their view but have been so negative. The best I can do as I have above it makes it clear so you fully understand and if you genuinely don't believe it, then that's your post if you don't believe it because you dislike me then that's your bad and if you believe it then kl. | |||
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"Well folks for me last night was eventful. I was out last night with my son on a night out together, pure heaven. Great laugh n enjoyable chat when at different times in the pub, 3 fabbers cane up to me and said hi. One I know, the other two I didn't. One I knew said hello when my son was at the bar the other 2 came up when I was with my son.
To be honest I don't really get flustered or embarrassed but I didn't like it as I was with my son and don't want him involved or know about the scene.
If it was me then I would not go up to a fellow fabber, I might have looked and smiled but that would it. As their private life is theirs.
What do you all think should be the best thing to do if you were in a similar situation. I think just do not go over and just leave alone.
You have went a bit melodramatic on some of your replies to peoples opinions. I struggle to think of any job that might result in 40 job losses if the boss was exposed as a swinger. You also said you had an eventful night at the pub , which to me implies you were not that bothered about what happened. You said you dont get embarrassed or flustered so again thats ok. You dont mention they started any Fab talk in front of your son so as many have already said including us , chat in a public place even with family or friends present is ok as long as discretion is kept on conversation. I wonder again is this a boast. Hey look at me , i was recognised 3 times out in town. Before you say i dont like you or anything like that , its not true, i dont know you bud. I just say what i see from text and say my opinion. If anonymity is SO important to you personally , why use the webcam function part of Fab.?
"You have went a bit melodramatic on some of your replies to peoples opinions." - The replies were mainly to do with the questioning of my situation not about their own view if they are in a similar situation. I mean there is one woman making three comments about the situation and not once has she said her view if in similar situation, no make that four, she just put thumbs up to agree with you:
"I struggle to think of any job that might result in 40 job losses if the boss was exposed as a swinger." ---- Yeah well that's your view, I can actually think of a few and one was my business, correction, partnership of which a few close friends know on here.
"You also said you had an eventful night at the pub , which to me implies you were not that bothered about what happened. You said you don't get embarrassed or flustered so again thats ok." --- Again that's your take on it from reading the text, I cannot help the way you think but yeah, its not nice
"You don't mention they started any Fab talk in front of your son so as many have already said including us , chat in a public place even with family or friends present is ok as long as discretion is kept on conversation." --- I'm positive I repined to someone's post on here when one of the females said "omg fab peter" and it was in front of my son.
"I wonder again is this a boast." - I think that sums up your view of me and negatively is something I would expect to follow if you think it was a boast. Quite frequently you will find on these forums its usually the same people who are negative to certain people. I'm not talking about me, there maybe some who reply to your comments to try and bring them down. But just a generalisation really.
"If anonymity is SO important to you personally , why use the webcam function part of Fab.?" ----- Where do I say its so important. (it was important when I ran the previous business which I never went on cam, well hardly), I'm talking about people making comment to you in a public place or actually coming up to speak to you when you are with others. Maybe I should have made clear about each person. The first was known to each other as we had a social and I was alone. The other two came up to me and made themselves known when I was with others and one of them mentioned fab.
Then when, well obviously, your post to me, opps sorry, about my situation, is negative breaking each section down in detail as you have so done. So I have broken each area down to make sure you understand the reasoning. hopefully that is a bit helpful to make you understand and you may actually still disagree but its neither her nor there as I was there.
When there is some comments form nice people on the forums, I don't reply, well try my best. I mean there was one guy who put a comment on this post as complete and utter bullshit or do you believe this bullshit.
As a few have said, if you don't have nothing positive to say then don't say it. The whole point of the post was that you air your view if this happened to you or in a similar situation. Look at the amount of people who have just aired their view if in similar incident even with one and now look at the posts where people haven't aired their view but have been so negative.
The best I can do as I have above it makes it clear so you fully understand and if you genuinely don't believe it, then that's your post if you don't believe it because you dislike me then that's your bad and if you believe it then kl.
"Peter 1st off , absolutely, i have nothing against you. I just felt in your original post you were not to bothered , eventfull and you dont get flustered. But when some others felt they had done nothing wrong saying hi and as long as discretion is observed they never felt it was a problem. But then you escalated the encounter saying they approached you saying hey look its Fab Peter. I think you would have started the thread with that and certainly would not have called it just an eventful encounter. We would have been extremely peed off if someone unknown to us said that. I only added to thread because you got a bit catty with another Fabber who dissagreed with the account. Its all just about opinions bud its not about liking or disliking people bud. | |||
"Well folks for me last night was eventful. I was out last night with my son on a night out together, pure heaven. Great laugh n enjoyable chat when at different times in the pub, 3 fabbers cane up to me and said hi. One I know, the other two I didn't. One I knew said hello when my son was at the bar the other 2 came up when I was with my son.
