"A sexless marraige/relationship are you doing it or think you could do it ?"
I was in a sexless relationship and put up with the situation for five years, after promises things would change. They didn't, plus I ended up being subjected to mental and verbal abuse, particularly in the last year. There was nothing medically wrong. He just didn't want the physical side. I would never put myself through that again. |
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"A sexless marraige/relationship are you doing it or think you could do it ?
And your answer?  "
Yes as a poster has already said if you love the person & the relationship is still good despite no sex  .... you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Believe it or not there is much more to a marriage than sex. What a shock!! In fact there is even more to life than sex. It's just on here that it seems to be the be all and end all of existence.   |
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
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"A sexless marraige/relationship are you doing it or think you could do it ?
And your answer? Yes as a poster has already said if you love the person & the relationship is still good despite no sex .... you?"
I couldn't possibly comment! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My husband was ill and we didnt have sex for almost 2 years before he passed away. I loved him completely and at no time thought my need for sex was a reason not to stay.
It really depends on the circumstances. |
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"Believe it or not there is much more to a marriage than sex. What a shock!! In fact there is even more to life than sex. It's just on here that it seems to be the be all and end all of existence. yeah I agree but for many sex is also the only thing thats good in a marraige or relationship
Don't think that was the question though.  "
your right it wasnt I didnt say it was.
Just saying more or less the same as you in that sex isnt all marraige is about but for many its a very important part of it and for some not all its the only thing that is good and sometimes the only thing holding the marraige together sadly .
My question was though could you live in a sexless marraige or relationship
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"My husband was ill and we didnt have sex for almost 2 years before he passed away. I loved him completely and at no time thought my need for sex was a reason not to stay.
It really depends on the circumstances. "
yes I agree that it would depend in the circumstances for many |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It really depends on the circumstances. "
This is exactly it. (I'm really sorry to have read the first part of your post)
Remember sexless marriages and relationships can be caused by boredom ofcourse but also illnesses and conditions. ISD is a condition that I am pretty clued up on and can take its toll on an individual/ relationship. It can lead to an awful amount of guilt if not addressed properly, again on both sides of a relationship.
It's all very circumstantial |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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To answer the question simply then yes I could. The most important parts of any relationship for me are love, affection, understanding, supporting each other and feeling happy in their company. Sex doesn't even come into the list. Possibly its why I've been single for so long because I'm not prepared to compromise on those things.
I don't crave sex if I'm not having it. However I do crave affection and sex is an extension of that.
I think that many use sex as a vehicle to fill that void. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that unless someone was living in that type of relationship, you can't really say for sure. The way people view things, or think they would feel or react in the cold light of day, or hypothetically, maybe be completely different to a gut feeling when actually faced with the situation.
Personally? I don't know if I can give an honest answer. There is much, much more to a relationship than sex. Of course there is. Although equally, for me, it plays a big part, of feeling connected to one and other.
Like some posters have already said though, different circumstances could bring about different feelings or actions in that type of situation.  (Mr) |
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"To answer the question simply then yes I could. The most important parts of any relationship for me are love, affection, understanding, supporting each other and feeling happy in their company. "
These are my thoughs too .
If a relationship is good and there is still love,affection and good communication id stay in that relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My husband was ill and we didnt have sex for almost 2 years before he passed away. I loved him completely and at no time thought my need for sex was a reason not to stay.
It really depends on the circumstances. "
This |
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Living in a sexless relationship right now.
Yea, the love is there, lots and lots of mutual love and respect, just no sex. It's basically a birthday treat...
My girlfriend knows my desires and allows a certain amount of freedom. Recently she's put some rules back in place on it, but still more flexible than it was at the start.
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I am in a sexless marriage and have been for a couple of years. If sex was my main priority I would have left long ago but it's not,I still want to be with my family but I do miss sex sometimes hence why I'm on here |
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"I am in a sexless marriage and have been for a couple of years. If sex was my main priority I would have left long ago but it's not,I still want to be with my family but I do miss sex sometimes hence why I'm on here "
Definitely relate to that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was in a sexless marriage and it was myself who wouldn't have sex.
I wasn't happy with my body after having children and I was constantly verbally and mentally abused from my ex because of it. That never helped matters with how he treated me even though I was on antidepressants and seeking help from a councillor at the time.
I eventually plucked up the courage to tell him it was over.
