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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you."
There’s definitely a thrill yes, but I don’t automatically think that. For me that signals the challenge of seeing where chatting can take things... |
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By *igD262Man
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you.
There’s definitely a thrill yes, but I don’t automatically think that. For me that signals the challenge of seeing where chatting can take things..."
well said  |
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By *illy7239Man
over a year ago
Stenhousemuir |
It good let's you know your not invisible
But for me it's more like right now you need to keep her interest and hope she is interested enough to meet you.
Plus it's about trying to find out if she is fake or not lol |
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By *976scottMan
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you."
Definitely not, yeah it’s nice to get mail no doubt about it especially that’s not from other single guys looking to convert you!
Thing with fab is that I’m no Armani model but some on here seem to think they are something special. Let’s face it some guys have no standards what so ever so some females, not the majority thankfully think they are something where as in reality they wouldn’t get a second glance in real life!
Fab should be all about the fun, some take it way too seriously and yeah it can be an ego boost at times.
Rant over, can you tell I’m ill and grumpy today  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you."
No after a few texts banter etc... But no not at first do you when a guy texts you Bluebell |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try and reply to everyone but don’t meet from fab I only attend clubs and socials, I find when I reply to most they do have an expectation of meeting even although I clearly say on my profile I don’t and I usually let them know on the first reply that I don’t mind chatting but won’t be meeting but they still try x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you.
There’s definitely a thrill yes, but I don’t automatically think that. For me that signals the challenge of seeing where chatting can take things..."
Agree ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Supposed to be a thumbs up not? .. Sakes..
Yeah i do like it when a girl replies and some of the hottest women who will undoubtedly be swamped with messages still manage to say hello or thankyou back it does show that they can chiose to reply if they have their fikters working for them..! |
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It is always nice to see a Lady answering your message especially when you put the effort and you have been courteous.
Whether this is a positive or a negative answer, it is always nice to hearing back from a Lady.
It is very exciting when chatting and starting that flirty conversation 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good to get a reply, and yes it's good to get noticed but it does not mean we want sex stright away some connection lust chat is the key. If it does come to a meet then it will be relaxed fun and thrilling we all got to be safe when meting people for the 1st time and thank good for verifications. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" spot on!It is always nice to see a Lady answering your message especially when you put the effort and you have been courteous.
Whether this is a positive or a negative answer, it is always nice to hearing back from a Lady.
It is very exciting when chatting and starting that flirty conversation
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, I think all men get excited when they get a reply from a woman or couple.
Purely because there about 100 men to every woman.
But no way do I think it’s a gauranteed meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you."
I don't instantly think she wants to meet but I do enjoy a reply even if it's a nice no thank you just nice to know your message was noticed and appreciated  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you."
Wow. Patronising thread topic much?
What about you Bluebell, do you enjoy a feeling of being desired on here that you might not receive in real life?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is always nice to see a Lady answering your message especially when you put the effort and you have been courteous.
Whether this is a positive or a negative answer, it is always nice to hearing back from a Lady.
It is very exciting when chatting and starting that flirty conversation
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Ditto this!! |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you."
Not really ...will get a tad excited if female messages first tho as she has noticed me enough to want to get in touch  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is always nice to see a Lady answering your message especially when you put the effort and you have been courteous.
Whether this is a positive or a negative answer, it is always nice to hearing back from a Lady.
It is very exciting when chatting and starting that flirty conversation
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I'd completely agree with this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope because I gave up sending mail long ago.
I'm just a lurker lol"
Long ago? Is yesterday long ago for you?
Because you sent me a message and when I didn't reply, you sent me another one.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope because I gave up sending mail long ago.
I'm just a lurker lol
Long ago? Is yesterday long ago for you?
Because you sent me a message and when I didn't reply, you sent me another one. "
I believe the youth of today would class that as a 'burn'.  |
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you.
Wow. Patronising thread topic much?
What about you Bluebell, do you enjoy a feeling of being desired on here that you might not receive in real life?
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my thoughts too, posted while sniggering behind a keyboard |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very interesting to read the replies guys. It’s a weird one. Half the time I think most of the guys here are just a massive walking dick on wheels, cos a lot of the messages I get are simply “wanna fuck”?
