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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Although of course Mr View is the Wise Man of Fab and is welcome to comment 
Firstly I'd like to say people are people and you get rude people in every gender. Also I am not tarring any group with any brushes but I'm wondering how men would deal with volume of mail women get and the aggression, rudeness and insensitivity they deal with on a pretty much daily basis. For instance you might just write up one of those arsey profiles you hate reading???
Women how would you deal with it if you NEVER got any messages and those ones you did send (no matter how polite) were deleted unread time after time. What it took you up to a year to get one meet, would you be disheartened???
Couples can of course comment on both.
This is meant to enlighten both groups - no spitting, eye gouging or biting allowed folks - be nice, be constructive , be happy we are not all the same, the world would be boring if we were  |
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"Although of course Mr View is the Wise Man of Fab and is welcome to comment
Firstly I'd like to say people are people and you get rude people in every gender. Also I am not tarring any group with any brushes but I'm wondering how men would deal with volume of mail women get and the aggression, rudeness and insensitivity they deal with on a pretty much daily basis. For instance you might just write up one of those arsey profiles you hate reading???
Women how would you deal with it if you NEVER got any messages and those ones you did send (no matter how polite) were deleted unread time after time. What it took you up to a year to get one meet, would you be disheartened???
Couples can of course comment on both.
This is meant to enlighten both groups - no spitting, eye gouging or biting allowed folks - be nice, be constructive , be happy we are not all the same, the world would be boring if we were "
Being here for many years and can honestly say I deal pretty well with my emails on a daily basis as I0 honestly dont get hundresds a day like some women say they get .
As for not getting a reply to mails sent Id simply take it as a no thanks and move on .
Its messages to so called friends that go unread or deleted that piss me off more lol |
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" Women how would you deal with it if you NEVER got any messages and those ones you did send (no matter how polite) were deleted unread time after time. What it took you up to a year to get one meet, would you be disheartened??? "
Good question!
But I honestly don't know how to answer it.
I think the root is in why you are on the site for??? And i think that determines your approach to messages you received and send.
Fab is not my life. It is extra spice.
I go to clubs and socials so I meet most people like that anyway.
Sorry if that's off topic  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Although of course Mr View is the Wise Man of Fab and is welcome to comment
Firstly I'd like to say people are people and you get rude people in every gender. Also I am not tarring any group with any brushes but I'm wondering how men would deal with volume of mail women get and the aggression, rudeness and insensitivity they deal with on a pretty much daily basis. For instance you might just write up one of those arsey profiles you hate reading???
Women how would you deal with it if you NEVER got any messages and those ones you did send (no matter how polite) were deleted unread time after time. What it took you up to a year to get one meet, would you be disheartened???
Couples can of course comment on both.
This is meant to enlighten both groups - no spitting, eye gouging or biting allowed folks - be nice, be constructive , be happy we are not all the same, the world would be boring if we were Being here for many years and can honestly say I deal pretty well with my emails on a daily basis as I0 honestly dont get hundresds a day like some women say they get .
As for not getting a reply to mails sent Id simply take it as a no thanks and move on .
Its messages to so called friends that go unread or deleted that piss me off more lol "
That's annoying yes but what I meant was mostly women do not need to "chase" a meet. What if you never had any mail or you had to instigate all the time but got little or no response plus got tarred with the "idiot" brush all the time?? Another point is if women are here to meet men then what's wrong with a "Hi, how are you today?" as a first message???  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" Women how would you deal with it if you NEVER got any messages and those ones you did send (no matter how polite) were deleted unread time after time. What it took you up to a year to get one meet, would you be disheartened???
Good question!
But I honestly don't know how to answer it.
I think the root is in why you are on the site for??? And i think that determines your approach to messages you received and send.
Fab is not my life. It is extra spice.
I go to clubs and socials so I meet most people like that anyway.
Sorry if that's off topic "
To be honest Max I think it's the only one really and you and oldy have probably answered it. Looking at things from the other point of view is always useful I think x |
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To be honest. I used to try to reply to all messages as i felt it was common curtosy.
However its got to point i was really busy in my real life and couldnt keep up. At moment ive 205 unread and it can be a nightmare as its hard to maintain a convo.
