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The most important thing about Socials
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi folks just thought that this needs mentioning.This is mainly for anyone thinking about attending their first social!!!
I organised my first social last friday which was pretty good I think!!Great crowd and everyone seemed to enjoy themselves so thanks to everyone who attended!!
It was a great night but there was a serious breech of security!!!!We had a new member who attanded but brought along a non fab member to the social.I though I had dealt with it....but obviously not well enough!!So I'm just bringing this to your attention....it's a very serious matter!!When dealing with peoples privacy here we have to make sure that these very well established rules are adhered to!!What kind of state would we all be in if there was no respect for people's privacy?Paramout in my book ....and obvious too!!!How can we safely interact with one another,socialise,chat meet...if there's no honesty,respect,integrity...please,please remember respect for peoples' privacy is a small thing to ask but a massive thing to give!!
Respect.
Rab
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What about the social organisers ,not telling all who they are ,therefore anyone attending the socials dont get the embarassment of being tarred as the same as them this is a breach also  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What about the social organisers ,not telling all who they are ,therefore anyone attending the socials dont get the embarassment of being tarred as the same as them this is a breach also "
As far as the venue are concerned we're a works night out and as far as I'm aware the venue is non the wiser as to who we are.We would never book the venue as a swinging group!!How insane would that be!!Yes the organisers have to be totally aware of everone's privacy being respected as does anyone attending!!In this case it was someone attending who was at fault!!I'm trying to make sure people are aware of this breech and make sure as far as I can it never happens again!!.....for everyones's sake!! |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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Well said mate 
On a slightly less serious note, might I add another good rule of thumb for those people who have never attended a social before please.
Don't sit in the corner staring into your drink, mingle and chat as everyone knows what it was like on their first social and will welcome you with open arms  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Security and hush is never going to be perfect ever ,i got a text from a guy attending fridays and said,i am going to the social at xyz if you want to meet me before i go ,as for organisers not telling the venue what its booked for ,we attended one and the bar staff told us she was know as a swinger ,hence why we have never attended another she has done .mud sticks |
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privacy is very important to everyone and should be not be compromised.
socials should always be for members only and mine always have been.
To the person whos told someone whos not attending where the venue is for fridays social well done you i take it your incapible or reading ?since it was put in block capitals on the emails sent out yesterday not to discuss venue details with members not attending .
Also to even mention it in the forums isnt clever either as now every guy going will be looked at as the one whos done it  |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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You will never get 100% discretion at any social.....specially one held in public places....
As long as those attending know this....
I personally dont care, and if anyone was really that worried, they simply wouldnt go.....
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"You will never get 100% discretion at any social.....specially one held in public places....
As long as those attending know this....
I personally dont care, and if anyone was really that worried, they simply wouldnt go.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Socials in a public venue can never be 100% secure. You are putting your trust in people you dont know. If people finding out that you were swingers would have a serious effect on your life dont attend these socials. However in this day and age I doubt there are many who would be damaged as much as they might think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mud does stick but not just to the person it was thrown at - also to the hand of the people throwing it!
And like others have said there has to be an element of 'if its gonna bring your world crumbling down' if your actions became known then maybe socials and even swinging isn't for you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we are so big of confidentiality and one of the first things we discuss when messages are coming via our inbox, I have to agree if putting urself out there then the risk factor comes with it.
Everyone has family and work commitments so us as a couple hav never put ourselves out there at socials, recently tho the thought has been there to try one out.
