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the definitive newbie single mans guide to fab
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these posts crop up regular about lack of action . so lets put together a constructive helpful guide to fab for the single man ....
1. this is not dial a fuck . lower your expectations before you start the fab streets are not paved with free and willing pussy |
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trim the baws as a minimum . big wild raging bush pubes no matter how manly isnt considered attractive . most want clean shaved baws but a bit of manscaping is the minimum expected standard . also gives ye an extra inch if you get your angles right |
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Let a newbie be themselfs and learn from their own mistakes .
No one told me what to do when I joined nor anyone else for that matter.
Im sure through time they will get the meets they joined for once they establish exactly what they are looking for and how to get it  |
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"Let a newbie be themselfs and learn from their own mistakes .
No one told me what to do when I joined nor anyone else for that matter.
Im sure through time they will get the meets they joined for once they establish exactly what they are looking for and how to get it "
That's why this is a guide for guys a female can be as fugly as hell and not had a wash in months yet still be bombarded with offers from desperate guys
John  |
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"Let a newbie be themselfs and learn from their own mistakes .
No one told me what to do when I joined nor anyone else for that matter.
Im sure through time they will get the meets they joined for once they establish exactly what they are looking for and how to get it
That's why this is a guide for guys a female can be as fugly as hell and not had a wash in months yet still be bombarded with offers from desperate guys
John "
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Patience, Patience, Patience...
People have lives outside fab, so if you don't get a reply straightaway, chill... the person will reply in their own time.
No reply, take it as thank you but no thank you.
And if you get a thanks but no thanks, take a deep breath and move on!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't take anything personal. It's often difficult as we are all human.
You need skin like a Rhino here for certain but pinches of salt aren't too expensive. |
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"Let a newbie be themselfs and learn from their own mistakes .
No one told me what to do when I joined nor anyone else for that matter.
Im sure through time they will get the meets they joined for once they establish exactly what they are looking for and how to get it
That's why this is a guide for guys a female can be as fugly as hell and not had a wash in months yet still be bombarded with offers from desperate guys
John "
my comment was across the board male & female ...not just for single guys altho I understand the post was aimed at single males lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When talking to a couples profile, be aware that there are two people reading your message and act accordingly, do not ignore the male half "
Well said ...
Its a 3sum ..3 share the experience equally.
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Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.
Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles. |
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"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.
Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles. "
I disagree with your first comment ..
I agree with your second |
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"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.
Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.
I disagree with your first comment ..
I agree with your second "
Why disagree? Its frustrating getting messages from guys who arent what youre looking for but try to persuade you otherwise! People write down their preferences for a reason. |
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"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.
Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.
I disagree with your first comment ..
I agree with your second
Why disagree? Its frustrating getting messages from guys who arent what youre looking for but try to persuade you otherwise! People write down their preferences for a reason. "
Hiya x..
I think in my experience ive noticed over many years that profiles never really reflect what they actually seek.
I do appreciate your logic though ..and its a fair comment x
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"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.
Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.
I disagree with your first comment ..
I agree with your second
Why disagree? Its frustrating getting messages from guys who arent what youre looking for but try to persuade you otherwise! People write down their preferences for a reason.
Hiya x..
I think in my experience ive noticed over many years that profiles never really reflect what they actually seek.
I do appreciate your logic though ..and its a fair comment x
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I guess I can kinda see where youre coming from if the profile has many stipulations. Mine only has locals only and no Dick pics, I still get loads every day and daily invites to hotel rooms or "ill be in your area next week"  |
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"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.
Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.
I disagree with your first comment ..
I agree with your second
Why disagree? Its frustrating getting messages from guys who arent what youre looking for but try to persuade you otherwise! People write down their preferences for a reason.
Hiya x..
I think in my experience ive noticed over many years that profiles never really reflect what they actually seek.
I do appreciate your logic though ..and its a fair comment x
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I pulled up a single guy last night who admitted he'd read my preferences but chose to ignore them and message me anyway. That's rude and disrespectful, his needs are not greater than mine. |
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"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.
Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.
I disagree with your first comment ..
