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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
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Much talked about on here and in general. However just watched naked attraction and was in awe of the confidence they must have to do it. In fact I feel like that often when I see what people on here do or post.
Its no secret to those who know me I have zero body confidence. I still even panic during sex about how I must look in certain positions. Even when it is someone I'm really comfortable with.
I'm still haunted by the match experience where men stated what weight their potential dates should be and I was too big for them all!
Its not a look at me post. I'm not fishing for compliments.
I want to know what gives other people self confidence. Was it experiences? An age thing? Something you've always had?
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over a year ago
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"If only they sold it in jars i'd certainly be after some . Some men and woman just have the balls to put themselves out there no fear . Me i'm the wallflower  "
Wallflower at the school disco type thing? ? 
I wouldn't even enter the building |
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Confidence is earned through positive recognition and reinforcement.
It’s amazing how easy it is to believe all the negative things people say and yet discredit the positive. Taking a compliment is so easy. Sometimes, it’s instinctive to assume they’re just being nice when it's a 50/ 50 chance you have in believing they really mean it .
I do think confidence comes at a very early age but in the blink of an eye that confidence can be crushed and leave you scared for a very long time .
The only person who can change that is You ..in telling yoursekf you are a beautiful woman and believing you are a beautiful woman.  |
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"Much talked about on here and in general. However just watched naked attraction and was in awe of the confidence they must have to do it. In fact I feel like that often when I see what people on here do or post.
Its no secret to those who know me I have zero body confidence. I still even panic during sex about how I must look in certain positions. Even when it is someone I'm really comfortable with.
I'm still haunted by the match experience where men stated what weight their potential dates should be and I was too big for them all!
Its not a look at me post. I'm not fishing for compliments.
I want to know what gives other people self confidence. Was it experiences? An age thing? Something you've always had?
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As naturists we see all shapes and sizes on the nude beaches we go to abroad. If we were all the same shape and size life would be very boring. We arent in anyway supermodels,lol we could be plus plus size old models!!, but that doesnt put us off baring all! try to be confident in yourself, its your body and you should love it because it is you!! .If other people dont like it then they are the losers...Hugs.....x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not good at taking compliments dunno why but hey ho
Before i had kids I say I was in pretty good shape
3 kids later I'm not what I used to be and only myself can do something about that.
My husband tells me he loves me everyday and always compliments me when we are going out so that gives me my confidence because after all I'm only really bothered about his opinion
But on here...my pictures are real and recent so...if I do meet...they know what there getting |
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It was actually meeting C and joining here that gave me self confidence. I've always been a big girl but lost a lot of weight when I met C, and a fair few people here seem to think I'm not bad looking.
I still have an annoying habit of replying to compliments on my weight loss with 'thank you, but I still have a lot to go'. Trying to teach myself to just say thanks!  |
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By *igD262Man
over a year ago
glasgow |
"It was actually meeting C and joining here that gave me self confidence. I've always been a big girl but lost a lot of weight when I met C, and a fair few people here seem to think I'm not bad looking.
I still have an annoying habit of replying to compliments on my weight loss with 'thank you, but I still have a lot to go'. Trying to teach myself to just say thanks! "
hi there you look great and very sexy  |
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"It was actually meeting C and joining here that gave me self confidence. I've always been a big girl but lost a lot of weight when I met C, and a fair few people here seem to think I'm not bad looking.
I still have an annoying habit of replying to compliments on my weight loss with 'thank you, but I still have a lot to go'. Trying to teach myself to just say thanks!
hi there you look great and very sexy "
Thank you  |
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By *illnatMan
over a year ago
wherever i need to be |
"I'm not good at taking compliments dunno why but hey ho
Before i had kids I say I was in pretty good shape
3 kids later I'm not what I used to be and only myself can do something about that.
My husband tells me he loves me everyday and always compliments me when we are going out so that gives me my confidence because after all I'm only really bothered about his opinion
But on here...my pictures are real and recent so...if I do meet...they know what there getting "
Just a pity the "fab pics" option is turned off on your profile - lovely pics.
