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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why no single males to many parties/events. I'm a single straight female who doesn't play with couples. So who is there for me 
Maybe us straight singles should have our own socials
Seems the site is only fun if your a couple or bi fem who is happy to be a couples toy
Moral of story invite more males and you might get more single females
Bring on the linching  |
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"Why no single males to many parties/events. I'm a single straight female who doesn't play with couples. So who is there for me
Maybe us straight singles should have our own socials
Seems the site is only fun if your a couple or bi fem who is happy to be a couples toy
Moral of story invite more males and you might get more single females
Bring on the linching "
my parties are the opposite I can get single guys and couples to attend no problem but single females seem a little shy in wanting to attend  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why no single males to many parties/events. I'm a single straight female who doesn't play with couples. So who is there for me
Maybe us straight singles should have our own socials
Seems the site is only fun if your a couple or bi fem who is happy to be a couples toy
Moral of story invite more males and you might get more single females
Bring on the linching my parties are the opposite I can get single guys and couples to attend no problem but single females seem a little shy in wanting to attend "
Yeh it's just those who hold socials and only allow a handful of males. Makes me as a single fem not want to go.
Always be more males to females due to ratio on site. All the better for us girlies I say lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I guess it is what it is cherry. 
All the single ladies looking for a party with single guys get together, organize it and cherry pick the guys you want  "
Aah is that the way you have to do it |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"I guess it is what it is cherry.
All the single ladies looking for a party with single guys get together, organize it and cherry pick the guys you want
Aah is that the way you have to do it "
At least that way you only invite the males you want |
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We've hosted two parties so far and invite a mix of couples and singles. We try to keep the amount of single guys and ladies the same, so the ratio isn't skewed.
The last party we had there were many guys interested, yet when it came to the finer details they bailed/disappeared! So not a lot we can do about that unfortunately
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I guess it is what it is cherry.
All the single ladies looking for a party with single guys get together, organize it and cherry pick the guys you want
Aah is that the way you have to do it
At least that way you only invite the males you want "
To much hassle and leads to presumptions. I'd rather turn up to a party without having to pair off all my potential suitors lol |
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"Why no single males to many parties/events. I'm a single straight female who doesn't play with couples. So who is there for me
Maybe us straight singles should have our own socials
Seems the site is only fun if your a couple or bi fem who is happy to be a couples toy
Moral of story invite more males and you might get more single females
Bring on the linching "
crazy thought when you consider most cpls only want to meet single fems so why have competition lol as for singles socials its been tried a few times usually ending up with but your wanting to exclude most of the site comments. but its fine to have a bbw appriciation society. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why no single males to many parties/events. I'm a single straight female who doesn't play with couples. So who is there for me
Maybe us straight singles should have our own socials
Seems the site is only fun if your a couple or bi fem who is happy to be a couples toy
Moral of story invite more males and you might get more single females
Bring on the linching "
You can come to a party at mine anytime |
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It's not always the case that less single males get invited..
When I plan a party I always invite at least twice as many single guys as single females..
If they all turn up great.. suits me, but every time so many come up with lame last minute excuses..so the single male turn up rate is between a third and a half of those who've been invited and have initially confirmed. Then making it seem like a minority of single guys.
There's even 1 guy who I just refuse to invite anymore... My parties caused 6 of his grannies to pass away and a few of his pets too!!    |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why no single males to many parties/events. I'm a single straight female who doesn't play with couples. So who is there for me
Maybe us straight singles should have our own socials
Seems the site is only fun if your a couple or bi fem who is happy to be a couples toy
Moral of story invite more males and you might get more single females
Bring on the linching "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not always the case that less single males get invited..
When I plan a party I always invite at least twice as many single guys as single females..
If they all turn up great.. suits me, but every time so many come up with lame last minute excuses..so the single male turn up rate is between a third and a half of those who've been invited and have initially confirmed. Then making it seem like a minority of single guys.
There's even 1 guy who I just refuse to invite anymore... My parties caused 6 of his grannies to pass away and a few of his pets too!! "
Aw i can see why , you wouldnt want another granny on your conscience , god rest their wee souls lol |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"It's not always the case that less single males get invited..
When I plan a party I always invite at least twice as many single guys as single females..
If they all turn up great.. suits me, but every time so many come up with lame last minute excuses..so the single male turn up rate is between a third and a half of those who've been invited and have initially confirmed. Then making it seem like a minority of single guys.
There's even 1 guy who I just refuse to invite anymore... My parties caused 6 of his grannies to pass away and a few of his pets too!! "
Well, apart from being the angel of death  , I think you've summed half the problem up here - some single guys just bottle it, hence why they seem scarce at socials.
All I can suggest is go anyway and hope for the best if you're a single lady  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been to a couple of parties were the couples and the girls out way the single guy in here .and it's a nightmare trying to find a regular playmate as lots o girls very picky |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not always the case that less single males get invited..
When I plan a party I always invite at least twice as many single guys as single females..
If they all turn up great.. suits me, but every time so many come up with lame last minute excuses..so the single male turn up rate is between a third and a half of those who've been invited and have initially confirmed. Then making it seem like a minority of single guys.
