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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just wanting people's thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You don't have to explain anything to anyone, it's your business not theirs.

Yes it is a swinging site but if you're on here without your husbands knowledge then you are a cheater, personally I think cheaters are horrible disgusting people because no matter the reason for it there is no GOOD reason for it!

But again it's no one else's business why you're on here & you should keep it to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanx for ur opinion x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanx for ur opinion x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well in my opinion, it's always not a black or white

So you may have a reasonable reasons for doing it like yours is not able to satisfy you but he is so kind and good to you. And by having the right person/s, then you are keeping your husband happy with you and in the mean time you are satisfied so this would keep your life better.

I would recommend you that always follow your heart and mind not what would people think because ever never you will satisfy them neither you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanx for that x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanx for that x"

You are welcome xx

Hope we meet up someday though

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By *odkaredbull23Man over a year ago

some where central

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

You have stated your married on your profile.... you haven't lied therefore I don't see why anyone would have a problem if they agreed to meet you...you have no obligation to explain why. Each to there own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanx. That's exactly what I thought and I had met this person for a few meets too.

I'm always honest on here x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think as long as your honest at start then it's up to other person if they want to get involved with you, I personally wouldn't get involved with someone married again as it brought nothing but trouble to my door.

As for the other bit depends what expectations the other person had, I state on profile I'd rather get to know one person and play (until such time as mutually agreed that others can be involved i.e. 3somes) as I find the more comfortable you are with someone the better the play, but that's just me. If you are here just for sex to satisfy a need then as long as that's on profile or explained in initial exchanges it shouldn't be an issue and I'd say it's the other persons issue not yours

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanx for that really appreciate it xx

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By *ighland gentlemanMan over a year ago

Ardgay

There can be various reasons why married folk are on here on their own.

I know mine and will let folk know if they ask.

I am open about my situation in opening messages just to ensure that they know as I am aware that some don't want to be involved with married folk.

But there are plenty who do not consider it important.

For those who do, then I respect their choice.

However I think you have been surprised that you have been called a cheater not so much for being married but for having the audacity to see more than one person on Fab.

Sounds like someone has gotten a little possessive and jealous.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is an oft asked question and you have some pretty good answers above. There will be many viewpoints... some will say cheat... some will say you have your reasons and it's your business... There are even folk that would say no matter how you dress up ANY kind of Swinging even as a couple then it's infidelity.

I think in your situation what you're doing is right although there is an irony in the fact you're being "honest" here. I also understand the reason you are is because you value your marriage and people stay married for lots of reasons. Some people maybe don't always understand that.

At the end of the day if you're open and it's two consenting adults on an NSA Swinging site it's no ones business but yours.

The only other things I'd add and I'm very sure you know is, be very careful in whom you select if your marriage is important to you as sometimes people are indiscreet and lastly I presume you have thought about broaching the subject of Swinging with your husband. Being a married swingle with permission to be on here can work.

Good luck CxXx

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple over a year ago

Edinburgh.

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

So I'm married but husband doesn't know I'm on here. I have my reasons for doing this. Do I have to explain to folk why I do this? It might not be to everyone's liking but if you specify at the start of a series of meets with someone that you're married and they are ok with it, then why do they start calling you a cheat because you are seeing other folk. This is a swingers site isn't it?"
depends on why you are cheating and what you told this bloke that's taken the hump.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

You don't have to explain to anyone, you state you're married and that's all you have to do, if after time you build up a friendship with some one you meet regular and you choose to tell him then that is also up to you. Sounds like you have been meeting with your typical male and not a real swinger, if he's managed to get his leg over a few times, you're now his property and he won't want you being with anyone else, even your husband (that's the short explanation ) a real swinger has no jealousy issues or is possessive etc so you nust need to chiose more wisely, very hard task to do on here unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank u that makes alot of sense x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You don't have to explain anything to anyone, it's your business not theirs.

But again it's no one else's business why you're on here & you should keep it to yourself.

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not just sit down and talk to your husband about it instead of being a coward and sneaking around behind his back?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why not just sit down and talk to your husband about it instead of being a coward and sneaking around behind his back? "

Perhaps she HAS tried, perhaps she SHOULD try... perhaps a more adult way to suggest she DOES try could be more sensitively constructed, people sometimes come to the forum for advice and to explore alternative ways of approaching difficult issues...

However you are very much entitled to your view and there will be those who see it as a very black and white issue...

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By *rgoodnbadMan over a year ago

greenock

"You don't have to explain anything to anyone, it's your business not theirs.

But again it's no one else's business why you're on here & you should keep it to yourself.

Probably not what the op wanted to hear, a spiteful, nasty comment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you are being honest u have said u are married anything else is other ppl problem

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple over a year ago

Falkirk

Nobody's business but yours but don't understand why you would start a thread on it. Are you looking for approval from other fabbers?

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By *ero666Man over a year ago

fife

"You don't have to explain anything to anyone, it's your business not theirs.

But again it's no one else's business why you're on here & you should keep it to yourself.

If the OP offered you a shag,you would take it in a heartbeat thought.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Of course its cheating!

No you dont have to explain if you dont want to.

Yes its a swinging site but that does'nt take away from the fact that you are cheating too.

Some people will accept that until the waters get muddied then your classed a cheat just move on from whoever has upset you .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont think the OP was asking if its classed as cheating beeing on fab playing without her hubbys knowledge im sure she is,well aware that is cheating which im sure she has her own personal reasons for doing

Wasnt her point of asking pples opinions on the fact a fab friend she meets is calling her a cheater coz she is meeting others on fab ? Which to me isnt cheating as this is a site for likeminded ppl to meet a few friends if they wish

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

I'm honest about my situation in opening messages and give people the option to not continue chatting if that's what they would prefer.

