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Loving some of the profiles ive seen recently hubby/wife caught cheating on here so spouse sets up their own. No doubt alot will think its wrong for me. I hope they go all the way and let them read the graphic veris pics would be hilarious. |
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"I take no pleasure from other peoples misery. Their partnership/marriage and possibly family ripped apart ...just very sad situation in my book ."
I take no pleasure from the misery thats been caused. Though I think it shows great strength and character to do what these folk do. And if it makes them feel better is that not a good thing. Most wont agree but for the original cheat is it not you reap what you sow
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"I take no pleasure from other peoples misery. Their partnership/marriage and possibly family ripped apart ...just very sad situation in my book .I take no pleasure from the misery thats been caused. Though I think it shows great strength and character to do what these folk do. And if it makes them feel better is that not a good thing. Most wont agree but for the original cheat is it not you reap what you sow"
No in my opinion it shows more strength of charector to deal with this in privacy and with dignity. Not get some cheap shot revenge and spite . |
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I think dealing with these kinda things in a way that doesn't involve a public show of revenge demonstrates greater strength of character.
The publicly played out dramas sadden me a little  |
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"Perhaps just me.....but for me there are levels. And response levels. And I believe for me finding your wife/husband on a swinging site with all that entails a pvt dressing down wouldnt do "
... and I am not justifying it but sometimes... what is the person living with that they come here... it happens too.. there are always two sides to a story... people are so complex and so are relationships... judge your own situation only not others, you have NO IDEA why... |
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over a year ago
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Seen this a few times, tbh play with fire you get burned!nothing like a man / woman scorned. So people should never judge don't ever know how your relationship pans out even the ones that are rock solid  |
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"Seen this a few times, tbh play with fire you get burned!nothing like a man / woman scorned. So people should never judge don't ever know how your relationship pans out even the ones that are rock solid "
Sometimes people even work it out  |
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I always find it slightly worrying why some folk on here post about their current circumstances...personal information should be kept private..
It's a sex site ffs
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"I always find it slightly worrying why some folk on here post about their current circumstances...personal information should be kept private..
It's a sex site ffs
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I agree to an extent but people sometimes people seek other things here... sometimes things just happen... people are complicated and extraordinary and random at times... it's called human nature... nowt like folk  |
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My New Fav Fab Event ..?
Lets face it ..youve been fecking ranting about this topic for years...
What people do on here and how they use it is no ones business but theirs.
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"My New Fav Fab Event ..?
Lets face it ..youve been fecking ranting about this topic for years...
What people do on here and how they use it is no ones business but theirs.
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I comment on what I want.
yes I have strong views on cheaters and I comment on those posts.
this post is about a new thing that seems to be happening and I find worthy of a mention. No need to be so touchy as has been said on many posts dont like it dont comment.
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You might comment on what you want, but you do really seem to have a vendetta about this subject.
Clearly you've been cheated on and haven't got over it, and I'm sorry for that. But getting a kick out of other people's misery is rather pathetic.
Merely an observation, not a dig. Perhaps it's worth talking to someone about your unresolved feelings. |
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And I'm assuming that OP you have never done anything "wrong" (1 persons wrong is someone else's right) that you feel entitled to climb up on that moral high horse & cast your judgement on others' actions |
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"You might comment on what you want, but you do really seem to have a vendetta about this subject.
Clearly you've been cheated on and haven't got over it, and I'm sorry for that. But getting a kick out of other people's misery is rather pathetic.
Merely an observation, not a dig. Perhaps it's worth talking to someone about your unresolved feelings."
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"You might comment on what you want, but you do really seem to have a vendetta about this subject.
Clearly you've been cheated on and haven't got over it, and I'm sorry for that. But getting a kick out of other people's misery is rather pathetic.
Merely an observation, not a dig. Perhaps it's worth talking to someone about your unresolved feelings."
nothing to get over and nope not been cheated on in yrs. No vendetta just noticed a large influx of cheated upon partners. As I have said above no kick out of others misery. |
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"You might comment on what you want, but you do really seem to have a vendetta about this subject.
Clearly you've been cheated on and haven't got over it, and I'm sorry for that. But getting a kick out of other people's misery is rather pathetic.