Never been happier |
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"I was in a sexless marriage and it was myself who wouldn't have sex.
I wasn't happy with my body after having children and I was constantly verbally and mentally abused from my ex because of it. That never helped matters with how he treated me even though I was on antidepressants and seeking help from a councillor at the time.
I eventually plucked up the courage to tell him it was over.
Never been happier "
if your partner was supportive do you think you would have stayed? |
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"I was in a sexless marriage and it was myself who wouldn't have sex.
I wasn't happy with my body after having children and I was constantly verbally and mentally abused from my ex because of it. That never helped matters with how he treated me even though I was on antidepressants and seeking help from a councillor at the time.
I eventually plucked up the courage to tell him it was over.
Never been happier if your partner was supportive do you think you would have stayed?"
Without a doubt I would have. When we had good days it was great but to be always walking on eggshells most it wasn't doing much for my way of thinking when it came to being intimate with him |
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"I was in a sexless marriage and it was myself who wouldn't have sex.
I wasn't happy with my body after having children and I was constantly verbally and mentally abused from my ex because of it. That never helped matters with how he treated me even though I was on antidepressants and seeking help from a councillor at the time.
I eventually plucked up the courage to tell him it was over.
Never been happier if your partner was supportive do you think you would have stayed?
Without a doubt I would have. When we had good days it was great but to be always walking on eggshells most it wasn't doing much for my way of thinking when it came to being intimate with him"
Thats quite sad (((big hugs))) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am in a sexless and loveless marriage. I am staying with my wife until my children complete university. As I am the one who is the breadwinner I do not want to leave and disadvantage the children.
This site is a godsend as it allows me to meet genuine people for sexy fun. One day I will leave and be free to continue to meet all you sexy people more freely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am in a sexless and loveless marriage. I am staying with my wife until my children complete university. As I am the one who is the breadwinner I do not want to leave and disadvantage the children.
This site is a godsend as it allows me to meet genuine people for sexy fun. One day I will leave and be free to continue to meet all you sexy people more freely. |
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Male half here. Been there done it tried and tried for years stayed for the kids but then it gets to the stage where enough is enough. Sex plays a big part in a relationship yes its not the be all end all but its physical Loving and emotional all in one. people who do stay in relationships like this must be getting it from somewhere I know I did. |
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I'm in a sexless marriage. I love my wife, but she finds it hard to believe that I find her attractive.
It really upsets me that she can't be happy with who she is and how she looks. I love her deeply, but I do need sex and to feel attractive.
It is nice to get a compliment from people on here, it reminds me that just because my wife doesn't want me, sexually, I am not unattractive (I may be being a little needy?). |
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"A sexless marraige/relationship are you doing it or think you could do it ?
I was in a sexless relationship and put up with the situation for five years, after promises things would change. They didn't, plus I ended up being subjected to mental and verbal abuse, particularly in the last year. There was nothing medically wrong. He just didn't want the physical side. I would never put myself through that again. "
I initially stayed with my ex because I did care and he was still affectionate, but when he started to belittle me, put me down and made me feel it was my fault he didn't want sex, I couldn't take it any more. It didn't help he was drinking heavily and tried to hide it. Like other posters have said, it all depends on circumstances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My husband was ill and we didnt have sex for almost 2 years before he passed away. I loved him completely and at no time thought my need for sex was a reason not to stay.
It really depends on the circumstances. "
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"A sexless marraige/relationship are you doing it or think you could do it ?
I was in a sexless relationship and put up with the situation for five years, after promises things would change. They didn't, plus I ended up being subjected to mental and verbal abuse, particularly in the last year. There was nothing medically wrong. He just didn't want the physical side. I would never put myself through that again.
I initially stayed with my ex because I did care and he was still affectionate, but when he started to belittle me, put me down and made me feel it was my fault he didn't want sex, I couldn't take it any more. It didn't help he was drinking heavily and tried to hide it. Like other posters have said, it all depends on circumstances."
you were brave for staying so long xx |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"Let's just say that a big difference in libido levels is the reason I'm here.
Why choose to marry someone who your are not compatible with ?"
It's not as simple as that. There are 100's of reasons why over time things change including medical for more people than we will ever know. Life changes.  |
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"Let's just say that a big difference in libido levels is the reason I'm here.
Why choose to marry someone who your are not compatible with ?"
They might have been compatible then .
Many things could have changed over the years to where they are today |
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