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A reason to hide Verifications perhaps?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Had a few strange messages out of the blue from people I have never heard of. One informing me that one of my Verifications was a married man. The latter informing me that one of my other Verifications was a sad creep and I must have been desperate to meet him! Anyone else receive odd messages regarding past Verifications? I am seriously thinking twice about posting them as I can see this is open to this sort of thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a few strange messages out of the blue from people I have never heard of. One informing me that one of my Verifications was a married man. The latter informing me that one of my other Verifications was a sad creep and I must have been desperate to meet him! Anyone else receive odd messages regarding past Verifications? I am seriously thinking twice about posting them as I can see this is open to this sort of thing."
you have enough true friends that mail from others such as how you described should not matter, just click the block button as a reply.
its your choice to post verifications or hide, as well as the choice of whom you met, perhaps they do not want you to post a description of them |
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Nothing like that, but one 'gentleman' recently informed me that I would catch a disease with the amount of guys I'd fucked (after a few veris from my now boyfriend) and that I was disgusting. So that was nice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had a few strange messages out of the blue from people I have never heard of. One informing me that one of my Verifications was a married man. The latter informing me that one of my other Verifications was a sad creep and I must have been desperate to meet him! Anyone else receive odd messages regarding past Verifications? I am seriously thinking twice about posting them as I can see this is open to this sort of thing."
While ago had someone message ppl id met trying to stir shit but end of the day i put it down to the green eyed monster .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people on here really need to get their own lives in order
What business is it of others to who others have met that feel the need to message you to point things out?
Never ceases to amaze me the jealousy on this site? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nothing like that, but one 'gentleman' recently informed me that I would catch a disease with the amount of guys I'd fucked (after a few veris from my now boyfriend) and that I was disgusting. So that was nice "
That is really awful and shows how nasty some folk can be |
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"Nothing like that, but one 'gentleman' recently informed me that I would catch a disease with the amount of guys I'd fucked (after a few veris from my now boyfriend) and that I was disgusting. So that was nice
That is really awful and shows how nasty some folk can be"
Yep, some people on here really have problems  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never display verifications because of hassle I have had over them.I left the site last time I was on because I was getting serious grief about a verification I had left someone.It was from a guy who had fell in love with the women and she eventually had to get police involved.Some proper nutters on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. I've had messages attempting to put me off meeting some people on my veri list, some critical of the person I've met and done quite abisive towards me. I put it down to jealousy but it can be quite frightening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We show our veri's because they prove we are genuine. Only a few of ours are from meets, the rest are socials.
Some folk seriously need to get a grip. Clearly not really adults, and clearly jealous cos they're not getting any. Just block them x |
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
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"Had a few strange messages out of the blue from people I have never heard of. One informing me that one of my Verifications was a married man. The latter informing me that one of my other Verifications was a sad creep and I must have been desperate to meet him! Anyone else receive odd messages regarding past Verifications? I am seriously thinking twice about posting them as I can see this is open to this sort of thing."
Sounds like jealousy to me. Wouldnt even warrant them a reply as thats what they seek . Any comment you reply with is a win for them . Instant block, job done Tracey x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We got one or two over the course of the weekend from a woman and a couple who we didnt want to meet calling Geordie all sorts because we had 4 verifications from one night. Now that might be everyones cup of cocoa, each to their own and all manner of other cliches but people on here judging anyone based upon sexual preferences or fantasises? Hypocrisy on an almost unimaginable scale!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's definitely a couple of people right now hounding and harassing people based on verifications. I've heard some stories."
You have to ask what is being done about it? It's all fair and well saying ignore it, report it etc. but it does give cause for concern regarding that supposedly most sacrosanct quality of the swinging world.....discretion? I know of one woman who stalks another female who lives in the same area as her, messages people who have verified her. Akin to a dog aggressively defending its patch....or preceived patch should I say! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore the stupid feckers, they'll move on to someone else when they get bored!"
That is unless they decide to put it of Facebook for all and sundry to see, start approaching family members or work colleagues or non-swinging friends running their mouth off as has been known to happen in the past on the site. Kinda hard to ignore it and take such a laid back approach when the vindictiveness of some people on this site could quite literally destroy lives and careers |
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"Ignore the stupid feckers, they'll move on to someone else when they get bored!