part of swinging is the rush u get when u know u are being naughty, wouldnt meet unless discretion is discussed. But socials to be honest scare us, understand its getting to know others but also gonna be they others who cant play by the rules. x |
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i concur with rabbus i hosted a charity lunch i tried my best to ensure it was private and i think i managed that and it was a great afternoon even tho i say so myself but i took and take no blame for the fact a hamish and two young barmen are all in rehab for post traumatic sress and sexual harrasment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i concur with rabbus i hosted a charity lunch i tried my best to ensure it was private and i think i managed that and it was a great afternoon even tho i say so myself but i took and take no blame for the fact a hamish and two young barmen are all in rehab for post traumatic sress and sexual harrasment "
2 young barmen!!! I never touched the other one!    |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" i got a text from a guy attending fridays and said,i am going to the social at xyz if you want to meet me before i go "
I hope u sent him away with a flea in his ear and informed the host of the social that this stupid idiot was telling everyone where the social was being held! |
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"i concur with rabbus i hosted a charity lunch i tried my best to ensure it was private and i think i managed that and it was a great afternoon even tho i say so myself but i took and take no blame for the fact a hamish and two young barmen are all in rehab for post traumatic sress and sexual harrasment
2 young barmen!!! I never touched the other one! "
thats not what his lawyers saying.lol xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i concur with rabbus i hosted a charity lunch i tried my best to ensure it was private and i think i managed that and it was a great afternoon even tho i say so myself but i took and take no blame for the fact a hamish and two young barmen are all in rehab for post traumatic sress and sexual harrasment
2 young barmen!!! I never touched the other one! thats not what his lawyers saying.lol xxx"
I deny everything!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" i got a text from a guy attending fridays and said,i am going to the social at xyz if you want to meet me before i go
I hope u sent him away with a flea in his ear and informed the host of the social that this stupid idiot was telling everyone where the social was being held! "
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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" i got a text from a guy attending fridays and said,i am going to the social at xyz if you want to meet me before i go
I hope u sent him away with a flea in his ear and informed the host of the social that this stupid idiot was telling everyone where the social was being held! "
Is there something wrong with telling other members? |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"There is if you tell them the venue  "
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar..... |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar....."
The reason the venue is kept private whether in a pub or private venue is....there are alot of fakes on here and no-one wants a crowd turning up gawking and pointing ..."look at the sad swingers" type of thing ...also over the years there has been a problem with people learning where said gatherings are and informing the venue or the press ...it just cuts down on the possibility of unwanted attention |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar.....
The reason the venue is kept private whether in a pub or private venue is....there are alot of fakes on here and no-one wants a crowd turning up gawking and pointing ..."look at the sad swingers" type of thing ...also over the years there has been a problem with people learning where said gatherings are and informing the venue or the press ...it just cuts down on the possibility of unwanted attention "
Hence why it's only open to members of Fab. Bringing a 'friend' along who is not a member of Fab is also a no-no |
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"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar.....
The reason the venue is kept private whether in a pub or private venue is....there are alot of fakes on here and no-one wants a crowd turning up gawking and pointing ..."look at the sad swingers" type of thing ...also over the years there has been a problem with people learning where said gatherings are and informing the venue or the press ...it just cuts down on the possibility of unwanted attention "
But I'm a happy swinger.... Does that count |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
Falkirk |
"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar.....
The reason the venue is kept private whether in a pub or private venue is....there are alot of fakes on here and no-one wants a crowd turning up gawking and pointing ..."look at the sad swingers" type of thing ...also over the years there has been a problem with people learning where said gatherings are and informing the venue or the press ...it just cuts down on the possibility of unwanted attention
But I'm a happy swinger.... Does that count "
You're happy with a doughnut and a coffee lol |
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I think this post is swaying from what the Op was trying to bring to peoples attention and that is that social evenings are for MEMBERS ONLY not joe bloggs and his 100 mates who aint members to attend ..ok i exagirated but you know what i mean ..its not fair that a place has been taken up that a fab memeber could quite easily have lost out on because they were told the social was full for a non member to just turn up isnt fair at all ,it also could have caused a problem regarding numbers as everyone knows the number of people attending has to be set at the capacity the venue can hold .
So please people all thats been asked for is discretion for everyone . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So, is there a ' social protocol/etiquette ' to be observed? Never been to one before. I mean, do we queue for the ice cream and jelly or does it get brought to us?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar....."
no socials are only open to those the host /hostess like |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"So, is there a ' social protocol/etiquette ' to be observed? Never been to one before. I mean, do we queue for the ice cream and jelly or does it get brought to us?? "
If you're a member of fab, got your invite legitimately and don't turn up with a non member then the social protocol is have fun, be polite, respect others and get your own jelly and ice cream |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar.....no socials are only open to those the host /hostess like "
I don't believe that's right!
