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By *exbomb35 OP Couple
over a year ago
Argyll |
Ok here's my random niggle
I love what we do and thoroughly enjoy it but has anyone ever been in a situation where there's no vanilla anymore seems the only way hub gets turned on is when we r swinging ... Sorry just wondering .. Becoming an issue for me  xxx |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I think there will be more like you, whether they admit it is another kettle of fish.
Swinging should never be the bee and end all in a relationship, well in my opinion.
Good luck  |
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"Ok here's my random niggle
I love what we do and thoroughly enjoy it but has anyone ever been in a situation where there's no vanilla anymore seems the only way hub gets turned on is when we r swinging ... Sorry just wondering .. Becoming an issue for me xxx"
Maybe its time to take sometime out just to be you for a while .
maybe rediscover each other again then talk about what you want from here.
Good luck xxx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok here's my random niggle
I love what we do and thoroughly enjoy it but has anyone ever been in a situation where there's no vanilla anymore seems the only way hub gets turned on is when we r swinging ... Sorry just wondering .. Becoming an issue for me xxx"
maybe suggest taking a break before it gets in the way of your relationship,me and mrs dlt do that now and again just to have some time to ourselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Taking a break and spending that time .getting to know one another again is defo a good thing ,thinking back to the dating stage in your relationship and reliving can be good , good luck and remember swinging should be fun for both a good chat about your feelings could help  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Taking a break and spending that time .getting to know one another again is defo a good thing ,thinking back to the dating stage in your relationship and reliving can be good , good luck and remember swinging should be fun for both a good chat about your feelings could help "
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It depends what swinging is doing for your other half that you feel you are no longer achieving - definitely time for a proper discussion with him - it might just be your perception but if not you certainly need to rediscover each other.
If it is just the excitement of being with someone new which gets him going you could try a night out where you pretend you don't know each other and meet 'by chance'.
However, familiarity over time does change a relationship and most couples have to accept that at some point.
Best of luck to you both |
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By *exbomb35 OP Couple
over a year ago
Argyll |
Yeah have suggested a break and he says that's fine but even when it's just us in bed he talks about it. ... Like I said I've loved it too but at the end of the day he's enough for me not feeling that's the same for him it's a head fuck I know he loves me but sex if it doesn't involve anyone else he's still talking about it xx
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"It depends what swinging is doing for your other half that you feel you are no longer achieving - definitely time for a proper discussion with him - it might just be your perception but if not you certainly need to rediscover each other.
If it is just the excitement of being with someone new which gets him going you could try a night out where you pretend you don't know each other and meet 'by chance'.
However, familiarity over time does change a relationship and most couples have to accept that at some point.
Best of luck to you both"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah have suggested a break and he says that's fine but even when it's just us in bed he talks about it. ... Like I said I've loved it too but at the end of the day he's enough for me not feeling that's the same for him it's a head fuck I know he loves me but sex if it doesn't involve anyone else he's still talking about it xx
Thanks appreciate the comments"
Have a date night, ban your phones, just have your fav meal or take away your fav movie or the two of u listen to music as u natter about the week,
Don't go out as if his eyes wonder you might let if imagination run away with you,
Be honest with him tell him how you feel, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends what swinging is doing for your other half that you feel you are no longer achieving - definitely time for a proper discussion with him - it might just be your perception but if not you certainly need to rediscover each other.
If it is just the excitement of being with someone new which gets him going you could try a night out where you pretend you don't know each other and meet 'by chance'.
However, familiarity over time does change a relationship and most couples have to accept that at some point.
Best of luck to you both"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We treat Fab as an "add on", not the main focus. Like has been said, probably best to take a break, focus on yourselves, and get back to what's important  |
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The same thing happened with me and my ex, I felt that it started to be our only sex life. It wasn't the reason we split but it certainly was a factor for me. So as everyone has said please try to talk and sort it out now before it gets too far x
Good luck x |
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By *andACouple
over a year ago
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We only meet very occasionally, usually just once or twice a year and it makes it a nice little treat that we both enjoy and look forward to. It's sort of a special occasion.
I think there's a risk if you're doing it regularly where the swinging part becomes 'normal' rather than something special and this could impact on your sex life. It's kinda like eating out at an expensive restaraunt, it's nice as a treat but if you're doing it a lot then those visits to Pizza Hut or KFC just aren't gonna cut it anymore  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you told him how you feel?
Yeah have had big discussion last night and planning some us time xx"
well im sure everyone in fab land hopes it works for you |
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