Merely an observation, not a dig. Perhaps it's worth talking to someone about your unresolved feelings.
nothing to get over and nope not been cheated on in yrs. No vendetta just noticed a large influx of cheated upon partners. As I have said above no kick out of others misery. "
Yet your opening post says that you find it hilarious, therefore enjoying it. So you're contradicting yourself. |
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"And I'm assuming that OP you have never done anything "wrong" (1 persons wrong is someone else's right) that you feel entitled to climb up on that moral high horse & cast your judgement on others' actions "
To be fair, he does that on every subject... |
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"You might comment on what you want, but you do really seem to have a vendetta about this subject.
Clearly you've been cheated on and haven't got over it, and I'm sorry for that. But getting a kick out of other people's misery is rather pathetic.
Merely an observation, not a dig. Perhaps it's worth talking to someone about your unresolved feelings.nothing to get over and nope not been cheated on in yrs. No vendetta just noticed a large influx of cheated upon partners. As I have said above no kick out of others misery. "
Sometimes what we note is because it's what is closest to our own pain... |
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"And I'm assuming that OP you have never done anything "wrong" (1 persons wrong is someone else's right) that you feel entitled to climb up on that moral high horse & cast your judgement on others' actions "
kinda like the judgement your casting here ive not cast a judgement but I can and do ive done plenty wrong in my life and have held my hand up everytime. Last comment from me as the gang is forming |
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"And I'm assuming that OP you have never done anything "wrong" (1 persons wrong is someone else's right) that you feel entitled to climb up on that moral high horse & cast your judgement on others' actions kinda like the judgement your casting here ive not cast a judgement but I can and do ive done plenty wrong in my life and have held my hand up everytime. Last comment from me as the gang is forming "
I'm not part of anyone's gang hunni I just say what I see. End of the day we're all here for our own reasons, right or wrong, but whatever those reasons are, they're that persons own reasons. Nobody else's business but theirs. |
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"And I'm assuming that OP you have never done anything "wrong" (1 persons wrong is someone else's right) that you feel entitled to climb up on that moral high horse & cast your judgement on others' actions kinda like the judgement your casting here ive not cast a judgement but I can and do ive done plenty wrong in my life and have held my hand up everytime. Last comment from me as the gang is forming "
There is no "gang" forming... pain is just plain to see perhaps... I believe I remember a comment from you before on saying we all judge... but you deny that here... human beings are very fallible... they make mistakes... it does justify wrong... but yet... sometimes it does... that is contradictory but so are people... xxxxx |
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"And I'm assuming that OP you have never done anything "wrong" (1 persons wrong is someone else's right) that you feel entitled to climb up on that moral high horse & cast your judgement on others' actions kinda like the judgement your casting here ive not cast a judgement but I can and do ive done plenty wrong in my life and have held my hand up everytime. Last comment from me as the gang is forming
There is no "gang" forming... pain is just plain to see perhaps... I believe I remember a comment from you before on saying we all judge... but you deny that here... human beings are very fallible... they make mistakes... it does justify wrong... but yet... sometimes it does... that is contradictory but so are people... xxxxx"
*doesn't justify wrong grrrrrrr |
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"And there's the hive mind comment again, because no one is capable of thinking for themselves if they disagree with you, right?
Dude, you have issues."
sowwee cant let that one slip why is there seldom any diffrences of opinion in the scottish forums. Other that the bad monster that revels in others pain or hunts sympathy.
I never said no one is capable of free thought.
and of course folk will disagree with me hell my nearest and dearest disagree.......well they disagree with how I handle things head on.I find it strange that a person of your obvious intellect cant see the gang mentality that forms from some members "voice" on the forums and im not the only person to have said this but most have left or feel unable to use the forums for fear of the wrath of the regulars. |
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"And I'm assuming that OP you have never done anything "wrong" (1 persons wrong is someone else's right) that you feel entitled to climb up on that moral high horse & cast your judgement on others' actions kinda like the judgement your casting here ive not cast a judgement but I can and do ive done plenty wrong in my life and have held my hand up everytime. Last comment from me as the gang is forming
I'm not part of anyone's gang hunni I just say what I see. End of the day we're all here for our own reasons, right or wrong, but whatever those reasons are, they're that persons own reasons. Nobody else's business but theirs. "
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"And there's the hive mind comment again, because no one is capable of thinking for themselves if they disagree with you, right?
