Right I want opinions on this
You post a social and someone chats and says they’re up for it, they’re not your type but hey it’s just a social and you’ve committed
You then get two folks messaging and you’re like hmmm they’re defo my type and it could possibly be a social with a view to defo meeting up for a bit more if they aren’t just a pretty face
But you’re a decent person so you don’t then cancel on the original person who was happy enough to meet up
Then they don’t show up !!
Would it be really wrong in future to just say fuck it and tell them all where you’re going to be and what time and hope at least someone turns up ??
Serious question cause I think from now on I’m just going to accept all the offers |
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So so annoying! Had this to me as well ! Could line a couple of guys up one after the other - space out timing wise ( have been known to do that  )
I know stuff happens to make people cancel but it is v annoying I have limited childcare/time to myself hate wasting it! X |
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"Right I want opinions on this
You post a social and someone chats and says they’re up for it, they’re not your type but hey it’s just a social and you’ve committed
You then get two folks messaging and you’re like hmmm they’re defo my type and it could possibly be a social with a view to defo meeting up for a bit more if they aren’t just a pretty face
But you’re a decent person so you don’t then cancel on the original person who was happy enough to meet up
Then they don’t show up !!
Would it be really wrong in future to just say fuck it and tell them all where you’re going to be and what time and hope at least someone turns up ??
Serious question cause I think from now on I’m just going to accept all the offers "
your profile and this post is full of red flags you say your attracted to people’s personality not looks but you say ones not your type and other definitely is . You don’t get someone’s personality over text you also say you don’t ever send photos of any part of your self if you’re not sending photos then be prepared for plenty let downs |
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" your profile and this post is full of red flags you say your attracted to people’s personality not looks but you say ones not your type and other definitely is . You don’t get someone’s personality over text you also say you don’t ever send photos of any part of your self if you’re not sending photos then be prepared for plenty let downs "
I think the fact she has 69 published verifications shows she’s genuine! Especially compared to the 2 cam verifications you guys have  |
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" your profile and this post is full of red flags you say your attracted to people’s personality not looks but you say ones not your type and other definitely is . You don’t get someone’s personality over text you also say you don’t ever send photos of any part of your self if you’re not sending photos then be prepared for plenty let downs not saying she isn’t genuine but who wants to meet someone if they don’t have a clue what they look like
I think the fact she has 69 published verifications shows she’s genuine! Especially compared to the 2 cam verifications you guys have "
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I wonder if a negative review option would be a way of driving out time wasting behaviour? . I totally understand that the male to female ratio here puts women in a position of really having a challenge in riffling through pages and pages of messages to find a genuine connection if not meeting via group socials or clubs…
Like most men here I send messages to people if like to chat to and get to know . And the return rate is probably 1 in every 15 or so…. And that’s fine. What I cannot fathom is why someone would make the effort to build a connection then pull out (no pun) at the last minute… it’s the reason why so many end up quitting this place in frustration! |
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"I wonder if a negative review option would be a way of driving out time wasting behaviour? . I totally understand that the male to female ratio here puts women in a position of really having a challenge in riffling through pages and pages of messages to find a genuine connection if not meeting via group socials or clubs…
Like most men here I send messages to people if like to chat to and get to know . And the return rate is probably 1 in every 15 or so…. And that’s fine. What I cannot fathom is why someone would make the effort to build a connection then pull out (no pun) at the last minute… it’s the reason why so many end up quitting this place in frustration! "
I think the problem with a negative option would mean all the huffy people who come here expecting an instant shag and then abuse people when they’re rejected would be leaving negative reviews when they’ve never met them! |
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Yeah but maybe if you could only do so if both had agreed to meet or after a certain number of combined mail exchanges…. Like in gumtree after a few interactions (both ways) you are given the option to review a buyer/seller avoids the single message copy and pasters getting huffy that you’ve not jumped on the dic pic they’ve sent you 😝 |
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"Right I want opinions on this
You post a social and someone chats and says they’re up for it, they’re not your type but hey it’s just a social and you’ve committed
You then get two folks messaging and you’re like hmmm they’re defo my type and it could possibly be a social with a view to defo meeting up for a bit more if they aren’t just a pretty face
But you’re a decent person so you don’t then cancel on the original person who was happy enough to meet up
Then they don’t show up !!
Would it be really wrong in future to just say fuck it and tell them all where you’re going to be and what time and hope at least someone turns up ??
Serious question cause I think from now on I’m just going to accept all the offers "
No id never do that it would be unfair on those thinking they were coming to meet you on your own.
It would never happen for me because I'd never arrange a meet with someone I'm not attracted to time as too limited to waste on someone I might or might not be attracted to in my opinion. |
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Is it because you’ve gave someone a chance that you wouldn’t normally be bothered with and they’ve let you down that’s it’s getting to you more than say someone you were attracted to?
If someone you were attracted to didn’t show up for a social , I understand you would still be annoyed but would you be considering the same option going ahead or would you just chalk it up as the usual time waster and not let it affect your usual habits?
If you want to do it this way and you are honest with everyone that it may just be you and them or it could be you, them and lots of other guys then there’s nothing wrong if they’re happy to go with that.
Is it going to be open to literally anyone ? Even those who you would never be interested to sexually?
