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"No one told me how hard it was for single guys to meet on here. It's so much work with so little reward. Or can anyone tell me what I'm doing wrong? "
Honestly mate, no it isnt.
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on... "
Narrow your age preferences down to what you actually are looking for. You say non smoker but 420 friendly? Add a bit more to your bio in what you are looking for x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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Not at all. Just been saying I might be having a conversation and end up being ghosted. Or the other time, the deal breaker was that I wasnt meet verified. |
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"Not at all. Just been saying I might be having a conversation and end up being ghosted. Or the other time, the deal breaker was that I wasnt meet verified. "
People get bored with the online thing. Your best bet is to get yourself out there and meet people at socials and clubs.
420 will put people off as well. |
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"No one told me how hard it was for single guys to meet on here. It's so much work with so little reward. Or can anyone tell me what I'm doing wrong? "
First off all are you attractive?
Secondly are you funny?
And lastly do you have money?
Three things women like. |
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"No one told me how hard it was for single guys to meet on here. It's so much work with so little reward. Or can anyone tell me what I'm doing wrong?
First off all are you attractive?
Secondly are you funny?
And lastly do you have money?
Three things women like."
Nearly but not quite
I was always informed that it was either of the following 3 but the more you have the better the chances:
Attractive
Great body
Funny
Not being attached helps too.
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"No one told me how hard it was for single guys to meet on here. It's so much work with so little reward. Or can anyone tell me what I'm doing wrong?
First off all are you attractive?
Secondly are you funny?
And lastly do you have money?
Three things women like."
Everyones perception of attractive differs what one person likes others wont, banter is good but dont have to be funny and a couldnt careless how much money he has, i have my own |
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No disrespect but you put yourself in a minority straight away by being a smoker and 420. There's more people don't smoke and won't meet smokers than there is the reverse, same with 420.
Also your profile is quite blunt, just a list and you're quite happy with a 99 year old.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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"No disrespect but you put yourself in a minority straight away by being a smoker and 420. There's more people don't smoke and won't meet smokers than there is the reverse, same with 420.
Also your profile is quite blunt, just a list and you're quite happy with a 99 year old.
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Tbh.. I only put that after seeing people say 420 friendly thinking it'll help.. But yeah.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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"Not at all. Just been saying I might be having a conversation and end up being ghosted. Or the other time, the deal breaker was that I wasnt meet verified.
People get bored with the online thing. Your best bet is to get yourself out there and meet people
at socials and clubs.
420 will put people off as well. "
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Biggest mistake most people make when they first join Fab, is, they think they'll meet someone within a few days.
Another mistake is they're profile. There's nothing on your profile that attracts us to you. No information about yourself and what kind of people your looking for. Also, you've got your upper age limit set at 99! Be realistic. Your photos aren't the best, they need more imagination and better lighting. Have a look at other male profiles for ideas.
Another idea is go to a club and meet people you won't be guaranteed a shag but you'll make yourself know, and who knows what could happen.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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"Biggest mistake most people make when they first join Fab, is, they think they'll meet someone within a few days.
Another mistake is they're profile. There's nothing on your profile that attracts us to you. No information about yourself and what kind of people your looking for. Also, you've got your upper age limit set at 99! Be realistic. Your photos aren't the best, they need more imagination and better lighting. Have a look at other male profiles for ideas.
Another idea is go to a club and meet people you won't be guaranteed a shag but you'll make yourself know, and who knows what could happen.
Good luck "
The age thing is just the default.. I didn't set any age preference. But OK.. Thanks for the input..
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I wouldn't say it is hard work...
I would say that the rewards (in way of meets) are commensurate to the effort you put in.
100x FAF messages spammed out will likely get zero replies...
5 personal messages demonstrating that you have read someone's profile might lead to 1 or 2 responses
Also try clubs and socials |
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Hi OP, the prevailing agreement here is that there are far more men than women on here. If you're messaging women then your message is going to get lost like grit in a sandstorm; women struggle with their ever-increasing inboxes.
Also, you've only been here five weeks or so. That's a heartbeat in Fab chronology. It will take time and patience.
This may also help:
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1600734
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For what it's worth don't see fab meets as the main prize but more of a a little bit on top.
Get out and socialise, either through clubs and events from here or just the real world.
Then send the odd message or ten, but be polite and curious. You might catch someone's eye.
It's a sausagefest and some women like their bratwursts lengthy, girthy and, dare I say, black. It's not a big deal everyone has their preferences. Just roll with it.
Also remember to be yourself. Unless you're an utter cock then be someone else.
But have fun, don't lose faith or take it too seriously.
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"No disrespect but you put yourself in a minority straight away by being a smoker and 420. There's more people don't smoke and won't meet smokers than there is the reverse, same with 420.
Also your profile is quite blunt, just a list and you're quite happy with a 99 year old.
Tbh.. I only put that after seeing people say 420 friendly thinking it'll help.. But yeah.
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Yeah that would be an instant turn off for me. And I'm really fed up of guys offering 'snow' and then pretending they're not talking about what we know full well they're talking about. Had they read my profile they'd see I'm very anti drugs |
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By *ibliosWoman 35 weeks ago
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"Tbh.. I only put that after seeing people say 420 friendly thinking it'll help.. But yeah.
