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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I get many emails offering me quick fun with random strangers. And to me nothing could be less appealing. However it's a sex site so I guess for some people it must be.
Do people really do this? Does it actually satisfy? I need a connection. A bit of effort on both parts and time to really relax and enjoy. Anything less seems like I'm just being used.
Is it just me? Am I being a prude? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get many emails offering me quick fun with random strangers. And to me nothing could be less appealing. However it's a sex site so I guess for some people it must be.
Do people really do this? Does it actually satisfy? I need a connection. A bit of effort on both parts and time to really relax and enjoy. Anything less seems like I'm just being used.
Is it just me? Am I being a prude? "
im the same iv been called a timewaster fake etc coz i say no thanks to these types of requests and demands and get reminded its a sex site ,,,everyone should use fab there own way be it just to chat meet a few or which ever takes there fancy so use it as you wish  |
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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago
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"I get many emails offering me quick fun with random strangers. And to me nothing could be less appealing. However it's a sex site so I guess for some people it must be.
Do people really do this? Does it actually satisfy? I need a connection. A bit of effort on both parts and time to really relax and enjoy. Anything less seems like I'm just being used.
Is it just me? Am I being a prude? "
Not at all, although as always, each to their own.
But for me, I always spent some time messaging, getting to know the lady a bit, exchanging a pic, and if there was a connection emerging, then a coffee meet was next.
So the site is here, available, it's up to individuals to use it as it suits them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
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Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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have stood at times behind a bar of a club serving drinks and couples have stood there looking at the people coming in, giving them the once over and on occasion saying 'no, not them'....
hours and a few wines later, them chatting with each other after sex in an open or closed room.
people can be at times fickle  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion "
like what?
That someone's on here looking for sex and not a boyfriend/girlfriend?
In my oppinion you can chat too much to someone I'm very picky as to who I choose to have sex with but I'm not looking for a guys life story before I do
Iv chatted to guys for ages before iv met them ... Iv chatted to guys a few hrs before iv met them so what?
If there's an attraction I don't see the problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion like what?
That someone's on here looking for sex and not a boyfriend/girlfriend?
In my oppinion you can chat too much to someone I'm very picky as to who I choose to have sex with but I'm not looking for a guys life story before I do
Iv chatted to guys for ages before iv met them ... Iv chatted to guys a few hrs before iv met them so what?
If there's an attraction I don't see the problem "
But you do chat to them first. It's not like someone you have never chatted to says fancy a fuck and you shout hell yes get my shoes 
You establish an attraction.. I think that is what the OP is getting at |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No you are not being a prude. Some men including myself need a connection, although judging from this site they may be in the minority.
Hang on to your beliefs and hold out for what you really want as it is out there somewhere.
I think you reach an age or a stage in your life where you have had enough of not being the real you and want that.
An opinion or a rant, I don't know but its mine. |
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion like what?
That someone's on here looking for sex and not a boyfriend/girlfriend?
In my oppinion you can chat too much to someone I'm very picky as to who I choose to have sex with but I'm not looking for a guys life story before I do
Iv chatted to guys for ages before iv met them ... Iv chatted to guys a few hrs before iv met them so what?
If there's an attraction I don't see the problem "
Totally agree Auds sometimes things just fizzle out if there is too much chatting and not enough action leading upto a meet.
My _iews of whats right and what's not have changed somewhat over my years on here and I do believe sometimes you just have to go with the flow of things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion like what?
That someone's on here looking for sex and not a boyfriend/girlfriend?
In my oppinion you can chat too much to someone I'm very picky as to who I choose to have sex with but I'm not looking for a guys life story before I do
Iv chatted to guys for ages before iv met them ... Iv chatted to guys a few hrs before iv met them so what?
If there's an attraction I don't see the problem
But you do chat to them first. It's not like someone you have never chatted to says fancy a fuck and you shout hell yes get my shoes
You establish an attraction.. I think that is what the OP is getting at"
oh hell yes lol after pics and a chat
Would never do a blind meet and sorry but excuse me if I'm wronge but tell me a guy that after a random chick sent him a pic and said she was free today and cld accom and he fancied her tell me how many would say no???  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion like what?
That someone's on here looking for sex and not a boyfriend/girlfriend?
In my oppinion you can chat too much to someone I'm very picky as to who I choose to have sex with but I'm not looking for a guys life story before I do
Iv chatted to guys for ages before iv met them ... Iv chatted to guys a few hrs before iv met them so what?
If there's an attraction I don't see the problem Totally agree Auds sometimes things just fizzle out if there is too much chatting and not enough action leading upto a meet.
My _iews of whats right and what's not have changed somewhat over my years on here and I do believe sometimes you just have to go with the flow of things "
i think it's because we have seen it all over the yrs jacs we know what we want/ like and can't be arsed with guff chat and coffee meets sorry but my play time is limited and I'm not able to do lunch or coffee... If I'm looking to play ... I'm looking to play
And that goes with our cpl meets too a lot of cpls on here are looking for a night out 1 st ... Just to see if we click?
