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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes i had this yesterday ... saying he checked my verifications and some of the guys i had met carried STIs and i would be ridden with STI and he was glad we wouldnt meet.....all because I said no !!! |
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I try to keep in mind that a verification is about the person not if they are good or bad between the sheets. Therefore if some has loads most will be from socials/partys. For me I would rather try and meet someone with more than less. Surely with more verifications you have a better chance of meeting as the person is more fab active? |
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Yeah, on my single profile I had a guy message me out of the blue to say that I was disgusting and would get a disease from all the men I've fucked. Different story if I hadn't turned him down already, I presume.
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I think if you have an ounce of sense then everyone gets judged by there veris and photos .it the initial way to decide if that person is suitable to message or chat to
Unless you any hole a goal or any dick will do type of person then they mean nothing
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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I’ve met some lovely people. Some whose pics don’t do them justice but having met them at clubs or socials I have subsequently met for a play meet.
I do agree though that some guys turn nasty when you turn them down and you suddenly go from being everything he wants to being a fat slag. Block button comes in handy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who gets judged from their pictures or verifications.??"
Nope I don't judge on pics n veris or decide what I would want from a person but it does make me notice, which I can be the start of initial contact.
They stand out but I like a little more with chat n messages to see if there is a potential connection.
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"Who gets judged from their pictures or verifications.??
Nope I don't judge on pics n veris or decide what I would want from a person but it does make me notice, which I can be the start of initial contact.
They stand out but I like a little more with chat n messages to see if there is a potential connection.
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Oh so that's why you turned me down eh my patter pish |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think everyone is judged based on pictures and verifications! That’s ultimately how how initially decide to start speaking to someone!
Although verifications are usually very OTT and what one person verifies amazing another would find awful. That’s what keeps it exciting.
If you mean being judged on explicit pictures and verifications then yeh some fannies will find anyway to criticise and this usually comes after a knock back!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think everyone is judged based on pictures and verifications! That’s ultimately how how initially decide to start speaking to someone!
Although verifications are usually very OTT and what one person verifies amazing another would find awful. That’s what keeps it exciting.
If you mean being judged on explicit pictures and verifications then yeh some fannies will find anyway to criticise and this usually comes after a knock back! "
How you** |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think everyone is judged based on pictures and verifications! That’s ultimately how how initially decide to start speaking to someone!
Although verifications are usually very OTT and what one person verifies amazing another would find awful. That’s what keeps it exciting.
If you mean being judged on explicit pictures and verifications then yeh some fannies will find anyway to criticise and this usually comes after a knock back!
How you**"
You never see a bad verification displayed.
Some will verif as they had an amazing time. Some will verify as they feel obliged. Some will not even verif because they don't want to for any reason or just did not enjoy themselves.
 
Yhere is also a lot of fake verifications now so I don't read a lot into them but if I see a veri from someone I know and even trust or get on with, then I'll take that into account.
Important bit, (well I think), if anyone makes a bad comment to you via message because they either got a knock back, or jealous or think you wont even consider them, then so what, never worry about it and if its abusive just report |
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From my own experiance on here women are the worst when it comes to judging people.
I dont show verivications but people will still judge me for other things but hey ho.
Simple soloution hunni hide all your veries that way no one can judge you on who you choose to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a chip on both shoulders, purely for balance.
Seriously, though, I have never had abuse, nor sent it. If I ever do get any, I will report, block, and carry on. I also accept rejection graciously, and with a little humour. Life is too short for anything else, especially when you get to my time of life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From my own experiance on here women are the worst when it comes to judging people.
I dont show verivications but people will still judge me for other things but hey ho.
Simple soloution hunni hide all your veries that way no one can judge you on who you choose to meet."
I agree with this |
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"Who gets judged from their pictures or verifications.??"
I thought that’s what they were there for to help base an initial reaction and assumption as to whether you’d like to talk/meet that person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who gets judged from their pictures or verifications.??
I thought that’s what they were there for to help base an initial reaction and assumption as to whether you’d like to talk/meet that person"
Totally agree with this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who gets judged from their pictures or verifications.??
I thought that’s what they were there for to help base an initial reaction and assumption as to whether you’d like to talk/meet that person"
Veris are there for that reason but surely NO does not mean you have to be abused because of your vetis ... remember he was talking about guys i had met !!! No one deserves abuse like the rant i got .... and breathe .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Who gets judged from their pictures or verifications.??