I feel sorry for guys it must be disheartening. However when tag line is fancy a fuck or nice tits etc i do just delete now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i dont think i have ever messaged a guy first...., im far to shy and not a fan of rejection lol
as above its when so called "friends" dont read your mail but cant actually have the balls to unfriend you or say they no longer are inrerested....that boils my blood!
when i joined i always tried to reply even with a no thanks because i thought it was polite to do so and some guys would say in their message to....but then they would be the ones to keep on bugging u asking why not....so now unless a message is standoutish...or i have chatted on forum...i tend to scoot past them! and i dont get 100s a day either unless i happen to upload a few new pics lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i dont think i have ever messaged a guy first...., im far to shy and not a fan of rejection lol
as above its when so called "friends" dont read your mail but cant actually have the balls to unfriend you or say they no longer are inrerested....that boils my blood!
when i joined i always tried to reply even with a no thanks because i thought it was polite to do so and some guys would say in their message to....but then they would be the ones to keep on bugging u asking why not....so now unless a message is standoutish...or i have chatted on forum...i tend to scoot past them! and i dont get 100s a day either unless i happen to upload a few new pics lol "
Very good points. I always try to reply too but find the "no reply is a polite no thanks" very useful too as often a polite reply incurs a "can we just keep chatting"
Pics do incur interest which is another point. If you don't want messages should you cut down on your pics???
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be honest. I used to try to reply to all messages as i felt it was common curtosy.
However its got to point i was really busy in my real life and couldnt keep up. At moment ive 205 unread and it can be a nightmare as its hard to maintain a convo.
I feel sorry for guys it must be disheartening. However when tag line is fancy a fuck or nice tits etc i do just delete now "
Agreed there m'dear |
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By *ilshyxWoman
over a year ago
happy lil world |
Don't get hundreds of mail due to my strict filters on my profile.
Might sound unfair to newbies or totally genuine folk trying to get a meet who could be the most polite person on fab.
Reasons for this is so I don't need to moan,or get abuse  |
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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago
Dundee/Angus/Blackpool |
"Although of course Mr View is the Wise Man of Fab and is welcome to comment
Firstly I'd like to say people are people and you get rude people in every gender. Also I am not tarring any group with any brushes but I'm wondering how men would deal with volume of mail women get and the aggression, rudeness and insensitivity they deal with on a pretty much daily basis. For instance you might just write up one of those arsey profiles you hate reading???
Women how would you deal with it if you NEVER got any messages and those ones you did send (no matter how polite) were deleted unread time after time. What it took you up to a year to get one meet, would you be disheartened???
Couples can of course comment on both.
This is meant to enlighten both groups - no spitting, eye gouging or biting allowed folks - be nice, be constructive , be happy we are not all the same, the world would be boring if we were "
I tend to reply to mail,but does build up and those I talk with know eventually once I've caught up on newer mail,I still reply,and I've actually messaged guys that when I covertly check profiles from all over,I explain that I love how profiles are written and it kind of gets the conversation going...its nice to get lovely random messages,but I can deal with having no messages only cause I tend to catch up on older mail waiting...basically..I remember I'd accidently pressed wink to a couple,was mortified with my fingers lol and sent them a sorry,but they were lovely about it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't get hundreds of mail due to my strict filters on my profile.
Might sound unfair to newbies or totally genuine folk trying to get a meet who could be the most polite person on fab.
Reasons for this is so I don't need to moan,or get abuse "
That's what they are there for though so you can control your mail |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Although of course Mr View is the Wise Man of Fab and is welcome to comment
Firstly I'd like to say people are people and you get rude people in every gender. Also I am not tarring any group with any brushes but I'm wondering how men would deal with volume of mail women get and the aggression, rudeness and insensitivity they deal with on a pretty much daily basis. For instance you might just write up one of those arsey profiles you hate reading???
Women how would you deal with it if you NEVER got any messages and those ones you did send (no matter how polite) were deleted unread time after time. What it took you up to a year to get one meet, would you be disheartened???
Couples can of course comment on both.
