Is it me or is it just certain women, am finding a lot stop chatting or pull back from meeting once I open up and tell them I'm a single dad, it still seems a bit taboo when compared to single mums.
Are there any females who don't have a problem with it and happy to meet days when I have some me time or can get them watched for a while.
Any thoughts appreciated. |
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To us it shouldn't make any difference, everyone has a history and if that means being a single parent (for whatever reason), then as long as your mum/dad first, then it's irrespective what anyone else thinks |
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No really got many thoughts on it pal but it’s hard trying tell people you’re a single parent with sole custody
Think some people prefer it be easier and just meet people who are able be free and accommodate more frequently, which makes sense it can be hard arranging babysitter etc
It really is what it is! |
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Cheers Jamie mate
Yeah it's been quite an eye opener like, should've come on here years ago when I was totally free lol but yeah just here for occasional fun but it's proving harder than I thought lately |
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Think it all depends on the person, some wont be able to meet the times your available and vice verso and maybe just find it easier and more convenient to meet people who can meet freely.. theres someone for everyone |
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I'm in the same boat OP, single dad here aswell, dad mode is always a priority for me, but am usually able to get socials during school hours (even if just a lunch), weekend meets take a bit more planning but got some dependable sitters on occasion.
It can be difficult on here, only had one or two having an issue with it, each to their own. |
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"Cheers Jamie mate
Yeah it's been quite an eye opener like, should've come on here years ago when I was totally free lol but yeah just here for occasional fun but it's proving harder than I thought lately "
I’m sorta in same boat I don’t have reliable childcare on set days or anything planning can be tricky - the day use hotels definitely has helped make day meets and I just found out After Dark opened through daytime too. Planned fun than spontaneous for lots of us on here - so it’s likely best you say your availability that way on profile x |
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"I'm in the same boat OP, single dad here aswell, dad mode is always a priority for me, but am usually able to get socials during school hours (even if just a lunch), weekend meets take a bit more planning but got some dependable sitters on occasion.
It can be difficult on here, only had one or two having an issue with it, each to their own."
You're doing amazing B, your boy is lucky to have you! Xxx |
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I’ve had similar as a mum. Had a couple j was chatting to, who took a total arse when I said that I couldn’t just meet at very short notice because childcare and my wee ones need came first.
Their attitude was a massive turn off.
If being a single dad puts people off, then that’s absolutely their loss, and they aren’t worthy of your time and effort.
I’ve no doubt that there are women who would look very favourably on the fact you are a single dad, just bide your time!  |
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Thank you devilwearsprada for such kind words, to see some really good genuine people reply and to know I'm not on my own in this situation is a great feeling.
Yeah I've had quite a few super keen then they hear that and suddenly all the excuses come out.
I've since decided to include it in my profile. |
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Similar here. I dont accomodate as my kids are in the house. Mine are older though so I can pretty much come and go as I please.
Probably just down to clicking with someone who can fit into your schedule. |
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"Thank you devilwearsprada for such kind words, to see some really good genuine people reply and to know I'm not on my own in this situation is a great feeling.
Yeah I've had quite a few super keen then they hear that and suddenly all the excuses come out.
I've since decided to include it in my profile."
I've always had it in my profile, best to be upfront about it mate! Here if you need any single dad advice, it can be hard on here, but not impossible! |
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"I'm in the same boat OP, single dad here aswell, dad mode is always a priority for me, but am usually able to get socials during school hours (even if just a lunch), weekend meets take a bit more planning but got some dependable sitters on occasion.
It can be difficult on here, only had one or two having an issue with it, each to their own.
You're doing amazing B, your boy is lucky to have you! Xxx"
Of course he is! Lol |
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"Thank you devilwearsprada for such kind words, to see some really good genuine people reply and to know I'm not on my own in this situation is a great feeling.
Yeah I've had quite a few super keen then they hear that and suddenly all the excuses come out.
I've since decided to include it in my profile.
I've always had it in my profile, best to be upfront about it mate! Here if you need any single dad advice, it can be hard on here, but not impossible!"
Cheers mate that's good of you yeah different game these days that's for sure |
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It shouldn’t matter and depends on your own availability and timings.
My week is upside down in terms of being free mainly daytime and having time off weekends once a month, but I use that to go to clubs, pull a favour to get to socials m, when I can and try to see what I can do.
I certainly would never let someone down for a meet as I know how precious time out from the kids is.
I’m sure mums on their own with living with kids are making the same juggling decisions too, in same way.
Keep plugging away and maybe just maybe.. |
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Been there, done that. Mine are up and running now. Of course it's your priority and anyone who doesn't accept that simply isn't worth any of your precious time. It's not always easy so all the best to you  |
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Real life and kids always come first with me ,The way it should be in my book . This place should be a break from reality without messing with that person's reality . As posters above have said then they really aren't for you if they don't get that . Everyone does have there own preferences though I get that . Best advice is to take it with a pinch of salt and move on to someone who understands your situation and furthermore doesn't see it as an obstacle.  |
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