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over a year ago
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Is this term derogatory or what? Can't make up my mind really. A guy at work calls us ladies that but a few get annoyed and a few think it's harmless.
What's the general opinion on this one?
Also is this only a Scottish phrase? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think it's just part of Scottish culture now, personally I think it's funny but I know I've used it and meant it to derogatory.
K x"
I don't find it derogatory personally. It's generally a jokey phrase to me but I do know of other ladies quite upset by it! |
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Totally inappropriate in a professional work environment. I'd not accept it at all and I'd have a quiet word him explaining that . If others are happy to be spoken to at their work in such a way then that's their choice, but he'd be well a wear he couldn't do that with me . |
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It's not usually a Scottish phrase used for a group of women. It's usually directed towards men, especially in the building trade but I can understand if it was directed to a bunch of women by a man why some would be offended and some would not.   |
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"Totally inappropriate in a professional work environment. I'd not accept it at all and I'd have a quiet word him explaining that . If others are happy to be spoken to at their work in such a way then that's their choice, but he'd be well a wear he couldn't do that with me . "
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"I would not tolerate it personally, fine line between banter and rudeness."
This! It's something you'd have to hear to know the context as nuance is everything and the phrase can be used in both an affectionate and derogatory way.
The rule in the workplace (as far as I'm aware) is if the person being spoken to is offended then yes, what's being said IS offensive regardless of the person saying its intention.
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"Is this term derogatory or what? Can't make up my mind really. A guy at work calls us ladies that but a few get annoyed and a few think it's harmless.
What's the general opinion on this one?
Also is this only a Scottish phrase?"
As Shakespeare said, nothing is neither good nor bad but thinking make it so.
It's all perception based on your own filters and view of the world.
Same with saying , bunch or pricks |
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Trouble is some people get offended at the least thing and to me it's always been a fun comment and if anyone is offended by it then maybe they are fannies after all. |
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"Totally inappropriate in a professional work environment. I'd not accept it at all and I'd have a quiet word him explaining that . If others are happy to be spoken to at their work in such a way then that's their choice, but he'd be well a wear he couldn't do that with me . "
Do you work in HR? |
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Id say its totally harmless, fanny is a light hearted word but you cant say anything nowadays without someone getting offended and hurting there delicate feelings, they need to lighten up its not as if they were all called a bunch of cunts. Also I wouldnt call it a guy thing either as everyone says fanny |
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head barmaid in my local always says it & in the context of pub banter it seems alright because it's just the auld team & the usual faces in tae watch the game or for a game a pool. But she wouldnae do if there family's in for food.I suppose it just depends on the company & the time/place. Put it this way i Wouldnae want somebody saying it if my maw or daughter was there can x |
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And no fanny better or I'll punch in his Pussy face 
