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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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had a couple pals leave recently
and starting to wonder what the hells going on....i know this is a tough world and im sure the negativity on here hasnt helped....but i never got a chance to pass on other details....  |
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"had a couple pals leave recently
and starting to wonder what the hells going on....i know this is a tough world and im sure the negativity on here hasnt helped....but i never got a chance to pass on other details.... "
people come & go for many reasons if they want stay intouch they will.
But fear not im sute they will be back soon enough if not already  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not the nice place it used to be 
I think most people I speak to by Private Message seem nice... but sometimes the forums get people... het up!"
The dynamics of the whole site have changed.. fab used to be a really fun place in forums, chat rooms etc but it's become really hostile and the abuse levels are off the chart.. my opinion anyway. I'm not sure of the reasons for the change.. maybe it's me lol
I'm seriously considering whether it's worth staying. |
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"It's not the nice place it used to be
I think most people I speak to by Private Message seem nice... but sometimes the forums get people... het up!
The dynamics of the whole site have changed.. fab used to be a really fun place in forums, chat rooms etc but it's become really hostile and the abuse levels are off the chart.. my opinion anyway. I'm not sure of the reasons for the change.. maybe it's me lol
I'm seriously considering whether it's worth staying. "
Agreed also very cliquey. |
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"It's not the nice place it used to be
I think most people I speak to by Private Message seem nice... but sometimes the forums get people... het up!
The dynamics of the whole site have changed.. fab used to be a really fun place in forums, chat rooms etc but it's become really hostile and the abuse levels are off the chart.. my opinion anyway. I'm not sure of the reasons for the change.. maybe it's me lol
I'm seriously considering whether it's worth staying. "
Not another leaver, noooooo  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not the nice place it used to be
I think most people I speak to by Private Message seem nice... but sometimes the forums get people... het up!
The dynamics of the whole site have changed.. fab used to be a really fun place in forums, chat rooms etc but it's become really hostile and the abuse levels are off the chart.. my opinion anyway. I'm not sure of the reasons for the change.. maybe it's me lol
I'm seriously considering whether it's worth staying.
Not another leaver, noooooo "
I'm fairly certain I will haunt a few fabbers if I decide to go  |
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"It's not the nice place it used to be
I think most people I speak to by Private Message seem nice... but sometimes the forums get people... het up!
The dynamics of the whole site have changed.. fab used to be a really fun place in forums, chat rooms etc but it's become really hostile and the abuse levels are off the chart.. my opinion anyway. I'm not sure of the reasons for the change.. maybe it's me lol
I'm seriously considering whether it's worth staying.
Not another leaver, noooooo
I'm fairly certain I will haunt a few fabbers if I decide to go "
It's not even Halloween, it's Hogmanay  |
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By *hav02Man
over a year ago
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Forums can be quite cliquey, from what some people have said to me on PM, and that can be off putting to newbies..
I try to be active, but i don't think it has really helped me with meets 
hardly any people under 30 on forums as well.. |
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It's a shame that some people feel like the forums are unwelcoming.
We joined the site 4yrs ago and I used the forum pretty much straightaway. At first I was a lurker and could clearly see groups of people who were friendly with each other but I've never seen exclusion on a large scale, maybe with one or two people who thankfully don't seem to be around much anymore.
I started commenting on threads and sometimes I would go unnoticed, and probably still do, but eventually I got to work out people's personalities and got chatting to a fair few a bit, and gravitated towards people I seemed to click with and who had my sense of humour. I've met some of those people and become friends in person as well as online.
Personally I've found the forums to be an invaluable tool. Yes there are peaks where everyone seems to be happy and chirpy, and troughs where every thread seems to descend into an argument. But the same can be said of real life.if I start feeling the mood descend I'll keep away for a while.
If you look at the Scotland forum in particular It probably does seem like a tiny group of people, given how many profiles there are on fab and what percentage of those actually frequent the forums - I believe that the number is less than 1%.
