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over a year ago
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex. "
Think you've just said it
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex. "
like you said a friend you can hook up with from time to time both socially and sexually  |
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex. "
This IS what it SHOULD mean |
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex.
This IS what it SHOULD mean "
Should?? |
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex. like you said a friend you can hook up with from time to time both socially and sexually "
All of this |
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex.
This IS what it SHOULD mean
Should??"
Yes lol SHOULD  |
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex. "
All of this is how it should be... as others have said feelings creep in n before you know it you're married 
This is how John n is started out... that was 14 years ago 
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex.
All of this is how it should be... as others have said feelings creep in n before you know it you're married
This is how John n is started out... that was 14 years ago
J x"
That shoulda been K 
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I agree with other posters that this is the ideal definition but as other have also pointed out feelings from one or other side tend to get in the way. There is also a level of social stigmatism levelled at FB's and when you add in the different approach men and women have to sex it very quickly gets more complicated then the original relationship was intended to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope I dont agree
Married folk on here can have friends with benefits
Isn't that what swinging is all about?"
Agreed goodie but that too CAN get complicated but when you do get things right it's amazing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex. "
That says exactly what I think . |
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex. "
This 100% oh and not attached either |
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Life has no definitions. Simply shifting guidelines that change with person, mood, fashion and circumstance and are no more reliable than the Scottish weather.
A FWB, NSA and Fuck Buddy. Mean different things to everyone. It's important however that both (or all 3, 4, etc. Hehe) involved have roughly the same idea.
Mars-Venus broad brush theory : Women offer sex to find love. Men offer love to get sex. Really? You decide.
In my experience women certainly find it more difficult to separate emotions, good sex and socialising. They are very social and emotional (and delicious) creatures it's in their DNA.
Men: We just want sex. Lot's of sex. More sex. NSA fucking and sex. Did I mention the sex. We are not as social - we are designed to be independent. We are as emotional as James Bond. We're made for fighting, sports(hunting) and fucking. It's in our DNA.
My current definition and play partner, cover all 3 categories stated above. She is my fuck buddy when both of us want great sex. Short notice or planned. We have regular fantastic NSA sex which gets better all the time as we explore.
Now here is the important bit : She is the kind of person who would be my friend 'in real life'. We laugh, there is great banter, we are on the same level. We are comfortable in silence. We go off for weekends together, out to dinner, comedy shows, gigs,etc.
BUT - this isn't real life ... we're FWB/Fuck buddies! There are no strings attached. We both see other people. Occasionally share people. Sometimes we are single - sometimes not. We don't share Facebook or real friends - we both have a separate life of our own. It's a separate sexual friendship.
So, that's my current definition, with a strong hint of sarcasm. Enjoy.
Jack x
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By (user no longer on site)
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Got one of these gems before but he fell in love and it was a case of-you need to go on match and meet your soulmate. So he did and there is now a vacancy in my life! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Life has no definitions. Simply shifting guidelines that change with person, mood, fashion and circumstance and are no more reliable than the Scottish weather.
A FWB, NSA and Fuck Buddy. Mean different things to everyone. It's important however that both (or all 3, 4, etc. Hehe) involved have roughly the same idea.
Mars-Venus broad brush theory : Women offer sex to find love. Men offer love to get sex. Really? You decide.
In my experience women certainly find it more difficult to separate emotions, good sex and socialising. They are very social and emotional (and delicious) creatures it's in their DNA.
Men: We just want sex. Lot's of sex. More sex. NSA fucking and sex. Did I mention the sex. We are not as social - we are designed to be independent. We are as emotional as James Bond. We're made for fighting, sports(hunting) and fucking. It's in our DNA.
My current definition and play partner, cover all 3 categories stated above. She is my fuck buddy when both of us want great sex. Short notice or planned. We have regular fantastic NSA sex which gets better all the time as we explore.
Now here is the important bit : She is the kind of person who would be my friend 'in real life'. We laugh, there is great banter, we are on the same level. We are comfortable in silence. We go off for weekends together, out to dinner, comedy shows, gigs,etc.
BUT - this isn't real life ... we're FWB/Fuck buddies! There are no strings attached. We both see other people. Occasionally share people. Sometimes we are single - sometimes not. We don't share Facebook or real friends - we both have a separate life of our own. It's a separate sexual friendship.
So, that's my current definition, with a strong hint of sarcasm. Enjoy.
Jack x
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What an extremely articulate piece of writing! |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"Nope I dont agree
Married folk on here can have friends with benefits
Isn't that what swinging is all about?"
over the years on the scene i have been lucky enough to have had 1 or 2 ..so its not impossible  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Life has no definitions. Simply shifting guidelines that change with person, mood, fashion and circumstance and are no more reliable than the Scottish weather.
