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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So... I try my hardest to reply to as many messages as I can but it would be a full time job!
I always appreciate face pictures and if I'm not attracted to them I'm always polite in saying no thank you.
Just wondering if any of you lovely ladies have experienced verbal abuse like I do on a regular basis?? Xx |
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"So... I try my hardest to reply to as many messages as I can but it would be a full time job!
I always appreciate face pictures and if I'm not attracted to them I'm always polite in saying no thank you.
Just wondering if any of you lovely ladies have experienced verbal abuse like I do on a regular basis?? Xx"
Think I must be one of the lucky ladies on here as ive never had verbal abuse from men ever and Im here a long time  |
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I have been given abuse for declining men. A friend told me she blocked everyone she refused, I now do the same in order to avoid any backlash.
It can really get you down if you have 2 or 3 guys calling you names in the space of 15 mins. |
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"I have been given abuse for declining men. A friend told me she blocked everyone she refused, I now do the same in order to avoid any backlash.
It can really get you down if you have 2 or 3 guys calling you names in the space of 15 mins."
I know!! I've started blocking them now. Luckily I'm a strong independent woman   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So... I try my hardest to reply to as many messages as I can but it would be a full time job!
I always appreciate face pictures and if I'm not attracted to them I'm always polite in saying no thank you.
Just wondering if any of you lovely ladies have experienced verbal abuse like I do on a regular basis?? XxThink I must be one of the lucky ladies on here as ive never had verbal abuse from men ever and Im here a long time "
I'm jealous xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not just you lovely singles ladies who have the privilege.
After politely declining the same person a few times, hubby got a load of abuse back about what a fat bitch etc I was.
And as true as it may be, I can lose weight, some folk will always be arseholes x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's not just you lovely singles ladies who have the privilege.
After politely declining the same person a few times, hubby got a load of abuse back about what a fat bitch etc I was.
And as true as it may be, I can lose weight, some folk will always be arseholes x"
I remember it well when I was on here with an ex.... it lead to blocking all single men! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not just you lovely singles ladies who have the privilege.
After politely declining the same person a few times, hubby got a load of abuse back about what a fat bitch etc I was.
And as true as it may be, I can lose weight, some folk will always be arseholes x
I remember it well when I was on here with an ex.... it lead to blocking all single men! Xx"
I just laugh at them.
It generally works x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd like to stick up for the decent men of fab, some of us are polite and can take a no with good grace, and wish the other person the best in their pursuit of ehat they want....always a few arseholes, but nearly everybody iv spoken to on here has been kind and good natured. |
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Yes, I have received written abuse from males fabbers!
It doesn't bother me, I roll my eyes and think 'Yes! Lucky escape, you're defo not for me!'.
I must admit I am hugely disappointed when I get an abusive message and they have blocked me!
I would rather they have the balls to wait for a reply should I wish to reply
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd like to stick up for the decent men of fab, some of us are polite and can take a no with good grace, and wish the other person the best in their pursuit of ehat they want....always a few arseholes, but nearly everybody iv spoken to on here has been kind and good natured. "
I absolutely hate saying no... nobody likes rejection so it's always lovely when someone replied with a sincere "no problem" as opposed to the abuse haha x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes, I have received written abuse from males fabbers!
It doesn't bother me, I roll my eyes and think 'Yes! Lucky escape, you're defo not for me!'.
I must admit I am hugely disappointed when I get an abusive message and they have blocked me!
I would rather they have the balls to wait for a reply should I wish to reply
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Hahaha I love this x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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as a single guy i know the disappointment of being told no thanks or more often the message just being deleted, i would never give anyone any problems cus they dont like the look of my profile.
sorry to hear that guys are like that to you,  makes things harder for us guys who so respect to you nice ladys |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"as a single guy i know the disappointment of being told no thanks or more often the message just being deleted, i would never give anyone any problems cus they dont like the look of my profile.
sorry to hear that guys are like that to you, makes things harder for us guys who so respect to you nice ladys"
I'm exactly the same as you. What's the point of giving someone abuse when you are turned down for whatever reason. A polite "OK, thanks anyway" or even just a "fair enough" more than suffices, because you never know, you might not be that lady's type this week, but you might be next week. |
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Never understand why some one would do that.