There will always be people who are judgemental and not understand the reasons why people who are attached play on here without their partners knowledge. That's their problem. I have my reasons, and that's my business. I will occasionally share them with someone I have got to know and trust, but again that's my choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The point the OP is trying to get at is, that someone was quite happy to meet her until she started meeting other people, now they have taken the hump and calling her a cheat but that's exactly what the first person was doing.

It doesn't matter what others think about your situation. Most people who have an opinion on it aren't squeaky clean them self.

If itsit'sat you want to do them fuck the rest of them. All I can say is, think about who will be hurt if it ever goes tits up. X

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By *mberbCouple over a year ago

Lothians

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

So I'm married but husband doesn't know I'm on here. I have my reasons for doing this. Do I have to explain to folk why I do this? It might not be to everyone's liking but if you specify at the start of a series of meets with someone that you're married and they are ok with it, then why do they start calling you a cheat because you are seeing other folk. This is a swingers site isn't it?"
Enough guys doing it on here behind their partners backs and they even have couple profiles yes they will all say the wife is fine with it lol sure they are! dont explain to no one not their business

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally if you're honest about it on your profile then anyone who agrees to meet you has no recourse. I personally won't meet cheaters and think there is a huge difference between cheating and swinging.

My opinions come from previous experience of being a swinging couple, being cheated on, and being the other woman (not that I knew I was).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who gives a rats ass whats what. Life is short some folk know where to draw the line others dont life is short enjoy it while yi can.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do what you want you life your relationship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is an oft asked question and you have some pretty good answers above. There will be many viewpoints... some will say cheat... some will say you have your reasons and it's your business... There are even folk that would say no matter how you dress up ANY kind of Swinging even as a couple then it's infidelity.

At the end of the day if you're open and it's two consenting adults on an NSA Swinging site it's no ones business but yours.

Good luck CxXx "

She Nailed It With This . x

ALSO ...If i may add .

Some Elusive Couples on Fab ..."Cheat"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In regard to why the person you were seeing regularly suddenly became jealous... I would imagine that's because he was afraid of the competition on fab and therefore you might stop seeing him... and perhaps he liked you too... he certainly had no justification for calling you a cheat in regard to you and him meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nobody's business but yours but don't understand why you would start a thread on it. Are you looking for approval from other fabbers?

Not approval just people's views

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I dont think the OP was asking if its classed as cheating beeing on fab playing without her hubbys knowledge im sure she is,well aware that is cheating which im sure she has her own personal reasons for doing

Yes this is actually what I meant. Sorry nightshift doesn't help my explanation of things. Thanx x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"In regard to why the person you were seeing regularly suddenly became jealous... I would imagine that's because he was afraid of the competition on fab and therefore you might stop seeing him... and perhaps he liked you too... he certainly had no justification for calling you a cheat in regard to you and him meeting. "

Thanx for ur opinion x

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Yes this is actually what I meant. Sorry nightshift doesn't help my explanation of things. Thanx x"
As I said earlier when things are going good its fine that your married the min things dont go as they want all of a sudden your a cheater in their eyes

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

They are wrong to do as you say. you informed beforehand that you were a cheat so why should it bother them. they were happy to meet you with that knowledge.

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By *mberbCouple over a year ago

Lothians

with cheating comes all sort of risks its ok the guys on here saying it ok lol till they meet the Partner one night. sorry cheaters should be single. our opinion

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

"with cheating comes all sort of risks its ok the guys on here saying it ok lol till they meet the Partner one night. sorry cheaters should be single. our opinion "
lol if your single how can you be cheating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As long as people aren't here looking for k__n__ or murdur victims, for b____m___, or anything else illegal, I don't care, and as far as I know, adultery is no longer a criminal offence, so it's not a problem for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

He's obviously caught feelings for you and doesn't want you having fun with anyone else.

Drop him and cary on cheating on your husband with more emotionless men would be my advice. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You don't have to explain anything to anyone, it's your business not theirs.

But again it's no one else's business why you're on here & you should keep it to yourself.

If the OP offered you a shag,you would take it in a heartbeat thought.

"
nope

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By *ero666Man over a year ago

fife

"You don't have to explain anything to anyone, it's your business not theirs.

But again it's no one else's business why you're on here & you should keep it to yourself.

If the OP offered you a shag,you would take it in a heartbeat thought.

nope"

Your mind isn't as dirty as your making out to be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's totally your business, don't need to explain to anyone. You're open and honest enough to say that you're married that's all people need to know. The moral fun police will always have something to moan about..... ignore them and look out for your own fun that's why we are all here in my opinion.

Too many stuffy attitudes and hang ups about sex.

Of course it's also ok for other to say they don't want to meet married people and they don't have to justify that either.

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By *ndykayMan over a year ago

Falkirk

If people don't like it, they can jog on!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Knock yourself out Mrs xx

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By *eADevilCouple over a year ago

Blantyre

Your post is "cheating or something else"

Simple answer is its both. You ARE cheating on your husband as he has no knowledge of you meeting other guys. The "something else" is you are not on a dating site, you are on a site as a single female looking for fun and NOT a relationshiop. Be sure you have utmost discretion from anyone you meet is all you need to do. Have fun be careful but continue whats right for YOU.

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By *eADevilCouple over a year ago

Blantyre

PS Darn 4 years off age range lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What do you do that day when you chat to somebody that then clicks who you are and knows the hubby you are cheating on? Surely that eventual outcome musta crossed your mind??