I'm no Adonis by any means and wouldn't really want to be. I'm comfortable in my skin but know I need to do something about the extra that I carry.
At the end of the day..... Just be yourself. That can indeed be the most beautiful thing of all. Be confident in who you are not what the world expects you to be. |
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By *atmanhMan
over a year ago
bellshill |
I'm a big man. By no means a good looker but some ladies like me.
I've chatted to a few here and got on well. Very well. Then blocked after pic. Seems superficial means more to them than the intellectual connection
But hey ho. Their loss |
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"Confidence is earned through positive recognition and reinforcement.
It’s amazing how easy it is to believe all the negative things people say and yet discredit the positive. Taking a compliment is so easy. Sometimes, it’s instinctive to assume they’re just being nice when it's a 50/ 50 chance you have in believing they really mean it .
I do think confidence comes at a very early age but in the blink of an eye that confidence can be crushed and leave you scared for a very long time .
The only person who can change that is You ..in telling yoursekf you are a beautiful woman and believing you are a beautiful woman. "
this ^^^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wyldstyle and Oldie but Goodie niether of you should be self conscious both are different but to inmho eye pleasing. That said I think it is more about how you carry yourself that determines how sexy you are. Maybe easier to see in guys simple posture adjustment such as chest out head up gives an aura of confidence. Same is true for ladies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Much talked about on here and in general. However just watched naked attraction and was in awe of the confidence they must have to do it. In fact I feel like that often when I see what people on here do or post.
Its no secret to those who know me I have zero body confidence. I still even panic during sex about how I must look in certain positions. Even when it is someone I'm really comfortable with.
I'm still haunted by the match experience where men stated what weight their potential dates should be and I was too big for them all!
Its not a look at me post. I'm not fishing for compliments.
I want to know what gives other people self confidence. Was it experiences? An age thing? Something you've always had?
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Personally ..I think you look lovely ....I would have no interest in how curvy you are ...
The connection for me with ya would be the chemistry in conversation with ya.
i donr have any issues with any womens sizes..Personality will always be the sexual connection for me.
Whats not too like about curves.?
I do understand what you are saying...However shake yourself down lady ..be positive and eliminate the negatives in how you look compared too others ...
you look fantastic xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My body is what it is. I'm 57 years old and it has lived with me. Weight gain, weight loss, weight gain again, babies, surgeries, scars and bumps...all there. But then, it's never been perfect. Even in my youth when it was at its best it was never that great! I accentuate the good bits and treat the bad bits with the loving care an old and valued friend deserves. It's part of me....it's who I am. My whole however, is greater than the sum of my parts. Inside and out...take me or leave me..love me or loathe me....I'm real.
I wouldn't strip for channel 4 but I might for Radio 4!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My body is what it is. I'm 57 years old and it has lived with me. Weight gain, weight loss, weight gain again, babies, surgeries, scars and bumps...all there. But then, it's never been perfect. Even in my youth when it was at its best it was never that great! I accentuate the good bits and treat the bad bits with the loving care an old and valued friend deserves. It's part of me....it's who I am. My whole however, is greater than the sum of my parts. Inside and out...take me or leave me..love me or loathe me....I'm real.
I wouldn't strip for channel 4 but I might for Radio 4! "
Insightful, inspiring and illuminating... With a dash of humour, that's life and the voice of experience. Chin chin and a double gin to that missus xXx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If only they sold it in jars i'd certainly be after some . Some men and woman just have the balls to put themselves out there no fear . Me i'm the wallflower "
Wallflowers are lovely blooms but I really see you more as a pure white rose. Pure, elegant but with the sharpness of a thorn in terms of witty banter xXx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Much talked about on here and in general. However just watched naked attraction and was in awe of the confidence they must have to do it. In fact I feel like that often when I see what people on here do or post.