Dude, you have issues.sowwee cant let that one slip why is there seldom any diffrences of opinion in the scottish forums. Other that the bad monster that revels in others pain or hunts sympathy.
I never said no one is capable of free thought.
and of course folk will disagree with me hell my nearest and dearest disagree.......well they disagree with how I handle things head on.I find it strange that a person of your obvious intellect cant see the gang mentality that forms from some members "voice" on the forums and im not the only person to have said this but most have left or feel unable to use the forums for fear of the wrath of the regulars."
I have to kinna disagree with that Kola... of course everyone has a right to voice opinion... you, me, anyone but sometimes when everyone is telling you the same thing, then maybe you should think.... not saying this is you.. but
there is a fine line between aggression and assertion but both are the same drive... just a thought... xxxxx |
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"And there's the hive mind comment again, because no one is capable of thinking for themselves if they disagree with you, right?
Dude, you have issues.sowwee cant let that one slip why is there seldom any diffrences of opinion in the scottish forums. Other that the bad monster that revels in others pain or hunts sympathy.
I never said no one is capable of free thought.
and of course folk will disagree with me hell my nearest and dearest disagree.......well they disagree with how I handle things head on.I find it strange that a person of your obvious intellect cant see the gang mentality that forms from some members "voice" on the forums and im not the only person to have said this but most have left or feel unable to use the forums for fear of the wrath of the regulars."
Actually you have said that, more than once. When a few people you dislike disagree with you, you cry clique.
And I have seen a certain gang mentality from a few people on here. It's just not the people you think it is. |
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"Perhaps just me.....but for me there are levels. And response levels. And I believe for me finding your wife/husband on a swinging site with all that entails a pvt dressing down wouldnt do
... and I am not justifying it but sometimes... what is the person living with that they come here... it happens too.. there are always two sides to a story... people are so complex and so are relationships... judge your own situation only not others, you have NO IDEA why... "
Sorry 3 sides to a story the two involved in the relationship have a side in between which the truth may be found . |
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"And there's the hive mind comment again, because no one is capable of thinking for themselves if they disagree with you, right?
Dude, you have issues.sowwee cant let that one slip why is there seldom any diffrences of opinion in the scottish forums. Other that the bad monster that revels in others pain or hunts sympathy.
I never said no one is capable of free thought.
and of course folk will disagree with me hell my nearest and dearest disagree.......well they disagree with how I handle things head on.I find it strange that a person of your obvious intellect cant see the gang mentality that forms from some members "voice" on the forums and im not the only person to have said this but most have left or feel unable to use the forums for fear of the wrath of the regulars.
I have to kinna disagree with that Kola... of course everyone has a right to voice opinion... you, me, anyone but sometimes when everyone is telling you the same thing, then maybe you should think.... not saying this is you.. but
there is a fine line between aggression and assertion but both are the same drive... just a thought... xxxxx"
so you havent seen the post from others saying the same? Cmon ive seen you comment on them. I make no apologys for my direct manner thats part of me. Wouldnt say im being aggresive or assertive just direct.void of worrying about how buxomwench or anyone else feels about it. I speak with quite a few ex forum users and alot of the time they say the same but wont or cant use the forums. So if most of the people with diffrent opinions no longer use the forums who does it leave. I will save you the bother the reply is poppycock your wrong we are right |
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"Perhaps just me.....but for me there are levels. And response levels. And I believe for me finding your wife/husband on a swinging site with all that entails a pvt dressing down wouldnt do
... and I am not justifying it but sometimes... what is the person living with that they come here... it happens too.. there are always two sides to a story... people are so complex and so are relationships... judge your own situation only not others, you have NO IDEA why...
Sorry 3 sides to a story the two involved in the relationship have a side in between which the truth may be found ."
Very true Steph - in a triangle the victim, perpetrator and saviour are moveable postitions |
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"And there's the hive mind comment again, because no one is capable of thinking for themselves if they disagree with you, right?