I can fully understand why a lady would use the block button to avoid it but it is something which should not occur in the first place.
Just highlights their unsuitability. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was told by one man that this is a site for fucking so why does it matter what he looks like....
Ermmm because I have to be attracted to you to even consider getting into bed with you hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was told by one man that this is a site for fucking so why does it matter what he looks like....
Ermmm because I have to be attracted to you to even consider getting into bed with you hahaha "
"parm face" what an ass |
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"as a single guy i know the disappointment of being told no thanks or more often the message just being deleted, i would never give anyone any problems cus they dont like the look of my profile.
sorry to hear that guys are like that to you, makes things harder for us guys who so respect to you nice ladys
I'm exactly the same as you. What's the point of giving someone abuse when you are turned down for whatever reason. A polite "OK, thanks anyway" or even just a "fair enough" more than suffices, because you never know, you might not be that lady's type this week, but you might be next week. "
Can I just pick up on your last sentence!
It depends on the lady!
If I say, thanks I am not interested..I have looked at your profile/pics/verifs... and my reply will stand and apply... the day after, the week after and month and year after!
So no point messaging me again! It's a waste of time.
And that's why many ladies (I don't) block so they don't keep multiple messages from same guy every few months
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a sad place when guys have to hurl abuse... Why can't we all just have fun and play nicely "
Seems entirely self defeating to me (hurling abuse I mean, having fun and playing nicely is self, um, not defeating) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, I have received written abuse from males fabbers!
It doesn't bother me, I roll my eyes and think 'Yes! Lucky escape, you're defo not for me!'.
I must admit I am hugely disappointed when I get an abusive message and they have blocked me!
I would rather they have the balls to wait for a reply should I wish to reply
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Had a few of these recently fair enough your ego is bruised I said no thanks and you feel the need to belittle or verbally abuse me then at least let me answer you back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I make an advance and am given a negative reply, I usually send another message saying thanks for replying. As I appreciate the honesty and am not left wondering if i was the vitim of a, mass unread messages deleted situation.
I know women are inundated with messages and any do mass deletes tbing rather than sift tbrough 100 boring message with either cock photos or no photos.
Sorry to hear tbat so many of you get abuse. Report, Block and Delete! is my best advice.
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Yep, got them quite a few times. Don't care what they say about me, but sometimes they feel they have to slag off the people in my veris, which I think is uncalled for. Easy to deal with them though. Block and delete and don't think about it twice x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yep, got them quite a few times. Don't care what they say about me, but sometimes they feel they have to slag off the people in my veris, which I think is uncalled for. Easy to deal with them though. Block and delete and don't think about it twice x"
That's exactly what I get!!
Some people need to get a life haha xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, I have received written abuse from males fabbers!
It doesn't bother me, I roll my eyes and think 'Yes! Lucky escape, you're defo not for me!'.
I must admit I am hugely disappointed when I get an abusive message and they have blocked me!
I would rather they have the balls to wait for a reply should I wish to reply
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Is it narcissism or psychopathy that drives the abusers? Good grief, if you can't take a polite no for an answer we are into dangerous territory. |
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"Yes, I have received written abuse from males fabbers!
It doesn't bother me, I roll my eyes and think 'Yes! Lucky escape, you're defo not for me!'.
I must admit I am hugely disappointed when I get an abusive message and they have blocked me!
I would rather they have the balls to wait for a reply should I wish to reply
Is it narcissism or psychopathy that drives the abusers? Good grief, if you can't take a polite no for an answer we are into dangerous territory. "
I was told few years back 'I hope you get murdered... blah, blah, blah!'
So I leave it to you to categorise the type of individual that uses that type of words.
Unfortunately, I was blocked and unable to say to him that he needs medical help... in my opinion  |
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"as a single guy i know the disappointment of being told no thanks or more often the message just being deleted, i would never give anyone any problems cus they dont like the look of my profile.
sorry to hear that guys are like that to you, makes things harder for us guys who so respect to you nice ladys
I'm exactly the same as you. What's the point of giving someone abuse when you are turned down for whatever reason. A polite "OK, thanks anyway" or even just a "fair enough" more than suffices, because you never know, you might not be that lady's type this week, but you might be next week.