Obviously an attraction is a massive thing, but see if you guys take some time, compose a half decent(ORIGINAL) message, and perhaps leave out the dick pic, I think most people would get further on this site. Without tarnishing everyone with the same brush, a lot of guys seem to think this is just a free escorting site, and you are obliged to meet cos you are active.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Similar thread kicked off a few days ago in the Irish Forum. I think the "all women have inflated egos and you're ugly as sin in real life" type comments don't help anybody.
I've mailed quite a few mem first, if they've posted something funny or interesting in the forums. Even tried to message one on this thread but because I'm not a site supporter I can't ( not naming names!)
I don't think I'm above anybody and if you're respectful and have some banter I'm happy to chat. Doesn't guarantee a fuck though.
Everybody gets a wee tummy flutter after a flirt or if they think someone fancies them and if you say you don't, you're telling porkies in my opinion.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is a rare occurrence on here !
Like a unicorn or a rocking horse poo , but yes would have to admit to a little flutter of excitement when one gets a reply to a message...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always find it funny when guys come away with remarks like “Does it happen here “ or “it’s a rare occurrence”,
Never had a problem with replies.
The more effort you put in, the more rewards you reap and yes you can build a “friends” network quite easily |
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"Single guys get replies??
2018....cant be true haha
But yeah if i get a reply my tummy does a wee cartwheel celebration that im not invisible here lol"
Why wouldn’t they get replies? If someone messages and you like them. Why wouldn’t they reply? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get excited at a reply as I tend to get them. Usually it's after a few messages when everything seems to be going well, said person just stops replying. Life just moves on. |
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Yes, there is a wee "ooh I got a message from someone new" moment.
But I tend to read it first and give their profile a skim before making any assumptions on where it might lead to and even then it's still a might. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was spoiled when i joined...
Posted for a roleplay meet, messaged a lady with a status looking to fulfil a fantasy, met the next day and carried out said fantasy....
So i was left thinking that the place was ripe for the picking... So wrong...
I made my profile a bit mental, messaged the world, and probably pissed off every other woman on the site within a certain distance.
I never expect a reply now, and i usually send a decent first message in the hope that i do get a reply. I never expect a meet though, but have had a few socials and more..
I had one social where the lady just cut contact without saying anything else after the meet. Just a wee 'sorry but your not my type' would be appreciated.
All in all, its a learning curve...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All in all I think most of the previous posts have covered this, my 2p is aye you do get a wee bit of a buzz when you get a message, even better when the lady makes the first contact but it does not mean I think I'm going to be playing hide the sausage with her 
The one thing I will admit to is I often joke about meets (social only) and getting a coffee to the point I think I cross a wee line. No offence is ever meant but sometimes you do gauge someone wrong in messages on here.
Mind you anyone that know's me will say I need a bloody neon sign to let me know a woman likes me so I'm hopeless anyway lol |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I'm fortunate in that I receive a reply most of the time. While it's always pleasant, particularly if I really fancy her, i've found that the best attitude to have is no real expectations. I'm good at flirting, so I start there and see where it leads. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been on here on and off as a single guy profile and a couple , the no expectation replies like above were non existant from my experience and nobody is going to admit they think you are going to fuck them lol not saying anyone is lying but look at the forum posts from guys about how they have joined and they demand someone meets them , i have seen the abuse women get sent aswell , the many faces of some people on here , you have to be careful as being anonymous brings out the worst in people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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While I'm not saying the ladies should not reply to all messages guys, I have seen a woman's inbox and it had 100+ messages in it so I do understand the not replying to everyone. But aye before we get off topic getting a message is nice but does not mean most (I assume anyway) of us men think we're getting in a lady's pants |
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I always try to reply to messages.....and just want to say that its the same the other way around, i for one like getting messages too(apart from the stupid/crude ones of course), after all, that's why we are on here isn't it? |
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Jesus Mahoney what a what a post .I'm a single male living in the highlands most will know it hard for a single male to get a meet .But to answer your question. No I don't why would I get excited with a hint of tingle just because a single female contacts me .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After taking the time to read profile in full then decide whether I may be of interest, before sending that all important first message, yes it’s nive to get a reply, an open and delete is deflating but it’s part of the game on here,
In short you have to understand your not for everyone and by no means does a reply mean a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A fem wouldnt reply to my msg I dont send them"
Just here to relentlessly police the forum then.