We went along to our first one and the host/hostess had never met us before! |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
Falkirk |
"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar.....no socials are only open to those the host /hostess like "
Sounds fair to me
Anyone can organise a social if they want to put the time and effort in so why can't they decide on the guest list |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar.....no socials are only open to those the host /hostess like
Sounds fair to me
Anyone can organise a social if they want to put the time and effort in so why can't they decide on the guest list "
no one said it was wrong i only answered the question |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
Falkirk |
"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar.....no socials are only open to those the host /hostess like
Sounds fair to me
Anyone can organise a social if they want to put the time and effort in so why can't they decide on the guest list no one said it was wrong i only answered the question "
Same here  |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"I've never been to a social. I'm not sure if I have the confidence to walk into a room on my own where there will be noone I know... "
I've been there as a couple and as a single, it was bad enough as a couple but honestly, you forget all about the worries within the first 10 mins |
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"I've never been to a social. I'm not sure if I have the confidence to walk into a room on my own where there will be noone I know... "
Everyone feels like that hunni but five mins in the place and ul be worrying why u got so nervous about it lol xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never been to a social. I'm not sure if I have the confidence to walk into a room on my own where there will be noone I know... "
same as meself trying to no people is very hard
especially being a newbie |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"I've never been to a social. I'm not sure if I have the confidence to walk into a room on my own where there will be noone I know... same as meself trying to no people is very hard
especially being a newbie "
But you talk to a lot of the people on the forum, just need to match the face to the profile when you get there and it all clicks into place
(Oh, just for the record, no I'm not going tomorrow - I'm on full time dad duty but I've been a newbie too ) |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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"I've never been to a social. I'm not sure if I have the confidence to walk into a room on my own where there will be noone I know... Everyone feels like that hunni but five mins in the place and ul be worrying why u got so nervous about it lol xxx "
hmmmm, I may brave one up this way then. I will be ill with nerves for days if I do decide to go to one. lol |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"I've never been to a social. I'm not sure if I have the confidence to walk into a room on my own where there will be noone I know... Everyone feels like that hunni but five mins in the place and ul be worrying why u got so nervous about it lol xxx
hmmmm, I may brave one up this way then. I will be ill with nerves for days if I do decide to go to one. lol"
Honestly, there is nothing to be nervous about. If you'd prefer, just arrange to meet someone else beforehand and walk in together for moral support |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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Honestly, there is nothing to be nervous about. If you'd prefer, just arrange to meet someone else beforehand and walk in together for moral support "
I may think about that - but I'm quite a nervous, shy person. I've been seeing current FWB from Nov (hes been away jan til middle of this month but we agreed he's the only male i'll see for now) and I still puke with nerves every time before he visits... and we saw each other about 10 times before he went away! lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never been to a social. I'm not sure if I have the confidence to walk into a room on my own where there will be noone I know... same as meself trying to no people is very hard
especially being a newbie
But you talk to a lot of the people on the forum, just need to match the face to the profile when you get there and it all clicks into place
(Oh, just for the record, no I'm not going tomorrow - I'm on full time dad duty but I've been a newbie too )"
aye but hard if there is no face picts lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, is there a ' social protocol/etiquette ' to be observed? Never been to one before. I mean, do we queue for the ice cream and jelly or does it get brought to us??
