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over a year ago
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Think before you say anything. You would be surprised what some people will put up with in a relationship, especially if there's kids or a mortgage involved. You may find yourself the one without a good mate.
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"I say arrange a meet with her !! ... lol only joking but I believe what happens on fab stays on fab ... discretion is a must "
in your opinion descretions a must. If one of my best mates girlfreinds fiance or wife was on here she would get 24hrs to fess up or I would say to him. Got to laugh at folk who think let my mate get the piss taken out him its fine what happens on fab blah blah blah just my opinion
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over a year ago
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Not a good situation to be in but I would get it confirmed that she is using it and not someone else uploaded her pictures and then take next step and tell her you know! Cheating is not nice if they have troubles at home this won't mend it being on fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"just seen one of my best pals wife on here and she on as a single gal , do I let him know ? "
Swinging means Discretion.
Block her ..If you message her she ll probably leave However that will cause some atmosphere when you go to your Mates BBQ.
It is a tricky one..But do digest and take your time in whatever you do.
Good Luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Difficult position mate but I'm a believer
Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave
And ask for a BJ 
John  "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Stay away, you don't know why she's here, he may even know, people never know what happens behind closed doors, and always best on this site to stay discreet |
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over a year ago
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"Stay away, you don't know why she's here, he may even know, people never know what happens behind closed doors, and always best on this site to stay discreet "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Now wudnt you like too know "
I was having a laugh matey, bit of tongue in cheek banter, lot of good advice on here, only two ways id deal with this, either stay completely clear or if your that concerned have a word with her, either way could lead to your chum being hurt! That's if he doesn't already know, Kinda stuck in a hard place! |
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I often wonder on threads like these. would you be happy if your friend caught your spouse on here but said nothing would you be happy......kinda know the answer having seen it a few times easy way to think on it op if it was your spouse and your mate caught her would you want to be told |
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By *agic37Man
over a year ago
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"Difficult position mate but I'm a believer
Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave
And ask for a BJ
John "
I was tempted to say something similar
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Difficult position mate but I'm a believer
Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave
And ask for a BJ
John
Sexual blackmail is illegal, and on average carries a term of two years in this country. Just sayin'.....
I was tempted to say something similar
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Put yourself in their shoes would you want to know. I work with a guy who is seperated from his mrs and I know he'd love to get back with her. I just don't have the heart to tell him she is on here.
Morally you should tell your friend but when you joined you wouldve been looking for discretion think about that. |
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"Difficult position mate but I'm a believer
Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave
And ask for a BJ
John
Sexual blackmail is illegal, and on average carries a term of two years in this country. Just sayin'.....
I was tempted to say something similar
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Asking isn't a crime.... Unless you are asking with a gun pointed at someone "Just Sayin"
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I doubt she is the only married woman on fab or married man playing away! We get tonnes of guys texting saying they are single. If they are all single then there must be thousands of single ladies out there!
What happens on Fab stays on fab. Just our thoughts! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Say nothing. Stay out of it and block so she can't see you.
It's none of your business what goes on. You don't know your mate doesn't know. You just assume.
There are many people on here who play away from their partners. A great many reasons for doing it. No one should be justifying themselves to anyone else on here |
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"I doubt she is the only married woman on fab or married man playing away! We get tonnes of guys texting saying they are single. If they are all single then there must be thousands of single ladies out there!
What happens on Fab stays on fab. Just our thoughts! "
Completely agree, stay out of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh my god! Are you really asking for advice about cheating or where too grass someone to there partner on here? (HALF THE PEOPLE ON HERE ARE CHEATING LOL) |
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I think this is a really complex issue.
I'm married myself and I wouldn't hide it at all by pretending to be single as, ironically, I would rather be upfront.
However I am a great believer that no relationship is black and white, life is complicated and everyone has a story so I don't think you can ever judge a relationship based on what you see from the outside.
I keep my real life and my fab life very, very separate and that works to me and I'm comfortable with that.
For your situation, you have no idea what their marriage is like behind closed doors and to make assumptions would be wrong.
I would second what others have said and block her and move on. No good at all will come from telling her you know.
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over a year ago
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"Just mind your own business and stop being a sanctimonous prig After all u are a swinger as well and what gives u the right to judge anyone "
if i found my best mates partner on here id tell them. |
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You will surely loose a friend. Think twice if there are kids involved etc you might ruin a whole family...
99.9% sure that they will end up tell you that you ruined their marriage and it was your fault... He will not blame his wife but you...
