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Are we too easily offended in todays society ?
I cannot abide racism , sexism , bigotry but rather than get offended if we hear or see terms that we disagree with and shout down the person branding them a racist or bigot would it not be better to engage in discussion and try to educate or highlight why its wrong ?
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Defo!!
Was a post a cpl weeks ago in the lounge where the topic was a Wolf whistle was now seen as a sexual offence!!
1 chick wanted a guy sacked from his job !!
Crazy crazy people 
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"Are we too easily offended in todays society ?
I cannot abide racism , sexism , bigotry but rather than get offended if we hear or see terms that we disagree with and shout down the person branding them a racist or bigot would it not be better to engage in discussion and try to educate or highlight why its wrong ?
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Yes politically correctness is a poison that is eroding away at our freedoms.
Just because someone is offended doesn't always make them right. |
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"Defo!!
Was a post a cpl weeks ago in the lounge where the topic was a Wolf whistle was now seen as a sexual offence!!
1 chick wanted a guy sacked from his job !!
Crazy crazy people
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I'm not offended by the wolf whistle (not that it happens to me), but the underlying point is that there are so many things in everyday life that we have become desensitised to, and see as the norm, when we probably shouldn't.
If people do something that's sexist/racist/bigoted, if we don't correct them and try to stamp that behaviour out, we won't grow as a society and it will always be a problem.
So yes, education is very important.
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"Are we too easily offended in todays society ?
I cannot abide racism , sexism , bigotry but rather than get offended if we hear or see terms that we disagree with and shout down the person branding them a racist or bigot would it not be better to engage in discussion and try to educate or highlight why its wrong ?
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Hmmm I will try to make sense.
I think 'some' people are easily offended. You often notice that it is always the same group of people getting up in arms for the same subject!
I don't get easily offended. I am able to have a debate with someone that has different _iews from me without putting them down or insulting them.
Depending on the subject of the debate, I would only explain my reasoning. Each person is allowed an opinion. Who am I to say that their reasoning is wrong? Who am I to convert them?
I hate nothing more than someone telling me I am wrong. Give your reasoning, don't try to convert me and take it from there.
Freedom of speech and thinking!
Another thing, I find amusing is when some people get more offended than the person or the group that is being offended
Often you hear them more! Or only them!
But depending on the situation and the person, I always remember that saying 'you can't argue with an idiot' or 'Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference' (Mark Twain)
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"if we don't correct them and try to stamp that behaviour out, we won't grow as a society and it will always be a problem.
The thing is. How does one over-ride human nature?
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you shout them down with subtlty and the promise of inclusion in the new world order |
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"if we don't correct them and try to stamp that behaviour out, we won't grow as a society and it will always be a problem.
The thing is. How does one over-ride human nature?
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If people behave in an unacceptable manner, and keep doing so, if they keep being told their behaviour is unacceptable and no one is prepared to put up with it, then hopefully they will stop or keep their opinions to themselves. You probably won't be able to change the person they are though.
So how do we combat archaic attitudes? We teach the next generation as early as we can, I guess.
Probably all we can do, really. |
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over a year ago
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What 1 person is offended by
Another wouldn't bat an eyelid
Folk seriously need to man up with most
But racism is racism and sexual inuendos are ok but sexual harassment isn't
It is a fine line |
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"if we don't correct them and try to stamp that behaviour out, we won't grow as a society and it will always be a problem.
The thing is. How does one over-ride human nature?
If people behave in an unacceptable manner, and keep doing so, if they keep being told their behaviour is unacceptable and no one is prepared to put up with it, then hopefully they will stop or keep their opinions to themselves. You probably won't be able to change the person they are though.
So how do we combat archaic attitudes? We teach the next generation as early as we can, I guess.
Probably all we can do, really."
I agree with some of what you are saying.
I make a difference between behaviours and opinions.
We have society rules/laws for inappropriate and dangerous behaviours. However, we don't have any rules or laws for people we disagree with, ignorant people and so on.
Why should some people be allowed to voice their _iews and not others?
I have no issues with racist people. I have had some great debates with racist people. We agreed to disagree! If they had attacked me physically as I have been before many times, the debate would have been very different lol.
You can say what you want but do not put your hands on me!
Yes, you can educate! But you will never be able to have everyone to have the same thought process. Why? Because everyone is influenced by what's happening in the environment and their background.
