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A question for the swingles and singles but I don't have a problem with anyone else answering
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I think some are, but some aren't..
I know lots of couples from here and another site previously and there's many different reasons for them swinging.
IF I met someone and got involved I probably wouldn't swing with them from the outset... but quite possibly somewhere later down the line if they were interested. |
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over a year ago
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If I met someone I wouldn't be here at all. Not interested in swinging with a partner. Wouldn't find it a turn on in the slightest seeing them being fucked by someone else or hearing about it. |
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over a year ago
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"I think some are, but some aren't..
I know lots of couples from here and another site previously and there's many different reasons for them swinging.
IF I met someone and got involved I probably wouldn't swing with them from the outset... but quite possibly somewhere later down the line if they were interested. "
I probably wouldn't go straight into swinging if I was in a new relationship either |
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"If I met someone I wouldn't be here at all. Not interested in swinging with a partner. Wouldn't find it a turn on in the slightest seeing them being fucked by someone else or hearing about it. "
Your so vanilla |
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No... alot though do it to please their partner which is unfair on the other person/s involved especially when their is deception involved (fem pretending tobe bi to please hubby or Iin other cases f/buddy it takes a hell of alot more for me to meet as part of a cpl and is never purely about the sex if we like them and they like us it will happen when the times right |
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I used to think that there was likely one partner more into it than the other. However I've realised now that often these couples have such strong relationships. Relationships most could be envious of.
People invite others into their relationships for lots of reasons. For some it works and for others it doesn't. The ones that would concern me are those who probably couldn't have a relationship without the extras involved. |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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When we got into the swinging lifestyle it def wasnt because either of us werent enough for the other it was to add a little extra dimension.and have fun with other people ..when you think about the history of marriage life expectancy wasnt high ..people are married longer than people at that time lived lol we couldnt imagine only having sex with one another for possibly 50+ yrs lol
as for ( some ) singles ..they come on here expecting a free for all instashag with singles ,attached and married but yet as soon as you ask them if they'd share when in a relationship you get the ...HELL NO !!! makes me laugh sometimes  |
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"When we got into the swinging lifestyle it def wasnt because either of us werent enough for the other it was to add a little extra dimension.and have fun with other people ..when you think about the history of marriage life expectancy wasnt high ..people are married longer than people at that time lived lol we couldnt imagine only having sex with one another for possibly 50+ yrs lol
as for ( some ) singles ..they come on here expecting a free for all instashag with singles ,attached and married but yet as soon as you ask them if they'd share when in a relationship you get the ...HELL NO !!! makes me laugh sometimes "
It's okay to eat of someone elses plate but they won't get near mine... |
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"Your so vanilla "
Like ice cream. To paraphrase Johnny Depp, if I liked two people I'd choose the second, because if I truly liked the first I wouldn't be interested in the second. |
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By *all saulMan
over a year ago
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Was happy to try with my ex but she wasn't for sharing I take the view its just fun who yiu go home to that counts . Saying thst if I wad with someone who didn't want to swing I could and did live with that |
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"Your so vanilla
Like ice cream. To paraphrase Johnny Depp, if I liked two people I'd choose the second, because if I truly liked the first I wouldn't be interested in the second. "
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I can't answer for any couples on here, I'm sure there are many whys and wherefores and everybody is different. Each relationship dynamic ebbs and flows through time.
I would be much more likely to swing with a girl that I had met on here than in a conventionally borne relationship. However, I think I am yet to meet that girl on Fab that I want to have a regular thing with, far less one I feel it's right to swing with. |
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"I can't answer for any couples on here, I'm sure there are many whys and wherefores and everybody is different. Each relationship dynamic ebbs and flows through time.
I would be much more likely to swing with a girl that I had met on here than in a conventionally borne relationship. However, I think I am yet to meet that girl on Fab that I want to have a regular thing with, far less one I feel it's right to swing with."
Awh Awh ???? |
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It's an interesting one. I think like any situation there are both on here. The ones looking to try & make a struggling relationship work & the ones whose relationship is rock solid & they both want to have some extra sexy times.
I'm as guilty as most in being a single who would more than likely not swing if I had a partner, I would be outta here. I've experienced a variety of combinations of people through fab & when it comes down to it, I'm most comfortable with a one on one situation.
I don't see it as wrong that I would join a couple but not "share" a partner, if a couple are emotionally wired that they would want me to join them, that's their decision & if all 3 enjoy it then fine. But I don't think I am wired to deal with seeing the person I love with someone else.
