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When the WOW factor leaves you is it time stop?
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We have been enjoying this scene for several years now but recently we are really finding it hard to enjoy it anymore or even be interested 
Is it time to move on when the WOW factor leaves you?
Over the years we have been involved in and watched many things grow like this site for example and CJs yet nowadays we feel completely out of touch and out of date like these things have evolved and moved on to bigger and better things but left us behind in the process
In years gone past we have met some cracking folks many of whom we regard as friends, the party scene was jumping and socials could be organised and attended without fear of being spoiled and swingers outed to the press, good times indeed but we feel that is now a by gone era and swinging has changed to be dominated by singles on the search for fresh easy meat ( not all we might add as we know several good single swingers )
Chatrooms were always a welcoming place to go where you were always guaranteed a friendly hello and a laugh but nowadays we feel like complete strangers in them not knowing who is who
Maybe this is our doing for not evolving at the same pace or maybe we are dinosaurs of the past and it is time to hang up our Swinging hats for good 
Anyone feel the same? or have any suggestions that may help us enjoy the scene again?
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"We have been enjoying this scene for several years now but recently we are really finding it hard to enjoy it anymore or even be interested
Is it time to move on when the WOW factor leaves you?
Over the years we have been involved in and watched many things grow like this site for example and CJs yet nowadays we feel completely out of touch and out of date like these things have evolved and moved on to bigger and better things but left us behind in the process
In years gone past we have met some cracking folks many of whom we regard as friends, the party scene was jumping and socials could be organised and attended without fear of being spoiled and swingers outed to the press, good times indeed but we feel that is now a by gone era and swinging has changed to be dominated by singles on the search for fresh easy meat ( not all we might add as we know several good single swingers )
Chatrooms were always a welcoming place to go where you were always guaranteed a friendly hello and a laugh but nowadays we feel like complete strangers in them not knowing who is who
Maybe this is our doing for not evolving at the same pace or maybe we are dinosaurs of the past and it is time to hang up our Swinging hats for good
Anyone feel the same? or have any suggestions that may help us enjoy the scene again?
xxx"
yea ya fud come shag me ill put that smile back on your face pmsl hope you been behaving love ya both lots n lots hang in there love brennie xxxxxxxxxxxxxx |
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We have been on a break for a while now although more workload related than choice and havn`t been to CJs since January or even a party or social for a good year or two now but to be honest we are not missing them hence why we are asking when the scene actually bores you is it time to pack it in for good?
Work and other current real life issues i.e kids, family etc could also be getting in our way and just making us feel the way we are
Maybe we need a right good party is what we need to make us feel involved again  |
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"We have been enjoying this scene for several years now but recently we are really finding it hard to enjoy it anymore or even be interested
Is it time to move on when the WOW factor leaves you?
Over the years we have been involved in and watched many things grow like this site for example and CJs yet nowadays we feel completely out of touch and out of date like these things have evolved and moved on to bigger and better things but left us behind in the process
In years gone past we have met some cracking folks many of whom we regard as friends, the party scene was jumping and socials could be organised and attended without fear of being spoiled and swingers outed to the press, good times indeed but we feel that is now a by gone era and swinging has changed to be dominated by singles on the search for fresh easy meat ( not all we might add as we know several good single swingers )
Chatrooms were always a welcoming place to go where you were always guaranteed a friendly hello and a laugh but nowadays we feel like complete strangers in them not knowing who is who
Maybe this is our doing for not evolving at the same pace or maybe we are dinosaurs of the past and it is time to hang up our Swinging hats for good
Anyone feel the same? or have any suggestions that may help us enjoy the scene again?
xxx"
Ive always said when you stop enjoying it for what ever reason then yes its time to either take a break or stop all together.
There isnt much point if its not fun anymore.
As you said times have changed and most know many dont like change but sadly its got to happen to keep the site going. |
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over a year ago
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yea ya fud come shag me ill put that smile back on your face pmsl hope you been behaving love ya both lots n lots hang in there love brennie xxxxxxxxxxxxxx"
I find myself partly agreeing with Foe & also with Bren.
However I note that you yourselves state that you feel partly responsible by acknowledging that things change & evolve & gone into better things, whilst feeling left behind.
Sites & clubs are there for everyone to enjoy. The extent of your participation is entirely down to the participants depending on how much time they wish to devote to it & what the payoff for that investment is. So if you don't get the return you expect for the investment then I'd say possibly consider a break by hiding your profile but don't leave. It's easier to start afresh from a break (with Friends Lists, Veris, etc) as opposed to coming back to find friends you knew have maybe changed IDs etc.
Of course it's entirely up to yourselves but please consider options carefully & if after a break away you decide to leave because you feel the sane then fine.