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Tell her but let her know you'll keep the secret but only if she becomes your personal little cock whore. Share her amongst your other friends etc soon you'll be able to gang her, taking all her holes etc...but be discreet about it ..you don't want to spoil a good thing |
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"Tell her but let her know you'll keep the secret but only if she becomes your personal little cock whore. Share her amongst your other friends etc soon you'll be able to gang her, taking all her holes etc...but be discreet about it ..you don't want to spoil a good thing"
Oh my good fecking god I didn't think much could still surprise me on here ..... How wrong was I  |
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"Tell her but let her know you'll keep the secret but only if she becomes your personal little cock whore. Share her amongst your other friends etc soon you'll be able to gang her, taking all her holes etc...but be discreet about it ..you don't want to spoil a good thing
Oh my good fecking god I didn't think much could still surprise me on here ..... How wrong was I "
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"Tell her but let her know you'll keep the secret but only if she becomes your personal little cock whore. Share her amongst your other friends etc soon you'll be able to gang her, taking all her holes etc...but be discreet about it ..you don't want to spoil a good thing
Oh my good fecking god I didn't think much could still surprise me on here ..... How wrong was I
I think your doing the same face as me "
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"Tell her but let her know you'll keep the secret but only if she becomes your personal little cock whore. Share her amongst your other friends etc soon you'll be able to gang her, taking all her holes etc...but be discreet about it ..you don't want to spoil a good thing
Oh my good fecking god I didn't think much could still surprise me on here ..... How wrong was I
I think your doing the same face as me
I would say so "
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"Nobody on here has the right to judge. If you're uncomfortable with her being on here, block her, otherwise treat her like any other member."
the amount of times I read this is unbelievable we all have a right to judge this do as you want nonsense really is stupid would you not judge a peadophile either then as that would be their choice
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Kola, we understand you feel strongly about cheating, as demonstrated by your many comments on the subject.
However it really is no one else's business. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors |
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"Nobody on here has the right to judge. If you're uncomfortable with her being on here, block her, otherwise treat her like any other member.the amount of times I read this is unbelievable we all have a right to judge this do as you want nonsense really is stupid would you not judge a peadophile either then as that would be their choice"
God you really are an idiot to even compare those two things. One being an absolutely dispicable crime and the other something that happens for so many reasons.
I'm actually pretty disgusted you would liken the two things both as a parent to young children and as someone who cheated on her ex husband and has spent many years since being the other woman to someone else's! |
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"Nobody on here has the right to judge. If you're uncomfortable with her being on here, block her, otherwise treat her like any other member.the amount of times I read this is unbelievable we all have a right to judge this do as you want nonsense really is stupid would you not judge a peadophile either then as that would be their choice
God you really are an idiot to even compare those two things. One being an absolutely dispicable crime and the other something that happens for so many reasons.
I'm actually pretty disgusted you would liken the two things both as a parent to young children and as someone who cheated on her ex husband and has spent many years since being the other woman to someone else's!"
its not me saying cant judge or dont you see that. I judge eveyone by my morals I dont pretend to be all kindness and light. My point is where do you stop with I dont judge? It was your choice to cheat it was my choice to be open and honest with my wife. Adultery is still a crime in some nations you may find even in some states of the usa. But because you wish to see it as ok dosnt mean all have too and if you think im the only person your sadly mistaken. Yes their are a multitude of reasons why it happens dosnt make it right. And I wasnt saying peodophilia is right either |
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"Nobody on here has the right to judge. If you're uncomfortable with her being on here, block her, otherwise treat her like any other member.the amount of times I read this is unbelievable we all have a right to judge this do as you want nonsense really is stupid would you not judge a peadophile either then as that would be their choice
God you really are an idiot to even compare those two things. One being an absolutely dispicable crime and the other something that happens for so many reasons.
I'm actually pretty disgusted you would liken the two things both as a parent to young children and as someone who cheated on her ex husband and has spent many years since being the other woman to someone else's!its not me saying cant judge or dont you see that. I judge eveyone by my morals I dont pretend to be all kindness and light. My point is where do you stop with I dont judge? It was your choice to cheat it was my choice to be open and honest with my wife. Adultery is still a crime in some nations you may find even in some states of the usa. But because you wish to see it as ok dosnt mean all have too and if you think im the only person your sadly mistaken. Yes their are a multitude of reasons why it happens dosnt make it right. And I wasnt saying peodophilia is right either"
I don't pretend to be all kindness and light either. And you know what I don't believe cheating is right. And despite the stereotypical image I expect you have of 'the other woman' I'm not some heartless cow out to wreck a marriage. In fact I've suffered in it all and made the decision to be the one to get hurt in order to spare his wife.
My point wasn't about justification for actions. My point was on your comparrison. Which to me was totally out of order.
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"Nobody on here has the right to judge. If you're uncomfortable with her being on here, block her, otherwise treat her like any other member.the amount of times I read this is unbelievable we all have a right to judge this do as you want nonsense really is stupid would you not judge a peadophile either then as that would be their choice
God you really are an idiot to even compare those two things. One being an absolutely dispicable crime and the other something that happens for so many reasons.