So in short, some couples are here for the wrong reasons, some are here for good reasons & a single person who would not swing if they were part of a couple is not a selfish bastard. |
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"When we got into the swinging lifestyle it def wasnt because either of us werent enough for the other it was to add a little extra dimension.and have fun with other people ..when you think about the history of marriage life expectancy wasnt high ..people are married longer than people at that time lived lol we couldnt imagine only having sex with one another for possibly 50+ yrs lol
as for ( some ) singles ..they come on here expecting a free for all instashag with singles ,attached and married but yet as soon as you ask them if they'd share when in a relationship you get the ...HELL NO !!! makes me laugh sometimes "
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I've done both. I met someone from here last year, it ended because he realised I (and swinging) wasn't what he really wanted. I loved couple meets with him, Mmfs and exhibitionism at dogging sites.
Totally up for that kind of relationship again.  |
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"Your so vanilla
Like ice cream. To paraphrase Johnny Depp, if I liked two people I'd choose the second, because if I truly liked the first I wouldn't be interested in the second. "
It's not 'like' in the same way though.
I love my husband and I'm not looking for that with anyone else because he is enough for me, he's the same with me. We aren't looking to fill a hole or something missing in our relationship.
We actually feel quite smug that we can do this and have an interesting sex life compared to a vanilla couple.
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If I had a partner I would want to swing because I enjoy the excitement of it not because they weren't enough.
If I was in a relationship I'd want a partner open to the idea of swinging somewhere down the line. I don't think I could be with someone if it wasn't negotiable.
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By (user no longer on site)
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There's as many relationships on here as there is in vanilla life. People get together for all kinds of reasons. Love companionship protection money looks etc. same in swinging. Met some amazing people but a fair few who should not be on here. Ideally you should have a rock solid relationship that sees this as fun and sexy. But lots do it to please others and lots of singles look down their noses at couples who play together that's hypocritical if your on here and you should leave. Why shouldn't couples get the chance to fulfil their wildest fantasy a were breaking no laws |
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"I can't answer for any couples on here, I'm sure there are many whys and wherefores and everybody is different. Each relationship dynamic ebbs and flows through time.
I would be much more likely to swing with a girl that I had met on here than in a conventionally borne relationship. However, I think I am yet to meet that girl on Fab that I want to have a regular thing with, far less one I feel it's right to swing with."
Thanks for that statement, hope I remember this the nxt time our paths cross at cjs  |
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"If I met someone I wouldn't be here at all. Not interested in swinging with a partner. Wouldn't find it a turn on in the slightest seeing them being fucked by someone else or hearing about it. "
Me either x |
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"Your so vanilla
Like ice cream. To paraphrase Johnny Depp, if I liked two people I'd choose the second, because if I truly liked the first I wouldn't be interested in the second.
It's not 'like' in the same way though.
I love my husband and I'm not looking for that with anyone else because he is enough for me, he's the same with me. We aren't looking to fill a hole or something missing in our relationship.
We actually feel quite smug that we can do this and have an interesting sex life compared to a vanilla couple.
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Just because you dont swing doesnt make a couple vanilla you know. |
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"I can't answer for any couples on here, I'm sure there are many whys and wherefores and everybody is different. Each relationship dynamic ebbs and flows through time.
I would be much more likely to swing with a girl that I had met on here than in a conventionally borne relationship. However, I think I am yet to meet that girl on Fab that I want to have a regular thing with, far less one I feel it's right to swing with."
If its for you it wont go by you hon, that elusive, unattached girl open to a long term relationship may be a click away. In the mean time the ones who want to use you for a bit of nsa fun and frolics are undoubtedly fun....
but yeah...too serious in here tonight.
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"Do you think the couples that swing are doing it because their partner isn't enough?
Would you like to swing if you met someone? "
so your hubby isn't enough for you fab ? X |
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The reason we want to swing is the curious of the life style that it brings we love and trust each other we want to do swing it's a eye opener for us we have had meets but only social meet but not played yet but that mite chance we don't now what this life style can bring the meaning of swingers is couples meet couples for friend ship and have a good time if a drink or have sexy fun ither why if we was both single I would still be swinging caroline I don't think she would if we where not together |
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"I think some are, but some aren't..
I know lots of couples from here and another site previously and there's many different reasons for them swinging.
IF I met someone and got involved I probably wouldn't swing with them from the outset... but quite possibly somewhere later down the line if they were interested. "
Spot on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Your so vanilla
Like ice cream. To paraphrase Johnny Depp, if I liked two people I'd choose the second, because if I truly liked the first I wouldn't be interested in the second.
It's not 'like' in the same way though.
