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"Would you stay in a marriage without sex ?" yes i would sex alone does not make a marriage ...on the otherhand if you just want more sex then do the decent thing and divorce first dont tear apart a family unit all for a bit of sex | |||
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"I am married to the only person i have ever loved but we have a sex less marriage due to my wifes health issue, still feel guilty about being here but not having sex is too much to bear and need to have that sex feeling from somewhere,wouldnt be on here if marriage had sex but sadly thats how things work out, and hate being judge by some on here for looking for sex on my own when they clearly have no idea what its like wanting a sexual relationship but being unable to do so. Sorry was almost ranting there. " | |||
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"I am married to the only person i have ever loved but we have a sex less marriage due to my wifes health issue, still feel guilty about being here but not having sex is too much to bear and need to have that sex feeling from somewhere,wouldnt be on here if marriage had sex but sadly thats how things work out, and hate being judge by some on here for looking for sex on my own when they clearly have no idea what its like wanting a sexual relationship but being unable to do so. Sorry was almost ranting there. "
Rant away mate too many married guys tarred with. There just dirty fekers just after ashag aw there poor wife's are being cheated on
How do they no wot goes on in each individual case. Rant over | |||
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"Would you stay in a marriage without sex ?" Nope... It's not the only important thing in a relationship.... But it's quite high on my list of priorities. Im the end I ended my relationship with my ex partner because he decided he was no longer interested in sex... | |||
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"Thanks many just dont get that point,i would give anything to have the sex life we used to have before back,but thats the break we still at least have each other,listen to me be tears next. "every1 in that situation would love to have it back the way it Was. But shit happens Dont be starting wae the water works mate Lol  | |||
"Would you stay in a marriage without sex ?yes i would sex alone does not make a marriage ...on the otherhand if you just want more sex then do the decent thing and divorce first dont tear apart a family unit all for a bit of sex" | |||
"Miss behaving judging by your pics, your ex is crazy not to have wanted sex with you??? "got to agree I seen in her in real life at social. Only thing she cheats at last word threads God a really need to let that go Pmsl | |||
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"Thanks many just dont get that point,i would give anything to have the sex life we used to have before back,but thats the break we still at least have each other,listen to me be tears next. every1 in that situation would love to have it back the way it
Was. But shit happens
Dont be starting wae the water works mate
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"Would you stay in a marriage without sex ?" Yes if that is all that is missing | |||
" So if my partner no longer found that he didn't want to have sex I don't think I could be with him . "IF he was saying it was just me he didnt want sex with.... I would be head butting him on way out door.....  | |||
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"You would call the mental hospital as hes clearly mad not wanting too have sex with you. "Clearly mad for marrying me in first place | |||
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"It really is all due to circumstances and i do think if its a case of having falling out of love then why stay ? But if its just outright cheating on a partner thats just wrong ...not saying all but too many use the excuse they aint getting any at home For the reasons they cheat. So if its just the sex stick with it you never know the urge might come back for them again ." Dont think any one here has the moral high ground The place is about sex and shagging not love  | |||
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"Moral high ground ?...I was mearly commenting and giving an opinion the same as everyone else. So if you don't like my comments that's your problem not mine " I tht this was a forum i must be wrong Because i disagree with you  | |||
"It really is all due to circumstances and i do think if its a case of having falling out of love then why stay ? But if its just outright cheating on a partner thats just wrong ...not saying all but too many use the excuse they aint getting any at home For the reasons they cheat. So if its just the sex stick with it you never know the urge might come back for them again . Dont think any one here has the moral high ground The place is about sex and shagging not love "You can still have morals along with the sex and shagging. | |||
"Moral high ground ?...I was mearly commenting and giving an opinion the same as everyone else. So if you don't like my comments that's your problem not mine I tht this was a forum i must be wrong Because i disagree with you "Nope not at all your entitle to your opinion but I don't see anyone telling you your on high moral because of the opinions you have | |||
