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Is my profile okay?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello all you beautiful Fabbers.
I'm just over a week old now on Fab so please be gentle with me, lol.
I have already arranged to meet a beautiful couple in Cumbria next month so I must be doing something right, lol. Yay!
I want my profile to be the best it can be folks so any constructive criticism regarding it will be welcomed.
Thanks in advance,
Mwah,
Andy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Apart from the yay,s and mwahs dude if I was bi I would tap you it a very well written intelligent profile although in some parts it read like a advert on a :normal dating site: personally don't brag about meets ,though |
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Lose the the bit about being in a loving relationship. It makes it look like your cheating.
Each to there own but you won't do yourself any favours.
You say you are experienced in the scene but then have a bit about being mostly vanilla.
Can't accommodate. Not a major one but it will tie into cheating bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But long for a guy
And I'm sorta put off with what you like sexually
Find a chick 1st then tell her
Dom/switch stuff does nothing for me personally but
Apart from more clear pics
Its a good profile  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lose the the bit about being in a loving relationship. It makes it look like your cheating.
Each to there own but you won't do yourself any favours.
You say you are experienced in the scene but then have a bit about being mostly vanilla.
Can't accommodate. Not a major one but it will tie into cheating bit. "
Thanks for taking the time to reply. All feedback is useful and I truly appreciate it.
Regarding my relationship I am simply being honest. If I was cheating I wouldn't mention my lady. Its because she is an enormous part of my life that I have mentioned her in my profile.
My concern is that if I dont mention her in my profile people may then question my integrity when at some point I do mention her. I am genuine and have nothing to hide so for now I feel it is only correct to mention my relationship.
I do take your point though, it may keep some people away from me, but my integrity matters more to me than connecting with everybody on the site.
My experience is life experience. I have lived for the most part a hippy lifestyle and have swapped partners, threesomes etc. However on the occasions its happened I never thought of it as swinging. It was just fun and I never labelled it.
As for vanilla, I guess that all of my relationships apart from one began sexually in that fashion and gradually became kinkier.
I know I am not here forming relationships, so perhaps vanilla will go out the window soon enough, lol.
You may have a point therefore and I shall think about vanilla staying on the profile.
As for cannot accomodate it is again simply true. I have absolute permission to be here but my partner doesn't want to play and doesn't want her nose rubbing in my life away from home. Our home is our family home. I simply cannot accomodate.
Finally, of course some folk's will think I am cheating. I cannot prove this is not the case. Besides I care not to be everybody's cup of tea. I am me, I know I am honest and that is all that matters. x
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You look like a nice guy but I'm my opinion, you come across as a bit pretentious and a teeny but desperate! The profile text is a bit OTT... I don't think any of that is intentional though. Please don't take offence x
However, you seem like a nice guy and your pics are pretty cool and I hope you do well on here! Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Aww, thanks for the reply.
I'm not pretentious really. I have a somewhat flamboyant personality. I think my friends would say that I'm a character.
I guess this is what shows in my profile. It's just me, lol!
I am intrigued by what exactly makes me look desperate though. I thought I made it clear that I aint interested in meeting everybody. Quality not quantity!
Please if you have a minute could you expand and show me the desperation. I am not and so don't want this to come through in my profile. Yikes!
Thanks again for taking the time. x |
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"Aww, thanks for the reply.
I'm not pretentious really. I have a somewhat flamboyant personality. I think my friends would say that I'm a character.
I guess this is what shows in my profile. It's just me, lol!
I am intrigued by what exactly makes me look desperate though. I thought I made it clear that I aint interested in meeting everybody. Quality not quantity!
Please if you have a minute could you expand and show me the desperation. I am not and so don't want this to come through in my profile. Yikes!
Thanks again for taking the time. x "
No probs! Maybe "desperate" is the wrong word but it does seem you are trying too hard.
You're clearly intelligent and a nice chap so cut down the profile text and just talk about you and what you have to offer. It looks like you're repeating yourself a bit so just focus on you and what you're looking for x |
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"Lose the the bit about being in a loving relationship. It makes it look like your cheating.
Each to there own but you won't do yourself any favours.
You say you are experienced in the scene but then have a bit about being mostly vanilla.
Can't accommodate. Not a major one but it will tie into cheating bit.