This is meant to enlighten both groups - no spitting, eye gouging or biting allowed folks - be nice, be constructive , be happy we are not all the same, the world would be boring if we were
I tend to reply to mail,but does build up and those I talk with know eventually once I've caught up on newer mail,I still reply,and I've actually messaged guys that when I covertly check profiles from all over,I explain that I love how profiles are written and it kind of gets the conversation going...its nice to get lovely random messages,but I can deal with having no messages only cause I tend to catch up on older mail waiting...basically..I remember I'd accidently pressed wink to a couple,was mortified with my fingers lol and sent them a sorry,but they were lovely about it "
Nice way of approaching someone you like  |
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"Although of course Mr View is the Wise Man of Fab and is welcome to comment
Firstly I'd like to say people are people and you get rude people in every gender. Also I am not tarring any group with any brushes but I'm wondering how men would deal with volume of mail women get and the aggression, rudeness and insensitivity they deal with on a pretty much daily basis. For instance you might just write up one of those arsey profiles you hate reading???
Women how would you deal with it if you NEVER got any messages and those ones you did send (no matter how polite) were deleted unread time after time. What it took you up to a year to get one meet, would you be disheartened???
Couples can of course comment on both.
This is meant to enlighten both groups - no spitting, eye gouging or biting allowed folks - be nice, be constructive , be happy we are not all the same, the world would be boring if we were Being here for many years and can honestly say I deal pretty well with my emails on a daily basis as I0 honestly dont get hundresds a day like some women say they get .
As for not getting a reply to mails sent Id simply take it as a no thanks and move on .
Its messages to so called friends that go unread or deleted that piss me off more lol
That's annoying yes but what I meant was mostly women do not need to "chase" a meet. What if you never had any mail or you had to instigate all the time but got little or no response plus got tarred with the "idiot" brush all the time?? Another point is if women are here to meet men then what's wrong with a "Hi, how are you today?" as a first message??? "
I do my own searches and if im interested in mailing someone I will do just that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I do my own searches and if im interested in mailing someone I will do just that
Confident lady well if you dont ask you dont get ..sometimes I ask and I dont get but I just pull up my big girl pants and move on lol "
Hahahah@big girl pants, I like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I might not get the volume of mail that the ladies get, but I, and I am sure many other men, do get our share of rudeness and abuse. I can understand women not replying because of the number of PMs, but if the PM is polite, and the sender is not a stalker, ie not taking no for an answer, there's no excuse to be nasty.
Unfortunately, being unpleasant is the way of the world nowadays, but I reiterate, if someone is nice to you, be nice in return. It costs nothing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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manners cost nothing and so you should always be respectful , but it not only one sided . but treat everyone with respect until they do something to blow that away , |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I might not get the volume of mail that the ladies get, but I, and I am sure many other men, do get our share of rudeness and abuse. I can understand women not replying because of the number of PMs, but if the PM is polite, and the sender is not a stalker, ie not taking no for an answer, there's no excuse to be nasty.
Unfortunately, being unpleasant is the way of the world nowadays, but I reiterate, if someone is nice to you, be nice in return. It costs nothing."
Very true and well said |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"manners cost nothing and so you should always be respectful , but it not only one sided . but treat everyone with respect until they do something to blow that away ,"
I guess that's what the block button is for as is often said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no idea how I'd cope with dozens, far less hundreds of messages abusive or not.
Its enough of a struggle to cope with 3 a week
As for coping with the rejection, I read the threads on here and realised that was the way things worked so clicked the patience button. After all none of us ever get everything we want |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have no idea how I'd cope with dozens, far less hundreds of messages abusive or not.
Its enough of a struggle to cope with 3 a week
As for coping with the rejection, I read the threads on here and realised that was the way things worked so clicked the patience button. After all none of us ever get everything we want"
They say all good things come to those who wait..... |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"I have no idea how I'd cope with dozens, far less hundreds of messages abusive or not.
Its enough of a struggle to cope with 3 a week
As for coping with the rejection, I read the threads on here and realised that was the way things worked so clicked the patience button. After all none of us ever get everything we want
They say all good things come to those who wait....."
I must be about to get a bit of a windfall |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never received a message from a woman making first contact with me
If I send a message I take the default view that it will be ignored or deleted - very occasionally I get a polite thanks but no thanks and leave it at that
If I do get a reply from someone wanting to chat
I look out the window to check for a blue moon
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