It would be great if more of the other 99% would get involved, inject new life and bring new subjects. But I still have a great time here.
C never uses the forum as its not his thing and he really doesn't have the time, he prefers to use the chatrooms whereas I find the interaction there to be fleeting and difficult to keep up with.
Apologies for the ramble, I think my point is that it's what you make of it, like anything in life. |
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
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"why is everyone leaving....where is everyone going to....im missing my chummys "
If they were real friends, they'd PM you details of how they can be contacted, before they went. As for Fab 'chums', that's all they are, just passing through. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is it time for a head count? Who's missing?
If you are already back don't put your hand up. Likewise those with several profiles. It ruins the statistics.
That damn 'clique' again!
*shakes fist menacingly then has huge yawn*.  |
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Cant believe the forums are whats making people leave...jesus its a bit of fun .
The day I leave here will be by my own choosing and certainly not because I felt pushed by anyone.
Most who have left recently are ones who have done so in the past either due to being fed up or for family comitments .
Some leave to get around forum bans so leave and come back under a different guise.
I wouldnt worry about the reasons too much op but Im sure when they return they will be in touch again |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
There's only a small proportion of members who use the forums. Yes they can be shark infested at times but the forum at its best can be funny, informative and initiate a healthy debate. I've messaged people to offer support and advice and I've been messaged by fellow forumites.
If the forums turn nasty, we've only ourselves to blame! Forum topics do tend to be the same things that get reposted every few days. Let's have some new topics and points for discussion.
Let's make 2017 a friendlier forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's only a small proportion of members who use the forums. Yes they can be shark infested at times but the forum at its best can be funny, informative and initiate a healthy debate. I've messaged people to offer support and advice and I've been messaged by fellow forumites.
If the forums turn nasty, we've only ourselves to blame! Forum topics do tend to be the same things that get reposted every few days. Let's have some new topics and points for discussion.
Let's make 2017 a friendlier forum. "
Well said young lady  |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
"There's only a small proportion of members who use the forums. Yes they can be shark infested at times but the forum at its best can be funny, informative and initiate a healthy debate. I've messaged people to offer support and advice and I've been messaged by fellow forumites.
If the forums turn nasty, we've only ourselves to blame! Forum topics do tend to be the same things that get reposted every few days. Let's have some new topics and points for discussion.
Let's make 2017 a friendlier forum.
Well said young lady "
Thanks for the 'young lady' ! |
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"There's only a small proportion of members who use the forums. Yes they can be shark infested at times but the forum at its best can be funny, informative and initiate a healthy debate. I've messaged people to offer support and advice and I've been messaged by fellow forumites.
If the forums turn nasty, we've only ourselves to blame! Forum topics do tend to be the same things that get reposted every few days. Let's have some new topics and points for discussion.
Let's make 2017 a friendlier forum.
Well said young lady
Thanks for the 'young lady' ! "
no one called me young lady ... thats it im leaving lol |
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"There's only a small proportion of members who use the forums. Yes they can be shark infested at times but the forum at its best can be funny, informative and initiate a healthy debate. I've messaged people to offer support and advice and I've been messaged by fellow forumites.
If the forums turn nasty, we've only ourselves to blame! Forum topics do tend to be the same things that get reposted every few days. Let's have some new topics and points for discussion.
Let's make 2017 a friendlier forum. "
Amen Sista! Lol
And I have done the same pm people or received advice from a thread.
The forum can be a fun place.
Some need to remember that there are real people behind a thread, a post and a profile.
Some need to remember that not all insults/attacks/digs requires an answer.
And some need to remember that you can communicate your opinion without putting down or attacking others.
Anyway! Am looking forward to genuine debates and interesting threads next year.
Hope everyone has a great day |
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We're forum lurkers who only rarely dip our toes in.
I often feel sorry for new members who make a post about their own personal kinks or interests, only to be shot down from high horse vantage points with "ewww that's disgusting" comments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm in my own little world.
Always have been. Nice people are always welcome.
