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Happens to everyone and I've done it. It often means they know you in real life.
Equally if it is that they aren't attracted then that's good to know so you can move on and find that chemistry with someone else. Sadly just saying no or that you aren't interested often goes badly on here.
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"Happens to everyone and I've done it. It often means they know you in real life.
Equally if it is that they aren't attracted then that's good to know so you can move on and find that chemistry with someone else. Sadly just saying no or that you aren't interested often goes badly on here.
Jigs x "
I didn't know them so it must have been the latter which is fine but I would be polite about not being attracted to someone instead of being rude..... manners don't cost anything hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Happens to everyone and I've done it. It often means they know you in real life.
Equally if it is that they aren't attracted then that's good to know so you can move on and find that chemistry with someone else. Sadly just saying no or that you aren't interested often goes badly on here.
Jigs x "
I completely understand that, but for those of us who aren't aggressive or react badly, a simple sorry I'm not interested makes it easier to swallow when you've been chatting for a bit. I do get that some ruin chances of the niceties though. |
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"Happens to everyone and I've done it. It often means they know you in real life.
Equally if it is that they aren't attracted then that's good to know so you can move on and find that chemistry with someone else. Sadly just saying no or that you aren't interested often goes badly on here.
Jigs x
I completely understand that, but for those of us who aren't aggressive or react badly, a simple sorry I'm not interested makes it easier to swallow when you've been chatting for a bit. I do get that some ruin chances of the niceties though."
Exactly well said |
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"Just the way of fab and online dating.
They don’t want to waste either of your time if there’s no attraction.
Even catfish is becoming more of a problem.
Thanks mate
Just a risk you have to take in this game"
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By *ibliosWoman 39 weeks ago
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?"
Serious question, I'm curious: would it have been better for your ego if they'd written back "nah, don't fancy you, thanks anyway".
Personally I think I'd be happier just writing them off as rude, but that could just be my delicate sensibilities! |
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?"
You're lucky you never got a bill for a cracked phone screen. |
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?
Serious question, I'm curious: would it have been better for your ego if they'd written back "nah, don't fancy you, thanks anyway".
Personally I think I'd be happier just writing them off as rude, but that could just be my delicate sensibilities!"
I don't have an ego but manners don't cost anything |
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?
Serious question, I'm curious: would it have been better for your ego if they'd written back "nah, don't fancy you, thanks anyway".
Personally I think I'd be happier just writing them off as rude, but that could just be my delicate sensibilities!"
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?
Serious question, I'm curious: would it have been better for your ego if they'd written back "nah, don't fancy you, thanks anyway".
Personally I think I'd be happier just writing them off as rude, but that could just be my delicate sensibilities!"
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?"
like in everyday life some will be attracted to you some won't.
I'm sure you don't fancy every single person you speak to on here either  |
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?like in everyday life some will be attracted to you some won't.
I'm sure you don't fancy every single person you speak to on here either "
That's true |
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iv had the same, i dont mind the ones that we haven’t spoke, as not everyone fancies everyone, but had it where been talking for weeks and really get on, then just blocked.
i can handle a no thanks of someone, especially after talking for a while |
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By *zrulMan 39 weeks ago
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"Happens to everyone and I've done it. It often means they know you in real life.
Equally if it is that they aren't attracted then that's good to know so you can move on and find that chemistry with someone else. Sadly just saying no or that you aren't interested often goes badly on here.
Jigs x
I completely understand that, but for those of us who aren't aggressive or react badly, a simple sorry I'm not interested makes it easier to swallow when you've been chatting for a bit. I do get that some ruin chances of the niceties though."
This |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?"
Don't let it bother you, not everyone can be for everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Happens to everyone and I've done it. It often means they know you in real life.
Equally if it is that they aren't attracted then that's good to know so you can move on and find that chemistry with someone else. Sadly just saying no or that you aren't interested often goes badly on here.
Jigs x
I didn't know them so it must have been the latter which is fine but I would be polite about not being attracted to someone instead of being rude..... manners don't cost anything hahaha "
Ive told guys before they arent my type and the torrid of abuse i got is just not worth it, easier to block |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"So many rude people on here at the moment I'm afraid. A quick message takes no time to write and sadly we are not attracted to everyone."
It does take time if your replying to more than one |
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"Happens to everyone and I've done it. It often means they know you in real life.
Equally if it is that they aren't attracted then that's good to know so you can move on and find that chemistry with someone else. Sadly just saying no or that you aren't interested often goes badly on here.
Jigs x
I didn't know them so it must have been the latter which is fine but I would be polite about not being attracted to someone instead of being rude..... manners don't cost anything hahaha
Ive told guys before they arent my type and the torrid of abuse i got is just not worth it, easier to block"
That's just rude of them |
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"Happens to everyone and I've done it. It often means they know you in real life.