A FWB, NSA and Fuck Buddy. Mean different things to everyone. It's important however that both (or all 3, 4, etc. Hehe) involved have roughly the same idea.
Mars-Venus broad brush theory : Women offer sex to find love. Men offer love to get sex. Really? You decide.
In my experience women certainly find it more difficult to separate emotions, good sex and socialising. They are very social and emotional (and delicious) creatures it's in their DNA.
Men: We just want sex. Lot's of sex. More sex. NSA fucking and sex. Did I mention the sex. We are not as social - we are designed to be independent. We are as emotional as James Bond. We're made for fighting, sports(hunting) and fucking. It's in our DNA.
My current definition and play partner, cover all 3 categories stated above. She is my fuck buddy when both of us want great sex. Short notice or planned. We have regular fantastic NSA sex which gets better all the time as we explore.
Now here is the important bit : She is the kind of person who would be my friend 'in real life'. We laugh, there is great banter, we are on the same level. We are comfortable in silence. We go off for weekends together, out to dinner, comedy shows, gigs,etc.
BUT - this isn't real life ... we're FWB/Fuck buddies! There are no strings attached. We both see other people. Occasionally share people. Sometimes we are single - sometimes not. We don't share Facebook or real friends - we both have a separate life of our own. It's a separate sexual friendship.
So, that's my current definition, with a strong hint of sarcasm. Enjoy.
Jack x
What an extremely articulate piece of writing!"
Couldn't agree more |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Life has no definitions. Simply shifting guidelines that change with person, mood, fashion and circumstance and are no more reliable than the Scottish weather.
A FWB, NSA and Fuck Buddy. Mean different things to everyone. It's important however that both (or all 3, 4, etc. Hehe) involved have roughly the same idea.
Mars-Venus broad brush theory : Women offer sex to find love. Men offer love to get sex. Really? You decide.
In my experience women certainly find it more difficult to separate emotions, good sex and socialising. They are very social and emotional (and delicious) creatures it's in their DNA.
Men: We just want sex. Lot's of sex. More sex. NSA fucking and sex. Did I mention the sex. We are not as social - we are designed to be independent. We are as emotional as James Bond. We're made for fighting, sports(hunting) and fucking. It's in our DNA.
My current definition and play partner, cover all 3 categories stated above. She is my fuck buddy when both of us want great sex. Short notice or planned. We have regular fantastic NSA sex which gets better all the time as we explore.
Now here is the important bit : She is the kind of person who would be my friend 'in real life'. We laugh, there is great banter, we are on the same level. We are comfortable in silence. We go off for weekends together, out to dinner, comedy shows, gigs,etc.
BUT - this isn't real life ... we're FWB/Fuck buddies! There are no strings attached. We both see other people. Occasionally share people. Sometimes we are single - sometimes not. We don't share Facebook or real friends - we both have a separate life of our own. It's a separate sexual friendship.
So, that's my current definition, with a strong hint of sarcasm. Enjoy.
Jack x
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Spot on about DNA and the Mars v Venus theory. NSA sex with a fuck buddy, FWB would be amazing in an ideal world but I guess it depends on characters of both the individuals involved and how close you get to one another. How can u not get close to one another and have no feelings?? How can one not get a tad jealous of the other when you have that connection with one another. I would say it's easier for people who just meet once every few months then u don't get that closeness or chance to get feelings that's felicitys theory |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Life has no definitions. Simply shifting guidelines that change with person, mood, fashion and circumstance and are no more reliable than the Scottish weather.
A FWB, NSA and Fuck Buddy. Mean different things to everyone. It's important however that both (or all 3, 4, etc. Hehe) involved have roughly the same idea.
Mars-Venus broad brush theory : Women offer sex to find love. Men offer love to get sex. Really? You decide.
In my experience women certainly find it more difficult to separate emotions, good sex and socialising. They are very social and emotional (and delicious) creatures it's in their DNA.
Men: We just want sex. Lot's of sex. More sex. NSA fucking and sex. Did I mention the sex. We are not as social - we are designed to be independent. We are as emotional as James Bond. We're made for fighting, sports(hunting) and fucking. It's in our DNA.
My current definition and play partner, cover all 3 categories stated above. She is my fuck buddy when both of us want great sex. Short notice or planned. We have regular fantastic NSA sex which gets better all the time as we explore.
Now here is the important bit : She is the kind of person who would be my friend 'in real life'. We laugh, there is great banter, we are on the same level. We are comfortable in silence. We go off for weekends together, out to dinner, comedy shows, gigs,etc.
BUT - this isn't real life ... we're FWB/Fuck buddies! There are no strings attached. We both see other people. Occasionally share people. Sometimes we are single - sometimes not. We don't share Facebook or real friends - we both have a separate life of our own. It's a separate sexual friendship.
