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By *976scottMan
over a year ago
North Lanarkshire |
I don't mind a bit of BDSM if there is an end product if anyone else gets my meaning!
Restraining someone and spanking an ass or two (or vice versa) is all full and well but with no desert at the end I just don't get!
Is it just me? |
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over a year ago
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"I don't mind a bit of BDSM if there is an end product if anyone else gets my meaning!
Restraining someone and spanking an ass or two (or vice versa) is all full and well but with no desert at the end I just don't get!
Is it just me?"
Think your missing the point of bdsm. It's not just bout sex  |
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"I don't mind a bit of BDSM if there is an end product if anyone else gets my meaning!
Restraining someone and spanking an ass or two (or vice versa) is all full and well but with no desert at the end I just don't get!
Is it just me?"
it's like shibari which I'm learning,a lot of folk think sex is part of it,and it has nothing to do with it |
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"I don't mind a bit of BDSM if there is an end product if anyone else gets my meaning!
Restraining someone and spanking an ass or two (or vice versa) is all full and well but with no desert at the end I just don't get!
Is it just me?"
It would be possible to have a couple of courses in one restaurant and have dessert in another.. or go home and raid the fridge!  |
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"I don't mind a bit of BDSM if there is an end product if anyone else gets my meaning!
Restraining someone and spanking an ass or two (or vice versa) is all full and well but with no desert at the end I just don't get!
Is it just me?"
If the people are into it enough, you don't need any sexual contact to get the desired effect, speaking from our own experience so far, the fem half only needs to feel that rope going around her, the wax dripping on her or the flogger hitting her for an "end product"
During any BDSM type play we have I will very rarely cum but it doesn't mean I'm not getting off on it, it's very much the opposite.
We've been invited to the Auld school a few times now, it's just not being the right time. At some that right time will come 
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By *976scottMan
over a year ago
North Lanarkshire |
Yeah I understand all the points, but although I do like a bit of being Dom I just don't get it without the end product!
For me it's the anticipation of what comes next that's the biggest turn on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't mind a bit of BDSM if there is an end product if anyone else gets my meaning!
Restraining someone and spanking an ass or two (or vice versa) is all full and well but with no desert at the end I just don't get!
Is it just me?"
I don't get it either. I love getting restrained and Mr A whipping me but it's the build up that makes the "end product" (as you say) more intense x |
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It's entirely up to how you want to end it. I just think that at these things they don't expect people to be fucking all over the place at the end. That's not how an open fetish works. People will take the experience of it in their brain and what they have seen and then go home and play with it. I'm also wrong so don't quote as it's as I said before an open book. |
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I discovered my more kinky side after being introduced to the BDSM scene earlier this year and I am now a regular attendee at The Auld School.
First things first, I have to say The Auld School is a fab venue and is great for newbies and the more experienced kinksters alike. There is a serious amount of toys and equipment to try out and there are always people there to show you how to use them. Mistress Megara is an experienced Domme who I have to say is very approachable, down to earth and completely non-judgemental. My Dom/ Master, is also on hand to help people explore their kinky sides. (He is also pretty awesome with rope if anyone is particularly keen to find out more about Shibari) The first time I went along, I really didn't know anyone but everyone was so friendly I honestly ended up having a fantastic night. I love it for both the vast array of play opportunities as well as the social side. I've met a lot of cracking folk there including one I can honestly say is my new bestie!
Second of all, a lot of people, including myself initially, confuse kink and sex. Although they can go hand in hand, they are also very different things in their own respects. To me, BDSM is more about the journey (exploring fantasies and fetishes without judgement in a safe environment) and the relationships formed rather than just any 'end result'. If you mix the two, in some instances, it can become a safety issue as if you are thinking with your downstairs brain, you aren't always thinking properly!! There is also a big difference to someone being dominant in the bedroom and being an actual dominant and in any true D/s relationship, it's the the submissive that actually has the real power. Personally, I find as a submissive, my D/s relationship gives me a sense of escape and I can't explain how awesome that is. To give control of my body and pleasures to another person, to entrust them with the responsibility of keeping me safe and to help push my limits, gives me a deeper connection than if I was to jump into bed with them and for me, is ultimately far more gratifying. |
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And indeed, it's BDSM, no swinging involved 
