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By *eather OP Woman over a year ago

glasgow

ok folks time for a wee rant and yous all know that aint me.Now whle evryone is entitled to their opinions free speach and all that what is happening on this site.I have neer experienced it personally but there seems to be a lot of back biting opinionisam and generlly bad mouthing happening on here please can olks stop this there is no need for it lifes to blody short and yes i know it happens on other sites.And please dont enyone take this personally from e as thisis just a wee rant but i felt it had to be sai

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By *eather OP Woman over a year ago

glasgow

i meant folks please excuse the spelling mistakes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its the banter

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

tottaly agree _eather there is somtimes an undercurrrnt and it makes it uncomfortable. but heho its the nature of the beast

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"tottaly agree _eather there is somtimes an undercurrrnt and it makes it uncomfortable. but heho its the nature of the beast "
yes there is got myself in few post for no reason

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Heather, I'm totally in agreement with you on this one..

Its not a new thing though.... there has been a mass exodus of peeps from here recently because of all the back biting...

I know of one or two regulars have commented to myself about it all and are ready to pack in the site...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Heather, I'm totally in agreement with you on this one..

Its not a new thing though.... there has been a mass exodus of peeps from here recently because of all the back biting...

I know of one or two regulars have commented to myself about it all and are ready to pack in the site...

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thinking in the same really, being a single guy on here this site is very hard, i no i am one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been on htis site for a number of years Marti and it used to be a great place....

Too much bitching and back stabbing now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been on htis site for a number of years Marti and it used to be a great place....

Too much bitching and back stabbing now"
ano what can we do about it

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Heather, I'm totally in agreement with you on this one..

Its not a new thing though.... there has been a mass exodus of peeps from here recently because of all the back biting...

I know of one or two regulars have commented to myself about it all and are ready to pack in the site...

Yeah ive had it to the he said she said scenarios and all a load of crap i have thought about giving it all up but i have many friends here who support me and i thank them for that... so to those who cause the shit Up Yours im going no where

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Heather, I'm totally in agreement with you on this one..

Its not a new thing though.... there has been a mass exodus of peeps from here recently because of all the back biting...

I know of one or two regulars have commented to myself about it all and are ready to pack in the site...

Too many decent people being drawn into to many others business and forming opinions when they know nothing about the person too...for some they need to stop listening to gossip and form their own opinions rather than following the leaders ."
wouldnt no about this not met any 1 yet, have been taking my time on this - but the longer i leave it think the harder it gets. confused iam

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By *eather OP Woman over a year ago

glasgow

jacs i totally agree wth you i just go my own merry way i aint got time for all the rubbish thats goin on but sayin that i do notice thing that are happening So come on folks let try and stop this but knowing human nature as much chance of hell feezing over

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People who know me know I say it as it is.... So this is my 2p worth..... In my(humble) opinion there is a lot of people who forget they are MEMBERS of a site and actually believe they almost RUN the site, ie they believe they are the kings and queens of Scottish fab.

They lambast and make opinions on people to third parties without even knowing them, yes there has slway been a clique on fab but now it has gone beyond that to the point where it is almost like a group of people who ONLY come on to fab to do the above as some kind of sport,they don't meet neither do the go to socials to find out what people are like in person.

Agree with what I have wrote or hate me for it, that is your opinion and you are 100% entitled to it.but this is an open forum and as such I believe pussy footing around is NOT the way forward for this site.

Mike

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well we are coming from the other end of the spectrum in that we are totally oblivious to any backstabbing or bitchiness! where does this basckstabbing take place?! in chat?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"well we are coming from the other end of the spectrum in that we are totally oblivious to any backstabbing or bitchiness! where does this basckstabbing take place?! in chat? "
usually forum from what i seen

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By *ilandlarryCouple over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

"well we are coming from the other end of the spectrum in that we are totally oblivious to any backstabbing or bitchiness! where does this basckstabbing take place?! in chat? "

i'm the same as you. I come in to chat, catch up on the forums and attend the odd social from time to time. When I close the page on my pc then I stop thinking about Fab, it's not the be all and end all in my life. I have a home and family to occupy me.

Anyone who spreads rumours and shit about other people don't deserve the fun, laughter and friendships this website can bring.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

fab is no different from the real world.........so options are to ignore it or accept it happens

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well said Lil

xxx

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman over a year ago

Aberdeen

Very well said Lil

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

people get over involved in each other lives.... people make assumptions about things they dont know.... heads n tails get added on.....such a shame sometimes....i do think thou forum posts like this dont really help matters at times....