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By *ighland gentlemanMan over a year ago

Ardgay

"What do you do that day when you chat to somebody that then clicks who you are and knows the hubby you are cheating on? Surely that eventual outcome musta crossed your mind??"

Why is it eventual?

The number of folk on Fab is relatively small compared to the population.

Yes there is a risk but it is small not guaranteed.

Plus you then have to assume that the person is willing to reveal that they are on a swingers site themselves to reveal the information.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What do you do that day when you chat to somebody that then clicks who you are and knows the hubby you are cheating on? Surely that eventual outcome musta crossed your mind??

Why is it eventual?

The number of folk on Fab is relatively small compared to the population.

Yes there is a risk but it is small not guaranteed.

Plus you then have to assume that the person is willing to reveal that they are on a swingers site themselves to reveal the information.

Yeah it could be a single pal so it wouldnt be a big deal if he/she revealed they were on a swinger site. The big deal would be telling him his wife is...

I say its eventual coz we all know its a small world. If she plays with people in renfrewshire then its an even smaller world

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

"What do you do that day when you chat to somebody that then clicks who you are and knows the hubby you are cheating on? Surely that eventual outcome musta crossed your mind??

Why is it eventual?

The number of folk on Fab is relatively small compared to the population.

Yes there is a risk but it is small not guaranteed.

Plus you then have to assume that the person is willing to reveal that they are on a swingers site themselves to reveal the information.

"
seven degrees of seperation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What do you do that day when you chat to somebody that then clicks who you are and knows the hubby you are cheating on? Surely that eventual outcome musta crossed your mind??

Why is it eventual?

The number of folk on Fab is relatively small compared to the population.

Yes there is a risk but it is small not guaranteed.

Plus you then have to assume that the person is willing to reveal that they are on a swingers site themselves to reveal the information.

seven degrees of seperation "

I do think that is freakishly true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What do you do that day when you chat to somebody that then clicks who you are and knows the hubby you are cheating on? Surely that eventual outcome musta crossed your mind??

Why is it eventual?

The number of folk on Fab is relatively small compared to the population.

Yes there is a risk but it is small not guaranteed.

Plus you then have to assume that the person is willing to reveal that they are on a swingers site themselves to reveal the information.

seven degrees of seperation

I do think that is freakishly true

It reeelly is thats my point!lol

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By *eADevilCouple over a year ago

Blantyre

"What do you do that day when you chat to somebody that then clicks who you are and knows the hubby you are cheating on? Surely that eventual outcome musta crossed your mind??

Why is it eventual?

The number of folk on Fab is relatively small compared to the population.

Yes there is a risk but it is small not guaranteed.

Plus you then have to assume that the person is willing to reveal that they are on a swingers site themselves to reveal the information.

Yeah it could be a single pal so it wouldnt be a big deal if he/she revealed they were on a swinger site. The big deal would be telling him his wife is...

I say its eventual coz we all know its a small world. If she plays with people in renfrewshire then its an even smaller world"

OP its another example of the doom and gloom brigade giving hypothetical outcomes. I agree with highlander, being EVENTUALLY caught is mince. I got away with it for 30 years and NEVER got caught. I had my face on POF, Tinder and lots of other places you could arange meets and never got caught. My neighbour is on POF as we speak and is top hit nearby and still says nothing. Im pretty sure you know the slim risks involved and will be equipped to deal with the situation if it ever happened. Happy Fabbing OP.

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By *lasgowduoWoman over a year ago

glasgow

"The point the OP is trying to get at is, that someone was quite happy to meet her until she started meeting other people, now they have taken the hump and calling her a cheat but that's exactly what the first person was doing.

It doesn't matter what others think about your situation. Most people who have an opinion on it aren't squeaky clean them self.

If itsit'sat you want to do them fuck the rest of them. All I can say is, think about who will be hurt if it ever goes tits up. X"

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By *onkinmadMan over a year ago

the place to be

Do yer own thing chic.. Fuck the world.. Nobody owns you.. Yolo so have a blast and be you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fue me is important to know if a woman is married or not, not because I don't sleep with married women, just because is a decision to take and I like to take it with the relevant information. After in decide if is worthy to take the risk. About the reasons to do it, I don't care, I believe we all are adults and we know what we do and why we do, and as I cannot walk in somebody's show for few moons I pass on judging.

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By *homCrownMan over a year ago

West Fife

"You don't have to explain anything to anyone, it's your business not theirs.

But again it's no one else's business why you're on here & you should keep it to yourself.

A bit vitriolic there, 'ole chap. Entitled to your opinion of course but I always think it's wise to remember the proverb, or variants thereof: "Never judge someone until you have walked a mile in their shoes".

Might be tricky in OP's shag me heels but you get the jist...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You don't have to explain anything to anyone, it's your business not theirs.

But again it's no one else's business why you're on here & you should keep it to yourself.

Might be tricky in OP's shag me heels but you get the jist...

Good advice...Walk a mile in someone's shoes.... then you will be a mile away from them AND you will have their shoes

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By *homCrownMan over a year ago

West Fife

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously...too many folk on here are more interested in other folks buisness than their own?

