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am i on the wrong site ?
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"Can anyone define this site ,,,, iv been told yet again by someone this is a shagging site and im on the wrong site ,,, i dont regard myself as a proper swinger dont go to socials etc ( fr obv reason im married )iv had meets with ppl became friends with ,,, but had chat with someone who i thot was ok till a comment he used ( just do better ) refering to his previous meets i said i dont meet to be compared nd he said im on the wrong site this is a shagging site ,,, got my bk up not first guy to this to me ,,, is there a right or wrong way on here ??" Hi Hunni don't let others influence how you choose to use this site you use it how you please not to please others ..good luck xxx | |||
"Can anyone define this site ,,,, iv been told yet again by someone this is a shagging site and im on the wrong site ,,, i dont regard myself as a proper swinger dont go to socials etc ( fr obv reason im married )iv had meets with ppl became friends with ,,, but had chat with someone who i thot was ok till a comment he used ( just do better ) refering to his previous meets i said i dont meet to be compared nd he said im on the wrong site this is a shagging site ,,, got my bk up not first guy to this to me ,,, is there a right or wrong way on here ??" I don't think its a 'shagging' site. It is a what you want it be site. Whether that just is chatting, meeting socially to see how things go, or just browsing, lol Ignore comments like that and have fun, x | |||
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" I don't think its a 'shagging' site. It is a what you want it be site. Whether that just is chatting, meeting socially to see how things go, or just browsing, lol Ignore comments like that and have fun, x" 
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"Use the site as you wish to use it and don't let anyone ruin your fun "thank you x | |||
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fuck them.... do as thou wilt shall be the whole of the law.... as in, do whatever makes you, and noone else, happy | |||
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"guess perhaps you've dashed someones hopes... and they are angry fuck them.... do as thou wilt shall be the whole of the law.... as in, do whatever makes you, and noone else, happy"Your here for your enjoyment not there's its a site for fun may that be chatting, meeting socially, or having intimate fun u do what u feel comfortable with and enjoy the site x | |||
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You get out what you put in to fab. You do what YOU want to do, when YOU want to do it, how YOU want to do it. If guys can't get that, they aren't even worth talking to. Keep on doing what makes you happy and block the idiots  | |||
"Short answer? No you aren't.
You get out what you put in to fab. You do what YOU want to do, when YOU want to do it, how YOU want to do it. If guys can't get that, they aren't even worth talking to. Keep on doing what makes you happy and block the idiots " | |||
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"Can anyone define this site ,,,, iv been told yet again by someone this is a shagging site and im on the wrong site ,,, i dont regard myself as a proper swinger dont go to socials etc ( fr obv reason im married )iv had meets with ppl became friends with ,,, but had chat with someone who i thot was ok till a comment he used ( just do better ) refering to his previous meets i said i dont meet to be compared nd he said im on the wrong site this is a shagging site ,,, got my bk up not first guy to this to me ,,, is there a right or wrong way on here ??Hi Hunni don't let others influence how you choose to use this site you use it how you please not to please others ..good luck xxx " yeah wise words everyone has their own agenda for being on here so you chat or meet whoever you want and if someone gets puppy hit block button xx | |||
"Can anyone define this site ,,,, iv been told yet again by someone this is a shagging site and im on the wrong site ,,, i dont regard myself as a proper swinger dont go to socials etc ( fr obv reason im married )iv had meets with ppl became friends with ,,, but had chat with someone who i thot was ok till a comment he used ( just do better ) refering to his previous meets i said i dont meet to be compared nd he said im on the wrong site this is a shagging site ,,, got my bk up not first guy to this to me ,,, is there a right or wrong way on here ??" Just ignore the stupid comments and do exactly what you want when you want......it is your choice ........there are lots of lovely folk here......don't let others spoil it for you.....And have fun, do it for you not anyone else! | |||
"Do wot you want to do shag if you want or not it's up to you, if you fancy goin to a social you can come with me am married too We can sit in corner and let them throw Eggs at us Just enjoy!!! " | |||
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"Do wot you want to do shag if you want or not it's up to you, if you fancy goin to a social you can come with me am married too We can sit in corner and let them throw Eggs at us Just enjoy!!! "I concur with the man here. We are all on this site for our own various reasons. Unfortunately there are an enormous amount of guys in here who think this is Dial a Shag That's another adult friend finder site that they will not pay for so they come on here with the same attitude BLOCK EM This site is for SWINGERS. This is a lifestyle that we have chosen to live away from our hum drum vanilla existence. You get out of this life what you put in. These knob ends put nothing in but abuse so when told no thanks they become abusive. You stick to your guns and make of this site what you want . | |||
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"...thats EXACTLY what the other guy was doing as well so why does that make him the bad guy? " He had no business telling her she shouldnt be here.... | |||
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"...thats EXACTLY what the other guy was doing as well so why does that make him the bad guy? He had no business telling her she shouldnt be here...." No one has the right to tell anyone what to do on here or to pass judgement on them. | |||
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"Why not? He was just using the site in the way he wants to, being himself and not bowing to pressure from anyone, as obnoxious as that may have been. I'm, of course, playing devils advocate but when these posts come up, everyone is so sycophantic towards the person posting and saying how they should tell them to 'fuck em' and 'be yourself'', blah blah blah but if everyone followed the 'be yourself and don't feel pressure from anyone else' advice then they can't complain when someone is an obnoxious twat because thats exactly what they're doing as well! " I disagree. He judged her. She didn't judge him. I know you are playing devils advocate but she didn't judge anyone. She asked for people's opinions of what the site is for after being told she was using it wrongly | |||