But then it gets called a clique - but I don't care
Happy new year everyone "
Same to you furry x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there are more people simply not posting these days than leaving. The scottish forum has been very quiet in recent weeks with topics that are interesting enough to comment on, have a good debate about or provide a springboard for the creation of other topics.
Hopefully once everything gets back to normal in a week or two things will pick up.
Until then have a fab new year everyone whatever you get up to.
Jac -x-
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"I think there are more people simply not posting these days than leaving. The scottish forum has been very quiet in recent weeks with topics that are interesting enough to comment on, have a good debate about or provide a springboard for the creation of other topics.
Hopefully once everything gets back to normal in a week or two things will pick up.
Until then have a fab new year everyone whatever you get up to.
Jac -x-
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Oh there's trouble lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because there's some total crazies on here that force people off? I've recently fell out with someone due to someone else talking shit about me (who I've never met) and they've chose to believe that persons lies.. if it wasn't for a few good friends on here I'd of gone again, just way too much drama these days... it's rather amusing though 
Happy New Year all |
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"Because there's some total crazies on here that force people off? I've recently fell out with someone due to someone else talking shit about me (who I've never met) and they've chose to believe that persons lies.. if it wasn't for a few good friends on here I'd of gone again, just way too much drama these days... it's rather amusing though
Happy New Year all "
I think this has happend to a lot of people on here .
Hold your head high and dont let anyone make you leave |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because there's some total crazies on here that force people off? I've recently fell out with someone due to someone else talking shit about me (who I've never met) and they've chose to believe that persons lies.. if it wasn't for a few good friends on here I'd of gone again, just way too much drama these days... it's rather amusing though
Happy New Year all "
Sadly more than one. I don't chat in forum now for this reason. She lurks and then stirs trouble |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because there's some total crazies on here that force people off? I've recently fell out with someone due to someone else talking shit about me (who I've never met) and they've chose to believe that persons lies.. if it wasn't for a few good friends on here I'd of gone again, just way too much drama these days... it's rather amusing though
Happy New Year all
Sadly more than one. I don't chat in forum now for this reason. She lurks and then stirs trouble "
Gotta love them crazy bitches! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
When Noah was building his arc, somebody will have been bitching about him........
It's likely when Mr Delta251 is enjoying his shiny new flying car in days to come, somebody will be bitching.
And in all the days between, somebody will be bitching about someone.
It ain't going to change, just don't allow it to influence how you conduct yourself, |
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I like the (Scottish) forum or at least the thought of it. The only negative imo is when you see so many threads end up with the same people, saying the same things over and over. It puts you me off joining in because it looks like a group chat full of inside jokes rather than an open platform for discussing the topic posted.
I wouldn't leave the site because it annoyed me though, I would just stop reading the Scottish threads.
I've not been a member of the site very long though, and I only know a few of the people that post through meeting them in person. I can say that almost everyone I have met from here has been great to be around, they have been friendly and welcomed me into there company.
Jim |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
glasgow |
I can't understand anyone leaving because of the forums. If they had a problem with them then they could just avoid them altogether but still use the site.
In saying that though there are issues with the forums (long post incoming!!!)
Before I start I should point out that some of these things are probably just human nature in a way and others may be done without even realising their effect. So with that in mind here’s my _iew
1) There probably aren’t a lot of people use the forum and many that do will know each other from socials, CJ’s etc. Nothing at all wrong with that but I think that may mean there’s less opposing _iewpoints among people who know each other etc. You’re more likely to post when you agree with someone you know or like than you are if you disagree with their point and this probably skews things a bit. As I say, that’s only human.
2) I think the tone of a whole thread can be set very early depending on who has replied and what their _iew is. Sometimes someone can post a particular _iew and it’s then a lot of people agreeing with that person’s _iew/ praising their wisdom etc and that is basically it, or it’s much further down that you’ll find someone posting a different _iew and then maybe a few people eventually coming out to agree with them.