If you're a member of fab, got your invite legitimately and don't turn up with a non member then the social protocol is have fun, be polite, respect others and get your own jelly and ice cream "
All boxes ticked then |
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By *exyducksCouple
over a year ago
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"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar.....no socials are only open to those the host /hostess like "
totally agree with the list of blocked people growing, cause maybe didn`t like a comment or something stupid |
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"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar.....no socials are only open to those the host /hostess like totally agree with the list of blocked people growing, cause maybe didn`t like a comment or something stupid "
so are you saying that if a host or hostess has someone blocked that they should unblock them just so they can attend their social ? why would they want to attend in the first place ? ..everyones choice to block is their own and not anyone elses and if i have someone on block then ive obviously had reason which are my reasons for doing so and i dont need to justify why to anyone . |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"I've never been to a social. I'm not sure if I have the confidence to walk into a room on my own where there will be noone I know... same as meself trying to no people is very hard
especially being a newbie
But you talk to a lot of the people on the forum, just need to match the face to the profile when you get there and it all clicks into place
(Oh, just for the record, no I'm not going tomorrow - I'm on full time dad duty but I've been a newbie too )aye but hard if there is no face picts lol"
I'm sure you'll be fine anyway lol. Just ask for jacs and she will introduce you to everyone |
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By *exyducksCouple
over a year ago
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"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar.....no socials are only open to those the host /hostess like totally agree with the list of blocked people growing, cause maybe didn`t like a comment or something stupid so are you saying that if a host or hostess has someone blocked that they should unblock them just so they can attend their social ? why would they want to attend in the first place ? ..everyones choice to block is their own and not anyone elses and if i have someone on block then ive obviously had reason which are my reasons for doing so and i dont need to justify why to anyone . "
i never even mentioned you but as usual alway first to jump in lol |
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"There is if you tell them the venue
Arent socials open to everyone then?
Thought that was whole pint of it being a "social"...
Understand if it a private venue, but it usually a public bar.....no socials are only open to those the host /hostess like totally agree with the list of blocked people growing, cause maybe didn`t like a comment or something stupid so are you saying that if a host or hostess has someone blocked that they should unblock them just so they can attend their social ? why would they want to attend in the first place ? ..everyones choice to block is their own and not anyone elses and if i have someone on block then ive obviously had reason which are my reasons for doing so and i dont need to justify why to anyone .
i never even mentioned you but as usual alway first to jump in lol"
And i didnt say u did mention it was me either but looked like you were saying that because organisers have blokcks on their profile they should be removed to allow these people to attend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never been to a social. I'm not sure if I have the confidence to walk into a room on my own where there will be noone I know... same as meself trying to no people is very hard
especially being a newbie
But you talk to a lot of the people on the forum, just need to match the face to the profile when you get there and it all clicks into place
(Oh, just for the record, no I'm not going tomorrow - I'm on full time dad duty but I've been a newbie too )aye but hard if there is no face picts lol
I'm sure you'll be fine anyway lol. Just ask for jacs and she will introduce you to everyone "
will do if i no what she look like but all is cool i b there before 8 cause of the bus times |
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"I've never been to a social. I'm not sure if I have the confidence to walk into a room on my own where there will be noone I know... same as meself trying to no people is very hard
especially being a newbie
But you talk to a lot of the people on the forum, just need to match the face to the profile when you get there and it all clicks into place
(Oh, just for the record, no I'm not going tomorrow - I'm on full time dad duty but I've been a newbie too )aye but hard if there is no face picts lol
I'm sure you'll be fine anyway lol. Just ask for jacs and she will introduce you to everyone will do if i no what she look like but all is cool i b there before 8 cause of the bus times"
you already know what i look like from a few yrs ago lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never been to a social. I'm not sure if I have the confidence to walk into a room on my own where there will be noone I know... same as meself trying to no people is very hard
especially being a newbie
But you talk to a lot of the people on the forum, just need to match the face to the profile when you get there and it all clicks into place
(Oh, just for the record, no I'm not going tomorrow - I'm on full time dad duty but I've been a newbie too )aye but hard if there is no face picts lol
I'm sure you'll be fine anyway lol. Just ask for jacs and she will introduce you to everyone will do if i no what she look like but all is cool i b there before 8 cause of the bus timesyou already know what i look like from a few yrs ago lol"