That is unless they decide to put it of Facebook for all and sundry to see, start approaching family members or work colleagues or non-swinging friends running their mouth off as has been known to happen in the past on the site. Kinda hard to ignore it and take such a laid back approach when the vindictiveness of some people on this site could quite literally destroy lives and careers"
Yep, could see how that may require a different approach, now where's my feckin bat??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ignore the stupid feckers, they'll move on to someone else when they get bored!
That is unless they decide to put it of Facebook for all and sundry to see, start approaching family members or work colleagues or non-swinging friends running their mouth off as has been known to happen in the past on the site. Kinda hard to ignore it and take such a laid back approach when the vindictiveness of some people on this site could quite literally destroy lives and careers
Yep, could see how that may require a different approach, now where's my feckin bat???"
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"Ignore the stupid feckers, they'll move on to someone else when they get bored!
That is unless they decide to put it of Facebook for all and sundry to see, start approaching family members or work colleagues or non-swinging friends running their mouth off as has been known to happen in the past on the site. Kinda hard to ignore it and take such a laid back approach when the vindictiveness of some people on this site could quite literally destroy lives and careers"
Post on Facebook?
Jeez! That's some seriously fucking vindictive stuff.
Some people really need to get a life. |
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I show mine because I like getting a flavour of others by reading theirs, should they choose to display them.
Only had one weird experience I've had which was a woman who sent me a very abusive email judging me about a man I'd met who was married. We purely just had met for a Diet Coke and he'd turned down her *requests*
As ever fab peeps, do what's right for you x |
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
Blantyre |
People like what you are talking about seek attention and reaction. Any abusive or other type message goes straight to delete and block . They WILL get fed up creating new profiles so they can send more messages long before you tire of hitting delete and block believe me . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I had an abusive.message last December from a guy I had met slating me, inferring I was a slapper because I had seen someone else the same day, who had happened to verify me later in the day. Even though he couldn't read it as I hadn't yet displayed it, it was obviously enough to give rise to the abusive message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had similar experiences to what's been mentioned. It seems your damned if you do and damned if you don't.
Do what's right for you and bugger what some of the narrow minded judgemental vindictive ppl on here think.   |
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"Had a few strange messages out of the blue from people I have never heard of. One informing me that one of my Verifications was a married man. The latter informing me that one of my other Verifications was a sad creep and I must have been desperate to meet him! Anyone else receive odd messages regarding past Verifications? I am seriously thinking twice about posting them as I can see this is open to this sort of thing."
I am half tempted to just hide my verifications. The judgement is ridiculous. Even my summary I get judged for.
I have been out the country most of the year working except for a funeral or visiting family while they were in hospital. Though when I had a verification showing from 2-3 days ago I was a nogo apparently. You can't win and the only person we need to please is ourselves and know our own self worth.xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I recently had abuse from bye all accounts quit a sexy female about one of my veries I only met to fix lady,s car quick coffee nothing else so the sexy girl had a nasty mind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear this Tracey, I don't think it's a problem that guys have to deal with. I've never understood the motives of these vindictive individuals who get their kicks by attempting to destroy others enjoyment. Please just ignore them, you're one of the gems on this site. |
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Haven't messaged anyone regarding it however I have several times come across verifications left saying someone's the best guy ever etc when they've just been on the local paper being put on "the list" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear this Tracey, I don't think it's a problem that guys have to deal with. I've never understood the motives of these vindictive individuals who get their kicks by attempting to destroy others enjoyment. Please just ignore them, you're one of the gems on this site."
Thanks for that x |
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"Had a few strange messages out of the blue from people I have never heard of. One informing me that one of my Verifications was a married man. The latter informing me that one of my other Verifications was a sad creep and I must have been desperate to meet him! Anyone else receive odd messages regarding past Verifications? I am seriously thinking twice about posting them as I can see this is open to this sort of thing."
Firstly not condoning any abuse you get for people you've met however would you not appreciate if someone gave you a warning about someone that you had met to keep you safe? On the off chance you didn't know and was perhaps meeting them again.