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So the profile name is just a coincidence then... 
If you keep backpedalling in your message chat as much as you are in this thread it's probably going to put people off, most folk want a sense they're meeting a genuine person and not someone who'll say anything to get laid. |
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I can only agree with all the good advice you’ve been given OP. Not saying you’re like this but most guys (maybe gals too lol) join thinking it’s just a case of a list of women waiting to be asked. Being keen they don’t do much of a profile, they don’t read the site rules (they really are helpful) or any further investigation of how the site or swinging actually works. In short … yes they do think it’s instashag. In saying all that Fab is fun, flirty and very worth it but yes, just like real life mostly it involves effort. Happpppy fabbbbing   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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"Tbh.. I only put that after seeing people say 420 friendly thinking it'll help.. But yeah.
So the profile name is just a coincidence then...
If you keep backpedalling in your message chat as much as you are in this thread it's probably going to put people off, most folk want a sense they're meeting a genuine person and not someone who'll say anything to get laid."
Backpedaling? Come on.. The name has always been a username for my call of duty. Yes I smoke . I don't care what anyone thinks tbh.. But I only put it on my profile because I had seen some people say 420 friendly. Which is why I put it in mine as well. I'm not desperate.
I'm just saying I have talked with people and ended up being ghosted. But thanks anyways |
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"No one told me how hard it was for single guys to meet on here. It's so much work with so little reward. Or can anyone tell me what I'm doing wrong?
First off all are you attractive?
Secondly are you funny? And well hung
And lastly do you have money?
Three things women like."
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By *ookie69Man 34 weeks ago
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"No one told me how hard it was for single guys to meet on here. It's so much work with so little reward. Or can anyone tell me what I'm doing wrong? "
Luck is when preparation meets opportunity.
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Got to jump on. What is 420?
I've said it a million different ways and can't work out what it's meant to mean. "
It’s people who smoke , I don’t know why it’s called 420. |
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"Got to jump on. What is 420?
I've said it a million different ways and can't work out what it's meant to mean.
It’s people who smoke , I don’t know why it’s called 420. "
Well I'm glad it wasn't obvious. |
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I thought 420 was something to do with the clause number in the legalisation of in some place. But depends on what site you search as to the answer but points to the same thing - appreciate the cannabis culture. |
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on... "
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz! |
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By *ookie69Man 34 weeks ago
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!"
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ? |
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ? "
I don't pimp oot ma pals |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals"
Could you not just help him out for one night only |
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only "
Eh I've done my bit. I'm no greedy. Someone else can have the pleasure. I'm just being the wing woman |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only
Eh I've done my bit. I'm no greedy. Someone else can have the pleasure. I'm just being the wing woman"
Your to picky |
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only
Eh I've done my bit. I'm no greedy. Someone else can have the pleasure. I'm just being the wing woman
Your to picky "
Probably fake and a timewaster too  |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only
Eh I've done my bit. I'm no greedy. Someone else can have the pleasure. I'm just being the wing woman
Your to picky
Probably fake and a timewaster too "
I did think that but I’m trying to be nice |
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only
Eh I've done my bit. I'm no greedy. Someone else can have the pleasure. I'm just being the wing woman
Your to picky
Probably fake and a timewaster too
I did think that but I’m trying to be nice "
Me too. That's why I'm putting out a plea to anyone who can see he needs a shag |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only
Eh I've done my bit. I'm no greedy. Someone else can have the pleasure. I'm just being the wing woman
Your to picky
Probably fake and a timewaster too
I did think that but I’m trying to be nice
Me too. That's why I'm putting out a plea to anyone who can see he needs a shag "
Do you honestly thinking he might find a shag on a swinging site |
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By *ookie69Man 34 weeks ago
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only "
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only
Buckelt "
I was surprised I came out of this unscathed I thought I would get a tongue lashing |
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only
Buckelt
I was surprised I came out of this unscathed I thought I would get a tongue lashing "
You wish |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only
Buckelt
I was surprised I came out of this unscathed I thought I would get a tongue lashing
You wish "
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only
Buckelt
I was surprised I came out of this unscathed I thought I would get a tongue lashing
You wish
Saying nothing "
Sometimes that's for the best. I should take my own advice at times |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only
Buckelt
I was surprised I came out of this unscathed I thought I would get a tongue lashing
You wish
Saying nothing
Sometimes that's for the best. I should take my own advice at times "
Your a woman and woman always like to get the last word in |
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Could you not just help him out for one night only
Buckelt
I was surprised I came out of this unscathed I thought I would get a tongue lashing
You wish
Saying nothing
Sometimes that's for the best. I should take my own advice at times
Your a woman and woman always like to get the last word in "
We do! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I have tried.. I either get ghosted. Or get told "you're not my type". I mean I get it.. Everyone has preferences.. But come on...
Hoi can someone just shag this guy ffs. I'm out on account of prefences... soz!
Ya must have a pal ffs that could stand in ?
I don't pimp oot ma pals
Could you not just help him out for one night only
Eh I've done my bit. I'm no greedy. Someone else can have the pleasure. I'm just being the wing woman
Your to picky
Probably fake and a timewaster too "
Y'all think I'm fake? Lol.. Come on. |
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