That's a level of dedication rarely found in anyone these days.*
*Anyone with nothing better to do, that is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you."
No u get excited when meet is arranged and actually turns up  |
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I'd say I get a little excited but have learned to kerb it as all too often nothing comes of it. I don't automatically expect them to be interested in meeting but I do enjoy the chats and if something comes of it great.....if not no harm done |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you.
No u get excited when meet is arranged and actually turns up "
lol The Holy Grail lol |
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"A fem wouldnt reply to my msg I dont send them
Just here to relentlessly police the forum then.
That's a level of dedication rarely found in anyone these days.*
*Anyone with nothing better to do, that is. "
lol police the forum if that was the case 95% of the tripe wouldnt be on it.
Ive no need to msg folk you seem awful butthurt hope you feel better soon pmsl |
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"I try and reply to everyone but don’t meet from fab I only attend clubs and socials, I find when I reply to most they do have an expectation of meeting even although I clearly say on my profile I don’t and I usually let them know on the first reply that I don’t mind chatting but won’t be meeting but they still try x "
very few read profiles It’s a shotgun approach and any single guy getting a reply might then look at the profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you.
No u get excited when meet is arranged and actually turns up
lol The Holy Grail lol "
I'm right though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you.
No u get excited when meet is arranged and actually turns up
lol The Holy Grail lol
I'm right though "
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if someone has taken the time to look at another's profile and then write an email to them it is polite to reply but due to the amount of assholes on the site that blitz mail alot of the folk that are receiving the mails just bulk delete the genuine ones that get caught in the crossfire.
is it good to get a reply yes - no matter if it is a nice no thanks or a chat, does it mean a meet no that comes way down the line |
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you."
I don’t get exited by someone replying, and certainly don’t automatically think they’re interested in meeting me at that point. A trust level needs to be built on both side |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Replies?? Do they exist
Yes, ye do get a wee moment of excitement when there's a reply, even a wink back can do it
I don't automatically think they'll meet though and to be honest as a guy who isn't into one night s_ands (Yes, we do exist), I prefer some chattin first to see if there is a connection. |
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"I try and reply to everyone but don’t meet from fab I only attend clubs and socials, I find when I reply to most they do have an expectation of meeting even although I clearly say on my profile I don’t and I usually let them know on the first reply that I don’t mind chatting but won’t be meeting but they still try x
very few read profiles It’s a shotgun approach and any single guy getting a reply might then look at the profile "
Some of us do read profiles and try to tailor our message to that profile but can be difficult with "single woman aged xx looking to meet straight men" or "will fill in later"
Both of which are quite common. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I try and reply to everyone but don’t meet from fab I only attend clubs and socials, I find when I reply to most they do have an expectation of meeting even although I clearly say on my profile I don’t and I usually let them know on the first reply that I don’t mind chatting but won’t be meeting but they still try x
very few read profiles It’s a shotgun approach and any single guy getting a reply might then look at the profile
Some of us do read profiles and try to tailor our message to that profile but can be difficult with "single woman aged xx looking to meet straight men" or "will fill in later"
Both of which are quite common. "
Why would you message a profile like that in the first place?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try my best to reply to all messages just to be polite and I know it must be super frustrating for guys on here, if they send a cock pic it’s instant block, if their profile pic is a cock pic I’ll view profile and see how many other pics etc are similar see how full on any verifications are then choose wether to reply or delete, if it’s a decent message and face pic I always reply but I never expect face pics I’d be a hypocrite if I did as I don’t share pics !!
My personal preference is less is more in pics, profile and verifications it gives something to look forward to, nothing worse than an unwrapped present everyone else has seen before you ! Where’s the fun in unwrapping a surprise |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I do not. It"s not a bad thing but I do sit up and take notice and feel quite privileged they someone has taken time to contact me and I always try to reply.
Even in reply, I'm not expecting anything, always just go with the flow, read the profile who sent me a message and if there's anything extra I would like to share in my message then I do so.
Even if they do not read the reply, I honestly don't worry. I know that single females and couples are inundated with messages so they are hard pressed looking to find the message or reply that interests them.
We are all here, hopefully for no drama, no hassle fun , here is to that
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies
I get worried....,it means the chloroforms wearin off!!!