Can I just pick up on your last sentence!
It depends on the lady!
If I say, thanks I am not interested..I have looked at your profile/pics/verifs... and my reply will stand and apply... the day after, the week after and month and year after!
So no point messaging me again! It's a waste of time.
And that's why many ladies (I don't) block so they don't keep multiple messages from same guy every few months
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This does happen. Continual messaging. Sometimes on a weekly basis. I've even known of a few guys who I've told no and blocked, come back on a different username to pester me again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only twice. One of them also added snide comments about one of my Verifications which was rather pointless. I try not to analyse but simply block and move on. The site is only meant to be fun after all. Not to give anyone grief. |
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"as a single guy i know the disappointment of being told no thanks or more often the message just being deleted, i would never give anyone any problems cus they dont like the look of my profile.
sorry to hear that guys are like that to you, makes things harder for us guys who so respect to you nice ladys
I'm exactly the same as you. What's the point of giving someone abuse when you are turned down for whatever reason. A polite "OK, thanks anyway" or even just a "fair enough" more than suffices, because you never know, you might not be that lady's type this week, but you might be next week.
Can I just pick up on your last sentence!
It depends on the lady!
If I say, thanks I am not interested..I have looked at your profile/pics/verifs... and my reply will stand and apply... the day after, the week after and month and year after!
So no point messaging me again! It's a waste of time.
And that's why many ladies (I don't) block so they don't keep multiple messages from same guy every few months
This does happen. Continual messaging. Sometimes on a weekly basis. I've even known of a few guys who I've told no and blocked, come back on a different username to pester me again."
lol fools they should have read the " help with my profile" to reimagine themselves exactly as fems want |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, I have received written abuse from males fabbers!
It doesn't bother me, I roll my eyes and think 'Yes! Lucky escape, you're defo not for me!'.
I must admit I am hugely disappointed when I get an abusive message and they have blocked me!
I would rather they have the balls to wait for a reply should I wish to reply
Is it narcissism or psychopathy that drives the abusers? Good grief, if you can't take a polite no for an answer we are into dangerous territory.
I was told few years back 'I hope you get murdered... blah, blah, blah!'
So I leave it to you to categorise the type of individual that uses that type of words.
Unfortunately, I was blocked and unable to say to him that he needs medical help... in my opinion "
Truly appalling.
And yes they do.
It must have been very upsetting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only twice. One of them also added snide comments about one of my Verifications which was rather pointless. I try not to analyse but simply block and move on. The site is only meant to be fun after all. Not to give anyone grief."
Send me the names and I will teach the skidmarks a whole new vocabulary of abuse.
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"as a single guy i know the disappointment of being told no thanks or more often the message just being deleted, i would never give anyone any problems cus they dont like the look of my profile.
sorry to hear that guys are like that to you, makes things harder for us guys who so respect to you nice ladys
I'm exactly the same as you. What's the point of giving someone abuse when you are turned down for whatever reason. A polite "OK, thanks anyway" or even just a "fair enough" more than suffices, because you never know, you might not be that lady's type this week, but you might be next week.
Can I just pick up on your last sentence!
It depends on the lady!
If I say, thanks I am not interested..I have looked at your profile/pics/verifs... and my reply will stand and apply... the day after, the week after and month and year after!
So no point messaging me again! It's a waste of time.
And that's why many ladies (I don't) block so they don't keep multiple messages from same guy every few months
This does happen. Continual messaging. Sometimes on a weekly basis. I've even known of a few guys who I've told no and blocked, come back on a different username to pester me again.lol fools they should have read the " help with my profile" to reimagine themselves exactly as fems want "
Wow...a man that knows what I want would be amazing. I don't know what I want!!! |
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"Yes, I have received written abuse from males fabbers!
It doesn't bother me, I roll my eyes and think 'Yes! Lucky escape, you're defo not for me!'.
I must admit I am hugely disappointed when I get an abusive message and they have blocked me!