To be honest I don't really get flustered or embarrassed but I didn't like it as I was with my son and don't want him involved or know about the scene.
If it was me then I would not go up to a fellow fabber, I might have looked and smiled but that would it. As their private life is theirs.
What do you all think should be the best thing to do if you were in a similar situation. I think just do not go over and just leave alone.
You have went a bit melodramatic on some of your replies to peoples opinions. I struggle to think of any job that might result in 40 job losses if the boss was exposed as a swinger. You also said you had an eventful night at the pub , which to me implies you were not that bothered about what happened. You said you dont get embarrassed or flustered so again thats ok. You dont mention they started any Fab talk in front of your son so as many have already said including us , chat in a public place even with family or friends present is ok as long as discretion is kept on conversation. I wonder again is this a boast. Hey look at me , i was recognised 3 times out in town. Before you say i dont like you or anything like that , its not true, i dont know you bud. I just say what i see from text and say my opinion. If anonymity is SO important to you personally , why use the webcam function part of Fab.?
"You have went a bit melodramatic on some of your replies to peoples opinions." - The replies were mainly to do with the questioning of my situation not about their own view if they are in a similar situation. I mean there is one woman making three comments about the situation and not once has she said her view if in similar situation, no make that four, she just put thumbs up to agree with you:
"I struggle to think of any job that might result in 40 job losses if the boss was exposed as a swinger." ---- Yeah well that's your view, I can actually think of a few and one was my business, correction, partnership of which a few close friends know on here.
"You also said you had an eventful night at the pub , which to me implies you were not that bothered about what happened. You said you don't get embarrassed or flustered so again thats ok." --- Again that's your take on it from reading the text, I cannot help the way you think but yeah, its not nice
"You don't mention they started any Fab talk in front of your son so as many have already said including us , chat in a public place even with family or friends present is ok as long as discretion is kept on conversation." --- I'm positive I repined to someone's post on here when one of the females said "omg fab peter" and it was in front of my son.
"I wonder again is this a boast." - I think that sums up your view of me and negatively is something I would expect to follow if you think it was a boast. Quite frequently you will find on these forums its usually the same people who are negative to certain people. I'm not talking about me, there maybe some who reply to your comments to try and bring them down. But just a generalisation really.
"If anonymity is SO important to you personally , why use the webcam function part of Fab.?" ----- Where do I say its so important. (it was important when I ran the previous business which I never went on cam, well hardly), I'm talking about people making comment to you in a public place or actually coming up to speak to you when you are with others. Maybe I should have made clear about each person. The first was known to each other as we had a social and I was alone. The other two came up to me and made themselves known when I was with others and one of them mentioned fab.
Then when, well obviously, your post to me, opps sorry, about my situation, is negative breaking each section down in detail as you have so done. So I have broken each area down to make sure you understand the reasoning. hopefully that is a bit helpful to make you understand and you may actually still disagree but its neither her nor there as I was there.
When there is some comments form nice people on the forums, I don't reply, well try my best. I mean there was one guy who put a comment on this post as complete and utter bullshit or do you believe this bullshit.
As a few have said, if you don't have nothing positive to say then don't say it. The whole point of the post was that you air your view if this happened to you or in a similar situation. Look at the amount of people who have just aired their view if in similar incident even with one and now look at the posts where people haven't aired their view but have been so negative.
The best I can do as I have above it makes it clear so you fully understand and if you genuinely don't believe it, then that's your post if you don't believe it because you dislike me then that's your bad and if you believe it then kl.
Peter 1st off , absolutely, i have nothing against you. I just felt in your original post you were not to bothered , eventfull and you dont get flustered. But when some others felt they had done nothing wrong saying hi and as long as discretion is observed they never felt it was a problem. But then you escalated the encounter saying they approached you saying hey look its Fab Peter. I think you would have started the thread with that and certainly would not have called it just an eventful encounter. We would have been extremely peed off if someone unknown to us said that. I only added to thread because you got a bit catty with another Fabber who dissagreed with the account. Its all just about opinions bud its not about liking or disliking people bud. "yes agreed, I think more detail should have been put into original post so people understood the full story but sometimes how much do you put in and then if it escalates you have to put more in lol, the joys of fab | |||
"Well folks for me last night was eventful. I was out last night with my son on a night out together, pure heaven. Great laugh n enjoyable chat when at different times in the pub, 3 fabbers cane up to me and said hi. One I know, the other two I didn't. One I knew said hello when my son was at the bar the other 2 came up when I was with my son.
