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If you feel that you have advertised yourself to the best of your ability, you've sent well thought out and polite messages, you've attended socials and clubs and got yourself out there to meet people and still are having no joy, then yes you probably should. |
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over a year ago
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"If you feel that you have advertised yourself to the best of your ability, you've sent well thought out and polite messages, you've attended socials and clubs and got yourself out there to meet people and still are having no joy, then yes you probably should."
Good advice here as always  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get to Cjs, meet new people, chat, verify, be more open with your pics and interests, swinging is a life style not a knee trembler beside the kebab van..?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another wous me post.
Why not if instead of trying gain sympathy just deleted your account and be done with it lol
Pet peeve when I see people obviously trying to gain sympathy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Another wous me post.
Why not if instead of trying gain sympathy just deleted your account and be done with it lol
Pet peeve when I see people obviously trying to gain sympathy."
Cheers!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm fed up of seeing comments about the site being rubbish. The site is excellent, it has rules, it has tools, there is a minimal cost for enhanced features, it's been operating for 10 years plus (I think). People should take responsibility for their own lack of success on the site. The site has everything available to help, the rest is down to the individuals and their approach.
'Not genuine' 'time wasters'
These words are used all to flippantly these days. Be wise, move on if you're getting anything back. Don't be responsible for wasting your own time which is far more important!
Ah..... is it rant Thursday  |
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"If you feel that you have advertised yourself to the best of your ability, you've sent well thought out and polite messages, you've attended socials and clubs and got yourself out there to meet people and still are having no joy, then yes you probably should."
This. 
I tend to think anyone that's been on a year and not met is just on chatting and not really looking to meet. Surely they would have done as what _oobsandballs said.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Any time I've wasted here is because I've wasted it myself.
I've had more chats than I can remember that ended up going nowhere or fizzled out due to myself or whoever else was concerned losing interest.
A couple of meets that also went nowhere due to the chemistry not being there.
I don't consider that a waste of time though,it's part n parcel of fab so I blame no one n hold no resentment.
The handful of great meets I've had more than make up for it though,you've just gotta keep on truckin'.
As has been said a million times....it's what you make it!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm fed up of seeing comments about the site being rubbish. The site is excellent, it has rules, it has tools, there is a minimal cost for enhanced features, it's been operating for 10 years plus (I think). People should take responsibility for their own lack of success on the site. The site has everything available to help, the rest is down to the individuals and their approach.
'Not genuine' 'time wasters'
These words are used all to flippantly these days. Be wise, move on if you're getting anything back. Don't be responsible for wasting your own time which is far more important!
Ah..... is it rant Thursday "
I agree that the site is good but their is a problem with some of the people on it, EMPHASIS on some people!
But in all fairness I don't think women should comment on a post like this, this site is very easy and very different for women, you all get hundreds of desperate messages a day from hundreds of desperate guys, you get to sit back, relax & have your pick, us guys have to actually work hard for a meet on here.
I also don't agree with a comment above saying go to socials and party's, how are those things going to help someone? I've never been to any in the nearly 8years and 4profiles I've been here and I've done OK for meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yeah it is the people making it rubbish.
i have no problem generating interest, it's finding someone compatible and interesting that's the problem for me when it comes to meeting. |
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
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"Been on here for a year and site full of time wasters is it time to give up??"
I'm sorry OP, but I don't think that attitude will exactly endear you to the ladies.
If the site isn't working for you, then you know what to do, simple.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was on before had lots of meets left for a year come back and now I can't get a meet because I'm not verified, it's catch 22. Would meet for coffee or that just for verification but even then no joys. I think once verified fab is that it's fab but until then it sucks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm fed up of seeing comments about the site being rubbish. The site is excellent, it has rules, it has tools, there is a minimal cost for enhanced features, it's been operating for 10 years plus (I think). People should take responsibility for their own lack of success on the site. The site has everything available to help, the rest is down to the individuals and their approach.
'Not genuine' 'time wasters'
These words are used all to flippantly these days. Be wise, move on if you're getting anything back. Don't be responsible for wasting your own time which is far more important!
Ah..... is it rant Thursday I agree that the site is good but their is a problem with some of the people on it, EMPHASIS on some people!
But in all fairness I don't think women should comment on a post like this, this site is very easy and very different for women, you all get hundreds of desperate messages a day from hundreds of desperate guys, you get to sit back, relax & have your pick, us guys have to actually work hard for a meet on here.
I also don't agree with a comment above saying go to socials and party's, how are those things going to help someone? I've never been to any in the nearly 8years and 4profiles I've been here and I've done OK for meets."
In all fairness, woman are more than welcome to comment on this post, as it's an open forum.
The site can't do anymore than it already does to delete, deter and eliminate the problem profiles. The cost is so small to be a member, what are people expecting? Maybe there shouldn't be a free membership option?
