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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seems so many men bottles crash on here.when it comes to actually meeting.
Paranoid sets in.
What's going on you either want to meet others or you don't ? We all have had to make that move and go for it.
Feels like you can be on question time a million questions n. Still.there is a trust issue why ? |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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Many just don't have the confidence to actually meet. It's not just men but women too.
It can be a scary leap of faith for a lot of people. They like the thrill of the chase but lack the confidence to actually go through with it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not quite sure what the real question is here... The confidence of someone who is let down being knocked or that someone not showing up lacks confidence. This is always a topic that pickles me... I must be very lucky as I have never been let down and of course I would never do that to someone either. It's baffling to me why someone would just not turn up but then it's a funny old world. I guess the age old fab tenet has to apply - if it happens chalk it up to experience and move on... That and be a bit more particular next time  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd say it's more about a person's selection process.
As many on here have had no issues with this problem then I'd say rethink how your selecting your playmates  "
Find that hard to believe .impossible to be good judge of character on here its words on a screen. No voice to go with etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Works both ways. I've had countless women on here who just disapear or change their mind at the last minute"
Bottom line there one pain in the backside .its not a pen pal site |
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"I'd say it's more about a person's selection process.
As many on here have had no issues with this problem then I'd say rethink how your selecting your playmates
Find that hard to believe .impossible to be good judge of character on here its words on a screen. No voice to go with etc."
if it's a continuing problem then it has to be your selection process otherwise why do some have this issue and some don't? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to agree with Andy on this one.
There are a large number of keyboard warriors on here who talk the talk but when push comes to shove they can't walk the walk.
Again it's not just the guys, have been in full conversation with a lady on here and suddenly UNLOS
The thing I find is people are not willing to meet for a social. I worked on the Doors for years where believe it or not sex is on tap, the same women who are all airs and graces and full of demands on site go out at the weekend for a drink and suddenly the Doormen are wearing them.
If you have the guys to throw yourself at a random stranger because he is a club bouncer then take the plunge and meet on here for a sober cup of coffee.
You never know you might even click with a potential regular playmate.
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"Probably the same reasons womans do. I always come down on the side if your having problems getting meets its your vetting system at fault its yourself that chooses a prospective meet"
No I don't think so. Women are choosey. Men probably married and treat this as interactive porn.
Any time we are contacted by women/couples with no verifications we just say "it will be good to chat once you have sorted out your verifications" real women and couples will sort it. Fakes will winge. And we laugh. |
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"Probably the same reasons womans do. I always come down on the side if your having problems getting meets its your vetting system at fault its yourself that chooses a prospective meet
No I don't think so. Women are choosey. Men probably married and treat this as interactive porn.
Any time we are contacted by women/couples with no verifications we just say "it will be good to chat once you have sorted out your verifications" real women and couples will sort it. Fakes will winge. And we laugh. "
lol and men accept anything some do some dont guess what same as woman im particularly choosey and just as many fems treat this as interactive porn well by percentage. Veris mean little everyone starts with none but thats just my take on it |
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"Probably the same reasons womans do. I always come down on the side if your having problems getting meets its your vetting system at fault its yourself that chooses a prospective meet
No I don't think so. Women are choosey. Men probably married and treat this as interactive porn.
Any time we are contacted by women/couples with no verifications we just say "it will be good to chat once you have sorted out your verifications" real women and couples will sort it. Fakes will winge. And we laugh. "
not all women are choosy tho and some also think it's Instashag the same as some men do ...these things ain't gender specific |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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I have to agree....women can be as bad as men. Ultimately it comes down to taking your time. If someone is genuine and willing to meet, they will meet socially first.
If not, they will either block you or become UNLOS.
As Rok said, it's happened before and no doubt it will happen again. But don't read too much into it and just move on. For every 20 UNLOS there are 2-3 good ones. Keep the faith |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably the same reasons womans do. I always come down on the side if your having problems getting meets its your vetting system at fault its yourself that chooses a prospective meet
No I don't think so. Women are choosey. Men probably married and treat this as interactive porn.
Any time we are contacted by women/couples with no verifications we just say "it will be good to chat once you have sorted out your verifications" real women and couples will sort it. Fakes will winge. And we laugh. "
Well look at you two with your moral high ground! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lot's of good points up there... some not so good... I can only speak from experience and as I said I've never been let down nor have I let down anyone I said I'd meet... I can only put that down to being very sure or as sure as I can be of whom I meet... that means lots of interaction beforehand... a lot of it most enjoyable aherm 
However each of us finds our own way here so that might not apply for others.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have to agree....women can be as bad as men. Ultimately it comes down to taking your time. If someone is genuine and willing to meet, they will meet socially first.
If not, they will either block you or become UNLOS.
As Rok said, it's happened before and no doubt it will happen again. But don't read too much into it and just move on. For every 20 UNLOS there are 2-3 good ones. Keep the faith "
Well said that man |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Everyone is entitled to change their mind or indeed go at their own pace. Male or female. Lots of people like to get to know someone before they meet and in doing that may find...they don't wish to proceed. If this happens to you a lot then I think it's reasonable to review chatting/meeting methods. No-one likes to be pressurised. It should be relaxed fun. If it's not.....my bottle would go too!!  |
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