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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I lost my dad almost 2 years ago. He gave his body to medical science. Got a letter today from the uni to say they are finished with him and we will have a funeral service in May. Not sure how to feel. Anyone else had a loved one do that? I kinda don't know what to expect tbh |
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Thank you to him and others like him their wishes help so many with training and developing new treatments for those of us left behind . I have no idea how you will feel as the grief will seem so strong again just be thankful he got his wish to help others after his passing . May he rest in peace . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks guys. I feel messed up tonight. Proud and happy. Relieved. Grief stricken. Having lost both parents I thought I'd felt most things. I was wrong.
I know this Maybe isn't the place to post about this but it's got such a wide range of people I thought maybe someone has been through it before me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks guys. I feel messed up tonight. Proud and happy. Relieved. Grief stricken. Having lost both parents I thought I'd felt most things. I was wrong.
I know this Maybe isn't the place to post about this but it's got such a wide range of people I thought maybe someone has been through it before me"
proud and happy he got his dying wish?definately.relieved that you can bury him?off course.grief stricken?its natural.
And as for the place to post about it,i think the replies above answer that question.
And to your father and your family,i take my hat off to you all for doing what he wished for |
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By *one IdolMan
over a year ago
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Had a friend who donated himself , its a great thing .
We had a night out to celebrate his life and a couple of years later we had another when he was finished with so to speak , the second was a reflection of him as a guy and his final selfless act . Good on your Dad , enjoy celebrating his life . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That sounds an awesome possum gesture on his behalf. Have a wee get together to celebrate his greatness and reminisce about all the things you loved about him  |
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"Thanks guys. I feel messed up tonight. Proud and happy. Relieved. Grief stricken. Having lost both parents I thought I'd felt most things. I was wrong.
I know this Maybe isn't the place to post about this but it's got such a wide range of people I thought maybe someone has been through it before me"
Not been through it but just wanted to send you a virtual hug  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks guys. I feel messed up tonight. Proud and happy. Relieved. Grief stricken. Having lost both parents I thought I'd felt most things. I was wrong.
I know this Maybe isn't the place to post about this but it's got such a wide range of people I thought maybe someone has been through it before me"
I've lost both my parents I feel for you  totally heartbreaking. But what a wonderful thing your dad did you must be proud also xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I guess in a way it must be like losing him all over again. Its a finality, in a way the end of his desire to be of use after his death...an admirable gesture.
I feel for you. Bereavement and grief sometimes take strange turns for us and throw up unexpected feelings at unexpected times. You will know yourself exactly what is right to do. I send you hugs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now honey . Proud, for sure I'd say . But it must be a sea of emotions for you especially 2 years on . Don't feel you can't post here . You'd be surprised at the support that can come from a site like this so I hope you get some comfort from people's words and good wishes .
Maybe as some have said hold something special to celebrate what a admiral and selfless man your father was .
May he rest in peace honey
Sending hugs to you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You must have so many mixed emotions right now and leading up to when day comes you can lay such a brave man to rest
Bereavement and grief are the hardest things in life to live through im living it at the min
My heart and thoughts go out to you xx |
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As so many have said before, you must be on an emotional rollercoaster!
Try and remember the happy day, be incredibly proud of him and get together with family and friends and raise a glass in his honour.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hugs from us my grandfather did this I remember the family talking about how cut up they and my gran were when he came back to be buried. Thankfully I was to young to remember it but they got over it and eventually were able to say how proud of him they were for what he did
I hope you come out the other side of this full of pride and love for a selfless man in the meantime hugs kisses and prayers xx |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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My ex mother in law gave her organs when she died and helped several other people get their health and their lives back. You should be proud as we were that his gift will have helped so many people.
It will bring back feelings as it did for us when we were invited to a service of rememberance about 10 years ago, but through it all, smile. It's what these wonderful people would have wanted us all to do.
You will cry, but smiling through the tears will show how much you loved him and how proud of him you are and always will be
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By (user no longer on site)
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My dad worked in the anatomy department of a universitory in his early working career. He always stated that he wanted his body left for research and had this formally arranged. After many years of ill health in later life, he passed away between Christmas and New Year in 2001. I struggled for a few days to get hold of a universitary which could take him, but at last succeeded. We had a church memorial service to celebrate his life. About a year later, my family were invited to St. Andrews to attend a memorial service for families like ours where relative's bodies had been donated. The service was lovely, and kind of drew a line under things. We haven't been contacted since, and didn't expect to be. I had always assumed that his remains would be either used or disposed of by the university. My dad was a brilliant man who was open enough to discuss his wishes with us. We were clear about what he wanted and why. Also the benefits to others in teaching medical science and furthering research. It is very comforting to know that we were able to achieve his wishes. |
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