Its no secret to those who know me I have zero body confidence. I still even panic during sex about how I must look in certain positions. Even when it is someone I'm really comfortable with.
I'm still haunted by the match experience where men stated what weight their potential dates should be and I was too big for them all!
Its not a look at me post. I'm not fishing for compliments.
I want to know what gives other people self confidence. Was it experiences? An age thing? Something you've always had?
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I think I understand how you feel in that I've experienced similar situations and feelings. I think confidence is fragile sometimes and easily destroyed by emotionally manipulative and needy people who prefer you to be insecure for their benefit. You are obviously (to my mind) intelligent, empathic and beautiful even if you don't feel it sometimes. Be kind to yourself and live life to its full advantage, you only live once  xXx |
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
near Glasgow |
"My body is what it is. I'm 57 years old and it has lived with me. Weight gain, weight loss, weight gain again, babies, surgeries, scars and bumps...all there. But then, it's never been perfect. Even in my youth when it was at its best it was never that great! I accentuate the good bits and treat the bad bits with the loving care an old and valued friend deserves. It's part of me....it's who I am. My whole however, is greater than the sum of my parts. Inside and out...take me or leave me..love me or loathe me....I'm real.
I wouldn't strip for channel 4 but I might for Radio 4! "
Oh you're real ok!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was actually meeting C and joining here that gave me self confidence. I've always been a big girl but lost a lot of weight when I met C, and a fair few people here seem to think I'm not bad looking.
I still have an annoying habit of replying to compliments on my weight loss with 'thank you, but I still have a lot to go'. Trying to teach myself to just say thanks! "
i do this too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can understand your point OP.
From a very young age we are fed a diet of what we're supposed to aspire to as far as looks, weight etc
As I've got older the realisation that its the person inside not the wrapper outside that's important and where a connection is really made.
As for self confidence, as already said, the only person that can provide that is yourself
First step, start liking yourself, loving yourself will follow and you will eventually believe in yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would honestly walk through Glasgow naked and not give a shit lol
I have always been like this since I was a teenager. I'm not shy at all when it comes to my body and you would think I am cos I'm a fatty lmao! But honestly if someone has a problem with my body that is there problem and I'm happy the way I am |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would honestly walk through Glasgow naked and not give a shit lol
I have always been like this since I was a teenager. I'm not shy at all when it comes to my body and you would think I am cos I'm a fatty lmao! But honestly if someone has a problem with my body that is there problem and I'm happy the way I am "
Just the way it should be X  |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
Falkirk |
Everybody has parts they don't like - even me.
But as has already been said, the lumps, bumps, tiger stripes and scars just make us who we are.
Wear the imperfections with pride and smile.
Oh, OP - I know you well and you know me well enough to know what I think  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Confidence is earned through positive recognition and reinforcement.
It’s amazing how easy it is to believe all the negative things people say and yet discredit the positive. Taking a compliment is so easy. Sometimes, it’s instinctive to assume they’re just being nice when it's a 50/ 50 chance you have in believing they really mean it .
I do think confidence comes at a very early age but in the blink of an eye that confidence can be crushed and leave you scared for a very long time .
The only person who can change that is You ..in telling yoursekf you are a beautiful woman and believing you are a beautiful woman. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always had zero body self confidence from a young age but have decided the only person I should be making happy is myself if I change its for me noone else
If someone don't like your body there not worth meeting just be yourself xxc |
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"Confidence is earned through positive recognition and reinforcement.
It’s amazing how easy it is to believe all the negative things people say and yet discredit the positive. Taking a compliment is so easy. Sometimes, it’s instinctive to assume they’re just being nice when it's a 50/ 50 chance you have in believing they really mean it .
I do think confidence comes at a very early age but in the blink of an eye that confidence can be crushed and leave you scared for a very long time .
