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By *gag001 OP Couple
over a year ago
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We arranged to meet a guy for a drink with the understanding things would go further if there was mutual attraction. We always make an effort to look our best in this situation but the guy turned up wearing joggers, tshirt and baseball cap. We got serious attitude back when we said the meet wouldn't go any further one of them being 'I was only doing you a favour after all'. What do you think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Way back in the beginning myself n hubby met a cpl in town...she obviously just finished work...still had her I'd card round her neck the guy had a rugby jersey on with half his dinner down it..we left pretty soon then got a txt saying they had a great night without us ended up at a casino where they both got pissed and got thrown out...yeah sounded as if we missed a hoot
Dodged a bullet I'd say |
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"We arranged to meet a guy for a drink with the understanding things would go further if there was mutual attraction. We always make an effort to look our best in this situation but the guy turned up wearing joggers, tshirt and baseball cap. We got serious attitude back when we said the meet wouldn't go any further one of them being 'I was only doing you a favour after all'. What do you think?"
You're a stunning looking lady Mrs A, guy needs a check up from the neck up for not making the effort.. his loss  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OK stick of dynamite here but there have been threads where ladies say that they dress how they want to for a social/meet and if a guy starts telling them what to wear they don't chat/meet
Perhaps he dressed how he feels comfortable?
Perhaps he is always very casual?
Perhaps he doesn't place the same emphasis on his dress as others?
So based on that it didn't go any further and that's what a social is for  |
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By *gag001 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"OK stick of dynamite here but there have been threads where ladies say that they dress how they want to for a social/meet and if a guy starts telling them what to wear they don't chat/meet
Perhaps he dressed how he feels comfortable?
Perhaps he is always very casual?
Perhaps he doesn't place the same emphasis on his dress as others?
So based on that it didn't go any further and that's what a social is for "
Totally.
However you don't come back like a petulant child in a sweetie shop when you're told you can't get the sweetie you wanted. Saying it's all rubbish and you didn't really want it anyway.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK stick of dynamite here but there have been threads where ladies say that they dress how they want to for a social/meet and if a guy starts telling them what to wear they don't chat/meet
Perhaps he dressed how he feels comfortable?
Perhaps he is always very casual?
Perhaps he doesn't place the same emphasis on his dress as others?
So based on that it didn't go any further and that's what a social is for
Totally.
However you don't come back like a petulant child in a sweetie shop when you're told you can't get the sweetie you wanted. Saying it's all rubbish and you didn't really want it anyway. "
Definitely
I would see it as another 'filter' |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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There was another thread recently about how people like to dress.
Maybe if you got to know the guy, he could be suited/booted in work hours, but likes to dress casually otherwise. There's nothing wrong with that.
First impressions count, but that's why I prefer chatting first, get to know the personality, then who cares what they wear if we get on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think smart casual is the way to go for a social meet... I certainly dont go in my best clobber or sexy underwear. I want to feel comfortable and relaxed.
If he likes me enough like that to want to take things further then he will like whats on offer in the bedroom  |
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"OK stick of dynamite here but there have been threads where ladies say that they dress how they want to for a social/meet and if a guy starts telling them what to wear they don't chat/meet
Perhaps he dressed how he feels comfortable?
Perhaps he is always very casual?
Perhaps he doesn't place the same emphasis on his dress as others?
So based on that it didn't go any further and that's what a social is for
Totally.
However you don't come back like a petulant child in a sweetie shop when you're told you can't get the sweetie you wanted. Saying it's all rubbish and you didn't really want it anyway. "
I have a question about the guy. During your chats prior to the social did you get any inkling that he was a joggers and t-shirt kinda guy? Was he better dressed in any of his pics?
I'm not questioning your judgment, just curious as he must've impressed enough in online/phone chat to warrant a social.
Some less intelligent guys put in the effort to get that all important first meet, thinking all they need to do is turn up and play, more to pitied than scorned. You may have been pissed about it for the rest of the evening, but in the morning you're fine, and he's still an ignorant tool
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By (user no longer on site)
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Unless he was Gerrard Butler,in pristine joggies and crisp tight white tee (*takes a steadying breath) and had charm, wit etc... then I agree with the forum opinion... you dodged a bullet... sometimes folk talk the talk but don't walk the walk.... put it down to a wtf/lol memory and move on  |
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By *auradCouple
over a year ago
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"Maybe they were his lucky joggers and baseball cap! "
Not so lucky anymore!