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By *eather OP Woman over a year ago

glasgow

lil a totally agree im the same way but just tought i would have a wee say in what seems to be botherin a few peeps i love the friendds and peeps i have met on here

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

No offence Heather...

but what a load of pish... there has been bitching and back stabbing for years on here.. the chat rooms and the fucked up whispers, the snidy comments between warring fractions, socials where the tables of people were glowering at each other, fems arguing and bitching over guys and fighting over the newbie hotties, couples fighting over not getting invites to functions, guys bitching about other guys if they perceive they get more meets, people fighting in the forums, people bitching about the mods, people bitching about people being the kings and queens of the rooms/forums, people being bullied in the forums, belittled in chat by best friends of a single fem........ the above has all gone on and there are very FEW people not guilty of it.....

I have certainly done it... but I fucking admit it.

divas stropping and leaving the site are/were some of the worst offenders so to read some of the above is a nonsense.

I will say...... Lil, I have never ever heard you do it... I say that not because you are a MOD, it is because you and Larry never did. I don't kiss MOD ass.

so people at least be honest .... there is an issue.. the socials have died a death because of fighting in some cases.

my 2p worth.....

ps... I repeat I have done it.... so have 75/80/85/90% of the regulars

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

ps...... I avoid the scottish chat and forum for the above reason

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well said _iew...........total respect for what you say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh it happens!

I have had a few pm's where the guys have tried to engage me in a slanging match about other members...I promptly told them, I would not get involved in slating anyone, so do not message me again!, this stops the muppets in their tracks as there is no fuel for their fire!.....this is why I keep my self to myself on here! No one knows me, I don't do socials or clubs, I simply go about my business of having great fun with the ocassional meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could make quite a few comments re this, but I'd better not!

Over the past couple of years on here, I've found that if you say the wrong thing at the wrong time in the wrong place, and the wrong person picks up on it, then it's all too easy for civil war to break out.

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By *rallvalCouple over a year ago

Dunfermline

"well we are coming from the other end of the spectrum in that we are totally oblivious to any backstabbing or bitchiness! where does this basckstabbing take place?! in chat? "

Mostly on the forum from what I see or messages to others about us (one of our friends was messaged by an angry bloke we had politely declined - he left shortly after but he seems to pop back from time to time) Mostly it seems to be about single blokes or new couples joining the site and diving in without reading. We have had abuse because people have not read our profile and made a request for a meet (usually something like 'I'm near you, fancy a fuck on Saturday night at your place?') to which we reply No because we cannot accommodate, don't do single males and prefer a social meet first.

Then we get abuse and accusation of being prick-teasers or time wasters.

Now I will be the first to admit we have not had a lot of meets from the site but we are very busy people with little spare time and this is supposed to be fun.

As for accusation of a clique, no; there is certainly a group of close friends and when they get together they catch up big style (I have never heard women talk so fast

but on our single social (Aberdeen) that we went to we were never excluded. People chatted and were polite and I appreciated the effort that went into the organisation (and the raffle. I won a bottle of rum. WooHoo). We never went to the club afterward because we are big fearties but I am sure that if we did go we would not have been excluded at all.

True, people did keep to themselves a little but they are with their friends and it forced us to stop hiding in a corner and make a move to chat to people. As I saw it we were moving into their world, I am not arrogant enough to think that people would flock to be near me as I entered the room.

Right. Enough said. I'll go back to being very quiet and sit in the corner again.

Andy

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By *andACouple over a year ago

glasgow

We've never had any problems with backstabbing/ nasty rumours etc thankfully. That may be down to the fact we just use the site for occasionally finding people to meet for some fun.

I think the problems may arise when people let it become a big part of their social life etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

totally agree , although the social side can be fun there is life outside FAB!

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By *l coupleCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

There is a lot of pish happens on the site. Backstabbing, bitching behind people's backs, making up stories about folk.

Fair dos its always been around, but its getting worse in the last few months to the point that its not fun anymore.

We say what we think when something annoys us enough, and whats been happening annoys us.

Just like last night where someone got banned from chat for speaking their mind. Broke no rules of chat as far as we can see but still got banned...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No offence Heather...

I have certainly done it... but I fucking admit it.

divas stropping and leaving the site are/were some of the worst offenders so to read some of the above is a nonsense.

I will say...... Lil, I have never ever heard you do it... I say that not because you are a MOD, it is because you and Larry never did. I don't kiss MOD ass.

so people at least be honest .... there is an issue.. the socials have died a death because of fighting in some cases.

my 2p worth.....

ps... I repeat I have done it.... so have 75/80/85/90% of the regulars

xx"

*Applaud* .....Never a truer statement made in a fab forum IMO ...(always feel I need to clarify that before someone points it out that it is my opinion).

This is not a new thing nor will it be something that doesnt happen in the future. There will be alot of people sitting reading this and bitching to their friends about what has been written, which makes them the same!