Oh to receive this rumoured 100s of messages daily! What am I doing wrong This site is rubbish |
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"I'm fed up of seeing comments about the site being rubbish. The site is excellent, it has rules, it has tools, there is a minimal cost for enhanced features, it's been operating for 10 years plus (I think). People should take responsibility for their own lack of success on the site. The site has everything available to help, the rest is down to the individuals and their approach.
'Not genuine' 'time wasters'
These words are used all to flippantly these days. Be wise, move on if you're getting anything back. Don't be responsible for wasting your own time which is far more important!
Ah..... is it rant Thursday I agree that the site is good but their is a problem with some of the people on it, EMPHASIS on some people!
But in all fairness I don't think women should comment on a post like this, this site is very easy and very different for women, you all get hundreds of desperate messages a day from hundreds of desperate guys, you get to sit back, relax & have your pick, us guys have to actually work hard for a meet on here.
I also don't agree with a comment above saying go to socials and party's, how are those things going to help someone? I've never been to any in the nearly 8years and 4profiles I've been here and I've done OK for meets."
When we first started, I got my arse along to lunch socials and got chatting on the forums. That way people could meet me, see me and get a sense of my personality and if they'd be interested in meeting. The social side is a tool to be used in conjunction with the site, rather than just being some words on a screen.
Good for you that you haven't done that and you've done ok, you obviously have skills with your messages that so many men who are struggling on here don't have so perhaps you can help them?
Oh, and the fact I have a vagina doesn't mean my opinions aren't valid
You're right that women may have it easier than single guys on here, but here's just one reason why - most women make an effort with a profile, most men don't. When I'm looking at single guys, if there's no profile and no pics I move right along.
You can lead a horse to water, and all that |
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Having a vagina dosnt make your opinions invalid what it does do though is make life simple.....having boobs and a fvagina means you will always be chased even with a blank profile so its certainly not that woman put in more effort |
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"Having a vagina dosnt make your opinions invalid what it does do though is make life simple.....having boobs and a fvagina means you will always be chased even with a blank profile so its certainly not that woman put in more effort "
There are many reasons why life is not simple for women but I'm not even going to start on that.
I didn't say women put in more effort than men, I said women make more effort with their profiles than men do.
If you're saying that more women than men have blank or one line profiles with no pics and generally no effort, you're wrong. |
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"Having a vagina dosnt make your opinions invalid what it does do though is make life simple.....having boobs and a fvagina means you will always be chased even with a blank profile so its certainly not that woman put in more effort
There are many reasons why life is not simple for women but I'm not even going to start on that.
I didn't say women put in more effort than men, I said women make more effort with their profiles than men do.
If you're saying that more women than men have blank or one line profiles with no pics and generally no effort, you're wrong."
sorry imo im not wrong have seen plenty fems profiles that are blank and one line usually send a face pic or no chat. The point the person was making was how can a fem comment on something she hasnt experienced. |
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"Having a vagina dosnt make your opinions invalid what it does do though is make life simple.....having boobs and a fvagina means you will always be chased even with a blank profile so its certainly not that woman put in more effort
There are many reasons why life is not simple for women but I'm not even going to start on that.
I didn't say women put in more effort than men, I said women make more effort with their profiles than men do.
If you're saying that more women than men have blank or one line profiles with no pics and generally no effort, you're wrong.
sorry imo im not wrong have seen plenty fems profiles that are blank and one line usually send a face pic or no chat. The point the person was making was how can a fem comment on something she hasnt experienced. "
I didn't say there weren't women who do have profiles like that, I said most women make an effort while most men do not. Which you'd have seen if you'd read my comments correctly. But you continue to think that you're always right and everyone else is wrong, as it's clearly so important to you. |
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And most men do not is an unfair assumption perhaps of those you have recieved msgs from the profiles are blank. But I would hazzard a guess that most men put effort in as its a stacked playing field as I said its hard for a fem or cpl to understand as your position is very diffrent |
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over a year ago
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The OP also made reference to the site being full of time wasters! Women 'never' experience time wasters so we shouldn't comment on that either I guess?
Receiving many messages doesn't necessarily make it easy, but maybe slightly easier! Quantity doesn't mean quality - unless it's copious amounts of maltesers.
I have sent many messages and been deleted, unread and / or blocked. Men aren't unique.
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"Any time I've wasted here is because I've wasted it myself.
I've had more chats than I can remember that ended up going nowhere or fizzled out due to myself or whoever else was concerned losing interest.
A couple of meets that also went nowhere due to the chemistry not being there.
I don't consider that a waste of time though,it's part n parcel of fab so I blame no one n hold no resentment.
The handful of great meets I've had more than make up for it though,you've just gotta keep on truckin'.
As has been said a million times....it's what you make it! "
Mostly the last bit of this |
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"The OP also made reference to the site being full of time wasters! Women 'never' experience time wasters so we shouldn't comment on that either I guess?
Receiving many messages doesn't necessarily make it easy, but maybe slightly easier! Quantity doesn't mean quality - unless it's copious amounts of maltesers.
I have sent many messages and been deleted, unread and / or blocked. Men aren't unique.
