Do females/couples actually still do this?
I used to be on the site a while ago as a couple (things were markedly different then - much less fakes and drug adverts!) and people used to take the time to chat and be friendly. Nowadays it seems to be very much the other way on and nobody seems to want to engage.
I know I’m over 50 and a single male, but there’s life in the old dog yet!
Am I in a minority here, or would anyone actually be interested in a coffee and a chat? ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"Do females/couples actually still do this?
I used to be on the site a while ago as a couple (things were markedly different then - much less fakes and drug adverts!) and people used to take the time to chat and be friendly. Nowadays it seems to be very much the other way on and nobody seems to want to engage.
I know I’m over 50 and a single male, but there’s life in the old dog yet!
Am I in a minority here, or would anyone actually be interested in a coffee and a chat? ??"
I actually enjoy coffee and a chat with a fellow Fabber - so long as there are no expectations. However, if I put that up on the meets board, I'd probably be inundated and it would be difficult to filter out the genuine peeps!  |
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Hello , this is my 1st reply to the forum here (as far as I can recall) ,
It’s an interesting remark you made.
I’m in the same circumstances as you .a straight xdresser looking for a woman/couple ,
I Seem to get interest that raises ones hopes as they seem keen ,
And when it comes to the actual stage of meeting the person -,they strangely go quiet ,happens time after time ,
This is a common pattern on here ,Some might say all talk and no action ,hehe , cherry . |
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"Hello , this is my 1st reply to the forum here (as far as I can recall) ,
It’s an interesting remark you made.
I’m in the same circumstances as you .a straight xdresser looking for a woman/couple ,
I Seem to get interest that raises ones hopes as they seem keen ,
And when it comes to the actual stage of meeting the person -,they strangely go quiet ,happens time after time ,
This is a common pattern on here ,Some might say all talk and no action ,hehe , cherry ."
If its a common pattern perhaps you need to change the way you engage. |
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"Always a social meet in a public place for first meet.
Agreed, yes always meet socially first. Also I’ve met several people on a just social basis. "
Exactly this - the site used to be about friendship as well as the sexual side of things, and social meets with no expectations were quite common. They seem to be few and far between now - but again that may be because I’m a single male over 50 rather than a couple in their 40s? |
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By *nverMan 24 weeks ago
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"I think social meets are a must but now days you don’t seem to get much chat no mind offers of a coffee social. It’s all just hump and dump and nexttttt!  "
Absolutely agree they are a must. Not all the belters out there are males, you know!!!! Have met some total roasters who were in possession of a uterus!!!! |
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"I think social meets are a must but now days you don’t seem to get much chat no mind offers of a coffee social. It’s all just hump and dump and nexttttt!
Absolutely agree they are a must. Not all the belters out there are males, you know!!!! Have met some total roasters who were in possession of a uterus!!!!"
Never said they were!! |
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We always like a social first - and are happy to progress onto a meet if everyone is happy to. It's important for us to make sure the physical chemistry is there before taking the plunge. We also like the social side of fab too so aren't just here to get notches on bedposts. |
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Like the majority on the thread I also prefer a social meet first - I usually prefer meeting now at group socials either local or afar more just to see what folk are like with other people and then meet 1-1 if I get a connection from that   |
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By *isstucWoman 24 weeks ago
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One of the terms I love from the kink community is safe , sane and consensual - checking the vibe is important ! Doing a social first means there's no expectation of play unless discussed further and like others have said ! Who doesn't like cake lol |
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"Do females/couples actually still do this?
I used to be on the site a while ago as a couple (things were markedly different then - much less fakes and drug adverts!) and people used to take the time to chat and be friendly. Nowadays it seems to be very much the other way on and nobody seems to want to engage.
I know I’m over 50 and a single male, but there’s life in the old dog yet!
Am I in a minority here, or would anyone actually be interested in a coffee and a chat? ??"
Yup. Very rarely would we skip the starter and main course! The social gives you the option to get out. For both parties… K |
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By *ookie69Man 24 weeks ago
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"I think social meets are a must but now days you don’t seem to get much chat no mind offers of a coffee social. It’s all just hump and dump and nexttttt!
Absolutely agree they are a must. Not all the belters out there are males, you know!!!! Have met some total roasters who were in possession of a uterus!!!!"
Who told you what a uterus is? Fugy? Droopy?
Hope you’re well pal.. Bub  |
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By *nverMan 24 weeks ago
....down the Rabbit Hole with a shotgun |
"I think social meets are a must but now days you don’t seem to get much chat no mind offers of a coffee social. It’s all just hump and dump and nexttttt!
Absolutely agree they are a must. Not all the belters out there are males, you know!!!! Have met some total roasters who were in possession of a uterus!!!!
Never said they were!!"
Apologies, I certainly didn't mean to imply that you did. |
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"One of the terms I love from the kink community is safe , sane and consensual - checking the vibe is important ! Doing a social first means there's no expectation of play unless discussed further and like others have said ! Who doesn't like cake lol "
Totally agree! I don’t think I have met you via Fet or CS, but it sounds like our ideas are aligned in this respect! |
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We are quite new to the lifestyle and kink community as a couple and our only meet so far has been a social. It was great, and we wouldn't go forward without a social first.
We are looking forward to trying clubs soon to get to know more people and social events, but family life is slowing us down. |
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By *ohncraMan 24 weeks ago
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"Do females/couples actually still do this?
I used to be on the site a while ago as a couple (things were markedly different then - much less fakes and drug adverts!) and people used to take the time to chat and be friendly. Nowadays it seems to be very much the other way on and nobody seems to want to engage.
I know I’m over 50 and a single male, but there’s life in the old dog yet!
Am I in a minority here, or would anyone actually be interested in a coffee and a chat? ??
I actually enjoy coffee and a chat with a fellow Fabber - so long as there are no expectations. However, if I put that up on the meets board, I'd probably be inundated and it would be difficult to filter out the genuine peeps! "
genuine peep here lol |
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"Prefer a social meet first, but haven’t really got anywhere messaging locally, so it’s more theoretical.
how is it hard in such a populated area .. if i was local ild have a cuppa with you !! "
Thank you that’s kind, I have no idea what I’m doing wrong, so I’ve sort of chucked messaging for the moment |
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I do enjoy a social meet an opportunity to see if they are who they say they are in a public safe space but also to tease, hold eye contact and generally make them squirm
Ladies or gents of course |
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From my perspective I enjoy a social meet. Opportunity to see person is who they say they are... have a good chat...maybe even a flirt and then have a lot more confidence if/when a hotter private meet happens.
Definitely a lot more nervous (bricking it) if meeting without having had a social first.
Club nights obviously different as it tends to allow opportunity for both in same night...but I still think of that as having a social in the main room before deciding is there is an attraction that might lead on....
So... socials? Yes for me.
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We always do socials first. We do very little chat online. Just enough to get to a social then it’s just sitting down and chatting to people face to face. We don’t play on the day of the social so there is no pressure. People can go away, think and then decide if they want to arrange a play meet.
It’s more comfortable for us than a meet to just have sex. Each to their own though. |
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