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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is if you send a message and they read it and don't reply.at least say thanks or no thanks"
 Some guys just don't get it, so as others have done before me I'll give you a wee insight into the female fabber's inbox. When I first signed up as a single profile on here and didn't have the filters I have now, I ended up with 400 messages over two days. That's FOUR HUNDRED. And every other woman will be the same. To reply to every message, I would need to give up my job and let my kids run feral.
I tried the polite refusal to many messages, but that just seemed to generate more.
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"Why is if you send a message and they read it and don't reply.at least say thanks or no thanks
Some guys just don't get it, so as others have done before me I'll give you a wee insight into the female fabber's inbox. When I first signed up as a single profile on here and didn't have the filters I have now, I ended up with 400 messages over two days. That's FOUR HUNDRED. And every other woman will be the same. To reply to every message, I would need to give up my job and let my kids run feral.
I tried the polite refusal to many messages, but that just seemed to generate more.
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Lol @ "let my kids run feral" #clever
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also if someone hasn't done me the courtesy of reading my profile I don't feel I owe them the courtesy of a reply.
Hey Sarah, cool profile \o/ "
Aye, my point is that I'm clearly not interested in "getting fucked 2nite", or whatever else. So why should I reply? |
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"Also if someone hasn't done me the courtesy of reading my profile I don't feel I owe them the courtesy of a reply.
Hey Sarah, cool profile \o/
Aye, my point is that I'm clearly not interested in "getting fucked 2nite", or whatever else. So why should I reply?"
I agreed entirely, messages as such are simply a shortcut to thinking  |
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I currently have 281 messages in my inbox. Im trying to reply politely to most of them, as well as continue conversations with friends i chat to, but the polite replies generate further replies and just escalates. Im about to do a mass delete, which is a shame as there are so many mails that Ive not even seen as only the latest 50 are displayed. But i havent the time to fight through them. Oh and my profile states states im only looking, so the actively meeting ladies are even more inundated... |
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"Also if someone hasn't done me the courtesy of reading my profile I don't feel I owe them the courtesy of a reply. "
This.
If you're too far away (and by that i mean over half an hr away- if i wont travel that far for shopping, i wont travel that far for a meet!) and you expectme to jump in your car or me to let you in my house?! Get real. Friends dont even get to see my house most of the time!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remember ladies there is a way around getting all that mail you all seem to get in your inbox and it's very Simple to do just block all single males from messaging you and go look for them yourselfs . But alas i don't see that happening so please stop moaning about all the mail you get as there is a way to stop it and again Simples . |
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"Remember ladies there is a way around getting all that mail you all seem to get in your inbox and it's very Simple to do just block all single males from messaging you and go look for them yourselfs . But alas i don't see that happening so please stop moaning about all the mail you get as there is a way to stop it and again Simples ."
It was more of an explanation to the OP than a moan, thank you. A lot of the nice guys i chat to regularily started from a single mail from them. So although its very difficult to keep up with them all, sometimes it pays off when you get to chat to really nice, interesting people. |
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"Remember ladies there is a way around getting all that mail you all seem to get in your inbox and it's very Simple to do just block all single males from messaging you and go look for them yourselfs . But alas i don't see that happening so please stop moaning about all the mail you get as there is a way to stop it and again Simples ."
Have you read the OP? The posts about mail volume are simply an explanation as to why it is not feasible to reply to every message. It is not 'moaning'.....a term bandied about by men who don't like what they hear from a woman. |
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"Remember ladies there is a way around getting all that mail you all seem to get in your inbox and it's very Simple to do just block all single males from messaging you and go look for them yourselfs . But alas i don't see that happening so please stop moaning about all the mail you get as there is a way to stop it and again Simples .
It was more of an explanation to the OP than a moan, thank you. A lot of the nice guys i chat to regularily started from a single mail from them. So although its very difficult to keep up with them all, sometimes it pays off when you get to chat to really nice, interesting people. "
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"Have you read the OP? The posts about mail volume are simply an explanation as to why it is not feasible to reply to every message. It is not 'moaning'.....a term bandied about by men who don't like what they hear from a woman. "
Got to love a bit of mansplaining |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you read the OP? The posts about mail volume are simply an explanation as to why it is not feasible to reply to every message. It is not 'moaning'.....a term bandied about by men who don't like what they hear from a woman.