"It really is all due to circumstances and i do think if its a case of having falling out of love then why stay ? But if its just outright cheating on a partner thats just wrong ...not saying all but too many use the excuse they aint getting any at home For the reasons they cheat. So if its just the sex stick with it you never know the urge might come back for them again . Dont think any one here has the moral high ground The place is about sex and shagging not love
You can still have morals along with the sex and shagging. " Yes and i never said you did not We all got morals xxx | |||
"It really is all due to circumstances and i do think if its a case of having falling out of love then why stay ? But if its just outright cheating on a partner thats just wrong ...not saying all but too many use the excuse they aint getting any at home For the reasons they cheat. So if its just the sex stick with it you never know the urge might come back for them again . Dont think any one here has the moral high ground The place is about sex and shagging not love
You can still have morals along with the sex and shagging. Yes and i never said you did not We all got morals xxx "Ah ok I must have took it wrong you saying nobody here having a moral high ground just cause of sex and shagging. | |||
"Moral high ground ?...I was mearly commenting and giving an opinion the same as everyone else. So if you don't like my comments that's your problem not mine I tht this was a forum i must be wrong Because i disagree with you Nope not at all your entitle to your opinion but I don't see anyone telling you your on high moral because of the opinions you have "That you jumping in i did not say you I SAID ANY ONE So if you took that as a attack on you Sorry  | |||
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"Jesus wot happened to that thread "Same old same old! Back to the OP - YES I would stay | |||
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"Getting away from the thread now i am afraid "Yeah as usual Sadly | |||
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"Being in position of sex less marriage it certainly not funny ,having deep sexual desire for your wife and partner but being unable to fullfill these is not easy for either person. "no one can imagin what that feels ,and has been said already no one unless they have been in that situation knows how it feels. If it was something like my husband being seriously I'll I could not imagin in a million years me ever walking out on him because we wernt having sex. | |||
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"Well said ,still feel guilty for being on here looking for a playmate not looking for quantity just quality prefer one single play pal,desire is a powerful force especialy when controled by the contents of your jeans!!! "Your going off the thread mate That a meet your looking for there | |||
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"if it was me, then hell no i couldnt stay. Im not affectionate with anyone, i dont like intimacy, i just like sex, so if i couldnt get that. id leave. But i really would question why the fuck i got married in the first place "but its not like that at first you could be married 10 years before something happend and one of you go off sex ,so just walk away realy !!! | |||
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"if it was me, then hell no i couldnt stay. Im not affectionate with anyone, i dont like intimacy, i just like sex, so if i couldnt get that. id leave. But i really would question why the fuck i got married in the first place but its not like that at first you could be married 10 years before something happend and one of you go off sex ,so just walk away realy !!!"I was with someone for over 10 years and yes the sex went, along with other feelings, and I did walk away. Best thing I ever did, I am tons happier now. Every situation is different though. | |||
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"Respect that we all have diffrent situations and sometimes maybe too hasty to judge" | |||
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"Moral high ground ?...I was mearly commenting and giving an opinion the same as everyone else. So if you don't like my comments that's your problem not mine " You did take the moral high ground because you said do the right thing and don't break up the family unit for just sex ! Have you ever knowingly played with a married man ? | |||
"if it was me, then hell no i couldnt stay. Im not affectionate with anyone, i dont like intimacy, i just like sex, so if i couldnt get that. id leave. But i really would question why the fuck i got married in the first place but its not like that at first you could be married 10 years before something happend and one of you go off sex ,so just walk away realy !!!"Not quite 10 years, but it was 8 years for me, and yes....really. I walked away | |||
"Respect that we all have diffrent situations and sometimes maybe too hasty to judge" I was saying just that, everyones situation is different. | |||
"Respect that we all have diffrent situations and sometimes maybe too hasty to judge I was saying just that, everyones situation is different. " | |||
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"Respect that we all have diffrent situations and sometimes maybe too hasty to judge I was saying just that, everyones situation is different. " Totally agree, too many are all so quick to judge, and shout cheater, when they don't know the situation.....look in before looking out, is what i say... | |||