If someone

Is married and they have the balls to admit it in their profile you have a choice..meet or not meet...your choice..why they are here is no one else buisness bar their own...male or female although fab married chicks are excepted way better than married men

As for guys claiming you or telling you not to meet anyone else...again I'd say that's more of a fem thing as Iv spoken to guys that say that some chicks ask for exclusively...sorry but this is a sex site after all hell to that

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is like the Jeremy Kyle show on here.. It's crazy how many married women cheat.. I find the biggest percentage is ones with husbands working away from home.. Around 3/4 of the people I have slept with have been married women and most of their husbands work away.. It's just sex at the end of the day.. Just a hobby to enjoy. In saying that I won't go with anyone who's hubby is away fighting for his country.. So many Army wife's.. They don't get it when I say no.. It wouldnt sit well with me.. I met a woman off here who said she never met without her partners permission.. He didn't want her to meet me.. She went behind his back found me on Facebook and hounded me for a meet.. Each to their own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol you'll meet a cheating wife who's hubby works in tesco but not in the army?

Seriously?

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By *ero666Man over a year ago

fife

The man has morals

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be nice to people. Pay your taxes. Floss if you have teeth left. Everything else is your own business. Enjoy your fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This isn't a dating site and folk on here certainly can't judge. Being honest.....or not lol I wouldn't even say if I was married. Who cares we're not here to find a potential spouse.

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By *att231Man over a year ago

dundee

Its ur choice if want to play away and have sum extra excitement. Life's to short to worry what others think so go and enjoy ur self! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is like the Jeremy Kyle show on here.. It's crazy how many married women cheat.. I find the biggest percentage is ones with husbands working away from home.. Around 3/4 of the people I have slept with have been married women and most of their husbands work away.. It's just sex at the end of the day.. Just a hobby to enjoy. In saying that I won't go with anyone who's hubby is away fighting for his country.. So many Army wife's.. They don't get it when I say no.. It wouldnt sit well with me.. I met a woman off here who said she never met without her partners permission.. He didn't want her to meet me.. She went behind his back found me on Facebook and hounded me for a meet.. Each to their own "

It's nice to know your moral compass is set to "OK" for plumbers, roadworkers and firemen but "TOO FAR" for soldiers...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My moral compass is set to OK for nurses & police women, but I draw the line at traffic wardens. (I'm not a masochist).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This isn't a dating site and folk on here certainly can't judge. Being honest.....or not lol I wouldn't even say if I was married. Who cares we're not here to find a potential spouse. "

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By *mberbCouple over a year ago

Lothians

short and curly of it is you play with a mans woman you have to ask is she worth the grief if you get found out and yes that works both ways. we are on here as a couple and that's how we play! she wants to cheat for what ever reason then Leave its simple as that. If I wasn't happy for what ever reason I would Leave rather than cheat! yes this is the Male half here..Personally I would cut his balls off!

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

"short and curly of it is you play with a mans woman you have to ask is she worth the grief if you get found out and yes that works both ways. we are on here as a couple and that's how we play! she wants to cheat for what ever reason then Leave its simple as that. If I wasn't happy for what ever reason I would Leave rather than cheat! yes this is the Male half here..Personally I would cut his balls off! "
you would cut his balls off im taking it your meaning the guy your partner was cheating with so I kinda dont understand why you would blame the guy when your commitment is with your partner

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"short and curly of it is you play with a mans woman you have to ask is she worth the grief if you get found out and yes that works both ways. we are on here as a couple and that's how we play! she wants to cheat for what ever reason then Leave its simple as that. If I wasn't happy for what ever reason I would Leave rather than cheat! yes this is the Male half here..Personally I would cut his balls off! you would cut his balls off im taking it your meaning the guy your partner was cheating with so I kinda dont understand why you would blame the guy when your commitment is with your partner"

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"short and curly of it is you play with a mans woman you have to ask is she worth the grief if you get found out and yes that works both ways. we are on here as a couple and that's how we play! she wants to cheat for what ever reason then Leave its simple as that. If I wasn't happy for what ever reason I would Leave rather than cheat! yes this is the Male half here..Personally I would cut his balls off! you would cut his balls off im taking it your meaning the guy your partner was cheating with so I kinda dont understand why you would blame the guy when your commitment is with your partner"

This

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By *eADevilCouple over a year ago

Blantyre

You can NEVER tell if your partner is cheating. Unless you have your partner followed 24/7. Next time wifey goes out ask yourself is she really just going to asda. Lol And since you dont know that answer whos balls you gonna cut off lol. Sooooo why should she just leave lol. You want to voice negative opinion then reap the replies .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And are you sure every meet yous have that the ppl arnt married ? They cud be CHEATERS or does that no matter as long as your getting your kicks ..me i dont care wat singles couples do on here its there concern but dont judge others as you dont live their lives ooh and your profile doesnt read very repectful of your own partner ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank u x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Absolutely no one elses business but yours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I havent read the above...

cheating is cheating..

I have met a cheater or two in a good few years..

I still think this thread would be different if a guy wrote it..

the thing I HATE about cheaters is that they have limited time and of course pretty uncontrollable at times...

not saying I wont/dont play with them(and I need no stories)...

I'd be honest and say..make it fucking easier for yourself and leave your partner...and we are not talking about some single affair in some of the cases , we are talking about having sex with many people..I doubt any of that can be said as looking for an emotional attachment.

ask your partner...in any manner..."can I cheat on you if (insert reasons), and I'm really horny"

expect what YOU would expect if they asked you the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think as long as your honest at start then it's up to other person if they want to get involved with you, I personally wouldn't get involved with someone married again as it brought nothing but trouble to my door.

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By *has like usMan over a year ago

east kilbride

I was initially on fab as a "cheater" have had the moral "police" the whiter than white ones, tut tutting, they were so happy etc, shouldn't be on here, talk to your partner instead of being here, utter bull, as previously stated, walk a mile in another man's (or woman's) shoes,

Then feel free to spout your s##t, OP, ditch the butch and enjoy, you were honest from the start x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I havent read the above...

cheating is cheating..