To be honest I don't really get flustered or embarrassed but I didn't like it as I was with my son and don't want him involved or know about the scene.
If it was me then I would not go up to a fellow fabber, I might have looked and smiled but that would it. As their private life is theirs.
What do you all think should be the best thing to do if you were in a similar situation. I think just do not go over and just leave alone.
You have went a bit melodramatic on some of your replies to peoples opinions. I struggle to think of any job that might result in 40 job losses if the boss was exposed as a swinger. You also said you had an eventful night at the pub , which to me implies you were not that bothered about what happened. You said you dont get embarrassed or flustered so again thats ok. You dont mention they started any Fab talk in front of your son so as many have already said including us , chat in a public place even with family or friends present is ok as long as discretion is kept on conversation. I wonder again is this a boast. Hey look at me , i was recognised 3 times out in town. Before you say i dont like you or anything like that , its not true, i dont know you bud. I just say what i see from text and say my opinion. If anonymity is SO important to you personally , why use the webcam function part of Fab.?
"You have went a bit melodramatic on some of your replies to peoples opinions." - The replies were mainly to do with the questioning of my situation not about their own view if they are in a similar situation. I mean there is one woman making three comments about the situation and not once has she said her view if in similar situation, no make that four, she just put thumbs up to agree with you:
"I struggle to think of any job that might result in 40 job losses if the boss was exposed as a swinger." ---- Yeah well that's your view, I can actually think of a few and one was my business, correction, partnership of which a few close friends know on here.
"You also said you had an eventful night at the pub , which to me implies you were not that bothered about what happened. You said you don't get embarrassed or flustered so again thats ok." --- Again that's your take on it from reading the text, I cannot help the way you think but yeah, its not nice
"You don't mention they started any Fab talk in front of your son so as many have already said including us , chat in a public place even with family or friends present is ok as long as discretion is kept on conversation." --- I'm positive I repined to someone's post on here when one of the females said "omg fab peter" and it was in front of my son.
"I wonder again is this a boast." - I think that sums up your view of me and negatively is something I would expect to follow if you think it was a boast. Quite frequently you will find on these forums its usually the same people who are negative to certain people. I'm not talking about me, there maybe some who reply to your comments to try and bring them down. But just a generalisation really.
"If anonymity is SO important to you personally , why use the webcam function part of Fab.?" ----- Where do I say its so important. (it was important when I ran the previous business which I never went on cam, well hardly), I'm talking about people making comment to you in a public place or actually coming up to speak to you when you are with others. Maybe I should have made clear about each person. The first was known to each other as we had a social and I was alone. The other two came up to me and made themselves known when I was with others and one of them mentioned fab.
Then when, well obviously, your post to me, opps sorry, about my situation, is negative breaking each section down in detail as you have so done. So I have broken each area down to make sure you understand the reasoning. hopefully that is a bit helpful to make you understand and you may actually still disagree but its neither her nor there as I was there.
When there is some comments form nice people on the forums, I don't reply, well try my best. I mean there was one guy who put a comment on this post as complete and utter bullshit or do you believe this bullshit.
As a few have said, if you don't have nothing positive to say then don't say it. The whole point of the post was that you air your view if this happened to you or in a similar situation. Look at the amount of people who have just aired their view if in similar incident even with one and now look at the posts where people haven't aired their view but have been so negative.
The best I can do as I have above it makes it clear so you fully understand and if you genuinely don't believe it, then that's your post if you don't believe it because you dislike me then that's your bad and if you believe it then kl.
Peter 1st off , absolutely, i have nothing against you. I just felt in your original post you were not to bothered , eventfull and you dont get flustered. But when some others felt they had done nothing wrong saying hi and as long as discretion is observed they never felt it was a problem. But then you escalated the encounter saying they approached you saying hey look its Fab Peter. I think you would have started the thread with that and certainly would not have called it just an eventful encounter. We would have been extremely peed off if someone unknown to us said that. I only added to thread because you got a bit catty with another Fabber who dissagreed with the account. Its all just about opinions bud its not about liking or disliking people bud. "the other fabber obviously has issue as she has tried to derail another thread by bringing it up no one is biting | |||
"Well folks for me last night was eventful. I was out last night with my son on a night out together, pure heaven. Great laugh n enjoyable chat when at different times in the pub, 3 fabbers cane up to me and said hi. One I know, the other two I didn't. One I knew said hello when my son was at the bar the other 2 came up when I was with my son.