"As has been said there are lots of different situations but I don't think I could stay in a sexless relationship, I have met with married men but I am single and would certainly never want them to leave their wife/partner for me.... But what a lot seem to forget is the hurt they would cause to the wife/husband/partner who they "love" if they got found out.... I don't think they would think it was different because it's nsa and not an affair " And thats exactly the point i tried to make too. If there is no sex because there is no love get out of it. Dont start shagging around just because your bored with what you have . | |||
"As has been said there are lots of different situations but I don't think I could stay in a sexless relationship, I have met with married men but I am single and would certainly never want them to leave their wife/partner for me.... But what a lot seem to forget is the hurt they would cause to the wife/husband/partner who they "love" if they got found out.... I don't think they would think it was different because it's nsa and not an affair And thats exactly the point i tried to make too. If there is no sex because there is no love get out of it. Dont start shagging around just because your bored with what you have . " | |||
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"My answer to the OP would be yes, theres more to life than sex, what about love and intimacy and besides there are other things that can be done to get round many problems. Its all about communication. " | |||
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"Absolutely not!! My mate is in one and he is totally miserable and has blue balls haha!! Nah I deffo couldnt as I love sex too much and I feel it should be a core part of a relationship, keeps ya close xxxx"Blue balls ? Xxxxx | |||
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"I totally agree with what mis dynamite has said it makes perfect sence to me Me personally as I said its got to be the full package " Thanks im not judging anyone but some people really need to think why they are here . only those who are married and on here know why and if its because they aint getting sex at home then they are the ones that need to decide whats the best thing to do for them not anyone else . | |||
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"I do & have done for over 10 years due to my wife's health" That is my situation too. My wife unders_ands my needs, and as long as I don't bring it home, and she doesn't know about, a blind eye is turned. She knows I love her, because I tell her, and show her, and I respect her position regarding my actions. I wish it wasn't this way, but there is nothing I can do to fix her health. | |||
"I do & have done for over 10 years due to my wife's health That is my situation too. My wife unders_ands my needs, and as long as I don't bring it home, and she doesn't know about, a blind eye is turned. She knows I love her, because I tell her, and show her, and I respect her position regarding my actions. I wish it wasn't this way, but there is nothing I can do to fix her health." And thats a diffrent situation to most on here because your open and honest to your wife about it and she accepts that . | |||
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"Thank you for that understanding." your welcome | |||
"Would you stay in a marriage without sex ?" wasnt married but in the 2 years i was with the ex we only had full sex twice blow/handjobs were plentiful but come on i felt like Santa only coming once a year lol | |||
"Would you stay in a marriage without sex ? wasnt married but in the 2 years i was with the ex we only had full sex twice blow/handjobs were plentiful but come on i felt like Santa only coming once a year lol"Lucky b*stard. In the last 3 years with my ex, I never had sex with HER once.....  | |||
"Would you stay in a marriage without sex ? wasnt married but in the 2 years i was with the ex we only had full sex twice blow/handjobs were plentiful but come on i felt like Santa only coming once a year lol
Lucky b*stard. In the last 3 years with my ex, I never had sex with HER once....."maybe we had the same ex lol | |||
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"Would you stay in a marriage without sex ? wasnt married but in the 2 years i was with the ex we only had full sex twice blow/handjobs were plentiful but come on i felt like Santa only coming once a year lol
Lucky b*stard. In the last 3 years with my ex, I never had sex with HER once....."Has she only become ur ex in the past two weeks or is this a diffrent partner ? | |||
"Would you stay in a marriage without sex ? wasnt married but in the 2 years i was with the ex we only had full sex twice blow/handjobs were plentiful but come on i felt like Santa only coming once a year lol
Lucky b*stard. In the last 3 years with my ex, I never had sex with HER once.....Has she only become ur ex in the past two weeks or is this a diffrent partner ?"First wife. An ice queen. The current postholder is loving, and loved, despite the lack of sex. | |||
"Would you stay in a marriage without sex ? wasnt married but in the 2 years i was with the ex we only had full sex twice blow/handjobs were plentiful but come on i felt like Santa only coming once a year lol
Lucky b*stard. In the last 3 years with my ex, I never had sex with HER once.....Has she only become ur ex in the past two weeks or is this a diffrent partner ?
