I think a lot of vanilla people can give half the swingers on here a run for the money....I defo have a little kink in me and would love to visit a fetish club but would be nervous to go on our own and the dress code puts us off .... |
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"I think a lot of vanilla people can give half the swingers on here a run for the money....I defo have a little kink in me and would love to visit a fetish club but would be nervous to go on our own and the dress code puts us off ...."
I would like to try one too. What is the dress code?  |
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"I think a lot of vanilla people can give half the swingers on here a run for the money....I defo have a little kink in me and would love to visit a fetish club but would be nervous to go on our own and the dress code puts us off ....
I would like to try one too. What is the dress code? "
For woman it's ok.....cos let's face it we all love to dress to impress but it's the men's fetish wear that's the issue.....jeans n shirt or trousers n a shirt doesn't cut it lol.....and my man certainly doesn't dress up in any way.....
Socials can be a tad same old for us...we do still attend some...I think a fetish night would be fabulous  a little kink |
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"I think a lot of vanilla people can give half the swingers on here a run for the money....I defo have a little kink in me and would love to visit a fetish club but would be nervous to go on our own and the dress code puts us off ....
I would like to try one too. What is the dress code?
For woman it's ok.....cos let's face it we all love to dress to impress but it's the men's fetish wear that's the issue.....jeans n shirt or trousers n a shirt doesn't cut it lol.....and my man certainly doesn't dress up in any way.....
Socials can be a tad same old for us...we do still attend some...I think a fetish night would be fabulous a little kink "
sounds like a perfect girls night out then and leabe the men at home  |
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"I think a lot of vanilla people can give half the swingers on here a run for the money....I defo have a little kink in me and would love to visit a fetish club but would be nervous to go on our own and the dress code puts us off ....
I would like to try one too. What is the dress code?
For woman it's ok.....cos let's face it we all love to dress to impress but it's the men's fetish wear that's the issue.....jeans n shirt or trousers n a shirt doesn't cut it lol.....and my man certainly doesn't dress up in any way.....
Socials can be a tad same old for us...we do still attend some...I think a fetish night would be fabulous a little kink "
I think my Mr would be out of his comfort zone then. He lives in jeans and checked shirts.  |
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"I think a lot of vanilla people can give half the swingers on here a run for the money....I defo have a little kink in me and would love to visit a fetish club but would be nervous to go on our own and the dress code puts us off ....
I would like to try one too. What is the dress code?
For woman it's ok.....cos let's face it we all love to dress to impress but it's the men's fetish wear that's the issue.....jeans n shirt or trousers n a shirt doesn't cut it lol.....and my man certainly doesn't dress up in any way.....
Socials can be a tad same old for us...we do still attend some...I think a fetish night would be fabulous a little kink
I think my Mr would be out of his comfort zone then. He lives in jeans and checked shirts. "
Funny that...snap  this is the problem we face lol ... |
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For woman it's ok.....cos let's face it we all love to dress to impress but it's the men's fetish wear that's the issue.....jeans n shirt or trousers n a shirt doesn't cut it lol.....and my man certainly doesn't dress up in any way.....
Socials can be a tad same old for us...we do still attend some...I think a fetish night would be fabulous a little kink
I think my Mr would be out of his comfort zone then. He lives in jeans and checked shirts.
Funny that...snap this is the problem we face lol ... "
Maybe it's the same man! Mine does keep disappearing for weeks and months at a time |
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"Because we are swingers does it mean we must like other kinks and fetishes?
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As a bi-man, I get asked all the time 'what am I into'?
They seem disappointed when I reply just the vanilla stuff...sucking and fucking.
It seems a lot of bi-men are into the kinkier side, such as leather, bondage, w/s etc etc.
Not for me, I'll just stick to the vanilla side thanks.  |
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For woman it's ok.....cos let's face it we all love to dress to impress but it's the men's fetish wear that's the issue.....jeans n shirt or trousers n a shirt doesn't cut it lol.....and my man certainly doesn't dress up in any way.....
Socials can be a tad same old for us...we do still attend some...I think a fetish night would be fabulous a little kink
I think my Mr would be out of his comfort zone then. He lives in jeans and checked shirts.
Funny that...snap this is the problem we face lol ...
Maybe it's the same man! Mine does keep disappearing for weeks and months at a time "
Mine works away a lot....is it one I'm the same  |
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Most fet clubs have either a theme of the month, a fet dress code or the option of smart black.
I don't think cos someone is into swinging they should necc. be into fet.
As one of my fet friends said to me "just cos I like being hit - doesn't mean I'm comfortable with nudity"
We're all different and it's wrong to generalise.