I have met a cheater or two in a good few years..

I still think this thread would be different if a guy wrote it..

the thing I HATE about cheaters is that they have limited time and of course pretty uncontrollable at times...

not saying I wont/dont play with them(and I need no stories)...

ask your partner...in any manner..."can I cheat on you if (insert reasons), and I'm really horny"

expect what YOU would expect if they asked you the same."

Sums it up perfectly. It really would be different if a guy wrote it AND yeah why doest she just ask if she can have sex with other guys and see the response

Plus its harder when you know the guy....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Honesty is best policy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Be nice to people. Pay your taxes. Floss if you have teeth left. Everything else is your own business. Enjoy your fabbing."

Love it lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanx for all of ur opinions I appreciate it. It's helped me make a few decisions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not directed at OP, just general observations.

I love it when people say they have their reason. It pretty much boils down to...they want to have their cake and eat it. I think it stems from being really selfish and only caring about yourself and your needs.

Ultimately, you should be open and honest with your partner and try to work thinks out. Build a relationship that works for you both. If that can't be achieved then call it a day and move on.

If you get caught the effects can be devastating and scar the victim with serious trust issues, which last a life time.

It's not all black and white and shit happens. But it's how you decide to deal with it, says a lot about you as a person. Being open and honest, walking the harder path, often produces the best outcomes!

We personally like to know if someone is cheating. As why should we share if your not lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Cool x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What do you do that day when you chat to somebody that then clicks who you are and knows the hubby you are cheating on? Surely that eventual outcome musta crossed your mind??"

That thought has but also if someone says they r ok with it then why would they then go ahead and tell ur hubby especially if they wanted to meet and have fun in the first place

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By *heekyguy2Man over a year ago

Local

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

I'm confused. At the beginning of this post you state husband doesn't know you're on here, but then later you say your husband is ok with it...?

I'd say if you are seeing ppl behind his back it's cheating. If he's ok with it then it's not.

As far as the chat you had with this person, clearly they have their own issues to deal with! Lol

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By *magine all the peopleCouple over a year ago

Perth

It's messing with fire, any kind of cheating. It's as simple as that.

As others have said, take the hard route, talk to your hubby and be honest, or leave him.

Finding out the person you love is messing around with other people can have horrendous consequences. Messing around can have horrendous consequences for you too.

Most of us have probably been in your shoes to some degree, and probably most of us have been cheated on so judging your actions would be hypocrisy. No judgement is intended in this, but what you are doing will cause hurt to others and you will get hurt yourself too. That's not good. The jealous lover will expose you, hubby will find out somehow or you'll simply become distant, and fall apart. Lots of pain for a quick shag! If you have kids, that makes it even harder but be honest, and talk to hubby. If he loves you, he may set you free

Wishing you well, however things turn out.

Bob and Louise xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

I'm confused. At the beginning of this post you state husband doesn't know you're on here, but then later you say your husband is ok with it...?

I'd say if you are seeing ppl behind his back it's cheating. If he's ok with it then it's not.

As far as the chat you had with this person, clearly they have their own issues to deal with! Lol

I didn't say my husband was OK with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's messing with fire, any kind of cheating. It's as simple as that.

As others have said, take the hard route, talk to your hubby and be honest, or leave him.

Finding out the person you love is messing around with other people can have horrendous consequences. Messing around can have horrendous consequences for you too.

Wishing you well, however things turn out.

Bob and Louise xx"

Thank u for ur opinion x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op the question i ask is if your husband finds out your on here cheating then throws you out & wants a divorce, will you go for his pension & clean him out? Please remember your cheating so forget the joke of a law as the law is 100% wrong.

I'm not judging but have to ask

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

Yes it's cheating. No you don't have to explain if you don't want to. The reason they might call you a cheat when you see another - maybe cos they've got feelings for you....

Anyhow take care out there, and consider having a chat with hubby if you haven't already, or you could end up in all sorts of trouble. Example, what if a meet ruffed you up? These things happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Popcorn Anyone ?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Popcorn Anyone ?

"
what flavour?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Popcorn Anyone ?

what flavour?

Salted please.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Am no sharing ..

Ive been took advantage of before .

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Am no sharing ..

Ive been took advantage of before .

"
spoil sport

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Popcorn Anyone ?

Lmao

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Popcorn Anyone ?

Lmao "

You calm doon ...

I said Popcorn ..No Cockporn .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op the question i ask is if your husband finds out your on here cheating then throws you out & wants a divorce, will you go for his pension & clean him out? Please remember your cheating so forget the joke of a law as the law is 100% wrong.

I'm not judging but have to ask"

Here here! Bets are he finds out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not judging but have to ask

Here here! Bets are he finds out

Cheers mucker & yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all have our reasons for looking for extra fun, we are human and have needs, if we cant find them in every day life then look further, i personally have no regrets. Sx

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By *eADevilCouple over a year ago

Blantyre

What if the OP is in a total loveless marriage where hubby is a total shit to her but great with the kids. So the OP stays for now to give the kids a mummy and daddy till thier old enough. Then yes feckin right if he throws her out shes going after half of everything.Dont judge people unless your privvy to every detail of which im %100 sure your not in this case. Notice how its all "SINGLE" guys that like to judge her on here. Ps its He Devil typing here.