First wife. An ice queen. The current postholder is loving, and loved, despite the lack of sex."ah ok i see | |||
"Would you stay in a marriage without sex ? wasnt married but in the 2 years i was with the ex we only had full sex twice blow/handjobs were plentiful but come on i felt like Santa only coming once a year lol
Lucky b*stard. In the last 3 years with my ex, I never had sex with HER once.....Has she only become ur ex in the past two weeks or is this a diffrent partner ?
First wife. An ice queen. The current postholder is loving, and loved, despite the lack of sex. ah ok i see "Also, the current postholder is the lovely lady in the pic I added to my gallery yesterday. | |||
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"I've lived in a virtually sexless marriage from day one. Turned out that my missus didn't like sex and only had sex with me before marriage as she knew I would leave her. Once we were married then she didn't feel the need to even try so sex dwindled to virtually nothing almost immediately. I was lucky to have sex once a month as she always had an excuse ready if I suggested it. I've not had any physical contact with her in the last 5 to 6 years and we now have seperate bedrooms. She is off on holiday with a pal and i'm trying to sort something out for myself now. I stayed as we had kids and wanted to be a proper father to them rather than a Saturday Dad. The choice was leave and risk her wrath and maybe stop me seeing the kids on a regular basis or just to accept the situation. I choice to stay to be with my kids and don't regret it. Been on here just to see what I can get up to." A great post mate You can feel the love for your kids in every word | |||
"Very difficult being in a sexless relationship , i am sure someone already said its not the be all and end all of a relationship but it does have a knock on effect, some people feel worthless and unattractive which can lead down a slippery slope . If its sexless due to ill health then hopefully in time that would right itself but if its sexless due to something worse than that then is it fair to make the other half go through enforced celibacy . It would take a very strong couple to talk it through and work out how they go forward if one half could no longer ever have sex again , and if they have and decided its through a swinging site then more power to them for having the communication skills to talk it through and come to an adult descision based on honesty , intergrity and above all love. " I have experienced this from both angles. As I've said, my first wife turned very cold during our marriage, she refused to discuss why, seek help in any form, and for the last 3 years we were together, it was sexless and loveless. I did the traditional "staying for the children" thing, until here coldness turned to spite and bullying. My wife, now, is a completely different kind of person, very loving, selfless, wonderful. She has a number of health issues, some of which will hopefully be resolved, but some we will have to live with for the rest of her days. She knows I have my needs, and has tried to fulfil them, but she is very limited, and I do not want to have her feeling she has an obligation to keep, hence her understanding of why I am here. I don't flaunt my visits here, I don't trumpet any meets, or discuss them afterwards, and, by the same token, she doesn't inquire. A bit like "Don't ask, don't tell", I suppose. Personally, I'd sooner be back to the way things were before her health took a dive, But that is in the lap of the gods. | |||
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"I am married to the only person i have ever loved but we have a sex less marriage due to my wifes health issue, still feel guilty about being here but not having sex is too much to bear and need to have that sex feeling from somewhere,wouldnt be on here if marriage had sex but sadly thats how things work out, and hate being judge by some on here for looking for sex on my own when they clearly have no idea what its like wanting a sexual relationship but being unable to do so. Sorry was almost ranting there. "This could be me too, I'm in exactly the same position | |||
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"I do & have done for over 10 years due to my wife's health That is my situation too. My wife unders_ands my needs, and as long as I don't bring it home, and she doesn't know about, a blind eye is turned. She knows I love her, because I tell her, and show her, and I respect her position regarding my actions. I wish it wasn't this way, but there is nothing I can do to fix her health." Same here, been 8 years now.. | |||
"Same here, been 8 years now.." Ouch. | |||
