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I suppose it depends on what the grudgee did. I find it hard to forgive those involved in the break up of my marriage, but anything else is a mere trifle in the end, and not worth hanging onto. |
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"I think it depends on what they did. Some things can't be forgiven"
Agree with this completely somethings that have been said and actions done can never be forgiven |
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"Can you hold a grudge for?
I forgive probably far to easily .
Seems far to many hold grudges for a very long time and I just wonder what they gain from it ?  "
Id imagine it all depends on how youve been wronged, to date there is only one thing thats happened to me that I still hold a grudge for and although it no longer eats away at me I hope karma bites the bitch right where it hurts. The satisfaction of that happening is what Id gain.  |
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So far 3 years, 6 months. When I told my mum my partner and I were going to have another child, she said it was selfish of us because she wouldn't get to see it grow up, then spat in my 2 year old autistic son face that he was no grandson of hers. I will never forgive her for that. |
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"So far 3 years, 6 months. When I told my mum my partner and I were going to have another child, she said it was selfish of us because she wouldn't get to see it grow up, then spat in my 2 year old autistic son face that he was no grandson of hers. I will never forgive her for that."
Oh, and she disowned me too. |
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"Can you hold a grudge for?
I forgive probably far to easily .
Seems far to many hold grudges for a very long time and I just wonder what they gain from it ?
Id imagine it all depends on how youve been wronged, to date there is only one thing thats happened to me that I still hold a grudge for and although it no longer eats away at me I hope karma bites the bitch right where it hurts. The satisfaction of that happening is what Id gain. "
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"So far 3 years, 6 months. When I told my mum my partner and I were going to have another child, she said it was selfish of us because she wouldn't get to see it grow up, then spat in my 2 year old autistic son face that he was no grandson of hers. I will never forgive her for that."
wow thats a big thing and yes I can see why it would be hard to forgive |
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"Can you hold a grudge for?
I forgive probably far to easily .
Seems far to many hold grudges for a very long time and I just wonder what they gain from it ?
Id imagine it all depends on how youve been wronged, to date there is only one thing thats happened to me that I still hold a grudge for and although it no longer eats away at me I hope karma bites the bitch right where it hurts. The satisfaction of that happening is what Id gain. "
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It depends on what the person did.
I would not say I hold a grudge!
Only that... Some things are forgiven but... Not forgotten... and as such I would want nothing to do with that person or know to watch my back if I can't cut ties with that person.
Hope this makes sense.
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"It depends on what the person did.
I would not say I hold a grudge!
Only that... Some things are forgiven but... Not forgotten... and as such I would want nothing to do with that person or know to watch my back if I can't cut ties with that person.
Hope this makes sense.
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It depends on the individual,you may find they hold a grudge for a long time,you then have to look at how that person has been treated,some people can be the object of unwanted anger and don't deserve any forgiveness.hense the so called grudge |
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"It depends on the individual,you may find they hold a grudge for a long time,you then have to look at how that person has been treated,some people can be the object of unwanted anger and don't deserve any forgiveness.hense the so called grudge "
make love not war lol |
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A grudge, in the truest sense, is for life.......if I have a grudge I will take it to the grave fuck this forgive and forget, happy clappy, tree hugging "Kumbaya my Lord" bollocks |
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A grudge is anger and as the John Lydon say ..Anger is an energy.. for me .. about 30 seconds.
I have bigger and better things to use my energy on.
Simple fact is you leave my life, however I wish no one any harm ever. |
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I don't hold grudges nor waste energy on negative things. Life is all too short. You only end up hurting yourself in the end. Move on and rise above it all. |
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"A grudge is anger and as the John Lydon say ..Anger is an energy.. for me .. about 30 seconds.
I have bigger and better things to use my energy on.
Simple fact is you leave my life, however I wish no one any harm ever."
I get what you're saying, however, how would you feel if someone harmed a member of your family? |
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"A grudge is anger and as the John Lydon say ..Anger is an energy.. for me .. about 30 seconds.
I have bigger and better things to use my energy on.
Simple fact is you leave my life, however I wish no one any harm ever.
I get what you're saying, however, how would you feel if someone harmed a member of your family? "
Why would I give up my life and go to jail for someone else's actions. Id support the member of my family and let justice take its course through the law or through Karma. You cant change anything. |
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"A grudge is anger and as the John Lydon say ..Anger is an energy.. for me .. about 30 seconds.
I have bigger and better things to use my energy on.
Simple fact is you leave my life, however I wish no one any harm ever.
I get what you're saying, however, how would you feel if someone harmed a member of your family?
Why would I give up my life and go to jail for someone else's actions. Id support the member of my family and let justice take its course through the law or through Karma. You cant change anything. "
I wasn't saying that you should take the law into your own hands, i was only asking if you could forgive someone who had harmed a family member, if you can forgive someone for that and feel no anger towards them then that's admirable.
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"A grudge is anger and as the John Lydon say ..Anger is an energy.. for me .. about 30 seconds.
I have bigger and better things to use my energy on.
Simple fact is you leave my life, however I wish no one any harm ever.
I get what you're saying, however, how would you feel if someone harmed a member of your family?
Why would I give up my life and go to jail for someone else's actions. Id support the member of my family and let justice take its course through the law or through Karma. You cant change anything.
I wasn't saying that you should take the law into your own hands, i was only asking if you could forgive someone who had harmed a family member, if you can forgive someone for that and feel no anger towards them then that's admirable.
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I would only feel pity and be comfortable in the knowledge that the other person knows I know the true them and any face they put n in public is a lie and as I said ..they leave my life x |
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I've not spoken to a family member for almost 5 years and have no intention of ever speaking to them again.
Me - I gain my sanity, as they were very toxic. |
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"So far 3 years, 6 months. When I told my mum my partner and I were going to have another child, she said it was selfish of us because she wouldn't get to see it grow up, then spat in my 2 year old autistic son face that he was no grandson of hers. I will never forgive her for that."
She's not deserving of forgiveness the vile human being .. |
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i don't hold grudges... I see that kind of energy as very corrosive. We all get angry with each other, especially in close relationships but in general I think things through and want to talk things out, however that takes two people making effort... if someone has an issue with me that is irreconcilable then it won't be for a lack of effort on my part, however I also won't stop them leaving as I think the worst thing you can do to anyone is cage them... I've experienced that and it's horrible and so now I feel that those who want to be in my life will be... as the saying goes "If you let someone go and they come back to you, they are yours... if they don't, they were never really yours in the first place"  |
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I have to let go of people I dislike intensely or feel resentful towards. I find them damaging to me. I can ruin a perfectly good day by reliving events or conversations from the past. It's a tricky one especially when family members are involved. |
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I never hold a.grudge but I make it clear if its unforgivable then I won't have that person in my life , life's to short to worry about others I do my own thing only person a girl can depend on is herself and well a few amazing girlfriends on hand with wine when shit goes down lol  |
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But what about the man who murdered my parents, Thomas and Martha Wayne? Should I not don the cape and cowl, and bring the criminals of Gotham to justice?  |
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