Dude, you have issues.sowwee cant let that one slip why is there seldom any diffrences of opinion in the scottish forums. Other that the bad monster that revels in others pain or hunts sympathy.
I never said no one is capable of free thought.
and of course folk will disagree with me hell my nearest and dearest disagree.......well they disagree with how I handle things head on.I find it strange that a person of your obvious intellect cant see the gang mentality that forms from some members "voice" on the forums and im not the only person to have said this but most have left or feel unable to use the forums for fear of the wrath of the regulars.
I have to kinna disagree with that Kola... of course everyone has a right to voice opinion... you, me, anyone but sometimes when everyone is telling you the same thing, then maybe you should think.... not saying this is you.. but
there is a fine line between aggression and assertion but both are the same drive... just a thought... xxxxxso you havent seen the post from others saying the same? Cmon ive seen you comment on them. I make no apologys for my direct manner thats part of me. Wouldnt say im being aggresive or assertive just direct.void of worrying about how buxomwench or anyone else feels about it. I speak with quite a few ex forum users and alot of the time they say the same but wont or cant use the forums. So if most of the people with diffrent opinions no longer use the forums who does it leave. I will save you the bother the reply is poppycock your wrong we are right "
You see yourself as direct... others do not... that is what I mean by assertive/aggressive... what I am saying is if you wish to win your point then perhaps moderation is the key - for example as boobsnballs said you sound like your relishing what you find in regard to cheats not exploring a topic. |
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Relishing no not that its a curiousity of human nature for me. personally I could never put my life out for all to see. Though I believe I understand the drive too.for me alot of the interactions folk have especially on social madia is full of fakeness. Which I really dont enjoy hence I tend to be direct. I have no control over how others view it. |
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"Relishing no not that its a curiousity of human nature for me. personally I could never put my life out for all to see. Though I believe I understand the drive too.for me alot of the interactions folk have especially on social madia is full of fakeness. Which I really dont enjoy hence I tend to be direct. I have no control over how others view it."
Exactly, you have no control over how others view you, however if you wish to be understood then you must express yourself clearly and make your point as eloquently as you can... I speak for myself here too... You have a valid point... it's just a bit singular... that is your right but others have a different experience that elicits a less narrow view shall we say... as always, if you put summat up here... take the good with the bad... it's an open forum... your view is respected by the way |
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Perhaps you don't realise it but by the constant comments about cheaters you are actually putting yourself out there for others to see.
You said earlier that you haven't been cheated on in years, yet you're clearly still carrying all that unresolved pain. To you its all black and white, when really it's not. Hence why I suggested talking to someone. In a way that person still has power over you, I don't think that's any way to live, personally.
People have hurt me in the past and I've moved on. I wouldn't be friendly if I ran into them, but they wouldn't hurt me anymore. The best revenge is to really not give a damn about them and be happy with myself. |
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"Perhaps you don't realise it but by the constant comments about cheaters you are actually putting yourself out there for others to see.
You said earlier that you haven't been cheated on in years, yet you're clearly still carrying all that unresolved pain. To you its all black and white, when really it's not. Hence why I suggested talking to someone. In a way that person still has power over you, I don't think that's any way to live, personally.
People have hurt me in the past and I've moved on. I wouldn't be friendly if I ran into them, but they wouldn't hurt me anymore. The best revenge is to really not give a damn about them and be happy with myself."
I really think this is good advice/observation - I don't know your circumstance but this is offered in good spirit I feel xxx |
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Lol deal with one point at a time (singular) though if thing move on a diffrent tangent I answer those. Most folk get exasperated as I am stuck solid in my view (which wont......cant change)it may come across as whatever folk choose to interpret it as thats their bag not mine. By the same token im not trying to change their minds mearly stating my own which alot of folk find to be too hardline tough titty |
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"Perhaps you don't realise it but by the constant comments about cheaters you are actually putting yourself out there for others to see.
You said earlier that you haven't been cheated on in years, yet you're clearly still carrying all that unresolved pain. To you its all black and white, when really it's not. Hence why I suggested talking to someone. In a way that person still has power over you, I don't think that's any way to live, personally.