Thanks for taking the time to reply. All feedback is useful and I truly appreciate it.
Regarding my relationship I am simply being honest. If I was cheating I wouldn't mention my lady. Its because she is an enormous part of my life that I have mentioned her in my profile.
My concern is that if I dont mention her in my profile people may then question my integrity when at some point I do mention her. I am genuine and have nothing to hide so for now I feel it is only correct to mention my relationship.
I do take your point though, it may keep some people away from me, but my integrity matters more to me than connecting with everybody on the site.
My experience is life experience. I have lived for the most part a hippy lifestyle and have swapped partners, threesomes etc. However on the occasions its happened I never thought of it as swinging. It was just fun and I never labelled it.
As for vanilla, I guess that all of my relationships apart from one began sexually in that fashion and gradually became kinkier.
I know I am not here forming relationships, so perhaps vanilla will go out the window soon enough, lol.
You may have a point therefore and I shall think about vanilla staying on the profile.
As for cannot accomodate it is again simply true. I have absolute permission to be here but my partner doesn't want to play and doesn't want her nose rubbing in my life away from home. Our home is our family home. I simply cannot accomodate.
Finally, of course some folk's will think I am cheating. I cannot prove this is not the case. Besides I care not to be everybody's cup of tea. I am me, I know I am honest and that is all that matters. x
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It's your decision to disclose if you are married our not and I admire your honesty however most couples would want to speak to the female first before anything is arranged. If they can't do that within the first few messages they will normally reject you.
Causes you stress and your wife having to explain to a complete stranger it's OK for you to play and then there is still no guarantee they will meet.
I'm only going by our experiences everybody's different |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for that.
I will be home in a couple of days and will take the time to tweak my profile.
Would you be willing to look over it for me when I have trimmed it down please?
Andy. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's your decision to disclose if you are married our not and I admire your honesty however most couples would want to speak to the female first before anything is arranged. If they can't do that within the first few messages they will normally reject you.
Causes you stress and your wife having to explain to a complete stranger it's OK for you to play and then there is still no guarantee they will meet.
I'm only going by our experiences everybody's different "
I do understand what you are saying entirely.
My partner loves me enough to give this freedom but does not want this for herself.
She also wouldn't want to talk to random strangers about our agreement either.
I recognise the dilemma clearly.
I just aint willing to lie to folks. If this sees me blocked as a suspected cheat then so be it.
Thanks for taking the time to respond. I appreciate it. x |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
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"Lose the the bit about being in a loving relationship. It makes it look like your cheating.
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I completely disagree. We should be encouraging people to be honest on their profile, not advising them how to hide information just because it may reduce their chances of getting a meet. |
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"Thanks for that.
I will be home in a couple of days and will take the time to tweak my profile.
Would you be willing to look over it for me when I have trimmed it down please?
Andy. x"
I don't mind looking at it but this is only my opinion. We're a couple so we are probably looking for something different than single women....
everyone is looking for something different at the end of the day and I was just offering an option on the question you asked x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lose the the bit about being in a loving relationship. It makes it look like your cheating.
I completely disagree. We should be encouraging people to be honest on their profile, not advising them how to hide information just because it may reduce their chances of getting a meet."
Yay, at last somebody saying what I think!
I genuinely don't care too much if I'm knocked back by some folks who suspect me of cheating.
The decision my partner and myself came to was a painful one but practical due to our situation.
My love for my partner means that I cannot deny her existence.
When people finally meet me and learn a little of my story they will know to be genuine.
Until then all that matters is that I know I am genuine.
Thanks so much for being on the same wavelength.
Honesty must surely be the number one priority if we are all to play safely with each other. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks for that.
I will be home in a couple of days and will take the time to tweak my profile.
Would you be willing to look over it for me when I have trimmed it down please?
Andy. x
I don't mind looking at it but this is only my opinion. We're a couple so we are probably looking for something different than single women....
everyone is looking for something different at the end of the day and I was just offering an option on the question you asked x"
I fully understand opinions are only that.
I asked simply because your feedback seems considered. x |
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"Lose the the bit about being in a loving relationship. It makes it look like your cheating.
I completely disagree. We should be encouraging people to be honest on their profile, not advising them how to hide information just because it may reduce their chances of getting a meet.
