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Single Guys,Just give up.
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"single guys your as well as giving up,bloody hell. you can only try and chat to so many people for so long in chat rooms as yer told to do but get one word answers back n no mails if you mail em. nah theres a special handsake ive no learned i think. sheer cleekyness! and trust me its no a question of no being polite coz i am polite to people its just a fact. thats ma moan for this week then lol "Try coming to socials and meeting some folks, plenty genuine folks there that you can meet and socialise with. They are held every couple of months in various parts of Scotland with around 100 to 200 folks attending. | |||
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"If i can put it into perspective a bit guys, we might get what, 10 messages a week. Sat with a fem friend at her pc the other week and sifted through her accumulated one thousand three hundred messages, ohh maybe just that wee statistic night put it in perspective for you. You'd like to meet? Cool Your polite,super If you got 1300 messages,would you be polite to each n every one? Txx "well said T !!! when we joined we got roughly 50 odd messages a day from guys, some were from the same person, which made it really hard to reply to actual couples and girls which is why we joined.. even now, after we have clearly stated what we are looking for, and not to add us out of the blue we still get guys adding us and mailing us, it is nice to get emails but it is hard to reply to them all, especially when it is from people that you have already said you aint looking for.. Also,i take a mental note of guys who say they want to 'pump' me or ask me to show them my tits on cam, those ppl do not get even a hello.. to be honest fifeguy, with this post youv basically shot yourself in the foot with no doubt a fair few couples whol read it  | |||
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"I thought i put it in "real terms",how utterly bombarded women/couples are with asks, and i do mean in yer face "can we meet" asks, not polite introductions! To lose heart because you've spent x amount of time chatting in the chatroom and what? Someones not said "ok lets meet"? We all stop logging in to the site and we dont chat, we stop being civil to each other and we all just call each other timewasters? T xx" Have to agree with the valid points above but you also have to remember that the time actually spent chatting to people in the chatrooms, (not the time spent in the chatrooms) maybe only amounts to a few minutes. Imagine it as a night out at a nightclub.........ever bedded a girl after 10 mins of chat? and if so..........why waste your time on here? you clearly have a gift of the gab that others dont possess? for the couples, they are sharing something intimate by inviting another guy into their relationship and girls have to think of the potential dangers of meeting guys, hence why it doesnt happen after 5 mins. Its not all just about your wants, desires and needs but also others wants and needs etc | |||
"I thought i put it in "real terms",how utterly bombarded women/couples are with asks, and i do mean in yer face "can we meet" asks, not polite introductions! To lose heart because you've spent x amount of time chatting in the chatroom and what? Someones not said "ok lets meet"? We all stop logging in to the site and we dont chat, we stop being civil to each other and we all just call each other timewasters? T xx Have to agree with the valid points above but you also have to remember that the time actually spent chatting to people in the chatrooms, (not the time spent in the chatrooms) maybe only amounts to a few minutes. Imagine it as a night out at a nightclub.........ever bedded a girl after 10 mins of chat? and if so..........why waste your time on here? you clearly have a gift of the gab that others dont possess? for the couples, they are sharing something intimate by inviting another guy into their relationship and girls have to think of the potential dangers of meeting guys, hence why it doesnt happen after 5 mins. Its not all just about your wants, desires and needs but also others wants and needs etc" I always say to any guys in chat who are becoming insistant persistants, if you were in an actual room with who your bitching at, insulting, would you be saying that to them? No they simply would not, but theres sumthing bout being sat at a pc,brings out the twat in guys. Im not perfect, i have had bouts of anxiety, lost the place in chat etc, but i catch myself on and dont chuck the towel in just because stuff aint gone as i hoped. T xx | |||