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Mmmm, maltesers...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've tried to set up a few socials and been led along twice on the site. We chatted for quite a while, couple of excuses made for cancelling but we persevered.
We travelled to glasgow to meet both of these people for no shows and the hidden profiles when we try to find out what happened.
We're new to the scene our experiences have left us feeling like giving up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think so ... gold has it right... those that enjoy quality are prepared to make the effort and work towards the right meet...those who understand swinging know it's not instashag though that's not to say spontaneous things can happen... as already re-iterated... the site is what YOU make it |
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Being completely honest about this site I must say that I have never met such a bunch of unsociable self obsessed people in all my life, trying to get conversations started and form friendships on here is very difficult as the majority of folk are so vain it doesn't matter how good the profile is or how polite and friendly the messages are it all comes down to looks and whether they want to Fuck you, there are some genuinely nice people but they are few and far between on here, for quite a few years I've been on Internet dating sites etc and I've had a lot more success there forming friendships and meeting people, I always send polite opening messages and make it clear that I'm here for friendships as well as to play and the amount of rude responses I've received back is unreal, as for going to clubs and socials I'm pretty sure I won't be doing that as for me I don't particularly want to be around people with attitudes like I've seen on here it's very clique on here and it basically comes down to fitting in and wether you appeal to these people, unfortunately my experience on here has been very unpleasant and I won't be renewing my membership that's for certain |
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In my opinion I think the main problem with most the single guys I've spoke to on here is they seem to think there doing me a favour or know what I want.
A few weeks ago I was looking for a meet with someone local. I revived hundreds of messages and filtered down to the ones that where actually local. Out of this small group one told me he was taking me to cjs so he could watch me play in all all girl gang bang, one wanted to take me out for cocktails and he would buy me flowers then a romantic meal and a overnight stay in a hotel, around five guys told me he was talking me dogging and around three were inviting there mates round fir a shot.
Out of all of them only one guy thought to ask what I might be intrested in and discussed what we could do together then he went UNLOS. So even although we might get plenty of offers its not any easier for us girls to get meets.
Near all my meets was when I got off my arse and went out somewhere like cj's and now nearly everyone I speak with off fab is people I've met face to face.
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I Didn't realise people actually met on this site. I thought they used it for exchange photos of car engines and swapping pictures of the types of shoes they wear.
I need to revaluate this site and see what it offers |
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"I Didn't realise people actually met on this site. I thought they used it for exchange photos of car engines and swapping pictures of the types of shoes they wear.
I need to revaluate this site and see what it offers "
I've a photo with trainers on. |
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"I Didn't realise people actually met on this site. I thought they used it for exchange photos of car engines and swapping pictures of the types of shoes they wear.
I need to revaluate this site and see what it offers
I've a photo with trainers on. "
For a 91 year old your really pretty |
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"Any time I've wasted here is because I've wasted it myself.
I've had more chats than I can remember that ended up going nowhere or fizzled out due to myself or whoever else was concerned losing interest.
A couple of meets that also went nowhere due to the chemistry not being there.
I don't consider that a waste of time though,it's part n parcel of fab so I blame no one n hold no resentment.
The handful of great meets I've had more than make up for it though,you've just gotta keep on truckin'.
As has been said a million times....it's what you make it! "
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We found this little piece of advice on another post, thought we would share it here (reposted under kind permission of the author Biforfun999)
Joining Fab is like getting on a train to get to our destination to have rumpy pumpy fun. So, we assume there's plenty of stops to get off at and surprised that the journey is taking so long.
We aren't alone on this train, so enjoy what's around you. Chat with other passengers without chatting them up in the hopes of sex together. Make use of the various facilities on the train and take on the different views through the forum windows. They might not always be enjoyable views, so change seats to the other side perhaps. Check out the restaurant. It's where the socials are held. Coffee, cake and chocolate available without play.
The Fab train is not about the destination, it's about having a good time on the journey. Your stop will come along quicker if you're not looking at the clock, so chill, make friends and eat cake!
Please note that the Fab toilets are not to be used for taking selfies. |
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"We found this little piece of advice on another post, thought we would share it here (reposted under kind permission of the author Biforfun999)
Joining Fab is like getting on a train to get to our destination to have rumpy pumpy fun. So, we assume there's plenty of stops to get off at and surprised that the journey is taking so long.
We aren't alone on this train, so enjoy what's around you. Chat with other passengers without chatting them up in the hopes of sex together. Make use of the various facilities on the train and take on the different views through the forum windows. They might not always be enjoyable views, so change seats to the other side perhaps. Check out the restaurant. It's where the socials are held. Coffee, cake and chocolate available without play.
The Fab train is not about the destination, it's about having a good time on the journey. Your stop will come along quicker if you're not looking at the clock, so chill, make friends and eat cake!
Please note that the Fab toilets are not to be used for taking selfies. "
Very good advice and interesting way at looking at this site. |
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"Red you don't half boss the forum?don't you?"
Hahahah nope, I think my comments are far less strong than some others but you are entitled to your wrong opinion |
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So I guess the answer to your question is yes, give up 
