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over a year ago
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"Is it just me that is having new luck with chatting/meeting genuine people? I just seem to attract fakes or timewasters. So bored of it  "
Not just you mate I have been on a while and only had one meet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The ratio of men to females and couples is huge. Therefore, look at the guys who are successful, look at your search criteria, loads of threads on this subject  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just takes a bit of time can't be everyones cup of tea. and I think there's also that many guys on here that it's probably impossible for every girl a guy messages to get back to all the mails they receive and most likely just delete them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The ratio of men to females and couples is huge. Therefore, look at the guys who are successful, look at your search criteria, loads of threads on this subject "
Yeah, I've seen. Its a shame, I feel like a lot of guys have ruined it for us honest ones out there, had a few occasions of messaging and/or replying to someones status update and just being met with a really dismissive or angry reply - was only interested in chatting. Getting pretty tired of it all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just takes a bit of time can't be everyones cup of tea. and I think there's also that many guys on here that it's probably impossible for every girl a guy messages to get back to all the mails they receive and most likely just delete them "
Yeah totally, you see ladies updating saying how many messages and winks they receive. mental! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"stick in there mate.....the majority of folk on here are weirdo's and timewasters but there are many genuine and fabulous folk on here to make it all worth while  "
Thanks very much! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The ratio of men to females and couples is huge. Therefore, look at the guys who are successful, look at your search criteria, loads of threads on this subject
Yeah, I've seen. Its a shame, I feel like a lot of guys have ruined it for us honest ones out there, had a few occasions of messaging and/or replying to someones status update and just being met with a really dismissive or angry reply - was only interested in chatting. Getting pretty tired of it all "
Instead of thinking that some other people's poor behaviour has ruined for 'honest ones' which comes across as negative and whiny look at it the other way..... Poor behaviour makes the good guys stand out IMHO |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The ratio of men to females and couples is huge. Therefore, look at the guys who are successful, look at your search criteria, loads of threads on this subject
Yeah, I've seen. Its a shame, I feel like a lot of guys have ruined it for us honest ones out there, had a few occasions of messaging and/or replying to someones status update and just being met with a really dismissive or angry reply - was only interested in chatting. Getting pretty tired of it all
Instead of thinking that some other people's poor behaviour has ruined for 'honest ones' which comes across as negative and whiny look at it the other way..... Poor behaviour makes the good guys stand out IMHO"
Thats a great way to look at it and I admire your positive attitude however I don't think many share it |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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Been on here over 4 years now...
Never had a timewaster. Had a fair few meets when it works. I'm limited on free time, and prefer to spend a good while chatting before meeting - anyone pushy becomes a no.
I don't think the "other people have ruined it for me" thinking is right either. Noone ruins it for anyone else. Take responsibility for your own behaviour and actions.
Also just because someone isn't interested does not mean they are a timewaster.
I've been accused of being a timewaster because I would not swap numbers, meet instantly or sex talk. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Been on here over 4 years now...
Never had a timewaster. Had a fair few meets when it works. I'm limited on free time, and prefer to spend a good while chatting before meeting - anyone pushy becomes a no.
I don't think the "other people have ruined it for me" thinking is right either. Noone ruins it for anyone else. Take responsibility for your own behaviour and actions.
Also just because someone isn't interested does not mean they are a timewaster.
I've been accused of being a timewaster because I would not swap numbers, meet instantly or sex talk. "
Maybe the people that I've attempted to chat with have just been very rude then. Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to blame anything on other people, just feel like maybe people are very suspicious of talking to single males. I started to think maybe its because I didn't have any public photos of my face but not really wanting to go down that route. Got plenty in private thanks for all replying to me |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
You are not after a profile critique, but yours raised a few flags that would be an instant no for me... so maybe give it a look and see if its really the best it can be.
There are some really successful fellas on here - have a peep and see their approach. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You are not after a profile critique, but yours raised a few flags that would be an instant no for me... so maybe give it a look and see if its really the best it can be.
There are some really successful fellas on here - have a peep and see their approach."
What were the flags for you? I feel I've been pretty honest on mine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best thing I found when I first started was to go to social meets to chat and see folk face to face. Gives people better impression of you than a simple profile I find, then of course more likely to chat online after that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Best thing I found when I first started was to go to social meets to chat and see folk face to face. Gives people better impression of you than a simple profile I find, then of course more likely to chat online after that."
Yeah, I was thinking that. just not got round to/worked up the courage |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"What were the flags for you? I feel I've been pretty honest on mine"
One of them is the fact you claim to be discreet, yet are bragging about your little 18 year old. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What were the flags for you? I feel I've been pretty honest on mine
One of them is the fact you claim to be discreet, yet are bragging about your little 18 year old."
I never though as that being bragging, more just something to explain what I'm into. Although saying that. It's not really working out with her. Too young I think for that sort of thing, still haven't met, only been online so I may as well remove that from my profile. Thanks for the input |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Been stood up a few time. Or arrange to
Meet then don't come back on the site. Unfortunetly there is people who just see it as a forum of Entertaiment."
Yeah I've had the same a couple of times. Especially arranging meets then suddenly there's a hidden profile and radio silence. Annoying! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've had two meets arranged this week and both never showed up, yet both where verified users so it really counts for nothing on fab nowadays.
Good luck"
Sorry to hear that! And thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Socials are a great way to meet, I've only been to 2 events and found some good friends (without benefits lol) It's only nerve wracking for first 5 mins. Good luck!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Socials are a great way to meet, I've only been to 2 events and found some good friends (without benefits lol) It's only nerve wracking for first 5 mins. Good luck!!"
I know! I just need to get over the nerves and head along. been thinking about the shoebox. anyone been? |
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