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"single guys your as well as giving up,bloody hell. you can only try and chat to so many people for so long in chat rooms as yer told to do but get one word answers back n no mails if you mail em. nah theres a special handsake ive no learned i think. sheer cleekyness! and trust me its no a question of no being polite coz i am polite to people its just a fact. thats ma moan for this week then lol "u only joined 6 weeks ago lol rome wasnt built in a day  xxxx | |||
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"Note to self, shut up in future know yer place , dont rock the boat etc lol god that'll be me told off then by some of ya eh, ill just get me coat then lol " u got ya coat yet? lol ill see u soon then lol | |||
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"Got to say the man has a point. There is a number of couples and women who need to take a long hard look in the mirror. Some of their attitudes towards single guys is nothing short of disgusting. Thankfully they do seem to be in the minority and are far outnumbered by nice pleasant people but they are there just the same. Its very hard as a single guy to get a foot in here. especially if you cant get on often. Its sometimes like you have to break the ice with someone, come on again a few days later and have to go through it all again. I can appreciate that there are a lot of single guys out there and couples/women may be overwhelmed with offers but at the end of the day we are all here for the same thing. No need to treat single guys like something youve stepped in. Believe it or not we do have feelings to. I had 1 particular woman the other week who I attempted to be friendly with, nothing forecful, nothing suggestive just a simple chat. Her reaction left a lot to be desired to say the least. Hadnt said much more than Hi how are you and shes running off shouting about me being "too forward". Now i can say hand on heart that i hadnt said anything out of order and certainly didnt push matters but that reaction did make me wonder WTF I was doing here. Then there are of course the members who have No single males listed umpteen times in their profiles in capitals with flashing lights. We can read, just say it once, we're not stupid. All in all though i stick around as although i havent had any meets from this site yet I still live in hope thanks to the many decent people on the site and the ignorant ones can basically go fuck themselves" And just to balance things,"just couples and females" that mess folk around is it?? So many single guys on here with fantastically worded profiles litterally saying as soon as they get the invite they're going to be at the party,the meet, the gang bang. So why when i message around for a few "genuine guys" to attend,instead of spending maybe an hour or so inviting and getting the 4 or 5 guys it turns into a day long task? "Ohh thats too far away, im going to work soon(with his meet today sign up)" lol. T | |||
"Then there are of course the members who have No single males listed umpteen times in their profiles in capitals with flashing lights. We can read, just say it once, we're not stupid." you may not be stupid and i am very sure your not however there is a high majority who are. We are one of 'those members' who have things up in flashing lights and on upteen times on our profiles of what we dont want, single guys, people adding us without saying hi, requests to meet me away from my boy, disgusting emails about what we could do etc, yet we still do get them!! infact we currently have a user who adds us Everyday in attempts to see our pics and he still after about 20 adds, hasnt sent us a single email. just because you dont do it personally, doesnt mean it ceases to happen. i think to hit out at couples like us who have clearly stated what and what not we are after but regardless of it still get people trying regardless is pretty ignorant in its own right! | |||
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...huhu..:D...have read some of these threads but wouldn't meet the poster as they whine...:D...who knows they might call the cops if you decide not to have sex with them...as they consider it illegal...:D | |||
" Ohh riiiiite, sorry,i send a message first? Cool, lol T xx "psml you total dafty lol x | |||
"Then there are of course the members who have No single males listed umpteen times in their profiles in capitals with flashing lights. We can read, just say it once, we're not stupid." "just because you dont do it personally, doesnt mean it ceases to happen." I totally agree. Have you never wondered why so many profiles have the 'flashing lights'? When we first joined we thought it was a tad strange and some people we just simply thought were being rude... however it took us less than a day to realise just what happened to your inbox when you're not obvious about what you are looking for! Although we have on our profile that we're not looking for single males we hope we have managed to state it clearly without being too in your face, the way we see it is if a single guy isn't going to read your profile then it wont matter if you have the bold text flashing lights.