Whatever you decide then good luck folks & happy swinging. |
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Suppose you can`t live in the past but we wish we could turn the clock back to 2005 / 2006 when Sunni and nibs were throwing parties and socials by the dozen those who were around then will know why
CJ was just starting out and the parties were great fun and not as business like feeling as it is now it was more secret and underground if that makes sense so felt very special and naughty and a lot more personal not that it isn`t now as she deserves all the rewards she is receiving now as she has worked damn hard over years to get to the level she is at now and should be on the Swinging New Years honours list for services to parties
Chat rooms back then were jumping most of the day and night but everyone knew everyone and not just by user name but personally from socials and parties and it really was a laugh a minute into the wee small hours on many occasions
As someone said not everyone likes change and maybe we are just stuck in the past |
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"Im the opposite....
I prefer to know as little as possible about potential meets....
Once I consider them friends, I just dont go there...."
Fair point and can understand why as the same has happened to us it is like a line you just can`t cross once you become to friendly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol at above, annoying when that happens with phones.
If your not enjoying it, take a break."
I love it it just an absolute mission to get people to think your ok. When I'm at partys no issue at all on here I feel like a freak lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have been enjoying this scene for several years now but recently we are really finding it hard to enjoy it anymore or even be interested
Is it time to move on when the WOW factor leaves you?
Over the years we have been involved in and watched many things grow like this site for example and CJs yet nowadays we feel completely out of touch and out of date like these things have evolved and moved on to bigger and better things but left us behind in the process
In years gone past we have met some cracking folks many of whom we regard as friends, the party scene was jumping and socials could be organised and attended without fear of being spoiled and swingers outed to the press, good times indeed but we feel that is now a by gone era and swinging has changed to be dominated by singles on the search for fresh easy meat ( not all we might add as we know several good single swingers )
Chatrooms were always a welcoming place to go where you were always guaranteed a friendly hello and a laugh but nowadays we feel like complete strangers in them not knowing who is who
Maybe this is our doing for not evolving at the same pace or maybe we are dinosaurs of the past and it is time to hang up our Swinging hats for good
Anyone feel the same? or have any suggestions that may help us enjoy the scene again?
xxx"
Feel the same? Totally!!
Never met, yet coincidently had similar journey,diffrent circs certainly.
Swinging for anyone at the start im sure is a constant exciting high, then as you've both described, you tick various boxes, busy yourselves with meets, parties and clubs.
Everyone i think reaches a "what now then"? Point.
The big social being ruined kinda really made me stop and think in terms of,just who the hell would do that and were they on here and indeed do they still lurk on here? For me personally, no matter how good/fun/well organised others claim to be, i simply wont go because of that still.
Various things have happened to kick the enthusiasm out of it for me, so just cooled my heels and just choosing fun chances a bit less anxiously and if its a bored phase, a wee breaks great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Agree with Op and Aston. Very rarely venture in to the chat rooms now, and the forums seem to have degenerated in to some sort of Facebook. In saying that, we have made some great friends on here, and stick with them. Well done Op for putting up a thought provoking post  |
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We tend to agree with Hedo. We were also very active during those times and loved the socials and parties which we gladly attentded. The chatroom was buzzing and everyone involved had some great banter. Hats off to folk who organised the great socials we went to but they all stopped for various reasons, people moved away, the press came along and people were wary. However on saying that we are still active in the scene but we do miss those days and wish we could turn the clock back. Maybe we just need to meet some new people and attend the odd new club/party but we never seem to get round to it. We still enjoy meeting the odd new couple and we even arranged a social drinks night in a pub nearby end of last year but it was very poorly attended mostly being people we knew rather than new faces.
Hey Hedo we agree with you totally, maybe we need another weekend in Blackpool....lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guess its like everything in life , we get older things change people change , but when it gets boring its defo time for change , try something new ? There is always new out there nomatter what or who you have done .Or maybe that time has come to hang up the heels and say ive had a ball , enjoy each others company and savour the memories.
Only you can decide which path you take.Good luck with whichever route you take
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"We have been enjoying this scene for several years now but recently we are really finding it hard to enjoy it anymore or even be interested
Is it time to move on when the WOW factor leaves you?