Take Brexit, I have been here over 20 years, no problem what so ever and now, because of it, I have never left so unwelcome in Scotland!
And I tell my kids to express their opinions whatever they are, and learn to listen to others opinions that they agree or not.
I fear actions, not words. Everyone can talk. The dangerous people are the ones that act.
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"if we don't correct them and try to stamp that behaviour out, we won't grow as a society and it will always be a problem.
The thing is. How does one over-ride human nature?
If people behave in an unacceptable manner, and keep doing so, if they keep being told their behaviour is unacceptable and no one is prepared to put up with it, then hopefully they will stop or keep their opinions to themselves. You probably won't be able to change the person they are though.
So how do we combat archaic attitudes? We teach the next generation as early as we can, I guess.
Probably all we can do, really.
I agree with some of what you are saying.
I make a difference between behaviours and opinions.
We have society rules/laws for inappropriate and dangerous behaviours. However, we don't have any rules or laws for people we disagree with, ignorant people and so on.
Why should some people be allowed to voice their _iews and not others?
I have no issues with racist people. I have had some great debates with racist people. We agreed to disagree! If they had attacked me physically as I have been before many times, the debate would have been very different lol.
You can say what you want but do not put your hands on me!
Yes, you can educate! But you will never be able to have everyone to have the same thought process. Why? Because everyone is influenced by what's happening in the environment and their background.
Take Brexit, I have been here over 20 years, no problem what so ever and now, because of it, I have never left so unwelcome in Scotland!
And I tell my kids to express their opinions whatever they are, and learn to listen to others opinions that they agree or not.
I fear actions, not words. Everyone can talk. The dangerous people are the ones that act.
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I think 'some' people are easily offended. You often notice that it is always the same group of people getting up in arms for the same subject!
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What an idiotic thing to say.
The reason that "some people" get "up in arms for the same subject" is that they're the victims of constant harrassment and abuse for a characteristic they cannot change about themselves by troglodytes who use this as a way to make generalisations or discriminate. Often for no reason whatsoever.
Why should someone suffer abuse purely for the way they are born? They shouldn't; and that's why they get disgruntled when it happens.
Would you prefer them to take this unprovoked intolerance and remain silent? What good will that do?
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I think 'some' people are easily offended. You often notice that it is always the same group of people getting up in arms for the same subject!
What an idiotic thing to say.
The reason that "some people" get "up in arms for the same subject" is that they're the victims of constant harrassment and abuse for a characteristic they cannot change about themselves by troglodytes who use this as a way to make generalisations or discriminate. Often for no reason whatsoever.
Why should someone suffer abuse purely for the way they are born? They shouldn't; and that's why they get disgruntled when it happens.
Would you prefer them to take this unprovoked intolerance and remain silent? What good will that do?
The only way to prevent it is to speak up and challenge it. To educate the uneducated. "
I actually meant a group of people that often the subject does not concern or affect that do get up in arms about it louder than the affected group!
Not that I have to explain myself to you!
I will not debate with someone that is disrespectful.
As I said I do not have the need to insult or put down someone to make my point.
You can't teach respect!
And that was one of my point to Verity!
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I actually meant a group of people that often the subject does not concern or affect that do get up in arms about it louder than the affected group!
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Feeling empathy for a marginalised minority -despite your lack of association- and wanting to make a difference to those individuals' plight makes one an ally. What if the affected have their voices curbed, or their rights denied? An outsider can help add legitimacy and reach the ears of those who won't listen.
Respect can be learned and/or conditioned. It's not an emotion. Just like intolerance, xenophobia, hate... can also be taught. |
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I wouldn't say that everyone is too pc, it's just there's always a boundary of thought between different generations, there are always going to be issues people feel strongly about due to factors like upbringing, environment etc, all people simply cannot get along on everything, this is why free speech is important and gives a level playing field for us to Duke out our differences.
The only group automatically not allowed free speech are Nazis, they should be punched in the face. |
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over a year ago
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I'd say yes, and while I understand the reasoning behind it sometimes, there are some who just want to be offended so they can be seen as victims for some reason or other.
I don't get offended easily and would never want to offend anyone else, but that also wouldn't stop me from sharing my _iews when necessary in certain situations.