3) There’s sometimes a passive-aggressiveness used to shut down opposing _iews. This is normally in the form of ‘if you don’t agree with the subject then don’t read/ reply to it’ or ‘let’s not have any negativity’ but opposing _iews are part of any adult discussion, it should only be a problem if someone is being abusive or nasty otherwise it all becomes a bit Stepford Wives. Sometimes I’ve also seen people deliberately derail threads when there’s any sort of disagreement with people then mentioning ‘cake’ or some flirting. It’s basically being done to close down the discussion or change the subject.
4) Following on from the above, the many derails with inane flirting. The last time this was discussed people mentioned that threads, like conversations, tend to change. The issue here is, if we’re comparing it to a conversation it’s the equivalent of people barging in and taking over without even being involved in the original subject matter. It’s something that’s pretty specific to fab (not sure about the other forums within fab as I don’t read them all) There have been some decent discussions that have been completely shut down in this way and it puts people off. I think more moderation may be the answer but that’s not something people want to see.
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
Falkirk |
Ok. Guilty as charged. I'm a cake whore and a forum floosie. 
However, even I've been posting less of late.
However, none of it actually matters in the grand scheme of things.
People come. People go. It's life.
Just smile and post whatever you want.
Just try and not do it nastily and keep it within the rules and we will all live to see another mankini |
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"Ok. Guilty as charged. I'm a cake whore and a forum floosie.
However, even I've been posting less of late.
However, none of it actually matters in the grand scheme of things.
People come. People go. It's life.
Just smile and post whatever you want.
Just try and not do it nastily and keep it within the rules and we will all live to see another mankini "
I'd like to be a cake whore and Floosie but really I'm more likely to joke about stuff with the intermittent logical post randomly thrown in .
Please no more mankini shots mind bleach is in very short supply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't understand anyone leaving because of the forums. If they had a problem with them then they could just avoid them altogether but still use the site.
In saying that though there are issues with the forums (long post incoming!!!)
Before I start I should point out that some of these things are probably just human nature in a way and others may be done without even realising their effect. So with that in mind here’s my _iew
1) There probably aren’t a lot of people use the forum and many that do will know each other from socials, CJ’s etc. Nothing at all wrong with that but I think that may mean there’s less opposing _iewpoints among people who know each other etc. You’re more likely to post when you agree with someone you know or like than you are if you disagree with their point and this probably skews things a bit. As I say, that’s only human.
2) I think the tone of a whole thread can be set very early depending on who has replied and what their _iew is. Sometimes someone can post a particular _iew and it’s then a lot of people agreeing with that person’s _iew/ praising their wisdom etc and that is basically it, or it’s much further down that you’ll find someone posting a different _iew and then maybe a few people eventually coming out to agree with them.
3) There’s sometimes a passive-aggressiveness used to shut down opposing _iews. This is normally in the form of ‘if you don’t agree with the subject then don’t read/ reply to it’ or ‘let’s not have any negativity’ but opposing _iews are part of any adult discussion, it should only be a problem if someone is being abusive or nasty otherwise it all becomes a bit Stepford Wives. Sometimes I’ve also seen people deliberately derail threads when there’s any sort of disagreement with people then mentioning ‘cake’ or some flirting. It’s basically being done to close down the discussion or change the subject.
4) Following on from the above, the many derails with inane flirting. The last time this was discussed people mentioned that threads, like conversations, tend to change. The issue here is, if we’re comparing it to a conversation it’s the equivalent of people barging in and taking over without even being involved in the original subject matter. It’s something that’s pretty specific to fab (not sure about the other forums within fab as I don’t read them all) There have been some decent discussions that have been completely shut down in this way and it puts people off. I think more moderation may be the answer but that’s not something people want to see.
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Very wise...very true... |
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"I can't understand anyone leaving because of the forums. If they had a problem with them then they could just avoid them altogether but still use the site.
In saying that though there are issues with the forums (long post incoming!!!)