Erm... No ta we have our mates if we want a night out? We are on this site for a reason to meet nice folk and have fun sex !
There... There's a rant for ye lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion like what?
That someone's on here looking for sex and not a boyfriend/girlfriend?
In my oppinion you can chat too much to someone I'm very picky as to who I choose to have sex with but I'm not looking for a guys life story before I do
Iv chatted to guys for ages before iv met them ... Iv chatted to guys a few hrs before iv met them so what?
If there's an attraction I don't see the problem
But you do chat to them first. It's not like someone you have never chatted to says fancy a fuck and you shout hell yes get my shoes
You establish an attraction.. I think that is what the OP is getting atoh hell yes lol after pics and a chat
Would never do a blind meet and sorry but excuse me if I'm wronge but tell me a guy that after a random chick sent him a pic and said she was free today and cld accom and he fancied her tell me how many would say no??? "
Me id never do that so i guess you must be wrong - hope that answers your question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion like what?
That someone's on here looking for sex and not a boyfriend/girlfriend?
In my oppinion you can chat too much to someone I'm very picky as to who I choose to have sex with but I'm not looking for a guys life story before I do
Iv chatted to guys for ages before iv met them ... Iv chatted to guys a few hrs before iv met them so what?
If there's an attraction I don't see the problem Totally agree Auds sometimes things just fizzle out if there is too much chatting and not enough action leading upto a meet.
My _iews of whats right and what's not have changed somewhat over my years on here and I do believe sometimes you just have to go with the flow of things i think it's because we have seen it all over the yrs jacs we know what we want/ like and can't be arsed with guff chat and coffee meets sorry but my play time is limited and I'm not able to do lunch or coffee... If I'm looking to play ... I'm looking to play
And that goes with our cpl meets too a lot of cpls on here are looking for a night out 1 st ... Just to see if we click?
Erm... No ta we have our mates if we want a night out? We are on this site for a reason to meet nice folk and have fun sex !
There... There's a rant for ye lol
Auds "
i dont think it matters how long you have been on the site each person knows wat they want be it quick sex meets after few messages or longer chats with a coffee meet first each should use this site as they wish dont think theres a wrong or right way its wat the person wants out of it for them |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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people will play in whatever fashion they wish... and good on them 
and the choice of their plays says nothing about them to me, it's their choice and I for one respect that.
from group play, dogging, greedy girl, 121, MMF, FFM, FMMMMMMM.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion like what?
That someone's on here looking for sex and not a boyfriend/girlfriend?
In my oppinion you can chat too much to someone I'm very picky as to who I choose to have sex with but I'm not looking for a guys life story before I do
Iv chatted to guys for ages before iv met them ... Iv chatted to guys a few hrs before iv met them so what?
If there's an attraction I don't see the problem
But you do chat to them first. It's not like someone you have never chatted to says fancy a fuck and you shout hell yes get my shoes
You establish an attraction.. I think that is what the OP is getting atoh hell yes lol after pics and a chat
Would never do a blind meet and sorry but excuse me if I'm wronge but tell me a guy that after a random chick sent him a pic and said she was free today and cld accom and he fancied her tell me how many would say no???
Me id never do that so i guess you must be wrong - hope that answers your question."
aww what you mean it's never happend
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion like what?
That someone's on here looking for sex and not a boyfriend/girlfriend?
In my oppinion you can chat too much to someone I'm very picky as to who I choose to have sex with but I'm not looking for a guys life story before I do
Iv chatted to guys for ages before iv met them ... Iv chatted to guys a few hrs before iv met them so what?
If there's an attraction I don't see the problem
But you do chat to them first. It's not like someone you have never chatted to says fancy a fuck and you shout hell yes get my shoes
You establish an attraction.. I think that is what the OP is getting atoh hell yes lol after pics and a chat
Would never do a blind meet and sorry but excuse me if I'm wronge but tell me a guy that after a random chick sent him a pic and said she was free today and cld accom and he fancied her tell me how many would say no???
Me id never do that so i guess you must be wrong - hope that answers your question.aww what you mean it's never happend
Well fingers x "
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion "
Must say a lot about me then and us ..
Have we met people we knew fuck all about and played ......hell yes.....quick webcam for 5 then in the car (literally) oh and it was a great meet.
Casual swinging sex....no strings....no real friendships.....sex n go....it suits some it's what some want
I think saying it's wrong or says something about those people is harsh....it fulfills their swinging needs and truer needs may be different than yours, their outlook on life might be different to yours.....
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"people will play in whatever fashion they wish... and good on them
and the choice of their plays says nothing about them to me, it's their choice and I for one respect that.
from group play, dogging, greedy girl, 121, MMF, FFM, FMMMMMMM.
and I think no differently about them."