I would rather they have the balls to wait for a reply should I wish to reply
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Same. Rarely get abusive messages but I had one recently after a few veris from my bf, telling me I'd catch a disease because of all the men I was fucking (1 guy) and that I was disgusting. Couldn't laugh at him as he'd then blocked me like the coward he is.
Funny that I wasn't so diseased a couple of months ago when he was asking to meet me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"as a single guy i know the disappointment of being told no thanks or more often the message just being deleted, i would never give anyone any problems cus they dont like the look of my profile.
sorry to hear that guys are like that to you, makes things harder for us guys who so respect to you nice ladys
I'm exactly the same as you. What's the point of giving someone abuse when you are turned down for whatever reason. A polite "OK, thanks anyway" or even just a "fair enough" more than suffices, because you never know, you might not be that lady's type this week, but you might be next week.
Can I just pick up on your last sentence!
It depends on the lady!
If I say, thanks I am not interested..I have looked at your profile/pics/verifs... and my reply will stand and apply... the day after, the week after and month and year after!
So no point messaging me again! It's a waste of time.
And that's why many ladies (I don't) block so they don't keep multiple messages from same guy every few months
This does happen. Continual messaging. Sometimes on a weekly basis. I've even known of a few guys who I've told no and blocked, come back on a different username to pester me again."
no offence, but when I hear complaints(obviously right to complain), I do think an easy way to sort out 'new' profiles contacting you is to simply either block newbies/unverifieds/maybe men in general from getting in touch.
and in relation to OP's post...I'd wager the profiles that are being abusive are either non verified or barely verified...these guys(though other groups can be guilty of abuse too), are likely not really interested in the scene and are more than likely quite happy to delete and restart their profiles frequently, some may indeed have multiple accounts. |
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So many replys (none that nice but was jestful thoughts) or I could play the white knight and pour my heartfelt sorrow fourth with abject dismissal of my fellow man......then step in with a how wonderful you look and your profile reads absolutly charming.
or beat my chest n grrrrrr like a lion to let you know I will be your protector......naw I will stick with pouring a coffee |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dyu what im delighted i get a reply saying thanks or no thanks
I will then reply saying thank you for your mail and have fun
Thats all it takes and even if youre not their type at least you might earn their respect ?? |
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"as a single guy i know the disappointment of being told no thanks or more often the message just being deleted, i would never give anyone any problems cus they dont like the look of my profile.
sorry to hear that guys are like that to you, makes things harder for us guys who so respect to you nice ladys
I'm exactly the same as you. What's the point of giving someone abuse when you are turned down for whatever reason. A polite "OK, thanks anyway" or even just a "fair enough" more than suffices, because you never know, you might not be that lady's type this week, but you might be next week.
Can I just pick up on your last sentence!
It depends on the lady!
If I say, thanks I am not interested..I have looked at your profile/pics/verifs... and my reply will stand and apply... the day after, the week after and month and year after!
So no point messaging me again! It's a waste of time.
And that's why many ladies (I don't) block so they don't keep multiple messages from same guy every few months
This does happen. Continual messaging. Sometimes on a weekly basis. I've even known of a few guys who I've told no and blocked, come back on a different username to pester me again.
no offence, but when I hear complaints(obviously right to complain), I do think an easy way to sort out 'new' profiles contacting you is to simply either block newbies/unverifieds/maybe men in general from getting in touch.
and in relation to OP's post...I'd wager the profiles that are being abusive are either non verified or barely verified...these guys(though other groups can be guilty of abuse too), are likely not really interested in the scene and are more than likely quite happy to delete and restart their profiles frequently, some may indeed have multiple accounts."
Newbie status is only 5 days though, maybe it should be longer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"as a single guy i know the disappointment of being told no thanks or more often the message just being deleted, i would never give anyone any problems cus they dont like the look of my profile.
sorry to hear that guys are like that to you, makes things harder for us guys who so respect to you nice ladys
I'm exactly the same as you. What's the point of giving someone abuse when you are turned down for whatever reason. A polite "OK, thanks anyway" or even just a "fair enough" more than suffices, because you never know, you might not be that lady's type this week, but you might be next week.
Can I just pick up on your last sentence!
It depends on the lady!
If I say, thanks I am not interested..I have looked at your profile/pics/verifs... and my reply will stand and apply... the day after, the week after and month and year after!