To be honest I don't really get flustered or embarrassed but I didn't like it as I was with my son and don't want him involved or know about the scene.
If it was me then I would not go up to a fellow fabber, I might have looked and smiled but that would it. As their private life is theirs.
What do you all think should be the best thing to do if you were in a similar situation. I think just do not go over and just leave alone.
You have went a bit melodramatic on some of your replies to peoples opinions. I struggle to think of any job that might result in 40 job losses if the boss was exposed as a swinger. You also said you had an eventful night at the pub , which to me implies you were not that bothered about what happened. You said you dont get embarrassed or flustered so again thats ok. You dont mention they started any Fab talk in front of your son so as many have already said including us , chat in a public place even with family or friends present is ok as long as discretion is kept on conversation. I wonder again is this a boast. Hey look at me , i was recognised 3 times out in town. Before you say i dont like you or anything like that , its not true, i dont know you bud. I just say what i see from text and say my opinion. If anonymity is SO important to you personally , why use the webcam function part of Fab.?
"You have went a bit melodramatic on some of your replies to peoples opinions." - The replies were mainly to do with the questioning of my situation not about their own view if they are in a similar situation. I mean there is one woman making three comments about the situation and not once has she said her view if in similar situation, no make that four, she just put thumbs up to agree with you:
"I struggle to think of any job that might result in 40 job losses if the boss was exposed as a swinger." ---- Yeah well that's your view, I can actually think of a few and one was my business, correction, partnership of which a few close friends know on here.
"You also said you had an eventful night at the pub , which to me implies you were not that bothered about what happened. You said you don't get embarrassed or flustered so again thats ok." --- Again that's your take on it from reading the text, I cannot help the way you think but yeah, its not nice
"You don't mention they started any Fab talk in front of your son so as many have already said including us , chat in a public place even with family or friends present is ok as long as discretion is kept on conversation." --- I'm positive I repined to someone's post on here when one of the females said "omg fab peter" and it was in front of my son.
"I wonder again is this a boast." - I think that sums up your view of me and negatively is something I would expect to follow if you think it was a boast. Quite frequently you will find on these forums its usually the same people who are negative to certain people. I'm not talking about me, there maybe some who reply to your comments to try and bring them down. But just a generalisation really.
"If anonymity is SO important to you personally , why use the webcam function part of Fab.?" ----- Where do I say its so important. (it was important when I ran the previous business which I never went on cam, well hardly), I'm talking about people making comment to you in a public place or actually coming up to speak to you when you are with others. Maybe I should have made clear about each person. The first was known to each other as we had a social and I was alone. The other two came up to me and made themselves known when I was with others and one of them mentioned fab.
Then when, well obviously, your post to me, opps sorry, about my situation, is negative breaking each section down in detail as you have so done. So I have broken each area down to make sure you understand the reasoning. hopefully that is a bit helpful to make you understand and you may actually still disagree but its neither her nor there as I was there.
When there is some comments form nice people on the forums, I don't reply, well try my best. I mean there was one guy who put a comment on this post as complete and utter bullshit or do you believe this bullshit.
As a few have said, if you don't have nothing positive to say then don't say it. The whole point of the post was that you air your view if this happened to you or in a similar situation. Look at the amount of people who have just aired their view if in similar incident even with one and now look at the posts where people haven't aired their view but have been so negative.
The best I can do as I have above it makes it clear so you fully understand and if you genuinely don't believe it, then that's your post if you don't believe it because you dislike me then that's your bad and if you believe it then kl.
Peter 1st off , absolutely, i have nothing against you. I just felt in your original post you were not to bothered , eventfull and you dont get flustered. But when some others felt they had done nothing wrong saying hi and as long as discretion is observed they never felt it was a problem. But then you escalated the encounter saying they approached you saying hey look its Fab Peter. I think you would have started the thread with that and certainly would not have called it just an eventful encounter. We would have been extremely peed off if someone unknown to us said that. I only added to thread because you got a bit catty with another Fabber who dissagreed with the account. Its all just about opinions bud its not about liking or disliking people bud.
the other fabber obviously has issue as she has tried to derail another thread by bringing it up no one is biting "Im just jealous anyway. If someone recognised me when they walked into a pub they would say hey look its He Devil from Fab and head for the nearest exit . | |||