People have hurt me in the past and I've moved on. I wouldn't be friendly if I ran into them, but they wouldn't hurt me anymore. The best revenge is to really not give a damn about them and be happy with myself."
but it is black and white folk choose to add grey thats my point. Well in my way of thinking.i get for yourself and others you need grey i dont.sorry to disappoint but pain in regards to what your saying zero pain in that corner (we all have our crosses to bear thats not one of mine) believe me my crosses have been well talked over with resolution so no need for couchtime ta muchly |
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Got it, you're happy in your misery. That's your choice, however if you post on a public forum and people disagree with you, you can't cry bullies. Doesn't work like that.
I'm sure that nothing we have said to you tonight will make a blind bit of difference as you are so adamant that you are correct and this is the type of person you've chosen to be. Again, your choice. Most of us choose to look on the happy and upbeat side of life, there's nothing wrong with that.
And to bring it full circle, we choose not to glory in other people's problems like it's an episode of Eastenders. |
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"Lol dosnt think the same must be miserable got it "
No, I think you're miserable because you never have a nice word to say about anything or anyone, ever. I've been here for 4 years and I'm yet to see you say something positive, you're always a raincloud of doom.
Hope that clears that up. |
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"Lol dosnt think the same must be miserable got it
No, I think you're miserable because you never have a nice word to say about anything or anyone, ever. I've been here for 4 years and I'm yet to see you say something positive, you're always a raincloud of doom.
Hope that clears that up."
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"Lol dosnt think the same must be miserable got it
No, I think you're miserable because you never have a nice word to say about anything or anyone, ever. I've been here for 4 years and I'm yet to see you say something positive, you're always a raincloud of doom.
Hope that clears that up.
Just to change the subject...nice pics boobsnballs "
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"Lol dosnt think the same must be miserable got it
No, I think you're miserable because you never have a nice word to say about anything or anyone, ever. I've been here for 4 years and I'm yet to see you say something positive, you're always a raincloud of doom.
Hope that clears that up.
Just to change the subject...nice pics boobsnballs
Thank you very much "
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"Perhaps you don't realise it but by the constant comments about cheaters you are actually putting yourself out there for others to see.
You said earlier that you haven't been cheated on in years, yet you're clearly still carrying all that unresolved pain. To you its all black and white, when really it's not. Hence why I suggested talking to someone. In a way that person still has power over you, I don't think that's any way to live, personally.
People have hurt me in the past and I've moved on. I wouldn't be friendly if I ran into them, but they wouldn't hurt me anymore. The best revenge is to really not give a damn about them and be happy with myself.but it is black and white folk choose to add grey thats my point. Well in my way of thinking.i get for yourself and others you need grey i dont.sorry to disappoint but pain in regards to what your saying zero pain in that corner (we all have our crosses to bear thats not one of mine) believe me my crosses have been well talked over with resolution so no need for couchtime ta muchly"
Very few things are black and white... especially when it comes to relationships and emotions... if you are so very singular then life will be tough for you... anyway I've said my bit... you have your view and you're happy with it... that's cool... others differ that's cool too... ohhh and aye boobs ya do have nice wans |
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"Perhaps you don't realise it but by the constant comments about cheaters you are actually putting yourself out there for others to see.
You said earlier that you haven't been cheated on in years, yet you're clearly still carrying all that unresolved pain. To you its all black and white, when really it's not. Hence why I suggested talking to someone. In a way that person still has power over you, I don't think that's any way to live, personally.
People have hurt me in the past and I've moved on. I wouldn't be friendly if I ran into them, but they wouldn't hurt me anymore. The best revenge is to really not give a damn about them and be happy with myself.but it is black and white folk choose to add grey thats my point. Well in my way of thinking.i get for yourself and others you need grey i dont.sorry to disappoint but pain in regards to what your saying zero pain in that corner (we all have our crosses to bear thats not one of mine) believe me my crosses have been well talked over with resolution so no need for couchtime ta muchly
Very few things are black and white... especially when it comes to relationships and emotions... if you are so very singular then life will be tough for you... anyway I've said my bit... you have your view and you're happy with it... that's cool... others differ that's cool too... ohhh and aye boobs ya do have nice wans "
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"Perhaps you don't realise it but by the constant comments about cheaters you are actually putting yourself out there for others to see.
