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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How would all you girls feel about meeting with a guy who has been online over a year but still hasn't met anyone or had a verification.
Only 1 face picture & very vague on details.
Maybe just me being new to this & obviously thinking of personal safety at same time, not that I'm suggesting anything bad. Since we have all been on here at one time without meeting anyone or had been verified.
Any thoughts on this ladies x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How would all you girls feel about meeting with a guy who has been online over a year but still hasn't met anyone or had a verification.
Only 1 face picture & very vague on details.
Maybe just me being new to this & obviously thinking of personal safety at same time, not that I'm suggesting anything bad. Since we have all been on here at one time without meeting anyone or had been verified.
Any thoughts on this ladies x "
Personally i wouldnt hunni, if you do consider it i would say make it a social only and somewhere public and very busy, eg pub/cafe. Can't risk it these days and if he is any of the genuine respectable guys out there then he would understand that. Good luck what ever you decide x |
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By *MD47Man
over a year ago
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Hi
Well as you can see am not a lady (phew..) anyway to give you my 2p worth reversing the situation, I would be very sceptical of meeting a lady off of here how had been on for over a year and not one verification. After all this site is about meeting with people eventually.
If I was you I would play it safe, remember you safety is the number one thing when playing.
J
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He may have his own reasons for waiting to meet. Perhaps hadn't used his profile!! However should you decide to meet but have a little doubt perhaps do it in a public area and let someone know where your going. For me if you've chatted a while and you feel reassured then its your choice where when and how you meet  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi
Well as you can see am not a lady (phew..) anyway to give you my 2p worth reversing the situation, I would be very sceptical of meeting a lady off of here how had been on for over a year and not one verification. After all this site is about meeting with people eventually.
If I was you I would play it safe, remember you safety is the number one thing when playing.
J
(defo not a female honest!)"
Aww sorry maybe I shouldn't have directed this to females only lol - yip safety is always my priority. Thanks babe x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a hard one as we have all been here at one point but yes maybe a social meeting is the best option.
Thanks girls   x"
Your welcome just remember the golden rule.. Your safety come first |
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"How would all you girls feel about meeting with a guy who has been online over a year but still hasn't met anyone or had a verification.
Only 1 face picture & very vague on details.
Maybe just me being new to this & obviously thinking of personal safety at same time, not that I'm suggesting anything bad. Since we have all been on here at one time without meeting anyone or had been verified.
Any thoughts on this ladies x "
Has he given you a reason why hes not met anyone in all the time hes been on here ?
Id be extra cautious and personaly id avoid because if hes not met anyone in all that time hes probably not likely too .
But if you want to give it a go then maybe suggest a social meet you will know yourself if its going to happen or not for many they just love the thrill of the chase with no intentions of ever meeting ...good luck I hope it goes well xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"He may have his own reasons for waiting to meet. Perhaps hadn't used his profile!! However should you decide to meet but have a little doubt perhaps do it in a public area and let someone know where your going. For me if you've chatted a while and you feel reassured then its your choice where when and how you meet "
He uses this site everyday. I am using him as an example. There has been a few guys messaging with similar circumstances & obviously you are going to ask questions to see how you both get on, what you want from a meeting but a few have been very defensive. This site for me is about meeting new people, maybe friends & naughty fun hassle free times. Thanks for advice x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It is a hard one as we have all been here at one point but yes maybe a social meeting is the best option.
Thanks girls x
Your welcome just remember the golden rule.. Your safety come first "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How would all you girls feel about meeting with a guy who has been online over a year but still hasn't met anyone or had a verification.
Only 1 face picture & very vague on details.
Maybe just me being new to this & obviously thinking of personal safety at same time, not that I'm suggesting anything bad. Since we have all been on here at one time without meeting anyone or had been verified.
Any thoughts on this ladies x Has he given you a reason why hes not met anyone in all the time hes been on here ?
Id be extra cautious and personaly id avoid because if hes not met anyone in all that time hes probably not likely too .
But if you want to give it a go then maybe suggest a social meet you will know yourself if its going to happen or not for many they just love the thrill of the chase with no intentions of ever meeting ...good luck I hope it goes well xx "
No not really said why he hasn't met anyone yet.