Before I start I should point out that some of these things are probably just human nature in a way and others may be done without even realising their effect. So with that in mind here’s my _iew
1) There probably aren’t a lot of people use the forum and many that do will know each other from socials, CJ’s etc. Nothing at all wrong with that but I think that may mean there’s less opposing _iewpoints among people who know each other etc. You’re more likely to post when you agree with someone you know or like than you are if you disagree with their point and this probably skews things a bit. As I say, that’s only human.
2) I think the tone of a whole thread can be set very early depending on who has replied and what their _iew is. Sometimes someone can post a particular _iew and it’s then a lot of people agreeing with that person’s _iew/ praising their wisdom etc and that is basically it, or it’s much further down that you’ll find someone posting a different _iew and then maybe a few people eventually coming out to agree with them.
3) There’s sometimes a passive-aggressiveness used to shut down opposing _iews. This is normally in the form of ‘if you don’t agree with the subject then don’t read/ reply to it’ or ‘let’s not have any negativity’ but opposing _iews are part of any adult discussion, it should only be a problem if someone is being abusive or nasty otherwise it all becomes a bit Stepford Wives. Sometimes I’ve also seen people deliberately derail threads when there’s any sort of disagreement with people then mentioning ‘cake’ or some flirting. It’s basically being done to close down the discussion or change the subject.
4) Following on from the above, the many derails with inane flirting. The last time this was discussed people mentioned that threads, like conversations, tend to change. The issue here is, if we’re comparing it to a conversation it’s the equivalent of people barging in and taking over without even being involved in the original subject matter. It’s something that’s pretty specific to fab (not sure about the other forums within fab as I don’t read them all) There have been some decent discussions that have been completely shut down in this way and it puts people off. I think more moderation may be the answer but that’s not something people want to see.
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Probably a lot of truth in this. |
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"It's a shame that some people feel like the forums are unwelcoming.
We joined the site 4yrs ago and I used the forum pretty much straightaway. At first I was a lurker and could clearly see groups of people who were friendly with each other but I've never seen exclusion on a large scale, maybe with one or two people who thankfully don't seem to be around much anymore.
I started commenting on threads and sometimes I would go unnoticed, and probably still do, but eventually I got to work out people's personalities and got chatting to a fair few a bit, and gravitated towards people I seemed to click with and who had my sense of humour. I've met some of those people and become friends in person as well as online.
Personally I've found the forums to be an invaluable tool. Yes there are peaks where everyone seems to be happy and chirpy, and troughs where every thread seems to descend into an argument. But the same can be said of real life.if I start feeling the mood descend I'll keep away for a while.
If you look at the Scotland forum in particular It probably does seem like a tiny group of people, given how many profiles there are on fab and what percentage of those actually frequent the forums - I believe that the number is less than 1%.
It would be great if more of the other 99% would get involved, inject new life and bring new subjects. But I still have a great time here.
C never uses the forum as its not his thing and he really doesn't have the time, he prefers to use the chatrooms whereas I find the interaction there to be fleeting and difficult to keep up with.
Apologies for the ramble, I think my point is that it's what you make of it, like anything in life."
That pretty much nails it. I've been around for just over ten years and have watched the forum cycle change. When I first appeared the forums were very different to how things are now and I can't help but wonder if it's because this world is much more mainstream than it was then. It used to be a big secret and a little bit taboo and now it's not.
Things change and that's really part and parcel of time moving and technology improving but I'm still surprised by the lack of kindness and manners shown to other forum users. We were all new once so I think cutting newbies some slack when a topic we've read a million times appears yet again rather than dishing out sarcasm and cynicism would be a good start.
The longer you're here, the more people know each other, personalities clash and love ins happen... the more you post, the more people get to know you and you become part of what appears to be the dreaded clique. If we all managed to debate and disagree without getting personal, the forums would be far more entertaining for everyone. |
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"It's a shame that some people feel like the forums are unwelcoming.
