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I've been away a while due to a relationship, now it's over I want to come back to swinging.
But you know what it's like, you get comfy in a relationship, don't watch the scales as closely as you should and before you know it you're carrying some extra pounds.
Trying to shift it, plus all the extra I need to lose anyway, but lacking the motivation  |
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over a year ago
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Its taken me a while to get to the stage where I accept I look more like a Jelly Baby than a pringle.
Ultimarely weight doesnt define you. Your personality does. Once you realise that people see past it you will too. Self acceptance is the most beautuful trait.
By all means diet but dont deny or beat yourself up. Its not worth it x |
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over a year ago
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You pics are gorgeous, and if folk dont like it thats their problem, tell them to feck off!
I used to feel the same now im just enjoying being me and having fun!
There's no point starving yourself to please complete strangers!
Welcome back and have fun!!  |
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I am the same tbh I lack very little confidence but the way I look at it you are who you are , you should only change unless you really want to for you not for anyone else why not take up yoga or have a nice walk in the evening if you say you are worried about a little bit of weight I hope you sustain your confidence back and begin to love yourself again the way you should and good luck  xx |
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"Its taken me a while to get to the stage where I accept I look more like a Jelly Baby than a pringle.
Ultimarely weight doesnt define you. Your personality does. Once you realise that people see past it you will too. Self acceptance is the most beautuful trait.
By all means diet but dont deny or beat yourself up. Its not worth it x "
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For the evil choc cravings buy choc cereal bars or fun sized choc bars and stick them in the freezer. Also buy dark choc with high cocoa content - 70% at least as you need less to get rid of the cravings.
As a sworn chocoholic and a former size 18/20 I know how it feels to lack confidence. I'm now a size 12, can eat choc, but I exercise at least 5 hours a week pole dancing, using a rowing machine and skipping. |
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"Its taken me a while to get to the stage where I accept I look more like a Jelly Baby than a pringle.
Ultimarely weight doesnt define you. Your personality does. Once you realise that people see past it you will too. Self acceptance is the most beautuful trait.
By all means diet but dont deny or beat yourself up. Its not worth it x "
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"For the evil choc cravings buy choc cereal bars or fun sized choc bars and stick them in the freezer. Also buy dark choc with high cocoa content - 70% at least as you need less to get rid of the cravings.
As a sworn chocoholic and a former size 18/20 I know how it feels to lack confidence. I'm now a size 12, can eat choc, but I exercise at least 5 hours a week pole dancing, using a rowing machine and skipping."
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Thanks guys
I did lose 4 stone a year ago but I'm still an 18/20, if I could just shift the spare tyre that would be a big help!
I've switched to Green & Blacks dark choc as I won't eat the whole bar in one sitting. I also need to curb the bread cravings too |
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blondie your photos look fine to me .we all have hang ups about how we look even me but as i passed 40 i`ve just accepted i`am what i`am and hopefully that comes across the right way . besides theres nothing sexier than confidence not what someone looks like  |
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over a year ago
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You look very lovely as you are. Many of us have a few extra pounds but in many ways it makes bedtime /playtime even more pleasurable mmmmmmm I'd sup from your luv cup any day xxx J |
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Blondie 333
You look great to me! Love your pics and profile x
As a kid I had Arthritis and now walk with 2 sticks so I know how appearance can knock yout confidence. You look great though xx |
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I used to be the same babes but let me tell u the
Men I found that like a woman with meat on them is unbelievable I get lots of messages everyday asking to meet
What I say is be happy and never think of what others think if they don't like what u have then they don't need to talk to u and if u find they are
Rude block them all the best and love yourself babes all the best from south Wales xx |
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I think you look good, from what i can see, but i know that if you dont feel confident in yourself, its hard to take compliments.
Lots of good advice from others for how to shift the weight. Hope you get there
Im not that confident with my body either and have alot of weight to lose. Its daunting but im just taking my time and trying to accept that for now, this is the way i am. If people dont like it, thats fine, they dont need to look lol
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Blondie 333
Lust comes in all shapes and sizes. There are many, me included who find the curvier figure very erotic.
Keep your chin up you look great to me |
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Aww, you're all lovely, thank you
Amazing the good camera angles you can get, eh?
No one's said anything, I'm just at that point where I feel uncomfortable in myself and don't like looking in the mirror. But I'm by no means near my heaviest, and I'll make damn sure I never am again |
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Well you know yourself that i am a large guy from when we met at that social and i too am finding ithard to shed pounds but just remember it matters more about the kind of person you are than how you look and me and Wilma know you are a lovely person and anyone who gets the chance to meet are extremely lucky |
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I love my food too much to give it up. And I eat quite a lot in sheer weight and volume but most of it is unprocessed and homemade which makes a huge difference. Due to my appetite I do have to work out a lot and if I miss avfew days its hard to get motivated again.
Other than a wee bit of belly flb Im doing ok these days and getting ro grips with my psoriasis.....which hasnt been an issue with the kind girls on fab so far.
Keep to your personal dieting rules and try 20 minites of heavy nreathing and sweating every day....make it enjoyable whatevwr you choose x
Jimi
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"I've been away a while due to a relationship, now it's over I want to come back to swinging.
But you know what it's like, you get comfy in a relationship, don't watch the scales as closely as you should and before you know it you're carrying some extra pounds.
Trying to shift it, plus all the extra I need to lose anyway, but lacking the motivation "
Looked at your pics Blondie and think theyre great. I fab'd them for you. Although I cant speak for all men but I think you look great with curves in the right places. So be happy in yourself and go for it!!!! |
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not sure how helpful I can be, but to say you're not alone. Ohh and going by your pics you look great as you are 