Over the years we have been involved in and watched many things grow like this site for example and CJs yet nowadays we feel completely out of touch and out of date like these things have evolved and moved on to bigger and better things but left us behind in the process
In years gone past we have met some cracking folks many of whom we regard as friends, the party scene was jumping and socials could be organised and attended without fear of being spoiled and swingers outed to the press, good times indeed but we feel that is now a by gone era and swinging has changed to be dominated by singles on the search for fresh easy meat ( not all we might add as we know several good single swingers )
Chatrooms were always a welcoming place to go where you were always guaranteed a friendly hello and a laugh but nowadays we feel like complete strangers in them not knowing who is who
Maybe this is our doing for not evolving at the same pace or maybe we are dinosaurs of the past and it is time to hang up our Swinging hats for good
Anyone feel the same? or have any suggestions that may help us enjoy the scene again?
xxx"
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
Edin |
Completely agree Hedo
The site has evolved over the years and not for the better (in my opinion). No longer do we attend Socials (and they used to be a blast) very rarely do we post on forums as most end in a bitch-fest backstabbing way. Chat rooms tend to be more "wanking" or females seeking attention than actual chatting... I think we have to face that it will no longer be the fun site (for us) that it once was.
Maybe all us "oldies" could get together for a wee night out like we used to and try get some of the fun factor back.
T xx |
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"Completely agree Hedo
The site has evolved over the years and not for the better (in my opinion). No longer do we attend Socials (and they used to be a blast) very rarely do we post on forums as most end in a bitch-fest backstabbing way. Chat rooms tend to be more "wanking" or females seeking attention than actual chatting... I think we have to face that it will no longer be the fun site (for us) that it once was.
Maybe all us "oldies" could get together for a wee night out like we used to and try get some of the fun factor back.
T xx"
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
south east |
We have had some blasts over the years attended all the same parties and socials heedo mentions from the "old days" and agree the entire scene has changed since then ...i blame sunni n nibs for buggering off  ....however I think maybe we as people have maybe failed to change with the times and there lies the problem....if you are no longer interested then yes its time to leave ...if its just boredom setting in then maybe try get out more (i'm gonna give that a go lol )..what ever you 2 decide i'm sure will be best for you guys ..do think an big social like the old days would be perfect with all us old timers in attendance along with alot of the newer members would be a blast |
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Thanks folks for replying and not making us feel like it was just us that had noticed things have gone a little wrong in the scene
So how do we fix it for ourselves and others? or have we as a community gone past that pont of no return?
Swinging to us was always more than just sex it was about being part of something special that you could discuss openly with like minded friends in chat rooms and at socials / parties maybe us dinosaurs of the past need to organise something special to make it all fresh in our minds again aswell as exciting
However the more mainstream and accepted this hobby becomes then the more we seem uniterested by it which is a shame but only we can change that feeling i suppose |
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By *andsCouple
over a year ago
Edin |
"Completely agree Hedo
The site has evolved over the years and not for the better (in my opinion).
You think other sites would be better?"
no idea we are not on any other sites,this was just simply my findings on how this site has evolved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its true to swinging is becoming more main stream, but you just have to adapt and learn to take in the changes that follow.
Its not all for the bad, groupon and similar sites are now doing holidays with discounts to swingers clubs across the country, Yay  |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
south east |
"Dont rely on others to make it better..
We all hit a wall at some point, but only we, ourselves can change that..
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I intend to ..i remember a few years ago when our names were first on the list for parties and socials and everyone knew us ...its purely our fault its not like that now by being quiet on the scene for a cpl yrs |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"Dont rely on others to make it better..
We all hit a wall at some point, but only we, ourselves can change that..
I intend to ..i remember a few years ago when our names were first on the list for parties and socials and everyone knew us ...its purely our fault its not like that now by being quiet on the scene for a cpl yrs "
Dont you find though that the "everyone knew us" ruined it a little? |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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Dont you find though that the "everyone knew us" ruined it a little?"
Not really to be honest...we thrived on that more ...i'm a very sociable person and I dont feel it held us back any |
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"Completely agree Hedo
The site has evolved over the years and not for the better (in my opinion). No longer do we attend Socials (and they used to be a blast) very rarely do we post on forums as most end in a bitch-fest backstabbing way. Chat rooms tend to be more "wanking" or females seeking attention than actual chatting... I think we have to face that it will no longer be the fun site (for us) that it once was.
Maybe all us "oldies" could get together for a wee night out like we used to and try get some of the fun factor back.
T xx"
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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Dont you find though that the "everyone knew us" ruined it a little?
Not really to be honest...we thrived on that more ...i'm a very sociable person and I dont feel it held us back any "
Ruined it for us...well, me if im honest...getting to know people better does have its drawbacks...
Took a break....
Came back and avoided our old "circle of friends"....
Best thing we did....
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By *andj65Couple
over a year ago
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This i think is harsh....bringing obviously personal things into a public forum...not in good taste!
As to the OPs i have known them also for years...both on here but yea back in the dinosaur days of another site...A nicer couple you couldnt meet and also know what the scene is about ...