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Ffs. Just shakes my head
Lolololooo
After all these years you still do it baby looll |
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The reason why i asked this question was because females get slated for not replying but also i got accused of leading someone on by replying. I was only being polite and answering some questions but when he eventually got round to asking me to meet he was pissed off when i politely said no . Now it puts me off chatting and answering messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies to your message and automatically think she must be interested in meeting you.
There’s definitely a thrill yes, but I don’t automatically think that. For me that signals the challenge of seeing where chatting can take things... well said "
Same goes for me |
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"The reason why i asked this question was because females get slated for not replying but also i got accused of leading someone on by replying. I was only being polite and answering some questions but when he eventually got round to asking me to meet he was pissed off when i politely said no . Now it puts me off chatting and answering messages. "
Then I do apologise for thinking your post was written in a condescending manner. Maybe it could have been worded a little differently. Again, sorry. |
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By *ugyukMan
over a year ago
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"Do u get excited when a female replies
I get worried....,it means the chloroforms wearin off!!!
Ffs. Just shakes my head
Lolololooo
After all these years you still do it baby looll "
Lol horse. Ta mate. Least someone appreciates ma humour.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The reason why i asked this question was because females get slated for not replying but also i got accused of leading someone on by replying. I was only being polite and answering some questions but when he eventually got round to asking me to meet he was pissed off when i politely said no . Now it puts me off chatting and answering messages. "
Really.. hes the one with the problem.:-/ But net dating / chat is an enigma. You end up chatting about the most private stuff usually pretty quick and yet you've never met the person! .. Its a bit of a mind fuck!
Don't let it stop you replying though!! G |
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"The reason why i asked this question was because females get slated for not replying but also i got accused of leading someone on by replying. I was only being polite and answering some questions but when he eventually got round to asking me to meet he was pissed off when i politely said no . Now it puts me off chatting and answering messages. "
occasionally a message gets responded to .. many politely declining .. but even if someone responds - there’s no expectation - not seen as a “come on” - just good if there’s some spark or connection or banter - but u learn to limit any expectations - even tho there’s been a few rapid exchange messages - seeking to turn each other on (or more ; )) .. but needs to be more humour & banter .. always surprised when it’s not an outright no!!!
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By *aenMan
over a year ago
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Always nice to get a reply and even better if it leads to longer chats and getting to know a fellow fabber a little better, but I never have any expectations. I certainly wouldn't describe it as excitement. I still chat with ladies who've made it clear they don't want to meet - it's more banter around the shared experience of fab. When they said no I certainly didn't take it personally or think they've been leading me on. Everyone has the right to decide who they want to meet afterall.
Reading some of the more recent posts on this thread they just illustrate some of the immature attitudes of some on fab I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who cares. I'm not that insecure that I need a reply. People won't reply for a host of reasons. It's subjective and how you feel about yourself. If youre confident then it makes no difference either way. If you're needy then you'll need the confirmation of existence or of your sexual attractiveness. You might remind that person of their brother uncle aunt cousin asshole teacher at school a creep whatever. No reply move on to the next profile we're all here for the same reason. To make connections and have fun. Peace |
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Its great...but then I start...we will chat a few times then they will disappear...seems to happen a lot...and not just on here...
Mayby its me...I have no idea, but I would rather someone waa honest and tell you than just disappearing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was clearly written in a condescending manner, despite the OPs back pedalling. Actually it wasnt meant that way at all just trying to see stuff from a males point of view."
Don't think it was condescending
I get that I really do get why your asking BUT
You will get different varied replies and they won't be the same because of guys wide spectrum of views and attitude.
I'm honest on my profile and in chat and in person and if I get a message it's really a great feeling but I'm always respectful back and I will never push or expect anything to come from the message. Does this attitude fuck me up for meets, hell yeah and that person might go off and fuck the hell out of someone else but still know that I'm genuine and still about. Everything I do and say gives a small taste of what can be expected and an idea of connection that will leave you desiring more
Ffs reading this I don't even know wit way I came across there loloollll
Mills n Boon eat yer fecking heart out
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just like it when do instead of no reply at all even a no thanks thanks for message not looking for kind a reply would be nice etc we know the numbers are high in men compared to single woman but could be little more nicer x |
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Not worthy of a reply guys.