So no point messaging me again! It's a waste of time.
And that's why many ladies (I don't) block so they don't keep multiple messages from same guy every few months
This does happen. Continual messaging. Sometimes on a weekly basis. I've even known of a few guys who I've told no and blocked, come back on a different username to pester me again.
no offence, but when I hear complaints(obviously right to complain), I do think an easy way to sort out 'new' profiles contacting you is to simply either block newbies/unverifieds/maybe men in general from getting in touch.
and in relation to OP's post...I'd wager the profiles that are being abusive are either non verified or barely verified...these guys(though other groups can be guilty of abuse too), are likely not really interested in the scene and are more than likely quite happy to delete and restart their profiles frequently, some may indeed have multiple accounts.
Newbie status is only 5 days though, maybe it should be longer "
my theory is everyone deserves a chance...but as I say, the site has these block features...just means its then up to you to search |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hell no...my filters are all set to block newbies and unverified guys but as iv said for yrs as long as you pay your £5 you can get past the being actually verified part
So no...not just newbies thay send abuse |
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Ahhhhthe classic lashout of the spurned male.....
Ive had plenty of those. Its amusing you go from the sexiest thing ever to an minger in the space of two messages 
Had one last night tell me its only fucking, not romance.... replied "I'm aware of that,but I'm choosy who i fuck, and that doesn't include arseholes like you"  |
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"So many replys (none that nice but was jestful thoughts) or I could play the white knight and pour my heartfelt sorrow fourth with abject dismissal of my fellow man......then step in with a how wonderful you look and your profile reads absolutly charming.
or beat my chest n grrrrrr like a lion to let you know I will be your protector......naw I will stick with pouring a coffee "
Haha. This got a laugh |
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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago
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Whether its singles or couple's giving the abuse its not nice to get.
Just try and remember they are the ones with the problem not you
Most are cowards who wouldn't have the bottle to say what they write to someone face to face
Keep the faith folks and enjoy the fun |
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"To balance the scales here we tend to get more abuse from couples than we ever have from single guys, it's the individuals not the gender in our opinion "
But its probably the male half of the couple on the keyboard..... lol
If its even a real couple...
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By (user no longer on site)
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I did block a guy on here because I knew him through work and he didn't take it too well, deciding to cause problems by asking a few of.my Verifications what I was like as a person. He has also made a few snide remarks in the forums in response to posts I have made.No need for any of this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree there are some abuse n rude men out there
Ive had abuse turning down a cum n go blowjob from a guy who couldn't take a polite no thank you
However ive also had abuse of women for just sending a polite hello message (for the record I didn't ask for anything I didnt send cock pics I said hello in a polite manner)
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
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"To balance the scales here we tend to get more abuse from couples than we ever have from single guys, it's the individuals not the gender in our opinion
But its probably the male half of the couple on the keyboard..... lol
If its even a real couple...
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Perhaps some of the time but not all we have met one of the couples at a social event as she was just as mouthy there x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So just to update....
The guy that sparked this thread has now messaged from a couples profile continuing the abuse and threatening me!!! Wow!
Nice to know there are some lovely genuine people on here though so thank you everyone! Always been a bit nervous about posting on the forums xx |
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"I did block a guy on here because I knew him through work and he didn't take it too well, deciding to cause problems by asking a few of.my Verifications what I was like as a person. He has also made a few snide remarks in the forums in response to posts I have made.No need for any of this. "
Thats lousy hope you reported them ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm fairly new here so there's time for this to change but on this and my couples profile, I have had nice gracious replies when I've turned someone down. I had the odd guy just send repeated messages after being told no but they weren't nasty, just a tad harassing. But so far, so good. If someone turned on me and started abuse I'd just thank my stars for saying no as we clearly wouldn't have got on anyway lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So just to update....
The guy that sparked this thread has now messaged from a couples profile continuing the abuse and threatening me!!! Wow!
Nice to know there are some lovely genuine people on here though so thank you everyone! Always been a bit nervous about posting on the forums xx"
Aww no! I hope you've reported them, what a sad case he is, just take the no and move on haha x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So just to update....