We like our socials in a nice bar where anyone dressed like this guy would stand out for the wrong reasons.
For us a mutual attraction is necessary and first impressions count.
How this guy has reacted to the reject just confirms to us that you made absolutely the right decision, I'm sure it wasn't pleasant but far better to do that than go through with something you weren't convinced with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unless he was Gerrard Butler,in pristine joggies and crisp tight white tee (*takes a steadying breath) and had charm, wit etc... then I agree with the forum opinion... you dodged a bullet... sometimes folk talk the talk but don't walk the walk.... put it down to a wtf/lol memory and move on "
Can't say I remember that meet 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would always make the effort to look my best for a meet but sometimes dressing smart but casual feels good too.
There is a time and place for joggers and a t-shirt but certainly not for a meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
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We always make an effort for anything we do regarding meets or socials. First impressions are very important. it goes all the way back to profiles. Crap profile and you get nil replies or interest.
Yes each to their own I agree but the question is why the hell wouldn't you dress to impress? It's supposed to be sexy and exciting. Surely that's what it's supposed to be about.
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By *gag001 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"By chance was it a younger guy the "rules" of decent attire are very diffrent across the generations. And for lots of folk the gym look is perfectly acceptable."
He wasn't much younger than us and what he was wearing looked like it could've done with being ditched a couple of years ago. I agree that 'casual and comfortable' is more than acceptable for meets but I don't think his clothes were either!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We arranged to meet a guy for a drink with the understanding things would go further if there was mutual attraction. We always make an effort to look our best in this situation but the guy turned up wearing joggers, tshirt and baseball cap. We got serious attitude back when we said the meet wouldn't go any further one of them being 'I was only doing you a favour after all'. What do you think?"
Dress to impress.lol doesnt mean suited and booted , but atleast make an effort. Joggies and a t shirt!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would always make the effort to look my best for a meet but sometimes dressing smart but casual feels good too.
There is a time and place for joggers and a t-shirt but certainly not for a meet.
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I have to disagree here for a social meet. Depends.on your job etc and hobbies. I think gym gear very smart and sitting have a cuppa in Starbucks or a garden centre in gym gear isn't a problem. But we all have our own taste at the end of the day and what suits one won't suit another. Now for hotel mland club meets I do go to town! |
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"I would always make the effort to look my best for a meet but sometimes dressing smart but casual feels good too.
There is a time and place for joggers and a t-shirt but certainly not for a meet.
I have to disagree here for a social meet. Depends.on your job etc and hobbies. I think gym gear very smart and sitting have a cuppa in Starbucks or a garden centre in gym gear isn't a problem. But we all have our own taste at the end of the day and what suits one won't suit another. Now for hotel mland club meets I do go to town!"
Tobe honest i think youd look god in anything.lol |
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"We arranged to meet a guy for a drink with the understanding things would go further if there was mutual attraction. We always make an effort to look our best in this situation but the guy turned up wearing joggers, tshirt and baseball cap. We got serious attitude back when we said the meet wouldn't go any further one of them being 'I was only doing you a favour after all'. What do you think?"
YOU NEVER GET A SECOND CHANCE TO MAKE A FIRST IMPRESSION. |
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"I would always make the effort to look my best for a meet but sometimes dressing smart but casual feels good too.
There is a time and place for joggers and a t-shirt but certainly not for a meet.
I have to disagree here for a social meet. Depends.on your job etc and hobbies. I think gym gear very smart and sitting have a cuppa in Starbucks or a garden centre in gym gear isn't a problem. But we all have our own taste at the end of the day and what suits one won't suit another. Now for hotel mland club meets I do go to town!
Tobe honest i think youd look god in anything.lol"
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"You mean I shouldn't wear my tigger onesie tonight?!? 
Only if you keep your ugg boots on
Oh I usually wear it with my crocs... they are better in Scottish weather I find... "
Here's me thinking you would be more a white plastic open toed sandle type person |
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"We arranged to meet a guy for a drink with the understanding things would go further if there was mutual attraction. We always make an effort to look our best in this situation but the guy turned up wearing joggers, tshirt and baseball cap. We got serious attitude back when we said the meet wouldn't go any further one of them being 'I was only doing you a favour after all'. What do you think?"
Having met you once I can all two things:
1-you're both friendlly and very courteous and very elegant. Mrs is divine wearing high heels and the nicest nylon on her delicious legs.