people change lol but i keep an eye out |
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reading this post really beggers belief !!! lets cut out the bitching ,snide comments and undermining .id assumme most folks will agree they wish to have their private lives kept private and the socials they attend kept private also . common sense dictacts why this has to be done and we are awear from the previous socials being cancelled due to spitefull inderviduals putting the boot in ! not only common sense but respect for other members . now some may be totally open about being swingers,others wish to keep their private lives exactly that PRIVATE and have every right to exspect descreation . its not an an ideal world and theres always those who think they above such things or that this dont applie to them as it suits their own selfish means to do and act and say whay they wish .all the people who put work in to the socials do what they can to keep venue details private to only those going .they put in such hard work organising these nights and really dont deserve people bitching about how its done , who goes and where it is . bottom line if you dont want to go to a social DONT GO! if you dont people going DONT GO! if you have any issues withj anything to do with the social THEN JUST DONT GO LOL ! its not rocket science and no ones twisting your arm to put your name down plenty of others will god and have a bloody great time ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"reading this post really beggers belief !!! lets cut out the bitching ,snide comments and undermining .id assumme most folks will agree they wish to have their private lives kept private and the socials they attend kept private also . common sense dictacts why this has to be done and we are awear from the previous socials being cancelled due to spitefull inderviduals putting the boot in ! not only common sense but respect for other members . now some may be totally open about being swingers,others wish to keep their private lives exactly that PRIVATE and have every right to exspect descreation . its not an an ideal world and theres always those who think they above such things or that this dont applie to them as it suits their own selfish means to do and act and say whay they wish .all the people who put work in to the socials do what they can to keep venue details private to only those going .they put in such hard work organising these nights and really dont deserve people bitching about how its done , who goes and where it is . bottom line if you dont want to go to a social DONT GO! if you dont people going DONT GO! if you have any issues withj anything to do with the social THEN JUST DONT GO LOL ! its not rocket science and no ones twisting your arm to put your name down plenty of others will god and have a bloody great time ! "
well put - am just going for a few hours but it should be enough to let you am not a time waster an get myself known with new an old
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"reading this post really beggers belief !!! lets cut out the bitching ,snide comments and undermining .id assumme most folks will agree they wish to have their private lives kept private and the socials they attend kept private also . common sense dictacts why this has to be done and we are awear from the previous socials being cancelled due to spitefull inderviduals putting the boot in ! not only common sense but respect for other members . now some may be totally open about being swingers,others wish to keep their private lives exactly that PRIVATE and have every right to exspect descreation . its not an an ideal world and theres always those who think they above such things or that this dont applie to them as it suits their own selfish means to do and act and say whay they wish .all the people who put work in to the socials do what they can to keep venue details private to only those going .they put in such hard work organising these nights and really dont deserve people bitching about how its done , who goes and where it is . bottom line if you dont want to go to a social DONT GO! if you dont people going DONT GO! if you have any issues withj anything to do with the social THEN JUST DONT GO LOL ! its not rocket science and no ones twisting your arm to put your name down plenty of others will god and have a bloody great time ! "
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"reading this post really beggers belief !!! lets cut out the bitching ,snide comments and undermining .id assumme most folks will agree they wish to have their private lives kept private and the socials they attend kept private also . common sense dictacts why this has to be done and we are awear from the previous socials being cancelled due to spitefull inderviduals putting the boot in ! not only common sense but respect for other members . now some may be totally open about being swingers,others wish to keep their private lives exactly that PRIVATE and have every right to exspect descreation . its not an an ideal world and theres always those who think they above such things or that this dont applie to them as it suits their own selfish means to do and act and say whay they wish .all the people who put work in to the socials do what they can to keep venue details private to only those going .they put in such hard work organising these nights and really dont deserve people bitching about how its done , who goes and where it is . bottom line if you dont want to go to a social DONT GO! if you dont people going DONT GO! if you have any issues withj anything to do with the social THEN JUST DONT GO LOL ! its not rocket science and no ones twisting your arm to put your name down plenty of others will god and have a bloody great time ! "
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As a cpl who has been to numerous socials we have seen a sharp decline in standards of the socials.