Equally if it is that they aren't attracted then that's good to know so you can move on and find that chemistry with someone else. Sadly just saying no or that you aren't interested often goes badly on here.
Jigs x
I didn't know them so it must have been the latter which is fine but I would be polite about not being attracted to someone instead of being rude..... manners don't cost anything hahaha
Ive told guys before they arent my type and the torrid of abuse i got is just not worth it, easier to block"
totally unacceptable, but hoping that’s the small minority of ‘men’ that act like this |
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As a couple on here, we've had quite a few men that can't accept rejection. You can't predict what someone is going to be like when they have rejection so it's easier not to reply. We get hundreds of messages a day and to be honest, most are one or to words, wanna fuck, hi, your hot and other similar stuff. On the Internet you need to have thick skin. It's not rude not replying to someone it's about learning to accept rejection. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?"
Honestly, why is this a dent to your confidence? Don't let this happen as your the one who might have dodged a bullet.
There are so many reason why the person has blocked:
They maybe hiding something, they may know you and kept chatting then stopped.
They maybe married and felt they were going to get caught and stopped.
They might just wanted to get to a stage of getting on with someone and felt it was going to fast and then blocked.
You sent a face pic and she then thought you wanted a face pic back and wasn't ready so just blocked.
She might have looked and thought, feck, he's way too hot for me and then blocked
There are so many reasons why this happens and its no fault of yours so its just not best to have it on your mind, just move on, she has.
All the best and enjoy yourself  |
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By *atinagirlWoman 39 weeks ago
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"Happens to everyone and I've done it. It often means they know you in real life.
Equally if it is that they aren't attracted then that's good to know so you can move on and find that chemistry with someone else. Sadly just saying no or that you aren't interested often goes badly on here.
Jigs x
I didn't know them so it must have been the latter which is fine but I would be polite about not being attracted to someone instead of being rude..... manners don't cost anything hahaha "
Sadly it’s not about manners sometimes it’s for an easy life … I wouldn’t block a person I would simply stop the chat … you say you wouldn’t give hassle but I’ve chatted to men who have turned nasty n showed their true colours when I have said no thank you, us females do get a lot of it on here … I said no to a couple just because they smoked I don’t meet smokers it’s just my preference. They said they don’t smoke they vape and no smoking during the meet .. I said to me vaping is smoking and it’s just not for me I was apologetic and the messages kept coming back, they were not accepting no even though I have it on my profile I was politely saying no and explaining why and it got nasty they took it personal … so even when you respectfully say no to ppl that’s sometimes not enough . So I stopped the chat. My advice is not to take it personal accept that it’s probably them saying your not for them and move on … maybe you didn’t know this person that blocked you but maybe they knew of you or recognised you … don’t think too much into it… Happy Fabbing  |
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By *agatoXXXMan 39 weeks ago
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?"
If I let every block dent mt confidence, I'd have done my wrists long ago.
You just have to brush it off. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?"
Yeah I think everyone has had this happen at some point.
You can't everyone's cup of tea.
Probs best to exchange photos early in. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?
Yeah I think everyone has had this happen at some point.
You can't everyone's cup of tea.
Probs best to exchange photos early in."
Wise words, from a Dundonian aswell |
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?
Yeah I think everyone has had this happen at some point.
You can't everyone's cup of tea.
Probs best to exchange photos early in."
This was a few messages in |
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?
Yeah I think everyone has had this happen at some point.
You can't everyone's cup of tea.
Probs best to exchange photos early in."
This was a few messages in |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?
Yeah I think everyone has had this happen at some point.
You can't everyone's cup of tea.
Probs best to exchange photos early in.
Wise words, from a Dundonian aswell "
Your back!!! Didn't know I was wise?  Welcome back. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?
Yeah I think everyone has had this happen at some point.
You can't everyone's cup of tea.
Probs best to exchange photos early in.
Wise words, from a Dundonian aswell
Your back!!! Didn't know I was wise? Welcome back. "
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"For all the people who are saying that their message should be replied to even with a no thanks - did you actually read the FAQs? Serious question."
This needs to be quoted.
If you don't get a reply, just try to move on. If you don't get a reply and get fixated on that, it could lead to you acting differently with other people going forward.
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?"
Either knew you or as is often the case they not into you and have moved on. Nothing more |
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Sadly I've had this more than I care to admit and as much as I wish I got a sorry not my type(also get this more than I would like) for every guys that would be polite after being rejected there are 10 or more that would throw abuse |
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"I was blocked on here after sending a face pic to someone I was chatting away with great on here
Christ sake I'm not the elephant man haha
Anyone else had this happen to them?"
Welcome to FAB.
It's the natural course.
Stage one message read or no read
Stage two message returned Strike up conversation.
Stage three exchange of Face pics.
Either continue or dropped.
If your lucky enough to continue, you just have to jump through the other forty hoops to get to a physical social.
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