The only person who can change that is You ..in telling yoursekf you are a beautiful woman and believing you are a beautiful woman. "
I'll try to make it my mantra ( after the makeovers ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If only they sold it in jars i'd certainly be after some . Some men and woman just have the balls to put themselves out there no fear . Me i'm the wallflower "
Come and join ME Steph. I'm a lonely little Petunia in an onion patch! |
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"If only they sold it in jars i'd certainly be after some . Some men and woman just have the balls to put themselves out there no fear . Me i'm the wallflower
Come and join ME Steph. I'm a lonely little Petunia in an onion patch! "
Why am i thinking of that old RNLI advert |
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"Confidence is earned through positive recognition and reinforcement.
It’s amazing how easy it is to believe all the negative things people say and yet discredit the positive. Taking a compliment is so easy. Sometimes, it’s instinctive to assume they’re just being nice when it's a 50/ 50 chance you have in believing they really mean it .
I do think confidence comes at a very early age but in the blink of an eye that confidence can be crushed and leave you scared for a very long time .
The only person who can change that is You ..in telling yoursekf you are a beautiful woman and believing you are a beautiful woman.
I'll try to make it my mantra ( after the makeovers ) "
lol Steph |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This post has turned into something about being big as the main factor of not having body confidence. Im the polar opposite. Im very slim, not skinny anymore. But have been this way forever. I have longed to put on weight and despite my best attempts, failed. I dont believe i have a good body, due to surgery when i was younger. But find it difficult to take a compliment also.
All i want is to be happy in my skin, whether that be large or small. I just want to be happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've lost my body conference since I've put on weight. I've gained stretch marks on my belly, which are really red! I don't really like getting naked in front of new people ESP the ones that have seen me when I was thinner! |
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"This post has turned into something about being big as the main factor of not having body confidence. Im the polar opposite. Im very slim, not skinny anymore. But have been this way forever. I have longed to put on weight and despite my best attempts, failed. I dont believe i have a good body, due to surgery when i was younger. But find it difficult to take a compliment also.
All i want is to be happy in my skin, whether that be large or small. I just want to be happy "
strange one this and im sure same as myself you tire of hearing "wish I could have what I wanted and not put weight on" in alot of ways its harder when you cant put weight on and most dont see it as a problem. I gave up trying and just accepted for me I wont ever get to be bhudda |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This post has turned into something about being big as the main factor of not having body confidence. Im the polar opposite. Im very slim, not skinny anymore. But have been this way forever. I have longed to put on weight and despite my best attempts, failed. I dont believe i have a good body, due to surgery when i was younger. But find it difficult to take a compliment also.
All i want is to be happy in my skin, whether that be large or small. I just want to be happy "
You look good to me from the pics you have on site so it may well be your mindset which is making you feel this way.
I myself up till my mid 30s had been under 11 stone and at 5"11 that was very slim. Previously I was only 9.5 stone in my early to mid 20s. For me it became about fitness and counting my Macros in my diet. Now I am a healthy 12 stone and going on for a nicer body shape. We all need to find our goals and start the journey to them. |
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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago
Dundee/Angus/Blackpool |
Hi *waves* Well im always body concious and i used to be slimmer just because I either used to ride horses so this always kept me fit,plus if you know camperdown park lol from the bottom end and running up the road couple times a week kinda keeps weight down lol...
Anyhoo I've put weight on at core so rarely would I do a body shot until last night I kind of did in an angle. When I first came to fab I still rarely put a photo out cause I was concious but now and plus my first meet actually called me a name which made it even worse, but now after a severe talk to myself plus to those I've met I've realised im not as bad as I think but I've put a shield around me lol |
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Its not a look at me post. I'm not fishing for compliments.
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I dont know anyone who can look at themselves and not wish something was a bit better..bigger...smaller...tighter or whatever. The important part is not to let it consume you. If you cant change it..why worry? If you can change it..but dont want to...why worry? If you can change it, and want to then do it.
Oh...i disobeyed you..and looked at you...and you deserve many compliments |
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