The guy that sparked this thread has now messaged from a couples profile continuing the abuse and threatening me!!! Wow!
Nice to know there are some lovely genuine people on here though so thank you everyone! Always been a bit nervous about posting on the forums xx
Aww no! I hope you've reported them, what a sad case he is, just take the no and move on haha x"
Reported and blocked! Haha xx |
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over a year ago
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"I did block a guy on here because I knew him through work and he didn't take it too well, deciding to cause problems by asking a few of.my Verifications what I was like as a person. He has also made a few snide remarks in the forums in response to posts I have made.No need for any of this. Thats lousy hope you reported them ?"
To be honest I've kept an eye on stuff he has posted but not reported so far. Don't want to waste energies on guys like him. |
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"So just to update....
The guy that sparked this thread has now messaged from a couples profile continuing the abuse and threatening me!!! Wow!
Nice to know there are some lovely genuine people on here though so thank you everyone! Always been a bit nervous about posting on the forums xx"
Report both profiles!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So just to update....
The guy that sparked this thread has now messaged from a couples profile continuing the abuse and threatening me!!! Wow!
Nice to know there are some lovely genuine people on here though so thank you everyone! Always been a bit nervous about posting on the forums xx
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Welcome to the forum "
I have xx |
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"So just to update....
The guy that sparked this thread has now messaged from a couples profile continuing the abuse and threatening me!!! Wow!
Nice to know there are some lovely genuine people on here though so thank you everyone! Always been a bit nervous about posting on the forums xx
Report both profiles!
Welcome to the forum
I have xx"
It's a shame you can't name and shame. Hopefully they take action against him. |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
Edin |
"So just to update....
The guy that sparked this thread has now messaged from a couples profile continuing the abuse and threatening me!!! Wow!
Nice to know there are some lovely genuine people on here though so thank you everyone! Always been a bit nervous about posting on the forums xx
Report both profiles!
Welcome to the forum
I have xx
It's a shame you can't name and shame. Hopefully they take action against him. "
She can't name and shame on here no but in this game people talk between themselves and word travels fast x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So just to update....
The guy that sparked this thread has now messaged from a couples profile continuing the abuse and threatening me!!! Wow!
Nice to know there are some lovely genuine people on here though so thank you everyone! Always been a bit nervous about posting on the forums xx
Report both profiles!
Welcome to the forum
I have xx
It's a shame you can't name and shame. Hopefully they take action against him.
She can't name and shame on here no but in this game people talk between themselves and word travels fast x"
he is obviously what is commonly knows as 'a fudd' |
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To be honest if anyone sends abuse after getting no reply or worse still a polite decline then your definitely better off without that kind of drama.
I have not had a great deal of luck but if a lady or a couple decline my offer to play That's fine we are all supposed to be adults and we should respect that we all have the power of choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to get a lot of abuse from single men simply for not answering their messages but I was getting literally hundreds every day. I got called a slut several times and once a man sent me a very bad threat. Obviously he got reported and blocked!! No one should have to put up with the crap us ladies have gone through, which is why I don't meet single men anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd like to stick up for the decent men of fab, some of us are polite and can take a no with good grace, and wish the other person the best in their pursuit of ehat they want....always a few arseholes, but nearly everybody iv spoken to on here has been kind and good natured. "
I agree with your statement. Unfortunately the bad apples do soil it for the rest of us.
There should be a name and shame list on the forum board to identify rude and aggressive guys.
They get away with it because they don't get named.
They wouldn't be so quick to abuse if they knew their profile was named and other single ladies or couples could see their true colours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep, got them quite a few times. Don't care what they say about me, but sometimes they feel they have to slag off the people in my veris, which I think is uncalled for. Easy to deal with them though. Block and delete and don't think about it twice x"
WOW - they even stoop to looking at your veris and slag of the people you have met - name and shame!!! |
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"I'd like to stick up for the decent men of fab, some of us are polite and can take a no with good grace, and wish the other person the best in their pursuit of ehat they want....always a few arseholes, but nearly everybody iv spoken to on here has been kind and good natured.
I agree with your statement. Unfortunately the bad apples do soil it for the rest of us.
There should be a name and shame list on the forum board to identify rude and aggressive guys.