I'm actually pretty disgusted you would liken the two things both as a parent to young children and as someone who cheated on her ex husband and has spent many years since being the other woman to someone else's!its not me saying cant judge or dont you see that. I judge eveyone by my morals I dont pretend to be all kindness and light. My point is where do you stop with I dont judge? It was your choice to cheat it was my choice to be open and honest with my wife. Adultery is still a crime in some nations you may find even in some states of the usa. But because you wish to see it as ok dosnt mean all have too and if you think im the only person your sadly mistaken. Yes their are a multitude of reasons why it happens dosnt make it right. And I wasnt saying peodophilia is right either
I don't pretend to be all kindness and light either. And you know what I don't believe cheating is right. And despite the stereotypical image I expect you have of 'the other woman' I'm not some heartless cow out to wreck a marriage. In fact I've suffered in it all and made the decision to be the one to get hurt in order to spare his wife.
My point wasn't about justification for actions. My point was on your comparrison. Which to me was totally out of order.
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I wasnt calling you anything its entirely your choice what you do what in my opinion you cant expect is everyone not to judge it. Thats what I was getting at everyone claims im non judgmental ........then proclaims how I am wrong to say what I have which in itself is a judgement. or as you yourself wrote calling names. Im not here to say how lovely people are to try and gain their freindship im here to hear diffrent opinions on diffrent subjects and to debate those points I couldnt care less what folk I dont know or have no intrest in think of me im secure in who I am and happy with those I have in my life |
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If it was my mate id msg her saying who.i am and ask.if he knew and if he didnt id tell him as nothing worse than being cheated on ,just my thoughts on this |
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To be honest.... I would think about your friendship and not the relationship! I personally would HATE if my best friend found out my hubby was on a site like this and didn't tell me.
I think they know me enough to know I would want to know shit like that!
What kinda friend would you be otherwise?
Just my opinion though.
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"To be honest.... I would think about your friendship and not the relationship! I personally would HATE if my best friend found out my hubby was on a site like this and didn't tell me.
I think they know me enough to know I would want to know shit like that!
What kinda friend would you be otherwise?
Just my opinion though.
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I would want to know if someone was cheating on me. I know there are reasons etc. and not everyone is the same but that's not really the point. Yes, we want discretion but it's not as though we're in a secret cult and it's forbidden to tell your friend. Would you tell him if you saw her cheating in 'real life'? If so, this is no different. It's a horrible thing to keep from someone just because you don't want to break the news. |
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People come on here for various reasons and in effect what a person does or decides to do on here is their choice. They don't need any one else's approval.
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"I would want to know if someone was cheating on me. I know there are reasons etc. and not everyone is the same but that's not really the point. Yes, we want discretion but it's not as though we're in a secret cult and it's forbidden to tell your friend. Would you tell him if you saw her cheating in 'real life'? If so, this is no different. It's a horrible thing to keep from someone just because you don't want to break the news. "
But we don't know she is cheating. She may be on with her man's permission. We don't know, and neither does the OP unless he asks his mate.
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I wouldn't say a word nor even talk to her! I agree that nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors and tbh it's nobody's business! if she's wanting to risk her marriage then that's her choice, but I'm sure she's thought long and hard about it before joining. |
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"Say nothing. Stay out of it and block so she can't see you.
It's none of your business what goes on. You don't know your mate doesn't know. You just assume.
There are many people on here who play away from their partners. A great many reasons for doing it. No one should be justifying themselves to anyone else on here "
I have to agree with this !!
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"Stay away, you don't know why she's here, he may even know, people never know what happens behind closed doors, and always best on this site to stay discreet "
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What if your friend has a problem with his mojo and she comes on here for her release?
Or maybe she's looking for another female as a surprise birthday present for him to enjoy two ladies at once?
Or maybe it's him pretending to be her so he can talk to men?
My point is, you don't know the situation. Yes you're his mate and have a duty of care and loyalty to him...but at the end of the day it's got nothing to do with you and doesn't affect you so best to mind your own business I think.
Would you really want to be the reason for causing waves in a marriage?
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"What if your friend has a problem with his mojo and she comes on here for her release?
Or maybe she's looking for another female as a surprise birthday present for him to enjoy two ladies at once?
Or maybe it's him pretending to be her so he can talk to men?
My point is, you don't know the situation. Yes you're his mate and have a duty of care and loyalty to him...but at the end of the day it's got nothing to do with you and doesn't affect you so best to mind your own business I think.
Would you really want to be the reason for causing waves in a marriage?
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and in all the scenarios your pointing out his mate knows so no harm in saying then is there |
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"What if your friend has a problem with his mojo and she comes on here for her release?
Or maybe she's looking for another female as a surprise birthday present for him to enjoy two ladies at once?
Or maybe it's him pretending to be her so he can talk to men?
My point is, you don't know the situation. Yes you're his mate and have a duty of care and loyalty to him...but at the end of the day it's got nothing to do with you and doesn't affect you so best to mind your own business I think.
Would you really want to be the reason for causing waves in a marriage?
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But then what happens if she's just being deceitful and being a cheat?
If it was out with fab and I'd had a girlfriend/wife doing it id expect my mates to tell me if they found out. |
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"Difficult position mate but I'm a believer
Goes on fab stays on fab, however I would speak to her and let her know as she will probably leave
And ask for a BJ
John "
Hahahhaa worth a try  |
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