Got to love a bit of mansplaining "
Lol don't know the term but think I'll stick to a well-worn expletive the next time a man tells me I'm 'moaning'. Unless I'm moaning in a good way, of course
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"Have you read the OP? The posts about mail volume are simply an explanation as to why it is not feasible to reply to every message. It is not 'moaning'.....a term bandied about by men who don't like what they hear from a woman.
Got to love a bit of mansplaining
Lol don't know the term but think I'll stick to a well-worn expletive the next time a man tells me I'm 'moaning'. Unless I'm moaning in a good way, of course
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It's when men tell women what they should be thinking or doing, usually in a patronising tone |
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By *hooWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't take it personally I took my profile out of hiding last night and within less than 5 minutes I had over 20 messages. I used to be polite replying thanks but no thanks but then received insults and abuse so now I just delete the ones that I know i wouldn't play with.
There's a lot more men than women on the site which just gives women the the option to really pick and choose from.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't take it personally I took my profile out of hiding last night and within less than 5 minutes I had over 20 messages. I used to be polite replying thanks but no thanks but then received insults and abuse so now I just delete the ones that I know i wouldn't play with.
There's a lot more men than women on the site which just gives women the the option to really pick and choose from.
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Same here. Came out of hiding the other night and have been trying to reply to them all. A lot of men obviously don't realise we're not only conversing with them and some get stroppy if we don't reply immediately. It gets to the stage that it's better to just delete |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it soo hard to get your head around ....no reply normally equals not interested ...move on ..why let it bother you ..grow up its not a school play ground here ..tho sometimes i wonder  "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry, that will be me; as I ger so many messages, but then read profile and think they have clearly not read mine as nothing in common with my needs list... so find it hard to reply and say no yhanks so often just delete and block, so they are not wasting my time or theirs! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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if you send a few words, it deserves being deleted without a reply.
if the person is actively seeking others to mail then, you have read their profile and you match everything that person is looking for, you sell yourself in a well crafted message, that may improve your chances of a reply... In those cases, it is bad mannered not to acknowledge it, but as others mention, a no reply is a reply in sort...
good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if you send a few words, it deserves being deleted without a reply.
if the person is actively seeking others to mail then, you have read their profile and you match everything that person is looking for, you sell yourself in a well crafted message, that may improve your chances of a reply... In those cases, it is bad mannered not to acknowledge it, but as others mention, a no reply is a reply in sort...
good luck
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The problem is sadly there are many folk out there who don't read profiles, don't respect preferences and then take to the forums because surprise surprise they aren't getting any replies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a male who gets mail read but some non replies i get it
Heres an experiment if a male received 400 yes 400 mails how would he cope what would he do ?
Exactly the same thing as the females
If i get 4 mails at a time i struggle so theres the answer
The male needs to understand the mechanics of just how the site works and how out numbered we are  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"if you send a few words, it deserves being deleted without a reply.
if the person is actively seeking others to mail then, you have read their profile and you match everything that person is looking for, you sell yourself in a well crafted message, that may improve your chances of a reply... In those cases, it is bad mannered not to acknowledge it, but as others mention, a no reply is a reply in sort...
good luck
The problem is sadly there are many folk out there who don't read profiles, don't respect preferences and then take to the forums because surprise surprise they aren't getting any replies. "
but my point is to those that do.., not those that don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it soo hard to get your head around ....no reply normally equals not interested ...move on ..why let it bother you ..grow up its not a school play ground here ..tho sometimes i wonder "
You tell em |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It all depends how you want to take it. . Hit the whiskey and slit your wrists or move on and change your tactics!
There's other ways of meeting people too remember! |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"Is it soo hard to get your head around ....no reply normally equals not interested ...move on ..why let it bother you ..grow up its not a school play ground here ..tho sometimes i wonder
You tell em "
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