We joined the site 4yrs ago and I used the forum pretty much straightaway. At first I was a lurker and could clearly see groups of people who were friendly with each other but I've never seen exclusion on a large scale, maybe with one or two people who thankfully don't seem to be around much anymore.
I started commenting on threads and sometimes I would go unnoticed, and probably still do, but eventually I got to work out people's personalities and got chatting to a fair few a bit, and gravitated towards people I seemed to click with and who had my sense of humour. I've met some of those people and become friends in person as well as online.
Personally I've found the forums to be an invaluable tool. Yes there are peaks where everyone seems to be happy and chirpy, and troughs where every thread seems to descend into an argument. But the same can be said of real life.if I start feeling the mood descend I'll keep away for a while.
If you look at the Scotland forum in particular It probably does seem like a tiny group of people, given how many profiles there are on fab and what percentage of those actually frequent the forums - I believe that the number is less than 1%.
It would be great if more of the other 99% would get involved, inject new life and bring new subjects. But I still have a great time here.
C never uses the forum as its not his thing and he really doesn't have the time, he prefers to use the chatrooms whereas I find the interaction there to be fleeting and difficult to keep up with.
Apologies for the ramble, I think my point is that it's what you make of it, like anything in life.
That pretty much nails it. I've been around for just over ten years and have watched the forum cycle change. When I first appeared the forums were very different to how things are now and I can't help but wonder if it's because this world is much more mainstream than it was then. It used to be a big secret and a little bit taboo and now it's not.
Things change and that's really part and parcel of time moving and technology improving but I'm still surprised by the lack of kindness and manners shown to other forum users. We were all new once so I think cutting newbies some slack when a topic we've read a million times appears yet again rather than dishing out sarcasm and cynicism would be a good start.
The longer you're here, the more people know each other, personalities clash and love ins happen... the more you post, the more people get to know you and you become part of what appears to be the dreaded clique. If we all managed to debate and disagree without getting personal, the forums would be far more entertaining for everyone. "
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over a year ago
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"It's a shame that some people feel like the forums are unwelcoming.
We joined the site 4yrs ago and I used the forum pretty much straightaway. At first I was a lurker and could clearly see groups of people who were friendly with each other but I've never seen exclusion on a large scale, maybe with one or two people who thankfully don't seem to be around much anymore.
I started commenting on threads and sometimes I would go unnoticed, and probably still do, but eventually I got to work out people's personalities and got chatting to a fair few a bit, and gravitated towards people I seemed to click with and who had my sense of humour. I've met some of those people and become friends in person as well as online.
Personally I've found the forums to be an invaluable tool. Yes there are peaks where everyone seems to be happy and chirpy, and troughs where every thread seems to descend into an argument. But the same can be said of real life.if I start feeling the mood descend I'll keep away for a while.
If you look at the Scotland forum in particular It probably does seem like a tiny group of people, given how many profiles there are on fab and what percentage of those actually frequent the forums - I believe that the number is less than 1%.
It would be great if more of the other 99% would get involved, inject new life and bring new subjects. But I still have a great time here.
C never uses the forum as its not his thing and he really doesn't have the time, he prefers to use the chatrooms whereas I find the interaction there to be fleeting and difficult to keep up with.
Apologies for the ramble, I think my point is that it's what you make of it, like anything in life.
That pretty much nails it. I've been around for just over ten years and have watched the forum cycle change. When I first appeared the forums were very different to how things are now and I can't help but wonder if it's because this world is much more mainstream than it was then. It used to be a big secret and a little bit taboo and now it's not.
Things change and that's really part and parcel of time moving and technology improving but I'm still surprised by the lack of kindness and manners shown to other forum users. We were all new once so I think cutting newbies some slack when a topic we've read a million times appears yet again rather than dishing out sarcasm and cynicism would be a good start.
The longer you're here, the more people know each other, personalities clash and love ins happen... the more you post, the more people get to know you and you become part of what appears to be the dreaded clique. If we all managed to debate and disagree without getting personal, the forums would be far more entertaining for everyone. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes you just get fed up with it. I've been on and off here for four years as a single and on a couples profile.