You said earlier that you haven't been cheated on in years, yet you're clearly still carrying all that unresolved pain. To you its all black and white, when really it's not. Hence why I suggested talking to someone. In a way that person still has power over you, I don't think that's any way to live, personally.
People have hurt me in the past and I've moved on. I wouldn't be friendly if I ran into them, but they wouldn't hurt me anymore. The best revenge is to really not give a damn about them and be happy with myself.but it is black and white folk choose to add grey thats my point. Well in my way of thinking.i get for yourself and others you need grey i dont.sorry to disappoint but pain in regards to what your saying zero pain in that corner (we all have our crosses to bear thats not one of mine) believe me my crosses have been well talked over with resolution so no need for couchtime ta muchly
Very few things are black and white... especially when it comes to relationships and emotions... if you are so very singular then life will be tough for you... anyway I've said my bit... you have your view and you're happy with it... that's cool... others differ that's cool too... ohhh and aye boobs ya do have nice wans
Thank you, grew them myself "
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"Perhaps you don't realise it but by the constant comments about cheaters you are actually putting yourself out there for others to see.
You said earlier that you haven't been cheated on in years, yet you're clearly still carrying all that unresolved pain. To you its all black and white, when really it's not. Hence why I suggested talking to someone. In a way that person still has power over you, I don't think that's any way to live, personally.
People have hurt me in the past and I've moved on. I wouldn't be friendly if I ran into them, but they wouldn't hurt me anymore. The best revenge is to really not give a damn about them and be happy with myself.but it is black and white folk choose to add grey thats my point. Well in my way of thinking.i get for yourself and others you need grey i dont.sorry to disappoint but pain in regards to what your saying zero pain in that corner (we all have our crosses to bear thats not one of mine) believe me my crosses have been well talked over with resolution so no need for couchtime ta muchly
Very few things are black and white... especially when it comes to relationships and emotions... if you are so very singular then life will be tough for you... anyway I've said my bit... you have your view and you're happy with it... that's cool... others differ that's cool too... ohhh and aye boobs ya do have nice wans
Thank you, grew them myself "
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over a year ago
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"I take no pleasure from other peoples misery. Their partnership/marriage and possibly family ripped apart ...just very sad situation in my book ."
Totally Agree
Why would anyone enjoy watching sad things like this that occur.
Tells a lot about a person, me thinks
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My New Fav Fab Event ..?
Lets face it ..youve been fecking ranting about this topic for years...
What people do on here and how they use it is no ones business but theirs.
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
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" No need to be so touchy as has been said on many posts dont like it dont comment.
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Do my eyes deceive me? No! What about a little of 'practise what you preach'!!
If there's anybody who needs to do that, it's surely you!  |
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Okay, I will throw a curve ball.. relationships require work on both sides. Communication is without doubt is the main barrier relationships fall down on. That and preconceptions of what a relationship should be.
Couples join fab for many different reasons. To explore, to expand, to forfill needs the other might not be able to provide.. Thier communication has lead the majority to break the mould of what is supposedly a 'normal', 2 point 4, house, car, Sunday dinner family relationship and come here.
1 in 3 marriages break down. People are less tolerant the others. That is modern life. Communication between partners is lost to an electronic device......
It is sad that any relationship fails. Some people are just not compatible.
Fab might be a 'sex site', but it is a very good marriage counseling site too.
It opens people up to communicating there needs and wants to partners.
Maybe if more couples came here, opened up thier feelings to one another we would have less relationships failing and a more tolerant society. |
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To be fair to the OP we don't post in the forums any more because of the clique. Don't want to post something then have lots of negative comments made etc. Just can't be arsed with the hassle.
We have met a few other members who feel the same.
Only reason I'm commenting this time really, is it seems to be a lot of folk V one person. Just wanted to offer a bit of support to OP. While I don't agree with OP opinion, not nice being isolated either. No saying that's the case, just perception.
Could be way wide of the mark. But get the idea a few folk don't like each other much here. Which is ok, that's life. But would it not be easier just to leave each other alone, i.e. Don't comment on each other's posts etc.
Anyways, agree its better to handle these things in private and relationship are complex things. Yes, it would be better to chat to your partner first and work through the issues, rather than cheat. But humans are flawed and make mistakes.