They get away with it because they don't get named.
They wouldn't be so quick to abuse if they knew their profile was named and other single ladies or couples could see their true colours. "
As much as I kinda agree with having a name and shame forum, it just wouldn't work people would put others on it out of spite. Also gotta remember some couples and females can be just as abusive as men too |
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I've had a few, a couple which have been report worthy and the others have been deleted and blocked. I've also had to block some people who won't take no for an answer, despite being sent a polite message declining their advances. They can start to get a little hostile so I've started doing as others so and decline/delete and block |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
Pleasuretown |
"as a single guy i know the disappointment of being told no thanks or more often the message just being deleted, i would never give anyone any problems cus they dont like the look of my profile.
sorry to hear that guys are like that to you, makes things harder for us guys who so respect to you nice ladys
I'm exactly the same as you. What's the point of giving someone abuse when you are turned down for whatever reason. A polite "OK, thanks anyway" or even just a "fair enough" more than suffices, because you never know, you might not be that lady's type this week, but you might be next week. "
Disagree. If she has said no, it is usually for a good reason.
People who repeatedly message like this, often risk a block
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to try and reply to all my messages with a polite no thanks but I was then plagued with replies like, 'why not' or 'what's wrong with me' or 'it's a sex site' or better still 'wouldn't shag you anyway' 
Now I only reply to messages from anyone who interests me (as stated on my super enlightening and extensive profile! - which I may add, guys still find hard to read or understand )
Is there a limit on your block list?  "
This pretty much sums my experience up. Even get totally unsolicited abuse cos my profile is v specific. They are just arseholes OP. To be pitied really.
Oh and there is a block list limit. It stops working after a while and lets people you have previously blocked message you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to try and reply to all my messages with a polite no thanks but I was then plagued with replies like, 'why not' or 'what's wrong with me' or 'it's a sex site' or better still 'wouldn't shag you anyway'
Now I only reply to messages from anyone who interests me (as stated on my super enlightening and extensive profile! - which I may add, guys still find hard to read or understand )
Is there a limit on your block list?
This pretty much sums my experience up. Even get totally unsolicited abuse cos my profile is v specific. They are just arseholes OP. To be pitied really.
Oh and there is a block list limit. It stops working after a while and lets people you have previously blocked message you."
Noooo
I've spent ages cultivating that bloody list!!! |
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By *lba2022Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"So... I try my hardest to reply to as many messages as I can but it would be a full time job!
I always appreciate face pictures and if I'm not attracted to them I'm always polite in saying no thank you.
Just wondering if any of you lovely ladies have experienced verbal abuse like I do on a regular basis?? Xx"
Some smallminded males on here just cant accept rejection which makes it even harder for the average male. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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None of the males who have replied to this thread have ever sent abuse to a woman on here.
It would be interesting to hear from a male (not a "man") who would admit to doing so, and his reasons & "excuses".
I know it will never happen, though. |
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By *eADevilCouple
over a year ago
Blantyre |
"So... I try my hardest to reply to as many messages as I can but it would be a full time job!
I always appreciate face pictures and if I'm not attracted to them I'm always polite in saying no thank you.
Just wondering if any of you lovely ladies have experienced verbal abuse like I do on a regular basis?? Xx"
Our opinion is answer EVERY MESSAGE only polite. If its a no then we say so politely but we will then block. Reason being in a months time we would need to repeat the exercise and it will still be a no . Blocking stops loads of repeat inquires. If you ARE on our block list in this forum plz dont take offence lol. |
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I've been lucky so far and never really had abuse. Like you I try and reply to messages with a polite decline, the only ones I ignore completely are when they have just written 'hi' or something. Usually they just thank me for taking time to reply. It does get frustrating too though when, like others said, the same person keeps messaging all the time like it's the first time. I've recently started to block those ones.
It's unfair of anyone to give you abuse in any way! Some just don't get the way of this site I guess! Thank goodness for the block and report button |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Have I ever received abuse on here? Damn right I have, it is normally a weekly occurrence lol
Some men are just far to sensitive on here and hate a straight talking female, for some reason they always think my updates are aimed at them personally but no idea why but it does make me laugh |
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