It's often hard work with zero reward and basically there's other ways to make use of your time in a positive sense.
I'll stick around for a bit but I've got some goals in 2017 and FAB isn't no 1 priority.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not the nice place it used to be
I think most people I speak to by Private Message seem nice... but sometimes the forums get people... het up!
The dynamics of the whole site have changed.. fab used to be a really fun place in forums, chat rooms etc but it's become really hostile and the abuse levels are off the chart.. my opinion anyway. I'm not sure of the reasons for the change.. maybe it's me lol
I'm seriously considering whether it's worth staying.
Agreed also very cliquey. "
I find the chatrooms to be very cliquey and downright rude. They blatantly ignore you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A thought, is it that people are now using the various Kik (other social media variations are available) to chat than the forums? Admin of those groups can control membership where as on fab they cannot so they are chatting to their 'own type' of people without snide comments and posts from others. |
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"A thought, is it that people are now using the various Kik (other social media variations are available) to chat than the forums? Admin of those groups can control membership where as on fab they cannot so they are chatting to their 'own type' of people without snide comments and posts from others. "
Naw, doubt it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People leaving, or indeed coming and going has very little if anything to do with the forum/chat rooms in my opinion.
Personal reasons and dramas are the key catalysts I believe.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like the (Scottish) forum or at least the thought of it. The only negative imo is when you see so many threads end up with the same people, saying the same things over and over. It puts you me off joining in because it looks like a group chat full of inside jokes rather than an open platform for discussing the topic posted.
I wouldn't leave the site because it annoyed me though, I would just stop reading the Scottish threads.
I've not been a member of the site very long though, and I only know a few of the people that post through meeting them in person. I can say that almost everyone I have met from here has been great to be around, they have been friendly and welcomed me into there company.
Jim"
Totally agree about the forum clique kinda thing is very obvious in the Scottish forums, down south there's just more people so it seems less like that. This site is a perfect example of how a clique can develop.. especially for example when new people usually guys ask for advice via the forums on profile chat meets etc and the same people provide the same answers but the newbie has already done those things and yet still finds it impossible to get off the ground and just gets bored and leaves.. It's no surprise at all especially when there much more chat and replies on even pof of all places!! |
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
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"I like the (Scottish) forum or at least the thought of it. The only negative imo is when you see so many threads end up with the same people, saying the same things over and over. It puts you me off joining in because it looks like a group chat full of inside jokes rather than an open platform for discussing the topic posted.
I wouldn't leave the site because it annoyed me though, I would just stop reading the Scottish threads.
I've not been a member of the site very long though, and I only know a few of the people that post through meeting them in person. I can say that almost everyone I have met from here has been great to be around, they have been friendly and welcomed me into there company.
Jim
Totally agree about the forum clique kinda thing is very obvious in the Scottish forums, down south there's just more people so it seems less like that. This site is a perfect example of how a clique can develop.. especially for example when new people usually guys ask for advice via the forums on profile chat meets etc and the same people provide the same answers but the newbie has already done those things and yet still finds it impossible to get off the ground and just gets bored and leaves.. It's no surprise at all especially when there much more chat and replies on even pof of all places!! "
As has been said a thousand times...............THERE IS NO FORUM CLIQUE!!!
There is however, a group of people who basically keep the forum going by posting regularly on it. If they stopped posting, you'd have no forum!
EVERY forum has a group of regular posters, there is a forum for every subject under the sum!! There is even a trucker's forum, and if the mods/admin dealt with the forumites there as they do here, they'd have nothing left within the hour!! |
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"I like the (Scottish) forum or at least the thought of it. The only negative imo is when you see so many threads end up with the same people, saying the same things over and over. It puts you me off joining in because it looks like a group chat full of inside jokes rather than an open platform for discussing the topic posted.