I thought that’s what they were there for to help base an initial reaction and assumption as to whether you’d like to talk/meet that person
Veris are there for that reason but surely NO does not mean you have to be abused because of your vetis ... remember he was talking about guys i had met !!! No one deserves abuse like the rant i got .... and breathe .... "
Abuse is ALWAYS wrong Bloo |
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"Who gets judged from their pictures or verifications.??
I thought that’s what they were there for to help base an initial reaction and assumption as to whether you’d like to talk/meet that person"
I dont think any of us joined the site to be judged but sadly we are .
If judging someone on their photos fair enough but to judge someone on verivications because of who they have met is just wrong in my opinion |
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"Who gets judged from their pictures or verifications.??
I thought that’s what they were there for to help base an initial reaction and assumption as to whether you’d like to talk/meet that personI dont think any of us joined the site to be judged but sadly we are .
If judging someone on their photos fair enough but to judge someone on verivications because of who they have met is just wrong in my opinion "
why is it wrong ?
the person chooses to show they find this type of person worthy of their time and I think those folk are wastes of space damn tooting I will judge and steer clear |
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"Who gets judged from their pictures or verifications.??
I thought that’s what they were there for to help base an initial reaction and assumption as to whether you’d like to talk/meet that personI dont think any of us joined the site to be judged but sadly we are .
If judging someone on their photos fair enough but to judge someone on verivications because of who they have met is just wrong in my opinion why is it wrong ?
the person chooses to show they find this type of person worthy of their time and I think those folk are wastes of space damn tooting I will judge and steer clear"
its wrong because most of the time they are judging someone they have never spoke to let alone met.
For those who have issues with someone then chooses not to meet them just because uve had issues with someone else who has verified them is wrong in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" but if I see a veri from someone I know and even trust or get on with, then I'll take that into account )"
This is why i wish there was an option to revoke your verification of someone
People can be very charming when they want to be and it wouldnt be the first time ive left someone quite a complimentary verification and then they later showed their true colours as a d*ck and yet there i still am on their page giving a seal of approval
I suppose you really need to think verification means they are a real person but then not believe another word of it since it was just one persona opinion and one point in time  |
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I was judged just yesterday for not having any naughty pictures to send, they responded with “you don’t have any face pics”, and then blocked me. I do have face pics, 3 infact, but that’s not what they asked for so I was rather perplexed at their reaction.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that it doesn't matter if you show only some or all of your verifications. It will attract attention good and bad. The question is how we deal with it. No one deserves to be on the receiving end of any sort of abuse. That's why we have the option to report and block. That will always be the best thing to do in the long run  x |
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" but if I see a veri from someone I know and even trust or get on with, then I'll take that into account )
This is why i wish there was an option to revoke your verification of someone
People can be very charming when they want to be and it wouldnt be the first time ive left someone quite a complimentary verification and then they later showed their true colours as a d*ck and yet there i still am on their page giving a seal of approval
I suppose you really need to think verification means they are a real person but then not believe another word of it since it was just one persona opinion and one point in time "
if you block them it removes your veri |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Who gets judged from their pictures or verifications.??"
Anyone judging you on pics and veris clearly don't know you as a lot of the veris are social ones x
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By (user no longer on site)
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I ended up being shamed off the site the last time I was here. One of my so called friends joined, read my likes, verifications etc and because they seen comments from couples he went on for weeks about how disgusting I was, how people on here were sleezy... Yet some of the people I have met are the most genuine people ever! More fool me for leaving... Oh and I get shitty emails cos I have a face pic up. .... Gets off her soapbox now |
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"I ended up being shamed off the site the last time I was here. One of my so called friends joined, read my likes, verifications etc and because they seen comments from couples he went on for weeks about how disgusting I was, how people on here were sleezy... Yet some of the people I have met are the most genuine people ever! More fool me for leaving... Oh and I get shitty emails cos I have a face pic up. .... Gets off her soapbox now "
Ignore them all, you look great, and last time I looked this was a sex site, right??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I ended up being shamed off the site the last time I was here. One of my so called friends joined, read my likes, verifications etc and because they seen comments from couples he went on for weeks about how disgusting I was, how people on here were sleezy... Yet some of the people I have met are the most genuine people ever! More fool me for leaving... Oh and I get shitty emails cos I have a face pic up. .... Gets off her soapbox now
Ignore them all, you look great, and last time I looked this was a sex site, right??? "
Lol I know but you live and learn and will not happen again  even at Xmas dinner the conversation turned to swinging ffs had to hold my laughter in because if only they knew! But think the mother knows what I do |
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"I ended up being shamed off the site the last time I was here. One of my so called friends joined, read my likes, verifications etc and because they seen comments from couples he went on for weeks about how disgusting I was, how people on here were sleezy... Yet some of the people I have met are the most genuine people ever! More fool me for leaving... Oh and I get shitty emails cos I have a face pic up. .... Gets off her soapbox now
Ignore them all, you look great, and last time I looked this was a sex site, right???