Yay, at last somebody saying what I think!
I genuinely don't care too much if I'm knocked back by some folks who suspect me of cheating.
The decision my partner and myself came to was a painful one but practical due to our situation.
My love for my partner means that I cannot deny her existence.
When people finally meet me and learn a little of my story they will know to be genuine.
Until then all that matters is that I know I am genuine.
Thanks so much for being on the same wavelength.
Honesty must surely be the number one priority if we are all to play safely with each other. x"
Why involve complete strangers that you may meet into something that they might not fully understand or have no Intrest in what so ever.
We certainly don't want to know about your personal circumstances or expect a explanation to why you are on the site.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lose the the bit about being in a loving relationship. It makes it look like your cheating.
I completely disagree. We should be encouraging people to be honest on their profile, not advising them how to hide information just because it may reduce their chances of getting a meet.
Yay, at last somebody saying what I think!
I genuinely don't care too much if I'm knocked back by some folks who suspect me of cheating.
The decision my partner and myself came to was a painful one but practical due to our situation.
My love for my partner means that I cannot deny her existence.
When people finally meet me and learn a little of my story they will know to be genuine.
Until then all that matters is that I know I am genuine.
Thanks so much for being on the same wavelength.
Honesty must surely be the number one priority if we are all to play safely with each other. x
Why involve complete strangers that you may meet into something that they might not fully understand or have no Intrest in what so ever.
We certainly don't want to know about your personal circumstances or expect a explanation to why you are on the site.
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"Lose the the bit about being in a loving relationship. It makes it look like your cheating.
I completely disagree. We should be encouraging people to be honest on their profile, not advising them how to hide information just because it may reduce their chances of getting a meet."
Honesty and full disclosure will never happen on an open website like this. For one that's the beauty of anonimity for users.
The OP has asked for a review of his profile. In his comments he has mentioned that his wife does not want to know what he gets up to and it would become stressful for him and possibly her having to answer questions on why he is allowed to play solo.
By removing the paragraph he comes accross as just a normal single guy.
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
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Honesty and full disclosure will never happen on an open website like this. For one that's the beauty of anonimity for users.
The OP has asked for a review of his profile. In his comments he has mentioned that his wife does not want to know what he gets up to and it would become stressful for him and possibly her having to answer questions on why he is allowed to play solo.
By removing the paragraph he comes accross as just a normal single guy.
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But OP does appear to have been honest and you're encouraging him to be dishonest. This doesn't make any sense to me. I always think when these questions pop up about profile reviews we should be thinking of the people they may meet, as well as the person asking the question, and I'm sure most people prefer honesty in terms of someone's relationship status. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to agree with LandA honesty is always better then hiding the truth .... and we think your profile is fine .. bit long but fine .... with some nice pics .
.. so if you just be yourself (open and honest) I'm sure you will get on fine and have lots of fun here |
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Honesty and full disclosure will never happen on an open website like this. For one that's the beauty of anonimity for users.
The OP has asked for a review of his profile. In his comments he has mentioned that his wife does not want to know what he gets up to and it would become stressful for him and possibly her having to answer questions on why he is allowed to play solo.
By removing the paragraph he comes accross as just a normal single guy.
But OP does appear to have been honest and you're encouraging him to be dishonest. This doesn't make any sense to me. I always think when these questions pop up about profile reviews we should be thinking of the people they may meet, as well as the person asking the question, and I'm sure most people prefer honesty in terms of someone's relationship status."
The honestly bit is irrelevant.
He is on here playing and meeting as a single guy looking for females and couples.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have to agree with LandA honesty is always better then hiding the truth .... and we think your profile is fine .. bit long but fine .... with some nice pics .
.. so if you just be yourself (open and honest) I'm sure you will get on fine and have lots of fun here "
Thanks for your response.
It would be simply disrespectful to my partner and to the folks on this site if I didn't mention I am in a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Blimey,
I opened a can of worms there didn't I, lol.
My final word is this-
I will be considered a cheat by some people and others will not come near me because I am attached plain and simple.
However I feel that the right people will arrive into my life as a result of this honesty.
I'm simply not here to sleep with as many people as possible. I would simply like select liaisons with the right people.
Nuff said!
Thanks to everybody that has taken time to respond.
I appreciate it, Andy |
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