I find kink related play a lot more intimate than sexual related play, but that's just my opinion. If the two are combined -potential to be mind blowing!
To those contemplating a fet club - try going to a munch - we're all fairly welcoming people.
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Funny that...snap this is the problem we face lol ...
Maybe it's the same man! Mine does keep disappearing for weeks and months at a time
Mine works away a lot....is it one I'm the same "
Is yours grumpy, sits on the toilet reading the paper and likes football?  |
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"Most fet clubs have either a theme of the month, a fet dress code or the option of smart black.
I don't think cos someone is into swinging they should necc. be into fet.
As one of my fet friends said to me "just cos I like being hit - doesn't mean I'm comfortable with nudity"
We're all different and it's wrong to generalise.
I find kink related play a lot more intimate than sexual related play, but that's just my opinion. If the two are combined -potential to be mind blowing!
To those contemplating a fet club - try going to a munch - we're all fairly welcoming people.
X
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wits a munch?? |
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Funny that...snap this is the problem we face lol ...
Maybe it's the same man! Mine does keep disappearing for weeks and months at a time
Mine works away a lot....is it one I'm the same
Is yours grumpy, sits on the toilet reading the paper and likes football? "
Takes a phone/iPad to loo ( man thing ) ....doesn't like sports....and the grumpy bit errrrr yeah haha |
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"Most fet clubs have either a theme of the month, a fet dress code or the option of smart black.
I don't think cos someone is into swinging they should necc. be into fet.
As one of my fet friends said to me "just cos I like being hit - doesn't mean I'm comfortable with nudity"
We're all different and it's wrong to generalise.
I find kink related play a lot more intimate than sexual related play, but that's just my opinion. If the two are combined -potential to be mind blowing!
To those contemplating a fet club - try going to a munch - we're all fairly welcoming people.
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wits a munch?? "
Was going to post the same thing. |
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Funny that...snap this is the problem we face lol ...
Maybe it's the same man! Mine does keep disappearing for weeks and months at a time
Mine works away a lot....is it one I'm the same
Is yours grumpy, sits on the toilet reading the paper and likes football?
Takes a phone/iPad to loo ( man thing ) ....doesn't like sports....and the grumpy bit errrrr yeah haha "
sorry your right it is the iPhone that goes with him |
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Funny that...snap this is the problem we face lol ...
Maybe it's the same man! Mine does keep disappearing for weeks and months at a time
Mine works away a lot....is it one I'm the same
Is yours grumpy, sits on the toilet reading the paper and likes football?
Takes a phone/iPad to loo ( man thing ) ....doesn't like sports....and the grumpy bit errrrr yeah haha sorry your right it is the iPhone that goes with him "
Haha similar indeed |
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"Sorry - a munch is a social meet - usually held on a monthly basis in a pub.
Details are usually to be found on well know 'fet life' websites."
thanx daaaarling |
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I think your over worrying about dress code - been to a few fetish night outs at rebound and the like - i wear a shirt n tie as do most of the guys, wear that you'll be fine.
Munches are great fun - meet in a pub with like minded folks and chat about pretty much anything you fancy.
Hope that helps
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"I think your over worrying about dress code - been to a few fetish night outs at rebound and the like - i wear a shirt n tie as do most of the guys, wear that you'll be fine.
Munches are great fun - meet in a pub with like minded folks and chat about pretty much anything you fancy.
Hope that helps
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We have been told by a couple of other that the likes of torture garden and rebound etc won't let males in with just a shirt n tie etc......that it's strict fetish wear.... |
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Not all swingers are into kink, some people use the word kink for things that aren't BDSM and fetish related, they might say that threesomes and moresomes and just swinging is kinky. On the flip side some people think that just because kinksters are kinky then they must swing, there's plenty of monogomous kinkster couples, and the common misconception about fet clubs is that there's sex-in scotland at least sexual contact is a big no when it comes to what is allowed.
When it comes to club dress codes in the clubs, TG can be strict so just a suit i hear isn't allowed-it's one of the reasons i've never went through to it. I've been going to violate and rebound for nearly 3 years and always just wear a suit, violate tried to get a bit stricter when it came to wearing a suit and access to the playroom if not in fet gear but had to back down after a bit of an online backlash...we'll see what the new management say on dress code. I would say dont let it put anyone off, guys wear a suit and ladies wear a LBD and it's all good, go to a munch or two first and get to know a few folks so you'll know some faces at the club. I'd recommend rebound, friendly and welcoming staff and regulars and it's just like a kinky house party. |
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