There's even 1 guy who I just refuse to invite anymore... My parties caused 6 of his grannies to pass away and a few of his pets too!! "
I think if anyone arranges a social/party and someone fails to turn up or says cant at last minute, then, (my _iew only), would be the last person I'd invite ever again and if I did decide to invite them again that would without doubt be their last chance
just saying like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we've organised socials in the past we try and get a good mix of couples and singles, although when push comes to shove it's the single males that tend to cancel.
It's a tricky one for organisers really. Trying to get the right balance and trying to please everyone.
So maybe a singles one is needed. But didn't it get mentioned before on here and shot down in flames?
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"When we've organised socials in the past we try and get a good mix of couples and singles, although when push comes to shove it's the single males that tend to cancel.
It's a tricky one for organisers really. Trying to get the right balance and trying to please everyone.
So maybe a singles one is needed. But didn't it get mentioned before on here and shot down in flames?
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I don't think it got shut down in flames. ..think there were some who had added thier name's and we're accepted but werent single in the true sense.
Sure it wa's going to be rescheduled at some point |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there was s debate as to wether people could come that were attached but playing away and those that have single and couples profiles.... at the end of day no matter what way you do socials there will always be someobe whos not happy x |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"I think there was s debate as to wether people could come that were attached but playing away and those that have single and couples profiles.... at the end of day no matter what way you do socials there will always be someobe whos not happy x"
True |
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"Why no single males to many parties/events. I'm a single straight female who doesn't play with couples. So who is there for me
Maybe us straight singles should have our own socials
Seems the site is only fun if your a couple or bi fem who is happy to be a couples toy
Moral of story invite more males and you might get more single females
Bring on the linching "
I do agree however sometimes the single guys just don't turn up , still it's always good to know the reliable ones |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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It must be difficult to try and get the dynamic correct for a play party, to ensure the mix is right to try and minimise people feeling left out. The play preferences will likely prioritise couples and bi females and as Cherry correctly identifies straight single females are looking for a playmate in a single guy. The leaning in the swinging world is 'bi female' and this increases the opportunity if they are part of a couple. The couples know that , thus not all are actually bi. |
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"as for a non play social, I can't see any reason for ratio's.
The old sausage fest usually gets thrown out"
I don't limit single males for socials or drinks night because its simply a night out its a first come first served basis ... its totally different for private parties to make sure the right mix of people are there |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I completely get the mix thing and I know guys can be full of bravado and not turn up. But there are some socials organised where it does state "no single males" or they have to hook up with a single fem and go as a couple (even when they ain't a "couple")
.....and btw I love my couple friends and like a good ole flirt. And hey I can be fickle. But I need something do make me wanna turn up in the first place. |
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"7years and never been asked to go to one, I probably wouldn't go but I've never been asked so I'll never know"
my parties are advertised on my profile and I know quite a few others who do parties in this way.
id find it pretty boring if it was the same people being invited every time so maybe if you did become interested at some point check out some profiles . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"7years and never been asked to go to one, I probably wouldn't go but I've never been asked so I'll never knowmy parties are advertised on my profile and I know quite a few others who do parties in this way.
id find it pretty boring if it was the same people being invited every time so maybe if you did become interested at some point check out some profiles . "
never seen these on profiles, maybe I don't know where to look. It's cool thanks fo r letting me know but as I said I probably wouldn't go |
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"I'd organise a singles social no problem for anyone wishing to attend.
But I'd probably get linched too for being an organiser who's not single lol
Organisers privilege I'd call that "
well if people want a night and no one else wants to take it on lol |
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"It's not always the case that less single males get invited..
When I plan a party I always invite at least twice as many single guys as single females..
If they all turn up great.. suits me, but every time so many come up with lame last minute excuses..so the single male turn up rate is between a third and a half of those who've been invited and have initially confirmed. Then making it seem like a minority of single guys.
There's even 1 guy who I just refuse to invite anymore... My parties caused 6 of his grannies to pass away and a few of his pets too!! "
That made me chuckle
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why no single males to many parties/events. I'm a single straight female who doesn't play with couples. So who is there for me
Maybe us straight singles should have our own socials
Seems the site is only fun if your a couple or bi fem who is happy to be a couples toy
Moral of story invite more males and you might get more single females
Bring on the linching my parties are the opposite I can get single guys and couples to attend no problem but single females seem a little shy in wanting to attend
Yeh it's just those who hold socials and only allow a handful of males. Makes me as a single fem not want to go.
Always be more males to females due to ratio on site. All the better for us girlies I say lol "
Not the case, we've organised a few socials with no limits on gender numbers - inundated with requests from single guys, very few single girls even show an interest.
That's been our experience anyhoo.
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's just like everything else, people say they do something and they don't. I have read lots of profiles stating various different things and came to a quick conclusion that it doesn't matter what a profile says people lie.
I thought this was a social site as well as the rest, yet hardly anyone who says they chat actually does lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not always the case that less single males get invited..
When I plan a party I always invite at least twice as many single guys as single females..
If they all turn up great.. suits me, but every time so many come up with lame last minute excuses..so the single male turn up rate is between a third and a half of those who've been invited and have initially confirmed. Then making it seem like a minority of single guys.
There's even 1 guy who I just refuse to invite anymore... My parties caused 6 of his grannies to pass away and a few of his pets too!!
That made me chuckle
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I love it, statistical analysis or turn out rate.
Can I please request some Pareto analysis, or even a pie chart, everyone loves a pie chart.
Fab never ceases to amaze me |
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