And I realise you can make your own decisions etc |
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Sad but true my friends. There are folks on this site who send insulting messages to either your own profile or that of others to insult you. Why? I have no idea. Vindictiveness in status updates is usually a good pointer of who to avoid tho. I try to ignore but it makes u wonder what sad little lifes they must have to be so bothered about what you are doing
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sad but true my friends. There are folks on this site who send insulting messages to either your own profile or that of others to insult you. Why? I have no idea. Vindictiveness in status updates is usually a good pointer of who to avoid tho. I try to ignore but it makes u wonder what sad little lifes they must have to be so bothered about what you are doing
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Yep I have seen very nasty updates too which can provide some insight into the person's character |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Had a few strange messages out of the blue from people I have never heard of. One informing me that one of my Verifications was a married man. The latter informing me that one of my other Verifications was a sad creep and I must have been desperate to meet him! Anyone else receive odd messages regarding past Verifications? I am seriously thinking twice about posting them as I can see this is open to this sort of thing.
Firstly not condoning any abuse you get for people you've met however would you not appreciate if someone gave you a warning about someone that you had met to keep you safe? On the off chance you didn't know and was perhaps meeting them again.
And I realise you can make your own decisions etc"
In the case of the.married guy it could have certainly been someone trying to warn me, but this was someone who has been verified almost a year ago so someone 300miles away must have taken the time to trawl through verifications in the first place! Strange |
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I know that people have told others (including my boyfriend) untruths about me. Whether it's because they're making stuff up or have been told that by someone else and taken it as gospel, I don't know. People I haven't even spoken to or met socially, I might add.
I prefer to make up my own mind about people and never believe everything I hear.
And I do judge those who bitch about others in statuses/messages, it says that they're not someone I'd like to meet.
I do agree with the point about warning friends of an undesirable though, especially for women meeting alone. If someone made me feel uncomfortable and unsafe, I would tell all my friends to watch out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't let others try to dictate what you have on your profile.it's none of their business.if they don't like it then can always look elsewhere,if they feel the need to make snide remarks,well,Fuck em,they're twats,block them and forget about them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people on here really need to get their own lives in order
What business is it of others to who others have met that feel the need to message you to point things out?
Never ceases to amaze me the jealousy on this site?"
 very true |
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There are some nasty vindictive people on here who think its their right to
Have a go at members going by their verifications .
Id say hide them Tracey then they have nothing to gossip about you from your verifications |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are some nasty vindictive people on here who think its their right to
Have a go at members going by their verifications .
Id say hide them Tracey then they have nothing to gossip about you from your verifications "
There are several I will definitely be hiding now. |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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I've been through stages of never showing any to showing all. However I've always had the view that it's no one else's business what I get up to.
I do think that some of the verifications that fly around the site are really tacky and pointless. Others are a great source of amusement. I don't really think they are needed a lot of the time.
People get petty and nasty and when they do more harm than good it's time to hide them |
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"There are some nasty vindictive people on here who think its their right to
Have a go at members going by their verifications .
Id say hide them Tracey then they have nothing to gossip about you from your verifications
There are several I will definitely be hiding now."
Agreed |
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I display my most recent verifications for a bit then I hide them, people on here that give abuse to someone because they have met a certain person or persons need to get a life as it's no one else's business as to who met who or who had fun with whoever, there is the time wasters and the people who always want to waste things for others on here and that will never end, we can't please everyone with the choices we make, it's up to each individual person to enjoy what they do and what they get up to, there will always be haters' that spoil things for other so just ignore, block and enjoy life xx |
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The problem is "its no ones buisness but mine" while you disply them its everyones buisness who views them.
im one of those folk who if I see folk display veris from imo numptys that reflects on them and I wouldnt bother having anything to do with them.
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By *SG69Man
over a year ago
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Had a couple like that too! One I could be polite to and remind them discretion is top of my list, the other!!! Well let's just say they're blocked now lol, don't like doing it but the attitude isn't what I want on my feed. Has made me question the irony of us all though? We look for innocent adult fun find a place with like minded adults all with their bucket list, kinks or just plain horniness then think to ourselves oh not that one there's no veri? Is it just me? is it not enough that we post photo's surely no one would put them up if they weren't willing to play?? |
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"We got one or two over the course of the weekend from a woman and a couple who we didnt want to meet calling Geordie all sorts because we had 4 verifications from one night. Now that might be everyones cup of cocoa, each to their own and all manner of other cliches but people on here judging anyone based upon sexual preferences or fantasises? Hypocrisy on an almost unimaginable scale!! "
There's your confirmation you made the right choice not wanting to meet these people. First time (or 2) I got one like these I actually felt really bad, but not anymore. Now it helps filter out the arseholes and they're easily blocked. Thankfully it doesn't happen often and these are sad, desperate people not worth a single second of your time x |
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