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Some very interesting responses and good reading . I find it intriguing that people automatically associate offence to political correctness rather than common decency . Calling someone a name with a negative connotation surely is a common decency issue rather than a pc one ?
Watched a video today and it made me think about my actions . When i hear racist language such as guys on site 'going to the pakis' it boild my piss and tend to snap back at them , this results in them knowing it pisses me off so they over egg it all day suddenly its a 'chinky' for tea and so on , perhaps if i explained why it irks me so much it maybe help them understand my _iew rather than using it as a tool to wind me up .
Something to think about
( for the record in my opinion the terms above are negative and offensive and have nothing to do with being pc rather just common decency ) |
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I think its dependant on what you believe pc to mean and cover.as an example my brothers friend (asian) often goes for a chinky now since he is of chinese heritage this isnt seen as racist. its just a word that describes what he wants to eat to himself and those who know him. A white person saying this would get a diffrent response that says more about the person hearing it than the person saying it though. In general as alot seem to be saying here most times its folk wanting to hear offence that hear it and bleat the loudest |
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"Chinky*"
thing is i wonder how many actual Chinese people would be offended by this, but that's not the problem, it's all those stupid SJW's that seem to think they can feel offended on behave of a group of people.
it's a virtual signalling comp. |
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"On here, no one can offend me.
And in the outside world too.
Huffing and puffing outrage is a waste of time and energy.
Vote change."
But have you ever been turned down for a job because of who you are? Denied access? Beaten-up? Assaulted?
Just because you haven't doesn't mean it doesn't exist  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"On here, no one can offend me.
And in the outside world too.
Huffing and puffing outrage is a waste of time and energy.
Vote change.
But have you ever been turned down for a job because of who you are? Denied access? Beaten-up? Assaulted?
Just because you haven't doesn't mean it doesn't exist "
Being seen as gay in a small town in the 70s I was beaten up more times than I care to remember, but I chose to not allow them to beat my spirit. I see the same people 40 years and I smile at them. I won. |
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over a year ago
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Being offended...is a personal choice
If you are ...maybe take a look inside and ask yourself why?
Only you Yourself can decided not to be offended
If that makes sense |
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"On here, no one can offend me.
And in the outside world too.
Huffing and puffing outrage is a waste of time and energy.
Vote change.
But have you ever been turned down for a job because of who you are? Denied access? Beaten-up? Assaulted?
Just because you haven't doesn't mean it doesn't exist
Being seen as gay in a small town in the 70s I was beaten up more times than I care to remember, but I chose to not allow them to beat my spirit. I see the same people 40 years and I smile at them. I won."
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"And i have seen chinese people lose their shit when its said infront of them .
Stick the word chinky into google and see whats said . Its a defined as an informal and offensive term . "
so it comes down to how something is delivered chinky is almost the same as scoty or jock which I dont find offensive but if I wanted to I could. Its how something is delivered that should determine the sense in which it is intended not the word alone another is the coloured folk who accept being called "my nigger" from other coloured folk but would never accept it from another race. I could be called a lovely white asshat and be offended if its said in an offensive manner or rolling about laughing if said in jest |
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"No it isn't but it isn't offensive either it's just slang I've heard many people say it within earshot of Chinese people they don't take offence "
I agree the Chinese in my area refer to them selfs as "The wee wullie winkey "
Slag and colloquialism. Being racist is referring to them in bad context or abusive statement. But to refer to something in the context of a conversation isn't being mean or victimising others. This is where people get hot in the head in regards to being ill educated and agitated and then believe their opinion is the only one that's correct. |
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Personally I think PC is being polite. I always find it strange that anyone would deliberately want to insult anyone. Given that English/Scottish are rich languages I am puzzled that anyone would want to offend. But my experience is that there are people who enjoy giving offence but are upset if you call them out. If it walks like a duck, looks like a duck and quacks like a duck it is duck. If you say racist and sexist things you are racist and sexist. In the same way as despise racism I despise sexism
I do not have to be a woman to do so. I do not have to be Jewish to have no tolerance for antisemitism.
People used to say "sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me", they don't say that to cyber bullying, harrassment or trolling.
The problem is that those groups that have been used to deference and preference are upset about having to treat people diferrent from them equally and fairly.
People like to say you can't change human nature this was basis of apartheid South Africa and Nazi Germany. They have been defeated and changed. Slavery was held to be part of the natural order as was not educating children or women.