I wouldn't leave the site because it annoyed me though, I would just stop reading the Scottish threads.
I've not been a member of the site very long though, and I only know a few of the people that post through meeting them in person. I can say that almost everyone I have met from here has been great to be around, they have been friendly and welcomed me into there company.
Jim
Totally agree about the forum clique kinda thing is very obvious in the Scottish forums, down south there's just more people so it seems less like that. This site is a perfect example of how a clique can develop.. especially for example when new people usually guys ask for advice via the forums on profile chat meets etc and the same people provide the same answers but the newbie has already done those things and yet still finds it impossible to get off the ground and just gets bored and leaves.. It's no surprise at all especially when there much more chat and replies on even pof of all places!! "
It gets very tedious answering the same meet, profile , chat posts by guys . Some are lazy in their approach and a search of same topics can be readily found. |
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very true .i rarely comment in the forum but i do enjoy the debate ,but really dislike when some seem to think they have some moral high perch from where they can cast down to the minions beneath them .we are all creatures of imperfections and weaknesses but i still think of Bambi "If you cant say nothing nice dont say nothing at all " |
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very true .i rarely comment in the forum but i do enjoy the debate ,but really dislike when some seem to think they have some moral high perch from where they can cast down to the minions beneath them .we are all creatures of imperfections and weaknesses but i still think of Bambi "If you cant say nothing nice dont say nothing at all " |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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Yup, all newbies should be given a welcome shag to make them feel included.
It's the only solution.
As for advice threads, in all seriousness if a grown adult can't interact well enough, craft a profile that says something about them and or behave appropriately, this is not the place for them. There is no golden nugget that guarantees sex. It's common fucking sense.
Welcome all new members, good luck
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"Yup, all newbies should be given a welcome shag to make them feel included.
It's the only solution.
As for advice threads, in all seriousness if a grown adult can't interact well enough, craft a profile that says something about them and or behave appropriately, this is not the place for them. There is no golden nugget that guarantees sex. It's common fucking sense.
Welcome all new members, good luck
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Can the welcome shag be claimed retrospectively please ? 
All the best for 2017 |
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
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"Yup, all newbies should be given a welcome shag to make them feel included.
It's the only solution.
As for advice threads, in all seriousness if a grown adult can't interact well enough, craft a profile that says something about them and or behave appropriately, this is not the place for them. There is no golden nugget that guarantees sex. It's common fucking sense.
Welcome all new members, good luck
Can the welcome shag be claimed retrospectively please ?
All the best for 2017 "
Trust you to lower the tone of serious debate by your frivolous contribution.  |
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"Yup, all newbies should be given a welcome shag to make them feel included.
It's the only solution.
As for advice threads, in all seriousness if a grown adult can't interact well enough, craft a profile that says something about them and or behave appropriately, this is not the place for them. There is no golden nugget that guarantees sex. It's common fucking sense.
Welcome all new members, good luck
Can the welcome shag be claimed retrospectively please ?
All the best for 2017
Trust you to lower the tone of serious debate by your frivolous contribution. "
Time wasting clique member here nothing to see move along now |
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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago
A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain |
There was a time I was never off Fab. Either in Chatrooms, Cam Rooms or on Forum. As a very sociable person I chatted to lots of folk - Str8, Bi, Gay, M, F & Couples. I could easily lose hours & even an entire day chatting to regular users. Some might even think I was part of the Fab Clique, but in reality all I was doing was chatting with other regular users.
I also tend to drift away from Fab from time to time, but I've always returned by which time there are new people to chat, socialise & hook up with.
So although I've not been on in weeks it doesn't mean I've left Fab, just that other things are taking priority.
So in case any of my Friends List, Bromance Buddies or Regulars think I've moved abroad, died or lost the ability to type... I'm still very much alive & well but other things are taking up my time. Also, it's Tax Return month so I'm up to my ass making no sure they're sent off to HMRC.
Maybe catch you all in February. Laters, Hunks n Honeys. Much  , Random |
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