I love my husband and I'm not looking for that with anyone else because he is enough for me, he's the same with me. We aren't looking to fill a hole or something missing in our relationship.
We actually feel quite smug that we can do this and have an interesting sex life compared to a vanilla couple.
Just because you dont swing doesnt make a couple vanilla you know."
I said 'Your' not Everyone that doesn't swing. It was tongue in cheek because we both have a dry sense of humour I knew he could take it |
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"Do you think the couples that swing are doing it because their partner isn't enough?
Would you like to swing if you met someone? so your hubby isn't enough for you fab ? X"
I didn't say that. If you read further down you will see why we swing.
My husband is more than enough for me. We are lucky that we have been honest and open with each other right from the start about what we like and dislike in the bedroom which has then opened up to fantasies.
We very rarely meet not always because we can't but because we choose not to. This is only living out fantasies we have it's not our real life. And sometimes when we have a free night we would rather go out on our own than go on a meet because we enjoy each other's company.
I hope that answered your question |
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We don't meet very often and when we do it's to add an extra dimension and something extra now and agin, not because we aren't enough for each other.
If either one of us decided they didn't want to do it any more, we'd stop and neither of us would have any problem with that.
We've met some couples though that once you got down to things you really got a sense that one partner was more into it than the other and that was a bit of an uncomfortable situation to be in. |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"We don't meet very often and when we do it's to add an extra dimension and something extra now and agin, not because we aren't enough for each other.
If either one of us decided they didn't want to do it any more, we'd stop and neither of us would have any problem with that.
We've met some couples though that once you got down to things you really got a sense that one partner was more into it than the other and that was a bit of an uncomfortable situation to be in."
We have seen that a few times too |
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"We don't meet very often and when we do it's to add an extra dimension and something extra now and agin, not because we aren't enough for each other.
If either one of us decided they didn't want to do it any more, we'd stop and neither of us would have any problem with that.
We've met some couples though that once you got down to things you really got a sense that one partner was more into it than the other and that was a bit of an uncomfortable situation to be in."
We have had that on meets. It's normally the fem pretending to be bi. It's quickly apparent when I make a dive  for them that they aren't bi at all and they were probably thinking along the lines of a little kiss or maybe some porn star style groping  |
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"We don't meet very often and when we do it's to add an extra dimension and something extra now and agin, not because we aren't enough for each other.
If either one of us decided they didn't want to do it any more, we'd stop and neither of us would have any problem with that.
We've met some couples though that once you got down to things you really got a sense that one partner was more into it than the other and that was a bit of an uncomfortable situation to be in.
We have had that on meets. It's normally the fem pretending to be bi. It's quickly apparent when I make a dive for them that they aren't bi at all and they were probably thinking along the lines of a little kiss or maybe some porn star style groping "
pmsl read that and got the carmel bunny voice in my head saying mmmmm cmon dive in |
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"If I met someone I wouldn't be here at all. Not interested in swinging with a partner. Wouldn't find it a turn on in the slightest seeing them being fucked by someone else or hearing about it. "
totally agree. |
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"Your so vanilla
Like ice cream. To paraphrase Johnny Depp, if I liked two people I'd choose the second, because if I truly liked the first I wouldn't be interested in the second. "
Totally agree there |
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"We don't meet very often and when we do it's to add an extra dimension and something extra now and agin, not because we aren't enough for each other.
If either one of us decided they didn't want to do it any more, we'd stop and neither of us would have any problem with that.
We've met some couples though that once you got down to things you really got a sense that one partner was more into it than the other and that was a bit of an uncomfortable situation to be in.
We have had that on meets. It's normally the fem pretending to be bi. It's quickly apparent when I make a dive for them that they aren't bi at all and they were probably thinking along the lines of a little kiss or maybe some porn star style groping pmsl read that and got the carmel bunny voice in my head saying mmmmm cmon dive in "
Well you know I sound just like the caramel bunny  |
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"Your so vanilla
Like ice cream. To paraphrase Johnny Depp, if I liked two people I'd choose the second, because if I truly liked the first I wouldn't be interested in the second.
It's not 'like' in the same way though.
I love my husband and I'm not looking for that with anyone else because he is enough for me, he's the same with me. We aren't looking to fill a hole or something missing in our relationship.
We actually feel quite smug that we can do this and have an interesting sex life compared to a vanilla couple.
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Totally agree, it is the same with us. Whether its a toy, a whip or another person, they are all additions to our relationship to give it diversity and interest. Miss kink is my all. We share a passion for life together and enjoy the variety it brings.  |
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