Our only wish is to know if your cheating. Just incase the shit hits the fan, we don't want dragged into any drama, that's it really.
Anyways that's my two pence worth. Hope you all had a lovely Christmas and have a great new year. |
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"To be fair to the OP we don't post in the forums any more because of the clique. Don't want to post something then have lots of negative comments made etc. Just can't be arsed with the hassle.
We have met a few other members who feel the same.
Only reason I'm commenting this time really, is it seems to be a lot of folk V one person. Just wanted to offer a bit of support to OP. While I don't agree with OP opinion, not nice being isolated either. No saying that's the case, just perception.
Could be way wide of the mark. But get the idea a few folk don't like each other much here. Which is ok, that's life. But would it not be easier just to leave each other alone, i.e. Don't comment on each other's posts etc.
Anyways, agree its better to handle these things in private and relationship are complex things. Yes, it would be better to chat to your partner first and work through the issues, rather than cheat. But humans are flawed and make mistakes.
Our only wish is to know if your cheating. Just incase the shit hits the fan, we don't want dragged into any drama, that's it really.
Anyways that's my two pence worth. Hope you all had a lovely Christmas and have a great new year. "
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As much as im all for ppl having their own opinion and as,a lurker mostly on forums i have read lots of your opionns OP and agreed with but clearly i dont on this for obv reasons
But my point is you say lots have stopped chatting in forums coz of cluiques etc which i agree with but by your constant hatred of cheaters isnt that keeping them.away from forums too incase they get shot down in flames ..i know i have lots of times plus also in pm by forum users ... |
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"Loving some of the profiles.
I hope they go all the way and let them read the graphic veris pics would be hilarious."
I think it's sad that you love this and find it hilarious. |
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"I take no pleasure from other peoples misery. Their partnership/marriage and possibly family ripped apart ...just very sad situation in my book .I take no pleasure from the misery thats been caused."
cant be that much misery if they take it upon themselves to set up a profile on here too.
For some maybe its the nail in the coffin to an already dead marriage & for others it allows an open marriage but still keeping the family intact .
But as some have already said its about the discretion while cheating, as some think its something to brag about in thier user names or statuses like saying its okay |
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Each to their own huh! I certainly wouldn't be interested in either single profile playing tit for tat with each other. If they are both interested in fab maybe a joint profile would be the answer. However may be a car wreck waiting to happen. Myself i never rubber neck! It just slows the traffic down xx |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
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"To be fair to the OP we don't post in the forums any more because of the clique. Don't want to post something then have lots of negative comments made etc. Just can't be arsed with the hassle.
We have met a few other members who feel the same.
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There's probably quite a few people feel the same. We've been on fab for years and despite not using the forum much we've noticed it's becoming much narrower lately in terms of subjects and viewpoints. It's a pity. |
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"To be fair to the OP we don't post in the forums any more because of the clique. Don't want to post something then have lots of negative comments made etc. Just can't be arsed with the hassle.
We have met a few other members who feel the same.
There's probably quite a few people feel the same. We've been on fab for years and despite not using the forum much we've noticed it's becoming much narrower lately in terms of subjects and viewpoints. It's a pity."
I don't see a clique as such, merely a lack of any topics i have an interest in ( yeah...i know i could start my own)
So i tend to post more in the lounge |
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Wow! What a thread!
I try to mind my own business and certainly never wallow in others misfortune.
What goes on in many marriages is often only fully understood by the two parties involved and is a constantly changing thing..rarely all black or white.
What a sad little read this makes. |
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kola your an intelligent guy who knows exactly what you are writing saying and insinuating .......... all for one purpose.....to promote conflict.
my question is why ??
can you not find common ground in anything ?? |
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"kola your an intelligent guy who knows exactly what you are writing saying and insinuating .......... all for one purpose.....to promote conflict.
my question is why ??
can you not find common ground in anything ??"
its not to create conflict its an emotive subject.that had the chance to stimulate actual conversation and to get folks true thoughts on something new that appears to be happening......some have answered others have took the hump. Forums to me dont mean fake platitudes and snog fuck avoid its an area where things can be conversed on and diffrent points of view put across. Imo something thats been lacking in scotland forums for a long time |
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