I agree with your second
Why disagree? Its frustrating getting messages from guys who arent what youre looking for but try to persuade you otherwise! People write down their preferences for a reason.
Hiya x..
I think in my experience ive noticed over many years that profiles never really reflect what they actually seek.
I do appreciate your logic though ..and its a fair comment x
I guess I can kinda see where youre coming from if the profile has many stipulations. Mine only has locals only and no Dick pics, I still get loads every day and daily invites to hotel rooms or "ill be in your area next week" "
aye but youre hot as fuck so rules go out the window |
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"Let a newbie be themselfs and learn from their own mistakes .
No one told me what to do when I joined nor anyone else for that matter.
Im sure through time they will get the meets they joined for once they establish exactly what they are looking for and how to get it "
true and agree!!
Let them learn for themselves but everything written is just common sense, have respect for everyone and use your head the you will see people become receptive to you
Enjoy and have a great time |
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Here is my recommendation, thanks to that template I had many meets:
Hey,
How are you today?
I want to fuck you tonight, here is a pictures of my dick!
Can I come at yours in an hour? I am a cool guys!
See ya babe!
Xxx
Lol I am only kidding do the opposite and make sure you read people a profile. Be courteous and patient and/or brave.
Good luck man
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"Read profiles and send messages only to the people who are looking for someone who fits what you are.
Take time to write a proper message and dont write "out of messages" statuses because you've used up your allowance bombarding all the people within 10 miles.
I disagree with your first comment ..
I agree with your second
Why disagree? Its frustrating getting messages from guys who arent what youre looking for but try to persuade you otherwise! People write down their preferences for a reason.
Hiya x..
I think in my experience ive noticed over many years that profiles never really reflect what they actually seek.
I do appreciate your logic though ..and its a fair comment x
I pulled up a single guy last night who admitted he'd read my preferences but chose to ignore them and message me anyway. That's rude and disrespectful, his needs are not greater than mine."
Or the arrogance that despite preferences they're special enough for me to bend my rules for...usually come from blank profiles with no pictures 
Newbies of both male and female persuasion.....don't forget your sense of humour! Things would be much easier on here if people didn't take it too seriously and just had a laugh! |
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And my (Nat) biggest bugbear, the same three/four single males send me the same message most days when clearly it'll tell them a) my own page isn't looking for single males and b) it'll say that they've already messaged me without reply
Rant over xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""I'm parked up in my truck come see me" or 3am of a Wednesday morning "what you into?"
Does that ever actually work??!!!!"
I feel sorry for the poor wee guy whose parked up at Darnley at 3am and he hasn't got a clue why all these guys are chapping his cabbin door as he's not on fab
WTF
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Haha 
I get soooo many invites like that zero communication ever but yes il be round the now my good sir what's your registration number ffs gimme a break! It's all in the build up lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Haha
I get soooo many invites like that zero communication ever but yes il be round the now my good sir what's your registration number ffs gimme a break! It's all in the build up lol x"
lollllllllllllllll, its all in thw build up.
Can you imagine this down and out coming to your car and saying, "hi, you on fab"
lollllllllllllllllllllllllll
Now that's what I call a build up
giggling like feck the night |
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"Ha ha I'm glad someone's giggling
Each to their own but cabin beds in trucks ain't for me "
I know, can you imagine being at the wrong end, fecking murder trying to turn, so I've been told
cabin beds, feck that, I love my own bed |
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Im going to twist this a little ..
Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..
"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?
Is he wrong in asking this ? ..
Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.
The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.
These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.
It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.
Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..
But someone sending a message asking for sex ..
Yes .they are entitled too ask
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Im going to twist this a little ..
Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..
"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?
Is he wrong in asking this ? ..
Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.
The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.
These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.
It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.
Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..
But someone sending a message asking for sex ..
Yes .they are entitled too ask
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Totally agree with this. I'm also entitled to delete those messages if I don't like them |
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"Im going to twist this a little ..
Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..
"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?
Is he wrong in asking this ? ..
Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.
The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.
These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.
It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.
Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..
But someone sending a message asking for sex ..
