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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have you ever met without seeing someone's picture? Would You? Do you expect others to meet you without seeing your face?
I'm constantly inundated with messages from people who want to meet but will only send pictures of their genitals and not their face! This is swinging not a lucky dip, I need to see if I have an initial physical attraction, and get an idea if someone is genuine.
I'm really interested to know others views on this |
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We would never meet without I mean what they going to do stand at the bar with their bits out or a Black bag on the head.
If people are that ashamed or scared of who might see them then perhaps they should leave the site.Not saying make their profile pic their face pic. stick with it and don't budge |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The face is the most important factor in physical attraction for me, so I wouldn't meet without first seeing a face pic under any circumstances "
Me too. They could have a bod like a Greek god/goddess but if the face didn't do anything for me then it would be a no no. |
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"We would never meet without I mean what they going to do stand at the bar with their bits out or a Black bag on the head.
If people are that ashamed or scared of who might see them then perhaps they should leave the site.Not saying make their profile pic their face pic. stick with it and don't budge "
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Nope - no way no how and those that are overly reluctant to share put me off too even if they eventually do - what they hiding?
I like to know someone a little first but DEFINITELY before meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Urgh bloody make a spelling mistake didn’t i 
I agree op, I wouldn’t meet without a face photo going both ways.
However...I don’t particularly agree with the girls who demand on their profile that a facepic must be attached to the first message (hence why I don’t email them).
What then happens is guys do it, the message gets deleted without reply (fair enough with the volume of emails fems get) and the boys come to the forum to moan and imho have a fair point.
So, facepics after a rapport has been built is a 100% necessity and a blinking fair request to make
(I have not looked at anyone’s profile who has commented so that isn’t aimed at anyone) |
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I agree with alot of what is said above.if you get chatting to someone you are talking to (hopefully) their brain and when you feel comfortable then send a photo.as for folk that want a photo attached to the first message eh no don't see the point |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would happily be up for a blind date as meeting someone is usually a social first for me then later i can decide if they appeal to me or not .
As for the profiles stating they need to see picture first i ask them to produce first and that usually gets me blocked as its a power trip for most females . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a guy years ago from another naughty site without seeing his face pic first. I got into his car and he was the one who brought it up and was surprised I did ( I pretended I texted his car registration to a friend) but that was part of the excitement for me at the time but never did it again as he gave me a bollocking lol I met him for a couple year thereafter so that particular situation worked out for me but wouldn’t recommend it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Met a cpl yrs ago when we first joined fab without exchanging pics luckily all went well as we got on great we were prob just a bit inexperienced, now we would def exchange pics as there needs to be attraction for all |
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By *ex1981Man
over a year ago
right up your street , the wild Atlantic way , corby UK |
I personally have no issues sharing face pics.
But air on the side of caution.
Would not send to un verified profiles who demand it.
How would you know who's behind the keyboard.
Months on fab with out as much as a coffee meet with another person or two who's well verified ect.
Will send face pics to profiles friends of friends or whom I met at meet and greets and parties.
Kik is handy as it's got no connection to site for exchanging pics without numbers also block facility.
If they are nutters.
I have socialised with hundreds of Swingers not slept with them all.
So a face pic doesn't guarantee an attraction filters so on or just a shit attitude nó fun what so ever.
Journalists, want to be documentary makers also lurk about.
Some expect tinder or Facebook.
But unless your willing to go on chat rooms cams with your parents or children sitting beside you which nobody actually would I am sure.
Swing is a private thing, if anyone is so open not to worry about being outted at work or family to how they express and fulfill their sexual fantasies and desires that's great for them.
But alot want to keep their anonymity and share moments, fleeting moments with sexually charged people not become best friends forever.
The latter happens alot when people connect and enjoy one another's company.
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By *argaidMan
over a year ago
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It's nice to see so many who err on the side of caution, but obviously there are many who wouldn't, especially blokes. So many fem profiles are inundated with requests for meta belts (interesting auto correct for 'meets before' there) they've even had time to post any pic.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Interesting to read other opinions on it.
Now while I pay no attention to the Muppets who claim I'm fussy or too up my own arse to meet without exchanging face pictures, it's good to know I'm not the only one with some standards.
For me personally I need to book and arrange childcare especially for a meet and I don't see why I should go to all that effort if I'm not immediately attracted to someone. And yes I do find personality attractive but let's be honest I'm not planning on spending weeks to get to know someone. I want a chat, a social and then wild sex, I don't need to know your mother's maiden name or your first memory!
Wow that's some rant...sorry folks lol |
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"Interesting to read other opinions on it.
Now while I pay no attention to the Muppets who claim I'm fussy or too up my own arse to meet without exchanging face pictures, it's good to know I'm not the only one with some standards.
For me personally I need to book and arrange childcare especially for a meet and I don't see why I should go to all that effort if I'm not immediately attracted to someone. And yes I do find personality attractive but let's be honest I'm not planning on spending weeks to get to know someone. I want a chat, a social and then wild sex, I don't need to know your mother's maiden name or your first memory!