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By *mojeeCouple over a year ago

Dunfermline

Each to their own we don judge or care if someone is cheating.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

" What if the OP is in a total loveless marriage where hubby is a total shit to her but great with the kids. So the OP stays for now to give the kids a mummy and daddy till thier old enough. Then yes feckin right if he throws her out shes going after half of everything.Dont judge people unless your privvy to every detail of which im %100 sure your not in this case. Notice how its all "SINGLE" guys that like to judge her on here. Ps its He Devil typing here."
okay another spin what if its her who actually shit?

Him thats great with kids?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

seeing other folk. This is a swingers site isn't it?"
. Nothing to do with anybody ur body ur life end of .what u do and who with is up to you enjoy x

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By *eADevilCouple over a year ago

Blantyre

" What if the OP is in a total loveless marriage where hubby is a total shit to her but great with the kids. So the OP stays for now to give the kids a mummy and daddy till thier old enough. Then yes feckin right if he throws her out shes going after half of everything.Dont judge people unless your privvy to every detail of which im %100 sure your not in this case. Notice how its all "SINGLE" guys that like to judge her on here. Ps its He Devil typing here.okay another spin what if its her who actually shit?

Him thats great with kids?"

Exactly naughty thats why we can never judge people.

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By *ithardscotMan over a year ago

Kelty

I reckon as long as you are up front and honest about your status nobody has the right to criticise you.

People have their reasons, and they don't have to give them to strangers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

However you dress it up, youre still cheating and cheats deserve everything bad they get.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people are happy with all aspects of the their relationship and marriage except Sex. Anyone who judges without taking time to listen or understand is ignorant.

It's not nice but only based on society's views. Not all cheats are bad people, and some could do well to remember it.

I've known people who cheat to be a lot nicer than people who are single.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The OP asked for advice, and has pretty much got some nasty condemnation. No one here can justify their criticism, because we are all on a swingers site, and I'm pretty sure the outside world sees swingers and so called cheaters as pretty much the same thing. You only have to look at how the tabloids present both with their lurid exposes to see that.

Put simply, people in glass houses, and all that.

Leave the OP alone, unless you have something constructive to offer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

However you dress it up, youre still cheating and cheats deserve everything bad they get. "
wow....tad harsh but hey its your opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's no ones business. I never ask, and I don't want to know. Many people have reasons. I live by this moto. What other people think about me, or say about me is none of my business. Why lose sleep over someone else's thoughts??

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The OP asked for advice, and has pretty much got some nasty condemnation. No one here can justify their criticism, because we are all on a swingers site, and I'm pretty sure the outside world sees swingers and so called cheaters as pretty much the same thing. You only have to look at how the tabloids present both with their lurid exposes to see that.

Put simply, people in glass houses, and all that.

Leave the OP alone, unless you have something constructive to offer."

Thanx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Put simply, people in glass houses, and all that.

Leave the OP alone, unless you have something constructive to offer.

Thanx"

You're welcome.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people are happy with all aspects of the their relationship and marriage except Sex. Anyone who judges without taking time to listen or understand is ignorant.

It's not nice but only based on society's views. Not all cheats are bad people, and some could do well to remember it.

I've known people who cheat to be a lot nicer than people who are single. "

I resonate with this without judging anyone else's view. Life and in particular relationships are complicated. This is an adult site and this forum is for ADULTS to explore ADULT issues in an ADULT way. Ergo constructive advice and exploring different avenues of thought on how to deal with such issues should be ADULT and not judgemental and insulting...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Couldn't have said it better myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Couldn't have said it better myself

Thank ya kind sir... and OP, I do hope some of the thoughts up there WERE Constructive and helpful X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people are happy with all aspects of the their relationship and marriage except Sex. Anyone who judges without taking time to listen or understand is ignorant.

It's not nice but only based on society's views. Not all cheats are bad people, and some could do well to remember it.

I've known people who cheat to be a lot nicer than people who are single.

Relationships are only complicated if you make it complicated. OP publicly hung her dirty washing out on here & by doing this allows people to freely pass comment. If OP thinks people have been harsh then she shouldn't have posted her comment. I think she's loving the attention

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people are happy with all aspects of the their relationship and marriage except Sex. Anyone who judges without taking time to listen or understand is ignorant.

It's not nice but only based on society's views. Not all cheats are bad people, and some could do well to remember it.

I've known people who cheat to be a lot nicer than people who are single.

That's a viewpoint that may be right or wrong, I'd only agree to disagree with you on your first statement. Yes, relationships SHOULD be straightforward but very often are not. I refer you to all of human history for my examples. Not only that, the OP was actually asking about someone she met here, someone with whom a "relationship" should be anything but complicated, someone who the became possessive, but it's brought up all sorts of thoughts on infidelity in general. That's good because the exchange of thoughts expands our mind and our understanding. Closed minds and attituded do not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Attitudes*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Put simply, people in glass houses, and all that.

Leave the OP alone, unless you have something constructive to offer."

If the OP truly wanted left alone, then she wouldn't have posted a very personal thread about her being a cheat that was clearly going to get lots of attention and split lots of opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people are happy with all aspects of the their relationship and marriage except Sex. Anyone who judges without taking time to listen or understand is ignorant.

It's not nice but only based on society's views. Not all cheats are bad people, and some could do well to remember it.

I've known people who cheat to be a lot nicer than people who are single.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP. Do what you like.

You have your reasons. Always be honest up front and they can't use it as a stick later

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aw feck .No popcorn left ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Some people are happy with all aspects of the their relationship and marriage except Sex. Anyone who judges without taking time to listen or understand is ignorant.

It's not nice but only based on society's views. Not all cheats are bad people, and some could do well to remember it.

I've known people who cheat to be a lot nicer than people who are single.

Can I just say I'm not loving the attention.