See its not hard to meet even someone for a coffee etc in a year.
Just really wanted a few other peoples point of view on this to see if it was me being over cautious or if others would think the same way. Thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is obviously a huge doubt for you...so I think you have probably answered your own question. You say he is vague with details...that on its own rings alarm bells. Intuition is a great thing...we should never ignore. Take no chances hunni....be safe. There are lots of lovely genuine guys out there ....who will reassure and put your peace of mind first. They are the ones to concentrate on....good luck. |
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"How would all you girls feel about meeting with a guy who has been online over a year but still hasn't met anyone or had a verification.
Only 1 face picture & very vague on details.
Maybe just me being new to this & obviously thinking of personal safety at same time, not that I'm suggesting anything bad. Since we have all been on here at one time without meeting anyone or had been verified.
Any thoughts on this ladies x Has he given you a reason why hes not met anyone in all the time hes been on here ?
Id be extra cautious and personaly id avoid because if hes not met anyone in all that time hes probably not likely too .
But if you want to give it a go then maybe suggest a social meet you will know yourself if its going to happen or not for many they just love the thrill of the chase with no intentions of ever meeting ...good luck I hope it goes well xx
No not really said why he hasn't met anyone yet.
See its not hard to meet even someone for a coffee etc in a year.
Just really wanted a few other peoples point of view on this to see if it was me being over cautious or if others would think the same way. Thanks x"
Think id give him a miss hun and go for verified users, I know everyone has to start somewhere but a year and no meets  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There is obviously a huge doubt for you...so I think you have probably answered your own question. You say he is vague with details...that on its own rings alarm bells. Intuition is a great thing...we should never ignore. Take no chances hunni....be safe. There are lots of lovely genuine guys out there ....who will reassure and put your peace of mind first. They are the ones to concentrate on....good luck. "
Thanks hunni.. Yes I guess I have already made up my mind but at the same time I always like to give people a chance.. Too nice at times lol. Loads of lovely sexy genuine guys but also so horrible huffy wee boys too lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How would all you girls feel about meeting with a guy who has been online over a year but still hasn't met anyone or had a verification.
Only 1 face picture & very vague on details.
Maybe just me being new to this & obviously thinking of personal safety at same time, not that I'm suggesting anything bad. Since we have all been on here at one time without meeting anyone or had been verified.
Any thoughts on this ladies x Has he given you a reason why hes not met anyone in all the time hes been on here ?
Id be extra cautious and personaly id avoid because if hes not met anyone in all that time hes probably not likely too .
But if you want to give it a go then maybe suggest a social meet you will know yourself if its going to happen or not for many they just love the thrill of the chase with no intentions of ever meeting ...good luck I hope it goes well xx
No not really said why he hasn't met anyone yet.
See its not hard to meet even someone for a coffee etc in a year.
Just really wanted a few other peoples point of view on this to see if it was me being over cautious or if others would think the same way. Thanks xThink id give him a miss hun and go for verified users, I know everyone has to start somewhere but a year and no meets "
Need to find myself a sexy verified user now lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met a guy who had been on Fab over a year without a veri. He'd joined, met someone in vanilla land, hid his profile and forgot all about it until his relationship ended.
We met socially and he was a really nice guy....but my instinct told me that anyway.
There are others in the same position that I've avoided cos it just didn't feel right or add up...only you can decide this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've met a guy who had been on Fab over a year without a veri. He'd joined, met someone in vanilla land, hid his profile and forgot all about it until his relationship ended.
We met socially and he was a really nice guy....but my instinct told me that anyway.