If a person can't get their head around being polite and treating people different from them fairly then they they will have to get used to being upset. I give no apologies. |
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"Personally I think PC is being polite. I always find it strange that anyone would deliberately want to insult anyone. Given that English/Scottish are rich languages I am puzzled that anyone would want to offend. But my experience is that there are people who enjoy giving offence but are upset if you call them out. If it walks like a duck, looks like a duck and quacks like a duck it is duck. If you say racist and sexist things you are racist and sexist. In the same way as despise racism I despise sexism
I do not have to be a woman to do so. I do not have to be Jewish to have no tolerance for antisemitism.
People used to say "sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me", they don't say that to cyber bullying, harrassment or trolling.
The problem is that those groups that have been used to deference and preference are upset about having to treat people diferrent from them equally and fairly.
People like to say you can't change human nature this was basis of apartheid South Africa and Nazi Germany. They have been defeated and changed. Slavery was held to be part of the natural order as was not educating children or women.
If a person can't get their head around being polite and treating people different from them fairly then they they will have to get used to being upset. I give no apologies."
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"Personally I think PC is being polite. I always find it strange that anyone would deliberately want to insult anyone. Given that English/Scottish are rich languages I am puzzled that anyone would want to offend. But my experience is that there are people who enjoy giving offence but are upset if you call them out. If it walks like a duck, looks like a duck and quacks like a duck it is duck. If you say racist and sexist things you are racist and sexist. In the same way as despise racism I despise sexism
I do not have to be a woman to do so. I do not have to be Jewish to have no tolerance for antisemitism.
People used to say "sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me", they don't say that to cyber bullying, harrassment or trolling.
The problem is that those groups that have been used to deference and preference are upset about having to treat people diferrent from them equally and fairly.
People like to say you can't change human nature this was basis of apartheid South Africa and Nazi Germany. They have been defeated and changed. Slavery was held to be part of the natural order as was not educating children or women.
If a person can't get their head around being polite and treating people different from them fairly then they they will have to get used to being upset. I give no apologies."
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But then we wouldn't have all the hilarious footage of special snowflakes losing their shit on YouTube! 
These muppets live in a dream world where having a different opinion is considered as a micro aggression n hate speech!
I'll give em a safe space awright! |
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"I wouldn't say it to ones face cause I'm not an asshole its something I keep to myself doesn't make me racist its just a slang word"
So saying it to someones face would make you an asshole ? Whybif its just a slang word ? Kinda blew your own arguement out the water |
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"It's now very common to hear people say, 'I'm rather offended by that.' As if that gives them certain rights. It's actually nothing more... than a whine.
'I find that offensive.'
It has no meaning; it has no purpose; it has no reason to be respected as a phrase.
'I am offended by that.'
Well, so fucking what."
[I saw hate in a graveyard -- Stephen Fry, The Guardian, 5 June 2005] |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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As a short, fat, balding, Englishman....I con wholeheartedly say I think I've had everything thrown at me at one time or another.
However, it just shows how small and narrow minded the minority of people can be.
I agree that a lot of it is in the way it's said to people.
However, as someone has already said, politeness costs nothing.
Now stop being fucking offended all you Lilly livered perverts and hug someone!! 
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The point Kola raised has reminded me that recently there was something that made me not offended, but rather uncomfortable.
If anyone has seen Luke Cage they know what I'm about to say.
The show is set in Harlem, with a black cast. From the word go, the N word was used repeatedly and, to my _iew, unnecessarily. In the space of a minute, one character had said the word about 20 times.
I'm aware that the black community is perhaps 'reclaiming' the word, in a similar way that the LGBT community has done with the word 'queer'.
Yet I felt uncomfortable hearing it and it actually pulled me out of the narrative. As the season went on it was used less, but I wasn't sure if it was trying to be accurate or controversial.
If it is the case that a black person saying it to another black person is fine, that's fair enough. Yet it still makes me feel uncomfortable about it. |
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An ex girlfriend told me at 14 she had to go past a building site on the way to school and back where the builders would wolf whistle and make lewd comments. They did until her father a rugby league player went down there and decked a couple of the builders. But of course people will say it's only micro aggression and boys will be boys and she should have put up with it. Funny how the builders behaved themselves after.
