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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think what I was trying to say, is that too many couples tar all single men with one broad brush because one or two guys let them down; and they're immediately bristling like porcupines as soon as they see the word "single" (as if it meant "psychopath" or similar!).
It's not that they just don't fancy single men, - of course that's their right; - but a lot of couples' profiles scream out about the inherent rottenness of single men in general, as if it were a crime to be one. I've read plenty.
They don't realise that some couples too can be guilty of letting down single men, but we guys don't automatically write off all couples as a result. They brand the entire species as scumbags on the basis of their experience of a few.
I was recently contacted, out of the blue, of their own accord, by a couple who have 'not looking for single guys' on their profile. And then within one exchange of messages they started to accuse me of being dishonest without knowing anything about me; and of having a bad attitude for daring to ask for their face-pics after I'd sent them mine, .. (what a crime to ask for face pics!).
Because some other bampot single blokes previously gave them trouble, and since I'm single, well, automatically I too MUST be like those other idiots, mustn't I, .. even though I'd done and said nothing to warrant such abuse. What happened to natural justice, - "innocent until proved guilty" ??
If they were so prejudiced, why did they even bother to contact me at all ? - Just desperate, perhaps, because they couldn't find another couple at the time ? (.. So let's go for the last resort, the despicable single man ? ..)
But they had a prior negative expectation, and as soon as I put fingers to keyboard they were trigger-happy to pounce and accuse me of fulfilling their negative expectations. When I objected to being called a liar by total strangers, that too was "evidence" of my bad attitude, .. just like all the other rotten single guys. - Talk about "self-fulfilling prophecies" !
They weren't at all grateful that I hadn't just deleted them because their profile excluded single guys. They thought they had a right to call the tune and be arrogant and rude, just because I was just a mere single man, a lesser-evolved species.
Then, having accused me of dishonesty and bad attitudes, they had the nerve to suggest I meet them !.. As if I had no self-respect and would be browbeaten into accepting verbal abuse and then undress for them, only too glad to be offered sex after having been such a bad boy ! .. i.e. Trample down the guy's esteem then he'll be only too willing to be pushed around like he were less than human.
Couples, especially the menfolk, forget that they too were once single, and that they could easily become single again. They should treat single guys the way they themselves would like to be treated, for singleness could easily come to them again. Then they'll regret how they've treated other single men, when they find themselves at the receiving end of needless hostile prejudice.
But I have no intention of pre-judging all couples as "hostile bullies" just because I've been mistreated. We're all entitled to be judged on our own merits, not pre-judged on what somebody else has done.
Tom. |