There are others in the same position that I've avoided cos it just didn't feel right or add up...only you can decide this "
Thanks hunni x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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been on here myself now for a good few months without any verifications, I know most folks look at that with suspicion and avoid which then makes it even more difficult to get a meet |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"been on here myself now for a good few months without any verifications, I know most folks look at that with suspicion and avoid which then makes it even more difficult to get a meet"
3 months isn't bad... Over a year?  |
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"Go for a social meet. What you got to loses here ? He who dare's winners. Go for it you mite enjoy the meet
Having been given advice from last night I have spoke to the guy in question... Social meet at his house only.. Doesn't do much going out lol! Think its time to say next.. Lol "
A social meet at his house?? I wouldn't have thought so, run a mile from this guy!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Go for a social meet. What you got to loses here ? He who dare's winners. Go for it you mite enjoy the meet
Having been given advice from last night I have spoke to the guy in question... Social meet at his house only.. Doesn't do much going out lol! Think its time to say next.. Lol
A social meet at his house?? I wouldn't have thought so, run a mile from this guy!! "
Yeah exactly lol, you try giving people a chance but hey not to be  |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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I have watched this thread and kept quiet as you were asking ladies but I have to say walk on by. Everyone can meet for a quick coffee in a supermarket.
That's not to say you shouldn't meet an unverified guy, we were all unverified at one time but on this occasion, walk on by and keep looking.
Good luck. There are nice guys out there   |
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you are answering your own questions here on over a yr not met anyone. you dont feel secure meeting him why bother just say no simple everything should feel relaxed and this you obviously aint getting care has to be taken on this site so many lying cheating decievers but there are nice folk around go with your gut |
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"Go for a social meet. What you got to loses here ? He who dare's winners. Go for it you mite enjoy the meet
Having been given advice from last night I have spoke to the guy in question... Social meet at his house only.. Doesn't do much going out lol! Think its time to say next.. Lol "
I know many will disagree with me but never meet for a first meet at anyones house alone
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it leaves you very open to doing something your not entirly happy with because you dont want to cause a scene.
Always meet on neutral ground in public that way its so much easier to walk away.
If this guy is genuine then he will understand your consernes about meeting at his and arrange to meet you in public,if not then yes its time to walk away . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Common sense and gut feeling tells you no . When you need to post a forum about it there is already doubt. That generally never fails us. I'd definitely say walk on past and find someone who's willing to prove at least he's understanding of your concerns . |
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Need to find myself a sexy verified user now lol x"
You rang??
Seriously though I would agree with everyone else, offer a coffee meet in the city centre & see what he says. If he's still seeming unsure then forget him & talk to the genuine folk who'd count themselves lucky to meet you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for everyone's advice... As many have said I have already answered my own question but thought I would see what other people would do/suggest.
Much appreciated all you lovely fabbers |
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"If it doesn't feel right to you then don't do it. Trust 'your' instincts. "
I agree with this generally,but not having a veri isnt that bad,some dont want to vocalise exaxtly how much theyve been ....ahem.... 'fabbing'
So surely thats not a bad thing? As for vague stuff,i'd avoid like the plague if i was you though!x |
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"Go for a social meet. What you got to loses here ? He who dare's winners. Go for it you mite enjoy the meet
Having been given advice from last night I have spoke to the guy in question... Social meet at his house only.. Doesn't do much going out lol! Think its time to say next.. Lol "
Defo say next |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"Thanks for everyone's advice... As many have said I have already answered my own question but thought I would see what other people would do/suggest.
Much appreciated all you lovely fabbers "
That's what we are all here for - so many different people but the majority say walk on by.
It's unusual for so many to agree in a single subject so we must all be right |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks for everyone's advice... As many have said I have already answered my own question but thought I would see what other people would do/suggest.
Much appreciated all you lovely fabbers
That's what we are all here for - so many different people but the majority say walk on by.
It's unusual for so many to agree in a single subject so we must all be right "
And I managed to get male & female to agree on something for once... Go me lol x |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"Thanks for everyone's advice... As many have said I have already answered my own question but thought I would see what other people would do/suggest.
Much appreciated all you lovely fabbers
That's what we are all here for - so many different people but the majority say walk on by.
It's unusual for so many to agree in a single subject so we must all be right
And I managed to get male & female to agree on something for once... Go me lol x"
It's a once in a lifetime thing so make the most of the glory |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks for everyone's advice... As many have said I have already answered my own question but thought I would see what other people would do/suggest.
Much appreciated all you lovely fabbers
That's what we are all here for - so many different people but the majority say walk on by.
It's unusual for so many to agree in a single subject so we must all be right
And I managed to get male & female to agree on something for once... Go me lol x
It's a once in a lifetime thing so make the most of the glory "
Lol I shall  |
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