There are people who like to bully and insult those who normally have no ability to have recourse. Unfortunately they are too sad to be muppets, at least the muppets where amusing they are not.
Anyone who wants to be politically incorrect, amusing and meaningful should listen to Doug Stanhope. |
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"An ex girlfriend told me at 14 she had to go past a building site on the way to school and back where the builders would wolf whistle and make lewd comments. They did until her father a rugby league player went down there and decked a couple of the builders. But of course people will say it's only micro aggression and boys will be boys and she should have put up with it. Funny how the builders behaved themselves after.
There are people who like to bully and insult those who normally have no ability to have recourse. Unfortunately they are too sad to be muppets, at least the muppets where amusing they are not.
Anyone who wants to be politically incorrect, amusing and meaningful should listen to Doug Stanhope. "
A fine comedian and very clever fella |
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"The point Kola raised has reminded me that recently there was something that made me not offended, but rather uncomfortable.
If anyone has seen Luke Cage they know what I'm about to say.
The show is set in Harlem, with a black cast. From the word go, the N word was used repeatedly and, to my _iew, unnecessarily. In the space of a minute, one character had said the word about 20 times.
I'm aware that the black community is perhaps 'reclaiming' the word, in a similar way that the LGBT community has done with the word 'queer'.
Yet I felt uncomfortable hearing it and it actually pulled me out of the narrative. As the season went on it was used less, but I wasn't sure if it was trying to be accurate or controversial.
If it is the case that a black person saying it to another black person is fine, that's fair enough. Yet it still makes me feel uncomfortable about it. "
I don't like the word either and do not use it.
And hard to explain to kids that it is an offensive word but yet black people use it amongst themselves and in some lyrics.
I don't like to be referred to as 'coloured' or 'chocolate' either. I just say politely that I don't like that word. It is a preference, other black people don't mind.
I do the same with the likes of hun, babe etc...
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"No it isn't but it isn't offensive either it's just slang I've heard many people say it within earshot of Chinese people they don't take offence "
I think it all comes down to the intention... If its said in a derogatory manner then without a doubt it's offensive and an indecent way to behave |
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"No it isn't but it isn't offensive either it's just slang I've heard many people say it within earshot of Chinese people they don't take offence
I think it all comes down to the intention... If its said in a derogatory manner then without a doubt it's offensive and an indecent way to behave"
That's what I was trying to say if a person is talking about chinese food then its not offensive |
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"No it isn't but it isn't offensive either it's just slang I've heard many people say it within earshot of Chinese people they don't take offence
I think it all comes down to the intention... If its said in a derogatory manner then without a doubt it's offensive and an indecent way to behave
That's what I was trying to say if a person is talking about chinese food then its not offensive "
Yet you wouldnt day to a chinese person you fancy a chinky  |
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"The point Kola raised has reminded me that recently there was something that made me not offended, but rather uncomfortable.
If anyone has seen Luke Cage they know what I'm about to say.
The show is set in Harlem, with a black cast. From the word go, the N word was used repeatedly and, to my _iew, unnecessarily. In the space of a minute, one character had said the word about 20 times.
I'm aware that the black community is perhaps 'reclaiming' the word, in a similar way that the LGBT community has done with the word 'queer'.
Yet I felt uncomfortable hearing it and it actually pulled me out of the narrative. As the season went on it was used less, but I wasn't sure if it was trying to be accurate or controversial.
If it is the case that a black person saying it to another black person is fine, that's fair enough. Yet it still makes me feel uncomfortable about it.
I don't like the word either and do not use it.
And hard to explain to kids that it is an offensive word but yet black people use it amongst themselves and in some lyrics.
I don't like to be referred to as 'coloured' or 'chocolate' either. I just say politely that I don't like that word. It is a preference, other black people don't mind.
I do the same with the likes of hun, babe etc...
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its an unfortunate part of life and no slur was intended. as an example it could be offensive for me to call you an african when your ethnicity isnt from that region. I wouldnt want to offend folk on their ethnicity (usually plenty of worse points anyway) I tend to use coulored as maybe just to my mind but seems the best of a bad lot when you know so little of a person. |
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"The point Kola raised has reminded me that recently there was something that made me not offended, but rather uncomfortable.
If anyone has seen Luke Cage they know what I'm about to say.
