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Would you meet without seeing face-pics ?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have two (related) questions.

Firstly: A couple recently sent me an unsolicited "interested to meet" (socially, I think) message, but said they won't put face-pics on a website. My profile already says I won't meet without seeing face pics. It's already hard enough for single guys with all the prejudice on this site, so I swithered for a while. But precious few folk, if any, would ever extend such a 'blind-date' concession to me; so tell me, should I give anyone that concession or stick to my guns and insist on face pics ?

Secondly: I'm amazed at the number of couples who refuse to show the man's face, even privately in messages. In a sense, they too want a 'semi-blind date' ! Again, should I insist on seeing the man's face, or be satisfied with seeing only the woman's ?

Thanks for your comments; (.. if they're polite!).

Tom.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we wouldn`t meet anyone who we have not seen there has to be some sort of attraction there or what`s the point

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks, scotscpl2. Your comment appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i wouldnt meet without face pic

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By *L-FuncoupleCouple over a year ago

East Lothian

It's amazing, we've been having this very same conversation today. We will sometimes meet single guys, specifically those that say "Can Accomodate" on their profile and only those that are happy to provide a picture.

Due to peoples jobs etc i fully understand the desire not to post face pics on a website, but we have been asked several times now to meet with males (plural because it's happened more than onece!) who say they don't have a pic on here, they don't have a pic on PC, they don't have a camera phone and therefore can't send a pic.

So, for they guys it's a definite no thanks. And then we get the "Can Accomodate" suddenly having lodgers, work done in the house, relatives staying over etc etc etc.

Straight and simple, we can't accomodate as we have a son that lives at home and is almost never out in the evenings. We don't say on our profile we can accomodate. We've had too many last minute call offs to start the Premier Inn just book it and hope they'll turn up m'larky to be bothered with that.

But, hey ho we live in hope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

never met without seeing or sending a face pic. i apreciate everyone wants to be discreet and protect their privacy but surely if you trust someone enough to meet them then you must trust them enough to exchange pics

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By *at n michaelCouple over a year ago

AYRSHIRE

"we wouldn`t meet anyone who we have not seen there has to be some sort of attraction there or what`s the point

your pics are just"purfect" lol xxxx

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By *carletRomanceCouple over a year ago

glasgow

"Secondly: I'm amazed at the number of couples who refuse to show the man's face, even privately in messages. In a sense, they too want a 'semi-blind date' ! Again, should I insist on seeing the man's face, or be satisfied with seeing only the woman's ? "

Pretty much what everyone else has said, we'd not meet without a face pic (and would prefer to talk on cam first too).

We don't get why seeing the guy would be important unless you were bi and planning on playing with him too. Maybe they just send the girl's face pic as that's who you're interested in?

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By *lba couple1Couple over a year ago

glasgow

have met without face pics, and dont have any of our own, meeting for a drink first always gives you the oppertunity to say no, and sometimes personality plays a big part.have met some very good looking people that have no conversation and have nothing in comman with and have met some not so good looking who are charming funny and more fun to be with hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

our time is precious.....

so not gonna meet peeps we dont fancy or find attractive........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We meet without seeing pics !

We meet in a pub, have a drink and a chat and if they are not for us and vice versa, we part company as friends.

And if we are all attracted to each other we move on to fun, either that night or another.

You need only view a photo if

1. you shag without meeting socially

just turn up at location and do it.

2. You do not need to socially click

with the person, personality does

not come into it.

Personality is just as important to some people. I met a drop dead handsome man, with a bulge to die for, but he had ZERO personality, could not go there.

So it depends on your viewpoint.

I do not think that someone should ask you to provide a photo without them sending you one first, especially if they contacted you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"have met without face pics, and dont have any of our own, meeting for a drink first always gives you the oppertunity to say no, and sometimes personality plays a big part.have met some very good looking people that have no conversation and have nothing in comman with and have met some not so good looking who are charming funny and more fun to be with hope this helps"

Agreed ...

Buboo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

""You need only view a photo if

1. you shag without meeting socially

just turn up at location and do it.

2. You do not need to socially click

with the person, personality does

not come into it.""

Sorry but we don't agree with that at all.

A great personality is all well and good but if there is no initial attraction then, for us, it's never going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No i definately wouldn't meet without seeing a face picture , So weird why people are on the site without pictures of their face i think. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

a defo no

ok i have no pictures on show that's my choice, i have them hidden: an send when required

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Of course you need the attraction if you are going to fuck someone, but do you actually need it to meet in a bar/ cafe when you will judge if there is the attraction.

some photos that are sent are donkeys years out of date and some have only a slight resemblance.

Then there is the ones that take a great photo but not so good face to face.

""You need only view a photo if

1. you shag without meeting socially

just turn up at location and do it.

2. You do not need to socially click

with the person, personality does

not come into it."

Sorry but we don't agree with that at all.

A great personality is all well and good but if there is no initial attraction then, for us, it's never going to happen."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

""You need only view a photo if

1. you shag without meeting socially

just turn up at location and do it.

2. You do not need to socially click

with the person, personality does

not come into it."

Sorry but we don't agree with that at all.

A great personality is all well and good but if there is no initial attraction then, for us, it's never going to happen."

totally agree, why would we waste our precious time going to meet someone we have never seen before to find out we arent attracted to them?? makes no sense to us at all but if some ppl are happy with that so be it ... defo not for us!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree with you hunni.

But then loads of peeps have seen you at socials and know you are the prettiest little thing. mmm and dont need a pic.

"We meet without seeing pics !

We meet in a pub, have a drink and a chat and if they are not for us and vice versa, we part company as friends.

And if we are all attracted to each other we move on to fun, either that night or another.

You need only view a photo if

1. you shag without meeting socially

just turn up at location and do it.

2. You do not need to socially click

with the person, personality does

not come into it.

Personality is just as important to some people. I met a drop dead handsome man, with a bulge to die for, but he had ZERO personality, could not go there.

So it depends on your viewpoint.

I do not think that someone should ask you to provide a photo without them sending you one first, especially if they contacted you."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Up until a month ago I would have said no way, never meeting without seeing a pic 1st.

Then I was let down for a meet.

So had a rant on my status (as you do

)

And I got a message from a lovely guy, but no pics on his profile.

But I had the meet head on.

So I agreed to meet. Was only a lunch meet, so had nothing to lose.

So glad I did. Lovely man.

Would I do it again? I dont know. Maybe that was my only lucky 'blind fab meet'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its like meeting folk for socials you never thought of meeting and some of them didn't had any picts on there profile