"Why not? He was just using the site in the way he wants to, being himself and not bowing to pressure from anyone, as obnoxious as that may have been. I'm, of course, playing devils advocate but when these posts come up, everyone is so sycophantic towards the person posting and saying how they should tell them to 'fuck em' and 'be yourself'', blah blah blah but if everyone followed the 'be yourself and don't feel pressure from anyone else' advice then they can't complain when someone is an obnoxious twat because thats exactly what they're doing as well! I disagree. He judged her. She didn't judge him. I know you are playing devils advocate but she didn't judge anyone. She asked for people's opinions of what the site is for after being told she was using it wrongly " | |||
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"I feel the same as the OP, I'm not really all that fussed with the intense need for meeting and shagging on here. I've no interest in racking up 100s of meets. I enjoy the banter in chat and a laugh. If it happens, it happens. There is no set rule, you do whatever makes yourself comfortable. " wot he said | |||
" As stated above .....i dont condem anyone for using it for there own purpose it is however wrong to project your idea's onto others we're all here to have fun in our own way be it chatting, mailing, cams, socials or sexual encounters ... Live and let live is my view. if you don't like it , agree with it and can't let others get on with it, then just maybe its the wrong place for people to be "Totally agree, if you can be on here and not trouble or bother anyone else whilst your here, great. Unfortunately there will always be,,,others that bother what your doing, whether that be directly or indirectly. The whole scene is very hit or miss. I have a lovely mix of people i either chat to, or simply keep in touch with and like most, have a few people that there is a healthy swinging desire to meet, but i've never tried to twist any arms by insisting its a "sex site" therefore you "must" anything, that smacks of guilt trippy desperation, and when your trying that tactic, nobody looks very sexy or fun suddenly. | |||
"Why not? He was just using the site in the way he wants to, being himself and not bowing to pressure from anyone, as obnoxious as that may have been. " Obviously he is free to use the site the way he wants...No one is saying he shouldnt do things his way... But to tell others they are doing it wrong and should therefore do it his way or use a different site?  | |||
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so it is not for others to tell you what it is enjoy it for whatever you want to at the time xx | |||
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"I had a msg from a guy in London telling me that if I wasn't meeting then I shouldn't be on here its facebook I should be using . I just replied saying well the fact you're in London and commenting on how I use my profile while I'm in Scotland says more about me than you. But I had to laugh . Here was me thinking yet again as an adult we do things that we choose without being criticized along the ways but seems not lol "oops more about you than me  | |||
"I had a msg from a guy in London telling me that if I wasn't meeting then I shouldn't be on here its facebook I should be using . I just replied saying well the fact you're in London and commenting on how I use my profile while I'm in Scotland says more about me than you. But I had to laugh . Here was me thinking yet again as an adult we do things that we choose without being criticized along the ways but seems not lol oops more about you than me "A wee blonde moment there Shell? Heehee!  | |||
"I had a msg from a guy in London telling me that if I wasn't meeting then I shouldn't be on here its facebook I should be using . I just replied saying well the fact you're in London and commenting on how I use my profile while I'm in Scotland says more about me than you. But I had to laugh . Here was me thinking yet again as an adult we do things that we choose without being criticized along the ways but seems not lol oops more about you than me
A wee blonde moment there Shell?
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"I had a msg from a guy in London telling me that if I wasn't meeting then I shouldn't be on here its facebook I should be using . I just replied saying well the fact you're in London and commenting on how I use my profile while I'm in Scotland says more about me than you. But I had to laugh . Here was me thinking yet again as an adult we do things that we choose without being criticized along the ways but seems not lol "I assume he was yet another person who felt like his way of using the site was the only way then. | |||
"I had a msg from a guy in London telling me that if I wasn't meeting then I shouldn't be on here its facebook I should be using . I just replied saying well the fact you're in London and commenting on how I use my profile while I'm in Scotland says more about me than you. But I had to laugh . Here was me thinking yet again as an adult we do things that we choose without being criticized along the ways but seems not lol
I assume he was yet another person who felt like his way of using the site was the only way then. "Yeah Andy. Seems to be the way with some folks lol | |||
" I concur with the man here. We are all on this site for our own various reasons. Unfortunately there are an enormous amount of guys in here who think this is Dial a Shag That's another adult friend finder site that they will not pay for so they come on here with the same attitude BLOCK EM This site is for SWINGERS. This is a lifestyle that we have chosen to live away from our hum drum vanilla existence. You get out of this life what you put in. These knob ends put nothing in but abuse so when told no thanks they become abusive. You stick to your guns and make of this site what you want . " I agree with the first bit of this, but not so sure about the second, just my opinion!
As has been said numerous times previously on here, swinging is different things to different people.
It's what makes this such a good site, the fact that it caters for such a wide range of people. Yes there are the out and out swingers, but there's also a significant number of folk looking for something a bit more than just the basics.
So I agree with the final part of the above, use this site to suit you, not what might suit some narrow-minded, inflexible character who thinks we should all be the same!! | |||
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"Thank you just got my back up a bit xx"I wouldn't worry about it, some people are just ignorant and cause it's a swingers site think it's there right to treat other users badly. Just tell them to piss off lol | |||
"Thank you just got my back up a bit xx
I wouldn't worry about it, some people are just ignorant and cause it's a swingers site think it's there right to treat other users badly. Just tell them to piss off lol " | |||
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