The best course of action is not to get involved in anything that doesnt concern you, have fun when you choose and with whom you choose. xxxx

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By *nTCouple over a year ago

funland

have to be 100% honest - we know it goes on coz folk have told us, but we must be either the thickest or most obtuse couple on here coz we have never picked up on it and we use the chat rooms all the time. if anybody has spoken about us we are happily unaware (but neither would we give a shit being honest) and i can say hand on heart we dont do it about others.

we do tend to sit with the same folk at socials as they have become friends - but its a big table and always room for more lol

love the site, love the banter and _iew........we love you too xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good and honest post View.

I know im going to get slated for this, but you often find that those people answering posts like this (including this one) saying that the bitcheness etc is out of hand are often the ones that are doing the bitching

Human nature I guess and as View says, many of us get involved in it. Some people its malicious, some people less so.

As Lil says too, its good to be able to switch the PC off and forget about Fab.

We have had people talk about us recently but TBH its water off a ducks back, we know its shite and true friends know its shite so we just have to rise above it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i read this when i am sober

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No offence Heather...

I have certainly done it... but I fucking admit it.

divas stropping and leaving the site are/were some of the worst offenders so to read some of the above is a nonsense.

I will say...... Lil, I have never ever heard you do it... I say that not because you are a MOD, it is because you and Larry never did. I don't kiss MOD ass.

so people at least be honest .... there is an issue.. the socials have died a death because of fighting in some cases.

my 2p worth.....

ps... I repeat I have done it.... so have 75/80/85/90% of the regulars

xx"

WELL SAID VIEW...

In over the past 5 years ive been on here this is exactly what has been happening.

However. the daunting thing is,it will NEVER change.

Buboo x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"people get over involved in each other lives.... people make assumptions about things they dont know.... heads n tails get added on.....such a shame sometimes....i do think thou forum posts like this dont really help matters at times...."

Agreed, as an example of this, when you message someone quite new to the site and they reply, "ohh i've heard about you,you have a bad reputation on here",3 weeks i think they were on here and they hit you with that pish, it kinda confirms, backstabbing and bitching is alive and well on here!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

sometimes it can take arms and legs, chinese whispers and suchlike. I know things have been said about me, that i do not care to go into, but i am not worried. I have a real life outwith fab, where none of this matters. And i am only here to entertain myself, no one else. If people pick on me they are leaving other people less capable of dealing with it alone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been the subject of people's speculation and supposition, left the site yet still got questioned about my personal life by relative strangers.

That's the trouble with this site and the nature of it.

We are all so open about our sexuality, what works for us in the bedroom etc. and we are not afraid to let others know or to ask about such things as these, that the openness and directness can sometimes spill over into personal life.

Sometimes this is deliberate, other times it's just as I said a follow on from getting to know your meet and it becomes habit.

I have now decided that I'm going to play things a lot closer to my chest this time around, which does go against the grain as I am a naturally open person.

But seeking or allowing involvement doesn't make for a clearer understanding with some people....it just allows them to get closer to stick the knife in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Gotta say playing things close to ur chest Laine is the best thing u can do.....being careful who u trust again very important....

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

When does one sort of bitching differ from another sort of bitching? These type of threads could be called bitching too.

Watching an odd bitch fight or two on this site, it is normally started by one persons bitchy post/ comment in chat, another person answers back and then the first person cries that they are being picked on...then it carries on for months , how can that be enjoyable for people?

Bitching on any type of website will go on if you let it....if people say " No thanks, I don't want to get involved " then the people bitching won't have an audience and there would never be threads like this.

Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Here here rugby

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree with you, Rugby. Everyone here seems to recognise that it goes on and that there is/were regular spats for whatever reason. Could we not all step in if we see it happening and kill a thread before it takes legs?

My honest opinion is that anyone carrying a cyber grudge for a length of time is, basically, sad. Let it go, for goodness sake! Or if it still rankles, avoid posting about it in any form!

This is not real life, so get one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its been done before trying 2 kill a thread, not going 2 say which 1

it did got ignored an it did got out of hand. an the thread was reported several times.

its suppose 2 be an adult not a bitching site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone has perfect 20:20 vision in hindsight........ some people wear blinkers, others x-ray specs and some need to go to specsavers...... it's difficult to see the bigger picture unless you take a step or two back.

Walk away folks if it gets to you that much. xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

should not have to walk away from it if people talking about you behind your back

its not nice.

let them talk about me;

when they have no clue as i never met any 1 on here yet

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"I agree with you, Rugby. Everyone here seems to recognise that it goes on and that there is/were regular spats for whatever reason. Could we not all step in if we see it happening and kill a thread before it takes legs?

To be honest, when members have politely said to others that they should keep it away from the forums/ chat or that they think someone is OTT, most of the time it is taken better than when a mod asks.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Maybe on that note it is time to shut this one.

Have sexy fun instead of bitchy rubbish...it is much more fun

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