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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Fantastic, I've been stood up again. 7 times since I rejoined that the meet was cancelled, all at the last minute.
I am aware circumstances change but I'm certain that's not the case for most if not all of these cancellations.
I was lead to believe that this is a swinging site, not a site for daydreamers.
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There are many factors as to why a meet may fall through. Today we'd been hoping for a couples meet, but Mr was taken unwell at work and had to go home.
How was the communication with these people beforehand? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Did you know these people you were meeting were genuine? Had you spoken on phone or webcam? "
They have verifications or silver or gold labels on their profile and have been members for a least 2 months. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are many factors as to why a meet may fall through. Today we'd been hoping for a couples meet, but Mr was taken unwell at work and had to go home.
How was the communication with these people beforehand?"
Plenty of email going back and forth, then swapping numbers. |
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By *rjandmrskCouple
over a year ago
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We have had nothing but time wasters this year. all good communication then cant meet for one reason or another or give you bogus address and stop answering phone. spoil for rest of us so feel your pain Mrs K |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
glasgow |
Haven't had a single cancellation in all the time we've been on here. I think you may need to look at your vetting process and I wouldn't really put too much faith in the fact that someone is a paid member of the site given the cost. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you know these people you were meeting were genuine? Had you spoken on phone or webcam?
They have verifications or silver or gold labels on their profile and have been members for a least 2 months. "
As has been said, 7 times, maybe your vetting process. If part of it is they have paid and been here 2 months so they must be genuine, then think you'll get more  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps some who never get cancellations could give the rest of us tips on improving our vetting. Every little helps!  "
We tend to look for couples similar to ourselves, check veris, chat with them by phone, always have a social meet and gut instinct works for us.
Also, think the more you are meeting, the chances of being let down increase greatly.
We prefer quality over quantity, and if that means no meets for months, then so be it.
Sure there are other factors though that folk could add (Mr,) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fantastic, I've been stood up again. 7 times since I rejoined that the meet was cancelled, all at the last minute.
I am aware circumstances change but I'm certain that's not the case for most if not all of these cancellations.
I was lead to believe that this is a swinging site, not a site for daydreamers.
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I suppose some people get their thrills by making initial contact with others, discussing what they'd like to do with each other. But get cold feet when it comes to actually meeting.
I've had situations where we agree to meet, but on the actual day they don't cancel but just ignore me. All I seem to do is collect mobile numbers  |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
glasgow |
"Perhaps some who never get cancellations could give the rest of us tips on improving our vetting. Every little helps! "
I can only really list what works for us:
1) We only meet members who have been verified by meeting others.
2) We have a look at their veris as sometimes they are a little 'circular' i.e. it's possibly just 2 or 3 suspicious looking profiles all verifying each other.
3) We arrange to chat on cam as well and ensure that we are looking for the same thing and that they definitely exist (and look like their pics).
4) We tend to have a fair bit of time between initially chatting and meeting. I've seen posts in the past where people chat and then arrange to meet a few days or a week later and get a no-show. I just put that down to people logging on, feeling horny, arranging a meet and then waking up the next day feeling totally different about it and not having the courtesy to admit they have changed their mind.
5) We arrange to meet for a few drinks rather than in a hotel room etc and if we all click then we can head back for fun. That way there's no pressure on anyone turning up.
6) Unfortunately we're unlikely to meet newbies. It may mean missing out on some fun meets but there are so many fake profiles recently, many of whom seem to disappear within a few days of joining, that the benefits of avoiding them outweighs the possibility of missing out on something.
7) Just use common sense. If there are any doubts in your mind then don't meet. For us, as we only meet rarely each meet is a big occasion so it would be pretty annoying to be let down. It may mean being extra cautious on our part but so be it.
8) Ignore all the hot young 23 year old bi girls who are 'just out of a relatinship and are looking to explore'. For some reason Ayrshire seems to be full of them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have had nothing but time wasters this year. all good communication then cant meet for one reason or another or give you bogus address and stop answering phone. spoil for rest of us so feel your pain Mrs K "
_rjandmrsk iv tryed to contact you but cant because of your fillers. like to chat plz ???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have had nothing but time wasters this year. all good communication then cant meet for one reason or another or give you bogus address and stop answering phone. spoil for rest of us so feel your pain Mrs K "
Time is important to everyone, it's not just the fact that someone doesn't show but that you have wasted time chatting on the first place x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps some who never get cancellations could give the rest of us tips on improving our vetting. Every little helps!
I can only really list what works for us:
1) We only meet members who have been verified by meeting others.
2) We have a look at their veris as sometimes they are a little 'circular' i.e. it's possibly just 2 or 3 suspicious looking profiles all verifying each other.
3) We arrange to chat on cam as well and ensure that we are looking for the same thing and that they definitely exist (and look like their pics).
4) We tend to have a fair bit of time between initially chatting and meeting. I've seen posts in the past where people chat and then arrange to meet a few days or a week later and get a no-show. I just put that down to people logging on, feeling horny, arranging a meet and then waking up the next day feeling totally different about it and not having the courtesy to admit they have changed their mind.
5) We arrange to meet for a few drinks rather than in a hotel room etc and if we all click then we can head back for fun. That way there's no pressure on anyone turning up.
6) Unfortunately we're unlikely to meet newbies. It may mean missing out on some fun meets but there are so many fake profiles recently, many of whom seem to disappear within a few days of joining, that the benefits of avoiding them outweighs the possibility of missing out on something.
7) Just use common sense. If there are any doubts in your mind then don't meet. For us, as we only meet rarely each meet is a big occasion so it would be pretty annoying to be let down. It may mean being extra cautious on our part but so be it.
8) Ignore all the hot young 23 year old bi girls who are 'just out of a relatinship and are looking to explore'. For some reason Ayrshire seems to be full of them "
Beautifully explained and for anyone that's having problems with cancellations or no shows, this is how to minimise them.
We've never had any no shows and I honestly believe that's because there's usually a long time between first contact and arranging to meet so time to get to know them better if anything looks suspicious, we just ask them straight out.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had three arranged meets and two of them happened, the one which didn't was rearranged, hopefully you have just been unlucky, although you do need to be sure they are really up for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Started off well for me but getting worse by the day for time wasters rearranged a meet with someone three times now and she cancels last minute every time seems to just be typical fab lol |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
glasgow |
"Started off well for me but getting worse by the day for time wasters rearranged a meet with someone three times now and she cancels last minute every time seems to just be typical fab lol"
I'm afraid they wouldn't have had the opportunity to rearrange 3 times with us if this was happening. |
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