2-you are down to earth and not like these snobby couples thinking that single men are animals. You always give a chance to people.
Shame for that guy I think he missed a great time!
I have uploaded my profile picture in dedication to that amazing moment we spent that evening
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"I could almost forgive the outfit. Cap, definitely not.
Who does he think he's doing a favour? You chose to meet him out of 100's of other guys. He's the one that should feel honoured.
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I'm rarely without my cap, well except when I'm on the job |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As I'm not a judgmental or cruel person & I realise not everyone has the money to go out & buy nice clothes I wouldn't care if a meet showed up in her pyjamas with no make up on, just seen as it's more about the person, maybe if I could have sex with clothing I'd be like most of you but that's no possible so al just carry on accepting people for who they are and not what they wear |
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"Sakes.. I don't even own such clothes.. Always make the effort smart is good.. Gotta make em want you after all! Can tell a lot by folks shoes "
I like to see a man in nice polished shoes, unless he's barefoot, don't like to see that at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Back in the good old days when I did get meetings I always showered shaved nice aftershave and smart casual.
Anything less and I would have felt I was insulting the other person / couple as if they made the effort to meet me at least I should be presentable.
What is wrong with a bit of effort.
That is why guys struggle on Fab esp after dishing out the unwarranted abuse  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What a twat.. Im always immaculately turned out for any kind of date.. Expecting folk to get naked ye gotta bring your a game!! joggers onsies trainers tee shirts hoodies.. Boak.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So disrespectful and to give you cheek is worse, we always make a effort and try look out best . It's not hard hope it doesn't put you off . Sam and Dave xx |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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First impressions are always the most important. I make a point of dressing well (smart/casual) and smelling well fir all of my first meets and certainly appreciate it when its reciprocated.
I'm sure most people want to please and like to be pleased in turn |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We arranged to meet a guy for a drink with the understanding things would go further if there was mutual attraction. We always make an effort to look our best in this situation but the guy turned up wearing joggers, tshirt and baseball cap. We got serious attitude back when we said the meet wouldn't go any further one of them being 'I was only doing you a favour after all'. What do you think?"
Well I think that's the whole purpose of a social - first impressions count. Throwing his toys out of the pram - well two strikes then. It's a disappointment but at least you didn't have to turn him away at the door. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Surely it's got to at least be jeans for a first meet
Won't lie though I have went to meet someone wearing joggers but in my defence I told them I wasn't at home and asked if they minded first, wouldn't just turn up giving the impression I didn't care what they though  |
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Geez so disrespectful. As to the comment about "not everyone can afford nice clothes" I'm on a very tight budget, think all my meets, even if we've not gone on to have fun, would agree I'm always clean and tidy and well turned out. Clean smart jeans and t-shirt, good personal hygiene - absolute basics.
Also not a fan of baseball caps especially on older chaps, just looks like they're trying to look younger than they are or cover hair loss (which in my opinion isn't necessary).
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"I would always make the effort to look my best for a meet but sometimes dressing smart but casual feels good too.
There is a time and place for joggers and a t-shirt but certainly not for a meet.
I have to disagree here for a social meet. Depends.on your job etc and hobbies. I think gym gear very smart and sitting have a cuppa in Starbucks or a garden centre in gym gear isn't a problem. But we all have our own taste at the end of the day and what suits one won't suit another. Now for hotel mland club meets I do go to town!"
I don't think having a social with a lady wearing gym gear would do it for me at all. Unless you have just come out of the gym but then I wouldn't want to meet a sweaty person.
I play 5 aside football but I would never turn up for a meet in shorts and footie too. You only get one chance at a first impression and remember a social is like an interview, your selling yourself. Smart fresh and smelling lovely is the way for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The truth is some people just don’t have standards. Whether the meet is purely social or perhaps fun then I will always make an effort and dress well for the occasion. You only get one opportunity to create a first impression. Cleanliness is essential for me. I would never take a meet further if the lady or couple had not made an effort |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The truth is some people just don’t have standards. Whether the meet is purely social or perhaps fun then I will always make an effort and dress well for the occasion. You only get one opportunity to create a first impression. Cleanliness is essential for me. I would never take a meet further if the lady or couple had not made an effort "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always try and look my best when meeting anyone and dress appropriately depending on where we're meeting and Id expect a little effort too from my meet "
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Although, i have been greeted at the door with a woman in her PJs.. And i was in mine too 