So, that's my current definition, with a strong hint of sarcasm. Enjoy.
Jack x
Spot on about DNA and the Mars v Venus theory. NSA sex with a fuck buddy, FWB would be amazing in an ideal world but I guess it depends on characters of both the individuals involved and how close you get to one another. How can u not get close to one another and have no feelings?? How can one not get a tad jealous of the other when you have that connection with one another. I would say it's easier for people who just meet once every few months then u don't get that closeness or chance to get feelings that's felicitys theory "
I had a five year lovely fwb (he is on my earlier Verifications) but the jealousy crept in on his part as his feelings changed so I thought it best we ended it... Reluctantly |
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Life has no definitions. Simply shifting guidelines that change with person, mood, fashion and circumstance and are no more reliable than the Scottish weather.
A FWB, NSA and Fuck Buddy. Mean different things to everyone. It's important however that both (or all 3, 4, etc. Hehe) involved have roughly the same idea.
Mars-Venus broad brush theory : Women offer sex to find love. Men offer love to get sex. Really? You decide.
In my experience women certainly find it more difficult to separate emotions, good sex and socialising. They are very social and emotional (and delicious) creatures it's in their DNA.
Men: We just want sex. Lot's of sex. More sex. NSA fucking and sex. Did I mention the sex. We are not as social - we are designed to be independent. We are as emotional as James Bond. We're made for fighting, sports(hunting) and fucking. It's in our DNA.
My current definition and play partner, cover all 3 categories stated above. She is my fuck buddy when both of us want great sex. Short notice or planned. We have regular fantastic NSA sex which gets better all the time as we explore.
Now here is the important bit : She is the kind of person who would be my friend 'in real life'. We laugh, there is great banter, we are on the same level. We are comfortable in silence. We go off for weekends together, out to dinner, comedy shows, gigs,etc.
BUT - this isn't real life ... we're FWB/Fuck buddies! There are no strings attached. We both see other people. Occasionally share people. Sometimes we are single - sometimes not. We don't share Facebook or real friends - we both have a separate life of our own. It's a separate sexual friendship.
So, that's my current definition, with a strong hint of sarcasm. Enjoy.
Jack x
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spot on with the Mars v Venus theory |
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex. "
If you where dating someone,what would be the difference ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex.
If you where dating someone,what would be the difference ?
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No feels. |
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I understand how some people can end up with too much attachment, I had a similar situation to Tracy several years ago, where all of a sudden the conversation stopped being about the physical us and more about the emotional us and our families.
It's alright to care, but in my view it is always better to keep the two in separate boxes. |
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex.
If you where dating someone,what would be the difference ?
No feels. "
this is the reason I dont believe in the concept of fwb or fb you have feelings for and about anyone you interact with (I think my posties a turd) |
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex. "
Think that about sums it up perfectly OP, ahh, to live is to dream x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So what's your definition?
For me, it'd be someone to socialise with, movies, dinner, walks etc with the added benefit of no strings sex. "
Isn't that a boyfriend?
Just asking |
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I think when you see someone as a friend with benefits, some strings will have already been attached. I care about my friends (wouldn't be friends otherwise), with or without sex. Need to take NSA off my profile actually, because it seems i finally found one and definitely attached a string or 2... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Life has no definitions. Simply shifting guidelines that change with person, mood, fashion and circumstance and are no more reliable than the Scottish weather.
A FWB, NSA and Fuck Buddy. Mean different things to everyone. It's important however that both (or all 3, 4, etc. Hehe) involved have roughly the same idea.
Mars-Venus broad brush theory : Women offer sex to find love. Men offer love to get sex. Really? You decide.
In my experience women certainly find it more difficult to separate emotions, good sex and socialising. They are very social and emotional (and delicious) creatures it's in their DNA.
Men: We just want sex. Lot's of sex. More sex. NSA fucking and sex. Did I mention the sex. We are not as social - we are designed to be independent. We are as emotional as James Bond. We're made for fighting, sports(hunting) and fucking. It's in our DNA.
My current definition and play partner, cover all 3 categories stated above. She is my fuck buddy when both of us want great sex. Short notice or planned. We have regular fantastic NSA sex which gets better all the time as we explore.
Now here is the important bit : She is the kind of person who would be my friend 'in real life'. We laugh, there is great banter, we are on the same level. We are comfortable in silence. We go off for weekends together, out to dinner, comedy shows, gigs,etc.
BUT - this isn't real life ... we're FWB/Fuck buddies! There are no strings attached. We both see other people. Occasionally share people. Sometimes we are single - sometimes not. We don't share Facebook or real friends - we both have a separate life of our own. It's a separate sexual friendship.
So, that's my current definition, with a strong hint of sarcasm. Enjoy.
Jack x
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Accurate!! |
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