Wow that's some rant...sorry folks lol"
That is a very interesting point, some people never send any pictures, it is right you never know who you will meet. I did it twice, once I got really lucky that Lady wanted to remain totally anonymous, she got black mailed in the past. She was gorgeous.
The second time I met a couple and Mrs was not my cup of tea. They became rude and told me I was arrogant and up my arse...
Now I would rather have a picture first otherwise I am not taking the risk.
You are also right talking for month, picture then a social and then having sex sounds like the right thing to me on Fab.
Happy swinging, life is too short.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn't meet people if they weren't prepared to send face pictures. To us it's ignorant and makes us very dubious about the people concerned.
Our time is precious so we wouldn't want to waste time meeting people without knowing what they looked like first.
We are sure the vast majority of people on Fab feel the same way. |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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Dilemma is this:
plenty fake female/couple profiles.
Guys dish out face pics, with no advantage as they still get deleted/blocked... Or vacuumed to pic collectors.
In my experience, face pics aren't everything as some people just take really bad photos, and are much better in person.
FPF is a good way to meet/chat with some people |
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"Interesting to read other opinions on it.
Now while I pay no attention to the Muppets who claim I'm fussy or too up my own arse to meet without exchanging face pictures, it's good to know I'm not the only one with some standards.
For me personally I need to book and arrange childcare especially for a meet and I don't see why I should go to all that effort if I'm not immediately attracted to someone. And yes I do find personality attractive but let's be honest I'm not planning on spending weeks to get to know someone. I want a chat, a social and then wild sex, I don't need to know your mother's maiden name or your first memory!
Wow that's some rant...sorry folks lol"
In a nutshell this ...saves me typing long repky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer getting sent face pics on fab as it means you can decline politely.
Some people ask for your Kik before they send face pics. I get privacy and all that. But it looks really rude when you say thanks but no thanks after face pics.
I have also put a block on messages from profiles that don't have any public pictures,because hoe do I know they are my cup of tea before messaging?
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Seeing a face pic doesn't interest me, I'm not bothered at all if I see one or don't.......I do understand why a woman would want to see mine, afterall the ladies have all the power & choice of guys on here. |
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"I prefer getting sent face pics on fab as it means you can decline politely.
Some people ask for your Kik before they send face pics. I get privacy and all that. But it looks really rude when you say thanks but no thanks after face pics.
I have also put a block on messages from profiles that don't have any public pictures,because hoe do I know they are my cup of tea before messaging?
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I've had that a couple of times - the no sorry not my type sorry.
It's all about being mature enough to accept that and also have realistic expectations of what happens on the site.
I've always replied with a thanks for being honest message. |
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I personally would not meet without seeing a face picture , not solely for attraction purposes, as I find other qualities attractive , but it helps deciding if things should go any further.
Anyway after I send mine it kills the conversation  |
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We have evolved ovwr the time. Sharing pics has its cons mostly than pros. Had bad experience. Far too many fakes and fantasists and collectors who then go on to post those photos onto sex forums. Many people who believe all safe should visit some of the forums or some blogs to see if their photos have appeared or gone viral.
Fun is good to be had if safely and privately.
Judging whole attraction purely on face pic is incomplete as one doesnt know if it is genuine pic of the person/s or just randomly picked from net, how latest it is, photoshopped and with latest smart phone anything can look better. Face pic doesnt show if there is presence of any oral and overall hygiene!
Also drug use of the person/s.
How they behave socially.
To be fair every person has their life busy or not; have life other than lifestyle. Respect for time has to be both ways.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a chance we would meet anyone without a face pic.
But similarly we would never meet anyone without a full pic of their physique.
It’s about mutual attraction not a fanny or dick lucky dip! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have, but the whole point of the meet was anonymity, so a face pic would have defeated the object, but it worked for us,
For majority of meets its a must though
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think most people will agree on the same view about there should be a face pic but there are others who dont care for whatever reason.
Nowadays its so easy to get a face pic on whatsapp, kik, instagram etc.., it can be done in an instance so its easy to find out who is genuine and who is not. So if all goes well on fab messaging and they take it to the phone and dont have a face pic by then then really its a no brainier.
If a girl is looking to meet and a guy sends a cock pic first then I think they should delete and block them and if they dont send a face pic after a cpl o message exchange then do the same, delete and block.
for guys, if you feel comfortable with the person messaging and they dont send face pic then id be weary and whatever excuse is used if nothing happens if by other means, i.e. face pic by whatsapp or other then just delete.
I have met in the past at the start when first on fab without face pic but not one face pic matched the person I was going to see, some where the person, maybe older or a cpl were nothing like the person.
Some people right enough might like the excitement of not knowing but hey, each to their own
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am fine if people do not wish to post a picture on their profile of themself, let's be honest, not everyone wants their face on here with the umpteen amount of pretend profiles you could see just within a 2 second browse. But, as I read above.. it doesn't take much either these days. At the very least for verified profiles.
Sorry.. it's riled me the last few days lol |
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