Lol I know but you live and learn and will not happen again even at Xmas dinner the conversation turned to swinging ffs had to hold my laughter in because if only they knew! But think the mother knows what I do "
I want to come to yours for Xmas dinner lol |
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"I’ve just been judged for being on fab by a man on fab!
Can-not com-pute! "
Neither could I. Think he has aspirations of being a psychologist, spoke for 10 mins and he told me I am unhappy and Fab is my facade!
Meanwhile he wasn’t happy he couldn’t meet anyone.....wonder why!!!! |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"I’ve just been judged for being on fab by a man on fab!
Can-not com-pute!
Neither could I. Think he has aspirations of being a psychologist, spoke for 10 mins and he told me I am unhappy and Fab is my facade!
Meanwhile he wasn’t happy he couldn’t meet anyone.....wonder why!!!!"
Nowt as queer as folk |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men are judged for simply being men "
PEOPLE judge I find, that’s their perogative and if we are honest we all “judge” or assess each other. Some folk don’t just have a chip on their shoulder, it’s a full fish supper. C’est la vie as Bunkie said, nowt as queer as folk  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a couple message me once and say I was a pervert and disgusting for being a dominatrix..
They were openly into dogging / bareback/ gang bangs.
Not my thing at all but I'd never let it annoy me and message a stranger to say so !
I've found personally it's because you may have met somebody they wanted to meet but didn't want to meet them or if it's a couple, could be their partner showed an interest and they don't like it.
Makes no sense to me! |
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"Men are judged for simply being men
PEOPLE judge I find, that’s their perogative and if we are honest we all “judge” or assess each other. Some folk don’t just have a chip on their shoulder, it’s a full fish supper. C’est la vie as Bunkie said, nowt as queer as folk "
I'm allergic to fish can we change that to a full pudding supper |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men are judged for simply being men
PEOPLE judge I find, that’s their perogative and if we are honest we all “judge” or assess each other. Some folk don’t just have a chip on their shoulder, it’s a full fish supper. C’est la vie as Bunkie said, nowt as queer as folk
I'm allergic to fish can we change that to a full pudding supper "
Not crispy duck spring rolls? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only positively ...... until I politely decline ...... then I have a fat ass
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It's not fat, it's curvy! 
I'll settle for that "
You'll have to. It's the best I've got! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course most people judge by pics and veris. That’s what they look at after you message and choose to reply is it not? Or at least that’s what I got told when I posted about first messages |
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"Men are judged for simply being men
PEOPLE judge I find, that’s their perogative and if we are honest we all “judge” or assess each other. Some folk don’t just have a chip on their shoulder, it’s a full fish supper. C’est la vie as Bunkie said, nowt as queer as folk
I'm allergic to fish can we change that to a full pudding supper
Not crispy duck spring rolls? "
that will do ha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only positively ...... until I politely decline ...... then I have a fat ass
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It's not fat, it's curvy!
I'll settle for that
You'll have to. It's the best I've got!
Hey, I've heard worse. Lol.
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It's all downhill from here! Backhanded compliments next... |
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"Only positively ...... until I politely decline ...... then I have a fat ass
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It's not fat, it's curvy!
I'll settle for that
You'll have to. It's the best I've got!
Hey, I've heard worse. Lol.
It's all downhill from here! Backhanded compliments next..."
Ha ha. Feel free |
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By *ewnameCouple
over a year ago
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for goodness sake, some people need to grow up and get a life and not be a keyboard gangster, we are all different and are looking for different things so if what someone likes does not fit with your ideas ( unless it is immoral or illegal ) let them be and move on ffs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t have any on display and don’t share pics, I do judge personally and I know guys are making assumptions about me but I like someone I can chat to and I’d like to think the men who take time to chat and take risk of meeting blind are very pleased with me when I turn up |
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