So no this isn't a "look at me" thread or aww feel sorry for us but i do get what they are saying...things have changed...we and us "oldies" as some say do remember the days when socials were that little bit naughtier as said and were that bit more special as there weren't so many...all this is in my opinion of course...
We stick more to clubs now and CJ's is a fabulous place to meet folks so yea we have stopped trying with private meets...but as with the Hedo's and with folks who know us we also have had our family troubles lately and our time is more limited ...
Maybe it does lose its sparkle...who knows!!...and yea thats upto the individual/s...if its not working i'd agree have a break without deleting your account...
We have had some fabulous times in this scene...and oh the parties and the trips away lol...have made a lot of friends along the way and count the Hedo's as friends but swinging doesn't rule our life it enhances it...
So with all my ramblings hey what do i know...i say do what your instincts tell you guys but we miss the old school days too lol...
I say get us all back together and have a party like we used to....
Or come away for another pervy weekend with us next month...that'll sort you out!!..  |
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Its in good enough taste to me. You obviously dont see or hear things when your not present jandj. We are awe entitled to our opinions and my opinions quite tame to say the least. As im being polite. My threads what i think and will always say what i think. |
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By *exyducksCouple
over a year ago
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"Completely agree Hedo
The site has evolved over the years and not for the better (in my opinion). No longer do we attend Socials (and they used to be a blast) very rarely do we post on forums as most end in a bitch-fest backstabbing way. Chat rooms tend to be more "wanking" or females seeking attention than actual chatting... I think we have to face that it will no longer be the fun site (for us) that it once was.
Maybe all us "oldies" could get together for a wee night out like we used to and try get some of the fun factor back.
T xx"
i third that lol |
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"Well its an open forum to voice your opinions and i certainly will do that if i see something that i dont agree with and is total bs...... )) "
Good on you! I'd like to see more people like you on here who can speak independently. This is just a line to support you.
For myself though, if I see something I don't really agree with, I'm more inclined not to say anything. I don't really want to start or protract a disagreement.
There's little point arguing with some people and I end up laughing when someone is having a go because their feeble attack is usually full of spelling mistakes. Lol |
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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago
Livingston |
To get back to the original point of this thread about how Fab has changed over the years for some people.
I made the conscious decision at the start of September to take a break from play meeting 1-1, as I could not be arsed plus I had a lot of personal shit going on. Also found that if agreeing just to a social meet, "many" (not all) still came with the expectation of me dropping my knickers for them after 1 coffee.
Another thing now is the disrespect that is shown, from all sectors of Fab I hasten to add. Too many think it is "Instashag". Also, the questioning of why not meeting? The abuse received by some members when they say no.
Yes, Fab has changed and evolved over the years since I joined (and not necessarily for the better a lot of the time), but the site can only be what WE make it.
I often take a break by hiding my profile and only checking the forums, but I'm a nosey fecker.
One thing I do know is that without certain friends I have made on here, I would not have made it through the past year and for them I will always be eternally grateful.
Don't know if any of that made any sense. Guess what I am trying to say say is that, to a certain extent, FAB and all that goes with it saved my life.
I'll shut up now!! xxx
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"Well its an open forum to voice your opinions and i certainly will do that if i see something that i dont agree with and is total bs...... ))
Good on you! I'd like to see more people like you on here who can speak independently. This is just a line to support you.
For myself though, if I see something I don't really agree with, I'm more inclined not to say anything. I don't really want to start or protract a disagreement.
There's little point arguing with some people and I end up laughing when someone is having a go because their feeble attack is usually full of spelling mistakes. Lol "
Its an open forum granted,(with rules like all forum threads have), agreeing and dissagreeing is part n part of forum use.
Spelling? Certain words trip me up spelling wise, like ermm, pedantic or is it pidantic? |
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You know it's time to leave when you are looking at pictures of a couple or couples in action and you find yourself thinking.....
"That's a nice couch" or "don't like that wallpaper"
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"We have been on a break for a while now although more workload related than choice and havn`t been to CJs since January or even a party or social for a good year or two now but to be honest we are not missing them hence why we are asking when the scene actually bores you is it time to pack it in for good?
Work and other current real life issues i.e kids,
family etc could also be getting in our way and
just making us feel the way we are
Totally know where you are come from ,life gets in the way ,family kids work ect ,fitting things in and around those parts of your life can be very difficult and tbh ,it can become a bit of a pantomime erm however ,the scene would not be the same if you both left ! the possibility of bumping into you both and hearing about your poor wife putting up with ,some of your latest antics lol keeps my better half and I laughing for days ,plus some of the witty banter, erm a loss indeed, hopefully ,you can ride through it and find the fun again !
Maybe we need a right good party is what we need to make us feel involved again "
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