I only wanted ppl's views and didn't expect it to turn into a soap opera.

I'm not insulted by anything on here. We r all adults. So hope everyone finds what they are looking for on here. Take care x

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By *heekyguy2Man over a year ago

Local

" It might not be to everyone's liking but if you specify at the start of a series of meets with someone that you're married and they are ok with it, then why do they start calling you a cheat because you are seeing other folk.

I didn't say my husband was OK with it"

You do at this part of your message above.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I didn't say my husband was OK with it

You do at this part of your message above."

I believe she was citing a hypothetical situation. That's how I read it.

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By *eADevilCouple over a year ago

Blantyre

I didn't say my husband was OK with it

You do at this part of your message above.

I believe she was citing a hypothetical situation. That's how I read it."

No she means the guy she met on fab was not happy about her meeting other men .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I didn't say my husband was OK with it

You do at this part of your message above.

I believe she was citing a hypothetical situation. That's how I read it.

No she means the guy she met on fab was not happy about her meeting other men ."

And that said (Fabguy) was ok with her being married.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I didn't say my husband was OK with it

You do at this part of your message above.

I believe she was citing a hypothetical situation. That's how I read it.

No she means the guy she met on fab was not happy about her meeting other men .

And that said (Fabguy) was ok with her being married. "

We should mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I didn't say my husband was OK with it

You do at this part of your message above."

Ye I was referring to the fabguy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people are happy with all aspects of the their relationship and marriage except Sex. Anyone who judges without taking time to listen or understand is ignorant.

It's not nice but only based on society's views. Not all cheats are bad people, and some could do well to remember it.

I've known people who cheat to be a lot nicer than people who are single.

Can I just say I'm not loving the attention.

I only wanted ppl's views and didn't expect it to turn into a soap opera.

I'm not insulted by anything on here. We r all adults. So hope everyone finds what they are looking for on here. Take care x"

Well said Cuddly .....all you wanted was peoples views and opinions.

Thats what the forum is set up for .I bet you wished you never asked now.

Whatever you do on here is no ones business but your own.

Adult swinging site for consenting NSA sex.

Ive been on the site since it started and im experienced to know and tell you in those years people have done a damn site worse.

Do what feels right for you.

If ya like popcorn ..i dont mind sharing it with ya

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why would peoples views and opinions matter to her anyway? Why even ask?? Shes actively doing it regardless. Interesting to note she has made a few generic replies here and there but never answered what would she do when her hubby found out (oh hypothetical...of course!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seriously...too many folk on here are more interested in other folks buisness than their own?

If someone

Lol "

I find that some women are appalled at the thought of meeting a married man but suddenly become less principled if its a meet with a married woman .... funny that. ????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just wanting people's thoughts.

Its entirely your choice and you live with it. If it bothers anyone else then they are fully entitled to refrain from contacting you.

Your circumstances, your choices. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seriously...too many folk on here are more interested in other folks buisness than their own?

If someone

Lol

I find that some women are appalled at the thought of meeting a married man but suddenly become less principled if its a meet with a married woman .... funny that. ????"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why would peoples views and opinions matter to her anyway? Why even ask?? Shes actively doing it regardless. Interesting to note she has made a few generic replies here and there but never answered what would she do when her hubby found out (oh hypothetical...of course!)"

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hindsight is a wonderful thing in ANY given situation

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Some people are happy with all aspects of the their relationship and marriage except Sex. Anyone who judges without taking time to listen or understand is ignorant.

It's not nice but only based on society's views. Not all cheats are bad people, and some could do well to remember it.

I've known people who cheat to be a lot nicer than people who are single.

Can I just say I'm not loving the attention.

I only wanted ppl's views and didn't expect it to turn into a soap opera.

I'm not insulted by anything on here. We r all adults. So hope everyone finds what they are looking for on here. Take care x

Well said Cuddly .....all you wanted was peoples views and opinions.

Thats what the forum is set up for .I bet you wished you never asked now.

Whatever you do on here is no ones business but your own.

Adult swinging site for consenting NSA sex.

Ive been on the site since it started and im experienced to know and tell you in those years people have done a damn site worse.

Do what feels right for you.

If ya like popcorn ..i dont mind sharing it with ya

Lol ye I like popcorn thanx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with. "

Indeed and there's nothing wrong with seeking an opinion here, at least here you have people who can comment from a Swinging context... that's something you can't get from your vanilla friends x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with.

Indeed and there's nothing wrong with seeking an opinion here, at least here you have people who can comment from a Swinging context... that's something you can't get from your vanilla friends x"

Cheers x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with. "

Deal with? Thats your answer?lol how do you think he would "deal with" it? Wow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with.

Deal with? Thats your answer?lol how do you think he would "deal with" it? Wow

She can't possibly know that, if you feel strongly about the issue and wanted to ask the OP about potential scenarios I think there's better ways to do so my friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with.

Deal with? Thats your answer?lol how do you think he would "deal with" it? Wow

That's actually just our business lol is it not. Think u need to calm down a wee bit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with.

Deal with? Thats your answer?lol how do you think he would "deal with" it? Wow

That's actually just our business lol is it not. Think u need to calm down a wee bit"

Ignore it. Folk have all sorts of reasons for cheating, some have selfish reasons some have reasons no one will understand until they are in that position. I suggest he is of the latter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with.

Deal with? Thats your answer?lol how do you think he would "deal with" it? Wow

That's actually just our business lol is it not. Think u need to calm down a wee bit

Ignore it. Folk have all sorts of reasons for cheating, some have selfish reasons some have reasons no one will understand until they are in that position. I suggest he is of the latter"

Or he knows the guy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with.