Personally I wouldn’t turn up for a social where it could be just 1 female and lots of guys because to me it would be strange and at a social I want to get to know the female or couple, not other guys where no doubt you would get a few trying to commandeer the meet and draw focus to themselves.
You might also open yourself up to alot of negativity if guys turn up hopefully it might lead to a meet and not only are they rejected down the mine, they’ve also ended up face to face with guy/s who you do prefer over them and go onto meet. Lots of guys on here can’t take rejection from a stranger they’ve sent a single sentence message to without being abusive so I imagine it would be worse if they assume they’re close to a meet then it’s no likely no lightly.
I’m not saying to ever conduct your actions based on petted lip incels, but I would consider that by trying to make things easier for yourself you may open up a can of worms. |
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"Is it because you’ve gave someone a chance that you wouldn’t normally be bothered with and they’ve let you down that’s it’s getting to you more than say someone you were attracted to?
If someone you were attracted to didn’t show up for a social , I understand you would still be annoyed but would you be considering the same option going ahead or would you just chalk it up as the usual time waster and not let it affect your usual habits?
If you want to do it this way and you are honest with everyone that it may just be you and them or it could be you, them and lots of other guys then there’s nothing wrong if they’re happy to go with that.
Is it going to be open to literally anyone ? Even those who you would never be interested to sexually?
Personally I wouldn’t turn up for a social where it could be just 1 female and lots of guys because to me it would be strange and at a social I want to get to know the female or couple, not other guys where no doubt you would get a few trying to commandeer the meet and draw focus to themselves.
You might also open yourself up to alot of negativity if guys turn up hopefully it might lead to a meet and not only are they rejected down the mine, they’ve also ended up face to face with guy/s who you do prefer over them and go onto meet. Lots of guys on here can’t take rejection from a stranger they’ve sent a single sentence message to without being abusive so I imagine it would be worse if they assume they’re close to a meet then it’s no likely no lightly.
I’m not saying to ever conduct your actions based on petted lip incels, but I would consider that by trying to make things easier for yourself you may open up a can of worms. "
Totally agree with this plus I think the female would obviously focusing her attention on those she's attracted to which wouldn't be fair on the others either . |
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"Is it because you’ve gave someone a chance that you wouldn’t normally be bothered with and they’ve let you down that’s it’s getting to you more than say someone you were attracted to?
If someone you were attracted to didn’t show up for a social , I understand you would still be annoyed but would you be considering the same option going ahead or would you just chalk it up as the usual time waster and not let it affect your usual habits?
If you want to do it this way and you are honest with everyone that it may just be you and them or it could be you, them and lots of other guys then there’s nothing wrong if they’re happy to go with that.
Is it going to be open to literally anyone ? Even those who you would never be interested to sexually?
Personally I wouldn’t turn up for a social where it could be just 1 female and lots of guys because to me it would be strange and at a social I want to get to know the female or couple, not other guys where no doubt you would get a few trying to commandeer the meet and draw focus to themselves.
You might also open yourself up to alot of negativity if guys turn up hopefully it might lead to a meet and not only are they rejected down the mine, they’ve also ended up face to face with guy/s who you do prefer over them and go onto meet. Lots of guys on here can’t take rejection from a stranger they’ve sent a single sentence message to without being abusive so I imagine it would be worse if they assume they’re close to a meet then it’s no likely no lightly.
I’m not saying to ever conduct your actions based on petted lip incels, but I would consider that by trying to make things easier for yourself you may open up a can of worms. "
So id actually posted the meet with the option for men women tvs couples it wasn’t specifically aimed and men I’ve met couples on my own socially before and gone to cinema etc |
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Ah gotcha. Yeah so this is what is (was) known as a munch and a lot of people like attending those. Basically a group meet up on an informal setting. Sorry I thought the way you meant was you were going to be sat in a pub surrounded by 2 dozen horny gies vying for your attention lol
There are some group socials arranged from time to time that would be worth checking out
"Is it because you’ve gave someone a chance that you wouldn’t normally be bothered with and they’ve let you down that’s it’s getting to you more than say someone you were attracted to?
If someone you were attracted to didn’t show up for a social , I understand you would still be annoyed but would you be considering the same option going ahead or would you just chalk it up as the usual time waster and not let it affect your usual habits?
If you want to do it this way and you are honest with everyone that it may just be you and them or it could be you, them and lots of other guys then there’s nothing wrong if they’re happy to go with that.
Is it going to be open to literally anyone ? Even those who you would never be interested to sexually?
Personally I wouldn’t turn up for a social where it could be just 1 female and lots of guys because to me it would be strange and at a social I want to get to know the female or couple, not other guys where no doubt you would get a few trying to commandeer the meet and draw focus to themselves.
You might also open yourself up to alot of negativity if guys turn up hopefully it might lead to a meet and not only are they rejected down the mine, they’ve also ended up face to face with guy/s who you do prefer over them and go onto meet. Lots of guys on here can’t take rejection from a stranger they’ve sent a single sentence message to without being abusive so I imagine it would be worse if they assume they’re close to a meet then it’s no likely no lightly.
I’m not saying to ever conduct your actions based on petted lip incels, but I would consider that by trying to make things easier for yourself you may open up a can of worms.
So id actually posted the meet with the option for men women tvs couples it wasn’t specifically aimed and men I’ve met couples on my own socially before and gone to cinema etc "
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