Yes .they are entitled too ask
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Yip agreed
But I would never do it.
He/she is allowed but he/she should make sure they read the person profile incase they state they don't want that kind of message.
Each to their own, its what makes fab ticks |
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"Im going to twist this a little ..
Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..
"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?
Is he wrong in asking this ? ..
Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.
The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.
These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.
It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.
Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..
But someone sending a message asking for sex ..
Yes .they are entitled too ask
Yip agreed
But I would never do it.
He/she is allowed but he/she should make sure they read the person profile incase they state they don't want that kind of message.
Each to their own, its what makes fab ticks "
Completely agree.
And I think in a lot of cases it helps. My old profile before I got into one of those pesky relationships, I got bombarded with cock pics.
This time round I've put on my profile that I'd rather not see them. And have noticed a vast difference |
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"Im going to twist this a little ..
Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..
"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?
Is he wrong in asking this ? ..
Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.
The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.
These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.
It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.
Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..
But someone sending a message asking for sex ..
Yes .they are entitled too ask
Totally agree with this. I'm also entitled to delete those messages if I don't like them "
Absolutely .. |
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If you're going to message someone, read the fucking profile first for gods sake, takes 2mins... you might even gain from the available info that messaging would be a waste of time...
If messaging, try to expand it beyond "howz u?... wot u up to?....ur hot".... etc...
Make the message polite, just because its a swingers site a message doesnt guarantee a fuck, its a swingers site not instashag, people are within their rights to not be interested in swinging with you if your message is rude, offensive or just generally low effort and shit...
If somebody wants to see your cock, they'll ask,you dont need to send the 5 pics of it that are on your profile anyway...
Agree to a social first if asked, this earns many many brownie points and also demonstrates your genuine and likely to turn up to a play meet....
Respect peoples preferences, no means no, no reply means no thanks, continually winking or messaging an uninterested profile just sees you blocked... |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"Im going to twist this a little ..
Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..
"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?
Is he wrong in asking this ? ..
Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.
The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.
These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.
It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.
Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..
But someone sending a message asking for sex ..
Yes .they are entitled too ask
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Being on an sex site does not give you any rights or entitle you to anything!!
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"Im going to twist this a little ..
Some random Guy sending a message to an attractive Female or Couple..
"Hi there,nice pics do you fancy a fuck"?
Is he wrong in asking this ? ..
Definitely not..he has every right in asking for sex on a swinging site whether you think its rude disrespectful regardless of your preferences.
The problem doesnt lie with the Guy who has sent the message ..the problem lies with YOU.
These kind of desperation messages have been going for years,it isnt likely too change anytime soon.
It would be worth your while addressing your own profile and using the filters to do your own shopping.
Albeit, i dont agree with this kind of behaviour..
But someone sending a message asking for sex ..
Yes .they are entitled too ask
Being on an sex site does not give you any rights or entitle you to anything!!
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Go on ....Im listening ..Why does it not ?
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over a year ago
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Being on an sex site does not give you any rights or entitle you to anything!!
Go on ....Im listening ..Why does it not ?
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You seriously believe that joining a sex site gives you rights and entitlements?? |
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"Whether they're 'entitled' to ask or not, "Hi, never spoken to you before but fancy a fuck?" gets the deaf ear from me"
Thats my point x
Im not saying this is how i have ever approached a message to anyone.
Anyone can send a message asking for sex...whether you agree with it or not.
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Being on an sex site does not give you any rights or entitle you to anything!!
Go on ....Im listening ..Why does it not ?
You seriously believe that joining a sex site gives you rights and entitlements?? "
Working within the rules and guidlines of the site ..Yes ..i do believe members have rights and entitlements.
Why would someone asking you for sex,be wrong ?
Yes ..you may think thats rude disrespectful or whatever.There is nothing too say that he cant ask.
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"Whether they're 'entitled' to ask or not, "Hi, never spoken to you before but fancy a fuck?" gets the deaf ear from me
Thats my point x
Im not saying this is how i have ever approached a message to anyone.
Anyone can send a message asking for sex...whether you agree with it or not.
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Basic manners dictate that you don't though |
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