They used to be an event ...everyone chatting and looking forward to it.
Now it seems as of they are a monthly thing and Even 2 in as many weeks?
Also the behaviour of some folk at them is shocking..last 1 we were at a chick was that pissed trying to get behind the bar asking the young barman to look up her skirt...seriously...WTF??
Sorry But that kind of behaviour is embarrassing and shocking...vowed there and then that was our last social..
Which is sad as we used to meet loads of great folk from fab at them 
Auds xx |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"reading this post really beggers belief !!! lets cut out the bitching ,snide comments and undermining .id assumme most folks will agree they wish to have their private lives kept private and the socials they attend kept private also . common sense dictacts why this has to be done and we are awear from the previous socials being cancelled due to spitefull inderviduals putting the boot in ! not only common sense but respect for other members . now some may be totally open about being swingers,others wish to keep their private lives exactly that PRIVATE and have every right to exspect descreation . its not an an ideal world and theres always those who think they above such things or that this dont applie to them as it suits their own selfish means to do and act and say whay they wish .all the people who put work in to the socials do what they can to keep venue details private to only those going .they put in such hard work organising these nights and really dont deserve people bitching about how its done , who goes and where it is . bottom line if you dont want to go to a social DONT GO! if you dont people going DONT GO! if you have any issues withj anything to do with the social THEN JUST DONT GO LOL ! its not rocket science and no ones twisting your arm to put your name down plenty of others will god and have a bloody great time ! "
So your saying, (im reading between the lines here)...if your not happy about anything, dont go???
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"reading this post really beggers belief !!! lets cut out the bitching ,snide comments and undermining .id assumme most folks will agree they wish to have their private lives kept private and the socials they attend kept private also . common sense dictacts why this has to be done and we are awear from the previous socials being cancelled due to spitefull inderviduals putting the boot in ! not only common sense but respect for other members . now some may be totally open about being swingers,others wish to keep their private lives exactly that PRIVATE and have every right to exspect descreation . its not an an ideal world and theres always those who think they above such things or that this dont applie to them as it suits their own selfish means to do and act and say whay they wish .all the people who put work in to the socials do what they can to keep venue details private to only those going .they put in such hard work organising these nights and really dont deserve people bitching about how its done , who goes and where it is . bottom line if you dont want to go to a social DONT GO! if you dont people going DONT GO! if you have any issues withj anything to do with the social THEN JUST DONT GO LOL ! its not rocket science and no ones twisting your arm to put your name down plenty of others will god and have a bloody great time ! "
we choose NOT to go and hav stated above why we choose this,its not about others finding out what we do but we shall not be tared as the same as some ,and yes we have that choice ,our post was merely a return on what the OP was stating that turing up with those outwith swinging was not aceptable ,then surely the organisers should host it at a venue that they are not familar with ,forums are open and discussions is what keeps them alive not everyone is going to like what is posted and in all honesty its about what some like and some dont as to what is acceptable and whats not! |
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"As a cpl who has been to numerous socials we have seen a sharp decline in standards of the socials.
They used to be an event ...everyone chatting and looking forward to it.
Now it seems as of they are a monthly thing and Even 2 in as many weeks?
Also the behaviour of some folk at them is shocking..last 1 we were at a chick was that pissed trying to get behind the bar asking the young barman to look up her skirt...seriously...WTF??
Sorry But that kind of behaviour is embarrassing and shocking...vowed there and then that was our last social..
