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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well just thought id share my nite with you all wee bitty sad mind you.Through work i came across the homless shelter in Glasgow and often pop in to lend a hand ,few years back a lovely girl caught my attention and needed a shoulder so being me she got just that we became really close and now one of my dearest frinds ,she was only 24 single with a baby and due to an illness she lost everything walked the streets begged and raised her baby the best she could ,we talked and got her somewhere warm few monthws later everything turned gd for her new home new job and illness in remision ,she spent every last day working as hard as she could to provide for her daughter.I had a bad day yesterday usual shit and felt sorry for myself (as we do)then the fone rang.It was claire my friend very emotional and needed a shoulder ,on asking where she was i wasnt prepared for the reply i got.Stathcarron hospice i felt sick .I did what she asked and went to visit and there she was sitting with her daughter so sad .Her illness had returned with aggresion and her shes telling me ive only got a few days i felt sick angry sad .We had a chat and a weep and loads of cuddles, she doesnt have a family and sorted all her funeral .All she worries is her daughter be safe .On chatting i ask her if theres anything she wishes for before the time comes her reply ive done all i wish and have all i need but a man to hold me make love to me make me feel special something ive never had in life .I felt sick im one of of those that take way to many things in life for granted was a spoilt child and always got what i wanted eventually ,to have very little and only want to be held isnt that big but its something i could help her with my friends dying wish couldnt come true .I got up this morn and held my darlings so tight smothered with more kisses than their used to and cryed from here on im living life to the full gonna do everything i ever wanted and take each day as comes ,for my friend its to late the choice has bn removed and the nxt few days she may suffer just a wee moment i thought id share xxxxxx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Life can be a complete bastard sometimes.
Your friend reminded me of a girl I knew in another life. She had 4 boys from 2 different husbands who treated her like shit.
PRegnant with the 5th and husband number 2 on holiday at Her Majesty's pleasure, we sat one day and watched an old movie "Who will watch my Children"
One of those old weepies about a dying women trying to tie up loose ends before parting .
My friend bawled her eyes out and wondered what would happen ifthat happened to her.
3 months later it did, at the ripe old age of 27 she was taken from this world with her unborn child.
As the 20th anniversary of her passing approached there in December, son number 3 lost his baby daughter.
Like I said Life can be an absolute bastard sometimes,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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a tragic and all to common story
What a world we live in when tales like this are an every day occurence and meanwhile in hollywood they are handing out goody bags worth £85k !!!! To overpaid full of their own self importance actors .
Makes me sick .
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Hey - P just read your post and I now have a lump in my throat and yes maybe a wee tear aswell!
You are so right - we take so much for granted in our lives and I for one am about to get to grips with mine and live it to the full!
Claire may not have had all the things she wanted out of life, but I am sure she feels so much better being able to say she was your friend!!
Take care P,
G
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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aww pleasure hun no many ppl
gives me a lump in my throat
but u just did..pleasure hun i
so mean from the bottom of my heart
if theres anything i can do plz call
me cause now im in tears now trying 2
finish of typing...plz hun just call me ok xxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely shocking how cruel life can treat people, I lost my mum 4 yrs ago to lung cancer, she was only 54yrs, then 2yrs later lost her brother too, 54yrs also, and you see people who don't have any respect for life everyday of the week wandering about not giving a damn about life and taking life for granted (suppose we all to certain extent) not realizing all the hurt the goes un-noticed around to so many, so young!
P your kindness to your friend is what TRUE friendship is all about! God bless your friend and hold her in her hour of need! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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((((((hugs))))))
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Life can be a bitch sometimes, but you have touched this ladies life, given her friendship, been there when she's needed you. Sounds like this has been reciprocated.
You've both been blessed and you're both in my thoughts just now.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm crying as i write this.... your story "Pleasure", fills me with so much sadness and guilt.. I feel guilty for feeling sorry for myself regarding all my own worries... when there is people out there who have suffered so much more than i can or ever want to imagine... Life is a privalige and should be appreciated and not taken for granted i know that now !!
I hope your friend's daughter knows what a wonderful selfless brave couragous woman her mother is and does her proud by living her life fully and purposefully!!!
Thank you for your post and for reminding me what is important in life,
my thoughts are with you at this sad time xx x !!! |
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By *egs4uWoman
over a year ago
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Ty pleasurer hunni for sharing this with us, life can be sooooooo cruel and it puts all the little insignificant worries we have into prespective. Thinking of you both and you know where i am
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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each time i look here i get more tears im the lucky one to have her as a friend and little one will be fine auntie t will make sure she has everything she needs xxxx |
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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago
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well i know how hellish life can be lost 3 grandchildren 1 lived 3 months and 2only lived a couple of hours other 2 were miscarriages then when u think life cant get worse my son theyre dad dies .but i still say there are folks worse off than me.keep yer chin up honey and just be therexxxxxxxxxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This post makes me count my blessings and be grateful for what I have.
It makes me love my family all the more and cherish the friends I have.
This puts a world of craziness into perspective.
To all, may your god bless you and yours.
Thank you for sharing your special friend with us Pleasurer.xxx |
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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago
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i hope her last few days are a painless as possible hun and that she can spend them with her daughter and thoughts with you too . friends for no matter how short a time always have a place in our hearts and influence on our lives |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been sitting here feeling sorry for myself since saturday, and you post made me realise I still have a future with my girls.
Even if I can no longer do the things I used to do with them I can still see them grow up and become happy healthy young women.
When I was in hospital last year I heard a similar story from another patient, she had a daughter about my youngests age (then 6) and she (the mother) was undergoing treatment for a type of brain cancer (over simplifying but the poor woman was very poorly), when I got my staples removed I was feeling very sorry for myself (to the point of wishing I hadnt had the surgery for purely vain reasons) and this woman made me realise there are many people worse off than me, so I shouldnt wallow and I should live life cos thats what its for and we only get one go round.
I hope you remember the good times with your friend and not the pain and suffering she is going thru.
I wonder if you have thought of making a memory box or book for your friends daughter to show how much her mum loved her and how she did everything she could to keep them together thru everything??
It may give some peace of mind in later years.
Or I read about a mother who wrote letters for her children to read on each birthday so they would know how proud mum would have been of them and to help guide them thru life.
I would hate to have to think about either idea but from what I have read they do give some help later in life.
Shona
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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thanx again for all the lovely thoughts .Just a wee update spent a few hours early eve with claire she seems so cheery and so together id really be in bits. Took wee one out for a bit and going to pick her up today. We have bn given the task of dress shopping for the burial no clues to what she would like no preference of colour she just asked for a nice dress so a nice dress it shall be (i aint got a clue what im looking for )but il try my hardest xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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home from shopping and wee one picked mummy a lovely dress in a light shade of blue to match mummys eyes she said and she got a matching one .shame she didnt live to see it she passed while we were out.maybe it was for the best sometimes gdbyes are just so hard to do.
Sending love hugs and kisses to all xxxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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aaw bigg huggs babe so moving reading yer post shed a few tears witch i dont mind addmiting yer an angel t xxxxx gaz
live life each day as if its your last my moto xxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive seen alot of heart renching stuff in my life in countries you would never want to visit and had to restrain myself a few times from getting involved as we cant. But P what u did was nothing but amazing and just being there as a proper friend prob means the world to her. I feel so sad and distraught for her daughter what a shame. My thoughts are with you all xxx |
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