The show is set in Harlem, with a black cast. From the word go, the N word was used repeatedly and, to my _iew, unnecessarily. In the space of a minute, one character had said the word about 20 times.
I'm aware that the black community is perhaps 'reclaiming' the word, in a similar way that the LGBT community has done with the word 'queer'.
Yet I felt uncomfortable hearing it and it actually pulled me out of the narrative. As the season went on it was used less, but I wasn't sure if it was trying to be accurate or controversial.
If it is the case that a black person saying it to another black person is fine, that's fair enough. Yet it still makes me feel uncomfortable about it.
I don't like the word either and do not use it.
And hard to explain to kids that it is an offensive word but yet black people use it amongst themselves and in some lyrics.
I don't like to be referred to as 'coloured' or 'chocolate' either. I just say politely that I don't like that word. It is a preference, other black people don't mind.
I do the same with the likes of hun, babe etc...
its an unfortunate part of life and no slur was intended. as an example it could be offensive for me to call you an african when your ethnicity isnt from that region. I wouldnt want to offend folk on their ethnicity (usually plenty of worse points anyway) I tend to use coulored as maybe just to my mind but seems the best of a bad lot when you know so little of a person."
My mates response is simply 'what colour am i ? And are you not a colour ?
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No idea dont know your mate .........pcism also finds offence in using certain colours. Myself im caucasian (white folk are easy). My point was almost all offensive language is in its delivery and manner in which its given not in the actual word |
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"No it isn't but it isn't offensive either it's just slang I've heard many people say it within earshot of Chinese people they don't take offence
I think it all comes down to the intention... If its said in a derogatory manner then without a doubt it's offensive and an indecent way to behave
That's what I was trying to say if a person is talking about chinese food then its not offensive
Yet you wouldnt day to a chinese person you fancy a chinky "
Oh I give up no pleasing some people |
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"The point Kola raised has reminded me that recently there was something that made me not offended, but rather uncomfortable.
If anyone has seen Luke Cage they know what I'm about to say.
The show is set in Harlem, with a black cast. From the word go, the N word was used repeatedly and, to my _iew, unnecessarily. In the space of a minute, one character had said the word about 20 times.
I'm aware that the black community is perhaps 'reclaiming' the word, in a similar way that the LGBT community has done with the word 'queer'.
Yet I felt uncomfortable hearing it and it actually pulled me out of the narrative. As the season went on it was used less, but I wasn't sure if it was trying to be accurate or controversial.
If it is the case that a black person saying it to another black person is fine, that's fair enough. Yet it still makes me feel uncomfortable about it.
I don't like the word either and do not use it.
And hard to explain to kids that it is an offensive word but yet black people use it amongst themselves and in some lyrics.
I don't like to be referred to as 'coloured' or 'chocolate' either. I just say politely that I don't like that word. It is a preference, other black people don't mind.
I do the same with the likes of hun, babe etc...
its an unfortunate part of life and no slur was intended. as an example it could be offensive for me to call you an african when your ethnicity isnt from that region. I wouldnt want to offend folk on their ethnicity (usually plenty of worse points anyway) I tend to use could red as maybe just to my mind but seems the best of a bad lot when you know so little of a person."
I know Kola
I find the safest is just to say 'Black'.
And you... can... call me African as I am also of West African origins lol just to make it more complicated for folks! |
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"No it isn't but it isn't offensive either it's just slang I've heard many people say it within earshot of Chinese people they don't take offence
I think it all comes down to the intention... If its said in a derogatory manner then without a doubt it's offensive and an indecent way to behave
That's what I was trying to say if a person is talking about chinese food then its not offensive
Yet you wouldnt day to a chinese person you fancy a chinky
Oh I give up no pleasing some people"
Not about pleasing anyone . Simply pointing out you destroyed your own arguement by saying you wouldnt say it to someone as your not an asshole but keep it to yourself .
Surely that in itself tells you its not a term of endearment but most likely an offensive term . |
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As somebody who is regularly abused by people from all areas of the socio-economic scale if i jumped on the bus every time i got offended then I'd never be bloody well off it. My general description would be 'ya wee, fat, speccy basturt/cunt/dyke' and instead of getting all offended and going bleating to my boss who also fits said description, replace dyke with poof, I just say 'you forgot to say ugly' and that winds them up even more. Never, ever argue with an idiot!!! |
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