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"Then there are of course the members who have No single males listed umpteen times in their profiles in capitals with flashing lights. We can read, just say it once, we're not stupid. just because you dont do it personally, doesnt mean it ceases to happen. I totally agree. Have you never wondered why so many profiles have the 'flashing lights'? When we first joined we thought it was a tad strange and some people we just simply thought were being rude... however it took us less than a day to realise just what happened to your inbox when you're not obvious about what you are looking for! Although we have on our profile that we're not looking for single males we hope we have managed to state it clearly without being too in your face, the way we see it is if a single guy isn't going to read your profile then it wont matter if you have the bold text flashing lights.
xx"Being a single guy, my inbox has never been inundated with anything so maybe Im just not understanding that side of things. From my side of the fence though it just comes across as rude and extremely arrogant. I just think that the message can surely get across without being so in the face and disrespectful to the many decent single guys out there who get a bad name because of a dickhead minority. | |||
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"we dont think our profile is rude, and even though some people just dont read it and still email, if i took off the bits we are talking about, the floodgates will open, and even though your inbox/ account wont be affected ours certainly would. end of the day really, if profiles that we all write about ourselves and what we are looking for send people into huffs, then those people arent what we all are looking for, hence the profile is doing its job." Actually ive just read yours and I dont have a problem with it. Get across what you want and dont want without any fuss. Im talking about the likes of and theres 1 in particular i can think of that every paragraph is split with *****************NO SINGLE MALES****************. Its in the profile 6 times i think it is. A bit of overkill IMO and a bit arrogant to think that every single male actually wants to meet them. | |||
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"we dont think our profile is rude, and even though some people just dont read it and still email, if i took off the bits we are talking about, the floodgates will open, and even though your inbox/ account wont be affected ours certainly would. end of the day really, if profiles that we all write about ourselves and what we are looking for send people into huffs, then those people arent what we all are looking for, hence the profile is doing its job." Why don't you put a block on singles emailing you....... | |||
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"god is this thread still goin???? oops im sorry i opened my mouth i was crabbit that day ! ooops lol xxx much love folks xxx "yea next time keep quiet eh lol xxx | |||
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"My comment wasn't directed at you aimee and declan. If anyone doesn't want to be contacted by single guys, block them and stop moaning about it......simple" no i know it wasn't, sorry if i seemed offended by it. lol i was just explaining one of the reasons why some couples might not want to meet single men but dont block them. xx | |||
The only advice i would add is to re-read this whole thread and take on board the relevant points made !
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" Why don't you put a block on singles emailing you......." no way, theres a good few guys on here that we like chatting to and blocking all the daft emails isnt worth not losing contact with them. | |||
" Why don't you put a block on singles emailing you....... no way, theres a good few guys on here that we like chatting to and blocking all the daft emails isnt worth not losing contact with them." You be sure and tell us by simply telling us that the amount of numb-nuts mail increases eh Pamealaandlongscreenname? T xx | |||
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"ok ive not read all the thread but I have found that alot of folk wont or dont reply to emails. I know that some get lots of emails and it takes a bit of time to filter the good ones.and they get replys but when you get 50 crap ones and one nice then some folk miss it. they are not being rude but too quick on the delete button but as said above there is chat rooms , socials,ect where lots of different things happen.if you talk to some one it does not mean that you are going to play with them.make freinds 1st is normally a good idea and let the other person invite you ok im waffling " Blackbird you are not waffling you are being realistic, unless you check out the 'meet today' posts you are going to have to take time , gain trust and arrange a meet in advance. Many like myself have work, children, sitters etc. to work around, yes we'd all like a meet every day and there are enough offers to do so, but in reality it's just not possible. Socials and clubs are ideal for me as it means that they are planned in advance, I have childminder and dog sitter sorted and an Hotel room booked for after social fun which is arranged weeks before. Well done though for your sensible level-headed approach to this... I'm sure you will get many meets. xxxx | |||
"single guys rock "and most often fuck too titti lol | |||
"i dont tar all single guys with the same brush...most on here are cool and if you say ta but no ta thats enuf...not just single guys that dont take the hint some cpls are like that too???
auds xx"cheers janda xx | |||
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"I'm surprised that it isn't the conduct of single females that causes complaints. I am just sooo fed up of them. Can't they read? Really - I am considering leaving the site because of them." I know what you mean. Sometimes i think all they are interested is my body. I feel violated. | |||
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