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"When I split from my ex fiance one of the main reasons was the lack of sex. I ended up feeling like a pest, almost begging for sex at times but he was never that bothered with sex. I was so frustrated and although I thought about sex with other guys I could never have done that to him. Once sex goes in a relationship the whole relationship changes. We are all human, we want to feel wanted and attractive and if you partner isn't giving you that then you might want to look elsewhere I guess. i just couldn't cheat as he was like my best friend and I respected him too much. I did however get very well acquainted with my rabbit! As for married men/women- everybody is free to do what is best for them as long as they are honest in doing it I think! Xx" | |||
"I do meet married guys sometimes but prefer if they are honest about it ..... What really amazes me are the amount of men on here with wife's that have "health" problems....... At the end of the day cheating is cheating "I'll let you walk in my shoes for a day, catheters, urine, vomit, feaces. Then the emotions, the feeding, the rages and depression - then add in those who are supposed to help - sneaking around behind your back asking folk if you've ever been seen to assault your wife. Oh and holding down a full time job too... Yeh, oh yeh. | |||
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"What really amazes me are the amount of men on here with wife's that have "health" problems....... At the end of the day cheating is cheating "Wedding vows cover the sickness and in health maybe another line should be added that's its ok to fuck when an illness strikes. | |||
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"What really amazes me are the amount of men on here with wife's that have "health" problems....... At the end of the day cheating is cheating
Wedding vows cover the sickness and in health maybe another line should be added that's its ok to fuck when an illness strikes. "Tell you what, lets stick you in chastity for a year and see how you feel at the end of it. | |||
"It's hard enough dealing with all that on a professional basis, without it being your whole life. You have my deepest admiration." Have met an spoke to Jane D a few times...
Even on a rare night off, she is back home early to make sure all is ok x | |||
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"Would you stay in a marriage without sex ?" I did . That didn't break us but it was difficult. I just didn't want him. Eventually he broke us, I found mister and sex is a big part of us ! But were soooo strong its so much more and without it we wouldnt fail . | |||
"Tell you what, lets stick you in chastity for a year and see how you feel at the end of it." Dress it up how you want your cheating yourself your wife your conscience and your vows. | |||
"It's hard enough dealing with all that on a professional basis, without it being your whole life. You have my deepest admiration. Have met an spoke to Jane D a few times...
Even on a rare night off, she is back home early to make sure all is ok x"Ta much missus. Hope to catch up at Cjs at some. point | |||
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"I do meet married guys sometimes but prefer if they are honest about it ..... What really amazes me are the amount of men on here with wife's that have "health" problems....... At the end of the day cheating is cheating
I'll let you walk in my shoes for a day, catheters, urine, vomit, feaces. Then the emotions, the feeding, the rages and depression - then add in those who are supposed to help - sneaking around behind your back asking folk if you've ever been seen to assault your wife.
Oh and holding down a full time job too...
Yeh, oh yeh."I have no doubt that some people on here really do have ill partners/husbands/wife's ..... But the point I was trying to make is that too many only say it as an excuse ..... You have my every sympathy for what you have to deal with and your right I don't know how I would be able to deal with that situation. But there is a difference between really being in that kind of situation and only using it as an excuse to make themselves and the folk they meet feel better about the cheating ... As I have said I have met married guys but at least they have been honest about it | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 04/05/13 10:53:10]" My ex partner stopped having sex with me as he was seeing someone else, so I moved on in my life. As for married men on the site, we are all here through different circumstances, and lets not judge each other. if we are not happy then having some fun and laughter in our life's makes it bearable. x x Have fun everyone. Goddess. x x | |||