Which is sad as we used to meet loads of great folk from fab at them
Auds xx"
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"reading this post really beggers belief !!! lets cut out the bitching ,snide comments and undermining .id assumme most folks will agree they wish to have their private lives kept private and the socials they attend kept private also . common sense dictacts why this has to be done and we are awear from the previous socials being cancelled due to spitefull inderviduals putting the boot in ! not only common sense but respect for other members . now some may be totally open about being swingers,others wish to keep their private lives exactly that PRIVATE and have every right to exspect descreation . its not an an ideal world and theres always those who think they above such things or that this dont applie to them as it suits their own selfish means to do and act and say whay they wish .all the people who put work in to the socials do what they can to keep venue details private to only those going .they put in such hard work organising these nights and really dont deserve people bitching about how its done , who goes and where it is . bottom line if you dont want to go to a social DONT GO! if you dont people going DONT GO! if you have any issues withj anything to do with the social THEN JUST DONT GO LOL ! its not rocket science and no ones twisting your arm to put your name down plenty of others will god and have a bloody great time ! we choose NOT to go and hav stated above why we choose this,its not about others finding out what we do but we shall not be tared as the same as some ,and yes we have that choice ,our post was merely a return on what the OP was stating that turing up with those outwith swinging was not aceptable ,then surely the organisers should host it at a venue that they are not familar with ,forums are open and discussions is what keeps them alive not everyone is going to like what is posted and in all honesty its about what some like and some dont as to what is acceptable and whats not! "
What diffrence would it make where its held if someone brought along a non member whats the venue got to do with it ? |
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"reading this post really beggers belief !!! lets cut out the bitching ,snide comments and undermining .id assumme most folks will agree they wish to have their private lives kept private and the socials they attend kept private also . common sense dictacts why this has to be done and we are awear from the previous socials being cancelled due to spitefull inderviduals putting the boot in ! not only common sense but respect for other members . now some may be totally open about being swingers,others wish to keep their private lives exactly that PRIVATE and have every right to exspect descreation . its not an an ideal world and theres always those who think they above such things or that this dont applie to them as it suits their own selfish means to do and act and say whay they wish .all the people who put work in to the socials do what they can to keep venue details private to only those going .they put in such hard work organising these nights and really dont deserve people bitching about how its done , who goes and where it is . bottom line if you dont want to go to a social DONT GO! if you dont people going DONT GO! if you have any issues withj anything to do with the social THEN JUST DONT GO LOL ! its not rocket science and no ones twisting your arm to put your name down plenty of others will god and have a bloody great time ! we choose NOT to go and hav stated above why we choose this,its not about others finding out what we do but we shall not be tared as the same as some ,and yes we have that choice ,our post was merely a return on what the OP was stating that turing up with those outwith swinging was not aceptable ,then surely the organisers should host it at a venue that they are not familar with ,forums are open and discussions is what keeps them alive not everyone is going to like what is posted and in all honesty its about what some like and some dont as to what is acceptable and whats not! What diffrence would it make where its held if someone brought along a non member whats the venue got to do with it ?"
well if a host is know as a swinger to the staff then whats wrong with someone bringing a friend who knows them as a swinger?? |
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"reading this post really beggers belief !!! lets cut out the bitching ,snide comments and undermining .id assumme most folks will agree they wish to have their private lives kept private and the socials they attend kept private also . common sense dictacts why this has to be done and we are awear from the previous socials being cancelled due to spitefull inderviduals putting the boot in ! not only common sense but respect for other members . now some may be totally open about being swingers,others wish to keep their private lives exactly that PRIVATE and have every right to exspect descreation . its not an an ideal world and theres always those who think they above such things or that this dont applie to them as it suits their own selfish means to do and act and say whay they wish .all the people who put work in to the socials do what they can to keep venue details private to only those going .they put in such hard work organising these nights and really dont deserve people bitching about how its done , who goes and where it is . bottom line if you dont want to go to a social DONT GO! if you dont people going DONT GO! if you have any issues withj anything to do with the social THEN JUST DONT GO LOL ! its not rocket science and no ones twisting your arm to put your name down plenty of others will god and have a bloody great time ! we choose NOT to go and hav stated above why we choose this,its not about others finding out what we do but we shall not be tared as the same as some ,and yes we have that choice ,our post was merely a return on what the OP was stating that turing up with those outwith swinging was not aceptable ,then surely the organisers should host it at a venue that they are not familar with ,forums are open and discussions is what keeps them alive not everyone is going to like what is posted and in all honesty its about what some like and some dont as to what is acceptable and whats not! What diffrence would it make where its held if someone brought along a non member whats the venue got to do with it ?well if a host is know as a swinger to the staff then whats wrong with someone bringing a friend who knows them as a swinger??"
