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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can you Truely just have sex without there been any feelings ??
Surely there needs to be some sort of attraction, be it looks, personality ??
How eles would you choose who to meet. I get the Nsa bit. However got to be some sort of connection ?:
Or am I wrong . Dose women feel this more than men ??: |
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"Can you Truely just have sex without there been any feelings ??
Surely there needs to be some sort of attraction, be it looks, personality ??
How eles would you choose who to meet. I get the Nsa bit. However got to be some sort of connection ?:
Or am I wrong . Dose women feel this more than men ??:"
Of course you can have sex without having feelings .
And yes of course its nice to have some sort of connection but its not always needed to have great sex.
Ive got a few friends who I dont see from one year to the next and out of the blue comes circumstances that bring us together again and its always fantastic .
For me there always has to be an attraction or it just doesnt happen .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps I am not the norm but I would need a little more than a hot body in order to get with a woman. You don't need to fall in love, just have that wee spark of mutually liking each others personality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Attraction yes but not feelings x"
I agree miss naughty attraction and feelings of love etc are different.....if you have the urge to just rip someones cloths off and have wild sex and not feel love its just human nature for me. |
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I think folk get the word feelings mixed up. feelings dosnt mean love in the "we wanna be together" sense. having care and compassion can all be through friendship with no deep seated "love" some can just fu** others req more. I believe men dissassociate easir but there are also woman do this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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so after all the meets you have on here what happened to all the feelings ? and how much was just bullshit to get into your pants ?  all the oh we connect got feelings shag and straight on to the next |
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"I think folk get the word feelings mixed up. feelings dosnt mean love in the "we wanna be together" sense. having care and compassion can all be through friendship with no deep seated "love" some can just fu** others req more. I believe men dissassociate easir but there are also woman do this"
Any kind of emotional feelings can be very difficult for some to turn off and thats doesnt just mean love .
Ive done it myself getting too attatched to playmates and having strong feelings for them (not love)but as uve said genuine feelings of caring about someone maybe a little too much . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think folk get the word feelings mixed up. feelings dosnt mean love in the "we wanna be together" sense. having care and compassion can all be through friendship with no deep seated "love" some can just fu** others req more. I believe men dissassociate easir but there are also woman do thisAny kind of emotional feelings can be very difficult for some to turn off and thats doesnt just mean love .
Ive done it myself getting too attatched to playmates and having strong feelings for them (not love)but as uve said genuine feelings of caring about someone maybe a little too much ."
Nothing Wrong With Caring
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"I think folk get the word feelings mixed up. feelings dosnt mean love in the "we wanna be together" sense. having care and compassion can all be through friendship with no deep seated "love" some can just fu** others req more. I believe men dissassociate easir but there are also woman do thisAny kind of emotional feelings can be very difficult for some to turn off and thats doesnt just mean love .
Ive done it myself getting too attatched to playmates and having strong feelings for them (not love)but as uve said genuine feelings of caring about someone maybe a little too much .
Nothing Wrong With Caring
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No theres nothing wrong with caring for some people its just the way they are  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sex. Fine. Enjoy it if and when you can. It's a biological function but keep your heart out of it. .
Sometimes that's far easier said than done. Especially if you really get to know someone and it's more than just a one off.
Having learnt some lessons the hard way you need to protect yourself in whatever way you can. However that doesn't mean its cold and clinical. Sparks and a connection still very much needed. |
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I'm only looking for people who wants to be friends as well as sex. That due to personal preference as I feel sex is better with people you can joke, have a laugh and socialise with as well. You can have sex with no feelings but it just isn't as fun. |
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By *argaidMan
over a year ago
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":Of course you can have sex without having feelings .
And yes of course its nice to have some sort of connection but its not always needed to have great sex.
Ive got a few friends who I dont see from one year to the next and out of the blue comes circumstances that bring us together again and its always fantastic .
For me there always has to be an attraction or it just doesnt happen .
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Disagreeing with yourself there, hon. If you're attracted it's a feeling. If they are friends you have feelings for them.