That's called being accepting and open minded....accepting those for being individuals....the scene has many different ways of living in the lifestyle not just one way and that's it....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its a double edged sword..I'm pretty useless with constant contact before a meet..I'd rather just get the chat going ON the meet.
I'm no gonna name anyone but I always find it strange when someones proposing a meet, give you the interest,possible date and then they say they cannot make it...then they advertise a meet...then complain at getting timewasters and too much mail etc.
use a little black book ffs!
I dont have the time nor patience to watch one persons meet status's...so I go elsewhere or just be happy with my own time.
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By *ee-YinWoman
over a year ago
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"I get many emails offering me quick fun with random strangers. And to me nothing could be less appealing. However it's a sex site so I guess for some people it must be.
Do people really do this? Does it actually satisfy? I need a connection. A bit of effort on both parts and time to really relax and enjoy. Anything less seems like I'm just being used.
Is it just me? Am I being a prude? "
I'm exactly the same, not into random meets and get called awful things when I say no thanks xx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To be honest I don't reply to the majority of the email I get and plenty of it never even gets read. I suppose I just wonder how much success these people actually have. Each to their own. I'm not casting any judgements. Indeed I sometimes envy people who do just go for it. |
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"people will play in whatever fashion they wish... and good on them
and the choice of their plays says nothing about them to me, it's their choice and I for one respect that.
from group play, dogging, greedy girl, 121, MMF, FFM, FMMMMMMM.
and I think no differently about them."
Well said that man, spot on |
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion like what?
That someone's on here looking for sex and not a boyfriend/girlfriend?
In my oppinion you can chat too much to someone I'm very picky as to who I choose to have sex with but I'm not looking for a guys life story before I do
Iv chatted to guys for ages before iv met them ... Iv chatted to guys a few hrs before iv met them so what?
If there's an attraction I don't see the problem
But you do chat to them first. It's not like someone you have never chatted to says fancy a fuck and you shout hell yes get my shoes
You establish an attraction.. I think that is what the OP is getting atoh hell yes lol after pics and a chat
Would never do a blind meet and sorry but excuse me if I'm wronge but tell me a guy that after a random chick sent him a pic and said she was free today and cld accom and he fancied her tell me how many would say no??? "
For me, one!
Has happened in the past and I have rejected.
Not keen on being with anyone who doesn't want to take the time to know ME and not just my cock.
Just my opinion, each to their own.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion
Must say a lot about me then and us ..
Have we met people we knew fuck all about and played ......hell yes.....quick webcam for 5 then in the car (literally) oh and it was a great meet.
Casual swinging sex....no strings....no real friendships.....sex n go....it suits some it's what some want
I think saying it's wrong or says something about those people is harsh....it fulfills their swinging needs and truer needs may be different than yours, their outlook on life might be different to yours.....
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I dudnt say it tells you a lot about anyone, nor did i say it was wrong and sorry if you think its harsh - youdont know what i meant do to say its harsh is fine thats your opinion which is what the forums are for
I didnt give my opinion i just said it tells you something about the person |
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion
Must say a lot about me then and us ..
Have we met people we knew fuck all about and played ......hell yes.....quick webcam for 5 then in the car (literally) oh and it was a great meet.
Casual swinging sex....no strings....no real friendships.....sex n go....it suits some it's what some want
I think saying it's wrong or says something about those people is harsh....it fulfills their swinging needs and truer needs may be different than yours, their outlook on life might be different to yours.....
I dudnt say it tells you a lot about anyone, nor did i say it was wrong and sorry if you think its harsh - youdont know what i meant do to say its harsh is fine thats your opinion which is what the forums are for
I didnt give my opinion i just said it tells you something about the person "
Completely lost now and unsure what you mean
But hey ho I don't need to understand lol I happy with my beliefs and opinions that's all that matters |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It may be the difference between men and women.
I'm not going to play with just anyone just because they message me. I need to like them and have a connection.
It's in my profit but it's almost always ignored.
There is also the safety aspect.. Who is going to risk meeting an absolute stranger when God knows what could happen
Rant over... Sorry
Agree with this - tells u something about a person who would do that in my opinion
Must say a lot about me then and us ..
Have we met people we knew fuck all about and played ......hell yes.....quick webcam for 5 then in the car (literally) oh and it was a great meet.
Casual swinging sex....no strings....no real friendships.....sex n go....it suits some it's what some want
I think saying it's wrong or says something about those people is harsh....it fulfills their swinging needs and truer needs may be different than yours, their outlook on life might be different to yours.....
I dudnt say it tells you a lot about anyone, nor did i say it was wrong and sorry if you think its harsh - youdont know what i meant do to say its harsh is fine thats your opinion which is what the forums are for
I didnt give my opinion i just said it tells you something about the person
Completely lost now and unsure what you mean
But hey ho I don't need to understand lol I happy with my beliefs and opinions that's all that matters "
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