Deal with? Thats your answer?lol how do you think he would "deal with" it? Wow

That's actually just our business lol is it not. Think u need to calm down a wee bit

Ignore it. Folk have all sorts of reasons for cheating, some have selfish reasons some have reasons no one will understand until they are in that position. I suggest he is of the latter

Or he knows the guy?"

Indeed. A possibility Sir.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep

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By *andsCouple over a year ago

Edin

In answer to your questions ... is it cheating or something else, it's most definitely cheating. Do you need to explain why to people, you most definitely don't!

When you ask peoples opinions you get some that are constructive, some argumentative, some helpful and some not so ... the ONLY persons opinion that should have any bearing on what you do is your own.

If fab works for you and you are happy to continue then that's your choice, you don't need approval from people you don't know. Some people will meet you knowing you are married others will not but that goes for everything else like bi guys or fuck buddies or unverified profiles, it all comes down to personal choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with.

Deal with? Thats your answer?lol how do you think he would "deal with" it? Wow

She can't possibly know that, if you feel strongly about the issue and wanted to ask the OP about potential scenarios I think there's better ways to do so my friend.

I would if she unblocked me my friend

Why im blocked? Who knows. Never gave her any abuse etc. Sent friendly mails. Her free choice of course

The blocking is, as you say immaterial, what I meant was it would be more constructive to ask the OP HERE if she had considered various possible outcomes in a more structured helpful way... sorry but your comments just sounded judgemental to me... but again you are entitled to your opinion and that's fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In answer to your questions ... is it cheating or something else, it's most definitely cheating. Do you need to explain why to people, you most definitely don't!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with.

Deal with? Thats your answer?lol how do you think he would "deal with" it? Wow

She can't possibly know that, if you feel strongly about the issue and wanted to ask the OP about potential scenarios I think there's better ways to do so my friend.

I would if she unblocked me my friend

Why im blocked? Who knows. Never gave her any abuse etc. Sent friendly mails. Her free choice of course

Why thank you lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with.

Deal with? Thats your answer?lol how do you think he would "deal with" it? Wow

She can't possibly know that, if you feel strongly about the issue and wanted to ask the OP about potential scenarios I think there's better ways to do so my friend.

I would if she unblocked me my friend

Why im blocked? Who knows. Never gave her any abuse etc. Sent friendly mails. Her free choice of course

Why thank you lol "

Anno am pure dead nice eh lolol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with.

Deal with? Thats your answer?lol how do you think he would "deal with" it? Wow

She can't possibly know that, if you feel strongly about the issue and wanted to ask the OP about potential scenarios I think there's better ways to do so my friend.

I would if she unblocked me my friend

Why im blocked? Who knows. Never gave her any abuse etc. Sent friendly mails. Her free choice of course

Why thank you lol

Anno am pure dead nice eh lolol

Incredibly haha its rare to find such niceness in the forums. I can go to bed now content

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By *eADevilCouple over a year ago

Blantyre

Oh do you know what you guys disgust me now your trying to bully thw lady by saying maybe we know the hubby , discusting guys , by all means voice your opinions on the subject but to then try to upset the OP by juvenile taunts and what if your hubby finds out scenarios totally pathetic!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh do you know what you guys disgust me now your trying to bully thw lady by saying maybe we know the hubby , discusting guys , by all means voice your opinions on the subject but to then try to upset the OP by juvenile taunts and what if your hubby finds out scenarios totally pathetic!!"

Well no it aint if you DO know the guy...juvenile by NOT saying? Hmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

In answer to ur persistence its something I would have to deal with.

Deal with? Thats your answer?lol how do you think he would "deal with" it? Wow

She can't possibly know that, if you feel strongly about the issue and wanted to ask the OP about potential scenarios I think there's better ways to do so my friend.

I would if she unblocked me my friend

Why im blocked? Who knows. Never gave her any abuse etc. Sent friendly mails. Her free choice of course

U r unblocked lol but I see that u blocked me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well no it aint if you DO know the guy...juvenile by NOT saying? Hmmmm"

Davedave I initially blocked u as u were making comments on here that u knew my hubby. So thought it best to do that. However I unblocked u like 2 days ago to try and talk to u about these comments on here but seen that u blocked me. I don't mean u any harm and I hope u get on well in whatever ur life holds in front of u x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Awww feckin ell ....

This story line should be on the Netflix Suggestions Thread..

So emotional ..So it is

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Awww feckin ell ....

This story line should be on the Netflix Suggestions Thread..

So emotional ..So it is

Pass the popcorn then lol

And the hankies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Awww feckin ell ....

This story line should be on the Netflix Suggestions Thread..

So emotional ..So it is

Pass the popcorn then lol

And the hankies"

This is just too much for me ..im filling up ...

with Popcorn i mean

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By *ero666Man over a year ago

fife

This is reading like mills and boon,I can see a meet happening,love is in the air

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is reading like mills and boon,I can see a meet happening,love is in the air "

Zero ..dont turn the pages to the last chapter ..Thats Cheating .

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By *ero666Man over a year ago

fife

"This is reading like mills and boon,I can see a meet happening,love is in the air

Zero ..dont turn the pages to the last chapter ..Thats Cheating .

I won't do that,I'm loving the build up

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This is reading like mills and boon,I can see a meet happening,love is in the air

Zero ..dont turn the pages to the last chapter ..Thats Cheating .

Ye but is it cheating?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't open that can of worms again!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's just another attention seeking person. Sure is full of them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's just another attention seeking person. Site is full of them.

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