So, no; I don't believe it is possible because we all have feelings of some sort towards everyone with whom we interact. They needn't be deep feelings, positive feelings or lasting ones but you have feelings. Lust, at the least, is required.
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":Of course you can have sex without having feelings .
And yes of course its nice to have some sort of connection but its not always needed to have great sex.
Ive got a few friends who I dont see from one year to the next and out of the blue comes circumstances that bring us together again and its always fantastic .
For me there always has to be an attraction or it just doesnt happen .
Disagreeing with yourself there, hon. If you're attracted it's a feeling. If they are friends you have feelings for them.
So, no; I don't believe it is possible because we all have feelings of some sort towards everyone with whom we interact. They needn't be deep feelings, positive feelings or lasting ones but you have feelings. Lust, at the least, is required.
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To me a feeling is a deep want to be with someone .
of course all the things you have mentioned are feelings but in not sure if what the op ment was in the same meaning .
perhaps feelings and emotions are being mixed up here . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm only looking for people who wants to be friends as well as sex. That due to personal preference as I feel sex is better with people you can joke, have a laugh and socialise with as well. You can have sex with no feelings but it just isn't as fun."
Yip this makes good sence will be more at ease . Communicate better suppose the more time you spend with someone the more you know what they like ??? |
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By *ee-YinWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm only looking for people who wants to be friends as well as sex. That due to personal preference as I feel sex is better with people you can joke, have a laugh and socialise with as well. You can have sex with no feelings but it just isn't as fun."
 this is the same for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Perhaps I am not the norm but I would need a little more than a hot body in order to get with a woman. You don't need to fall in love, just have that wee spark of mutually liking each others personality."
I'm the same. There's Def gotta me something more than just a physical attraction xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There has to be some kind of spark or connection. It's nice to be able to talk to the person before/after. Not about to pledge my undying love for someone I meet for fun but surely building some form of friendship makes the sex even better x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can you Truely just have sex without there been any feelings ??
Surely there needs to be some sort of attraction, be it looks, personality ??
How eles would you choose who to meet. I get the Nsa bit. However got to be some sort of connection ?:
Or am I wrong . Dose women feel this more than men ??:"
I think you are spot on, in my _iew and opinion I must have an attraction before I meet, never mind going further
I would ensure that the person I was seeing would tick the box as a long term partner should each side agree to take things further.
I am very selective in who I select for meets and will happily turn down anyone who does not meet my expectations
Some dont set standards, I do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am happy for some form of connection but zero zero zero and one more zero interest in friendship.
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Awh come Mr _iew I'm sure we would get along fine. I'm gut feeling you would be a great friend. Can I bribe you with cakes ??? |
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Definitely love sex even if there is no 'feelings' for the person but agree that there needs to be a physical attraction. Not that desperate for sex to have it with someone who I don't find attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There definitely needs to be physical attraction initially for me. I also like a personality to go with it. I wouldn't fuck someone i didn't like.
The thing that worries me more(not that much though) is wether i'll be able to go from non emotional sex to emotional. If anyone gets what i mean? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There definitely needs to be physical attraction initially for me. I also like a personality to go with it. I wouldn't fuck someone i didn't like."
(unless with a hammer) but yes totally agree
"The thing that worries me more(not that much though) is wether i'll be able to go from non emotional sex to emotional. If anyone gets what i mean?"
Always has to be emotions & feelings for me, would find it impossible to have sex with a female I had no feelings for |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can you Truely just have sex without there been any feelings ??
Surely there needs to be some sort of attraction, be it looks, personality ??
How eles would you choose who to meet. I get the Nsa bit. However got to be some sort of connection ?:
Or am I wrong . Dose women feel this more than men ??:"
Woman feel the emotional connection more than men do. But the chemistry over the who to meet is not feelings in the same sense that there is feelings afterwards. It's more excitement to begin with, then after the meeting it can turn to a whole range of crazy emotions lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Woman feel the emotional connection more than men do. But the chemistry over the who to meet is not feelings in the same sense that there is feelings afterwards. It's more excitement to begin with, then after the meeting it can turn to a whole range of crazy emotions lol "
not sure I follow that?
I thought I did to start then got lost |
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