Yes IF staff know them as a swinger but how they would know someone was a swinger just by looking at them i dont know ....SOCIALS ARE ONLY FOR MEMEBRS ONLY and how would a non member know them as a swinger ? |
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i find it sad that people cant respect others and the request for any details of social to be kept private . but hey if anyone is that indecreet not someone id want to meet . but if someone is going to all the effort of organising nights for the benifit of site members they least they should exspect is the details kept to yourself if your going . why on earth should some random turn up because some member has taken it upon themself to decide to bring them and disregard and thought as to how others will feel? others may not have been able to come as spaces full and some self centred indervidual decides to just bring their mate and its fine as mate knows they swing and thats acceptable ??...oh come off it lol ! if they wish to think only of themselves then thats upto them, but it has knock on affect when members wont feel comfortable going . |
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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago
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one wee comment on the point rabbus made at the beginning of this post the rule about not giving any details out to any one else who is not a member has allways been a rule of socials and as for any one turning up with a non member or any one not on the list are they really that thick |
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"Correct me if I'm wrong but surely "fab" socials should be for "fab" members??
yeah if there not blocked lol "
why would anyone whos blocked by someone organising a social even want to go to that persons event? plenty of others they can go to |
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All I can say is that I'm glad this 'discussion' didn't kick off before my first social event or I'd have probably cancelled!
The reason we decided to go to our first one was because we were sick of organising meets and parties only for people to back out after we'd booked a d paid for a hotel so we reckoned by going to socials we would meet genuine swingers. What we didn't bank on was having such a good laugh whilst we were there.
Everyone we met were friendly and polite and game for a laugh.
In every 'community' there will be people who don't get on, personality clashes I guess!
It's just a shame that they have to be aired in such a way as to put other people off from joining in.
Sometimes the forum reminds me of a school playground 
L xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Spending to much time reading all this crap , need to get organised for tomorrow xxx looking forward to meeting old and new friends xxx"
yeh lol deciding what to ware also
black jeans or suit trousers
not even sure if they have a dress code |
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"Wear what you are comfortable in...thought of that but i was thinking in really if they had a dress code
as most clubs do
Just dont wear trainers  "
lol yeh ano that |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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often a catch 22..
socials good way to get noticed if new
very new members getting details that could expose people
( although not all breaches by new members )
always going to be the way.
not all socials/drink nights are in function rooms, some in a bars.
not going to change anytime soon |
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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago
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"My shyness exceeds all known boundaries.
I like to sit in the corner nursing my shandy while all around me is a picture of promiscuity...
Jx "
Never sit in the corner - you make yourself an easy target for the ladies |
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"My shyness exceeds all known boundaries.
I like to sit in the corner nursing my shandy while all around me is a picture of promiscuity...
Jx "
'Almost chokes on her drink'
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"My shyness exceeds all known boundaries.
I like to sit in the corner nursing my shandy while all around me is a picture of promiscuity...
Jx
'Almost chokes on her drink'
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that makes two of us almost choking on our drinks hunni ! lol ! me thinks the wall flower that is rabbit should replace the said two drinks ..hehe x |
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"All I can say is that I'm glad this 'discussion' didn't kick off before my first social event or I'd have probably cancelled!
The reason we decided to go to our first one was because we were sick of organising meets and parties only for people to back out after we'd booked a d paid for a hotel so we reckoned by going to socials we would meet genuine swingers. What we didn't bank on was having such a good laugh whilst we were there.
Everyone we met were friendly and polite and game for a laugh.
In every 'community' there will be people who don't get on, personality clashes I guess!
It's just a shame that they have to be aired in such a way as to put other people off from joining in.
Sometimes the forum reminds me of a school playground
L xxx "
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